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Ask Yourself, Why Not ?
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Ask Yourself Why Not is a feel-good personal growth podcast where two friends share what they're learning from self-help books, podcasts, and their community and talk through how it actually shows up in real life. Hosted by Shaye and Jayla, AYWN is rooted in a Why Not mindset choosing curiosity over pressure, honesty over perfection, and small, supportive shifts over trying to fix yourself. This is a space for real conversations, everyday wisdom, and reminders that you're allowed to grow gently and in your own time. Come as you are. Stay as long as you need.

  1. The "I'm Fine" Trap: Why Women Delay Their Own Health

    3D AGO

    The "I'm Fine" Trap: Why Women Delay Their Own Health

    Episode Description In this episode of Ask Yourself, Why Not?, Jayla and Shaye share reflections from a recent family/soccer team trip to Chile and how stepping outside of daily routines sparked a bigger conversation about women's health. So many women are experts at taking care of everyone else — scheduling appointments, managing households, and making sure the people they love are supported. But somewhere along the way, their own health checkups often get postponed. This episode is a reminder that preventative care and self-care aren't luxuries — they're essential. Shaye and Jayla talk about the mindset behind the "I'm fine" trap, why so many women delay their own medical appointments, and small ways to start treating your health like a priority again. Because the truth is: taking care of yourself is one of the most important things you can do for the people who rely on you. In this episode we talk about: Why women often put their own health last The "I'm fine" mindset that keeps us from scheduling checkups How travel and stepping outside your routine can shift perspective Simple ways to start prioritizing preventative care Modeling healthy habits for your kids and family Key Takeaway Your health deserves the same priority as everything else on your calendar. Not someday. Not when things slow down. Now.

    21 min

  2. MAR 5

    Small Steps, Big Change: Micro-Habits for Real Life Growth (Mindset Munchie)

    Embracing Bite-Sized Personal Development: How Small Steps Transform Your Growth In this episode, Shaye and Jayla discuss the power of small, manageable actions in personal growth and self-development. Perfect for busy minds, they emphasize that you don't need to finish every book or overhaul your entire routine — just taking one page or one action a day can lead to meaningful change.   Key Topics: The importance of bite-sized content in busy lives How completing all books isn't necessary; focus on snippets that inspire Personal experiences with favorite books like Rhonda Byrne's "Countdown to Riches" and Gabby Bernstein's programs The concept of taking one small, focused action daily inspired by "Atomic Habits" Managing expectations and perfectionism in personal development journeys How mental health benefits from simple, consistent micro-actions The significance of reducing pressure to "do it all" and embracing progress The role of technology apps in facilitating daily growth activities Reflections on past challenges and the power of persistence and small wins Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome and episode intro: redefining personal growth with small steps 02:20 - Our relationship with self-help books and podcasts: finishing vs. consuming in bite-sized pieces 03:33 - How consuming varied content influences your mindset and persona 04:27 - The challenge of finishing books and embracing incomplete progress 05:49 - Focus on recent practices: Rhonda Byrne and Gabby Bernstein's 21-day programs 06:45 - The benefits of 21-day focus challenges on clarity and manifestation 07:42 - Introducing "The Pivot Year": building confidence with daily small insights 08:41 - Connecting "Atomic Habits" to daily micro-actions for lasting change 09:31 - Actionable tips: taking small steps during anxiety or overwhelm 10:30 - Revisiting the roots of the podcast and the power of consistent manifestation practices 11:18 - Tools and apps to support daily growth and reducing pressure 12:06 - Overcoming perfectionism: doing enough without the stress of "doing it all" 12:36 - Future plans for the podcast: deep dives, community episodes, and growth goals 13:04 - Gratitude for listeners and encouragement to share and support the community     Resources & Links:   Atomic Habits by James Clear Rhonda Byrne's Countdown to Riches  Gabby Bernstein's 21-Day Manifestation Challenge James Clear Podcast with Mel Robbins Your Favorite Meditation & Journaling App    Connect with Shaye & Jayla:   Instagram Website (if applicable)   Note: Remember, small consistent actions create profound long-term results. Don't stress over finishing everything — just showing up with a little effort each day is enough.

    13 min

  3. FEB 26

    The February Slump Is Real: Small Wins & Habits That Actually Stick

    Feeling stuck in the February doldrums? You're not alone — and you're definitely not failing. In this episode, Shaye and Jayla unpack why motivation dips after January, how winter affects energy and mood, and why building small, consistent habits matters more than waiting to "feel ready." This is your permission slip to reset without guilt, stop chasing perfect discipline, and start focusing on simple actions that actually build confidence and momentum. Because real change doesn't come from overhauling your life. It comes from small wins — repeated consistently. Quick note: We're no longer numbering episodes. Think of AYWN like a drop-in conversation — not a series you have to keep up with. Jump in wherever you are. No catching up required. No pressure to listen to everything. Just press play on what resonates today. What we talk about: Why February can feel heavy (and why that's normal) Seasonal mood shifts and their impact on motivation Dopamine, momentum, and the science behind habit-building Why habits and discipline matter more than motivation Scaling goals so they feel doable instead of overwhelming Creating small daily actions that build self-trust Resetting routines without shame or "starting over" Practicing self-compassion when consistency feels hard Simple strategies for movement, mindfulness, and energy Celebrating progress instead of waiting for perfection Resources mentioned: Atomic Habits — James Clear Pomodoro Technique Seasonal Affective Disorder education + awareness resources Why Not Nudge of the Day: Get curious about your habits today. Not judgmental — curious. What's working? What feels heavy? What's one tiny shift that could make things easier? Connect with us: Follow along + stay in the community: Facebook @askyourselfwhynot_podcast askyourself-whynot.com Big change happens through small, consistent action. Share this episode with a friend who might need a reminder: You don't need to start over. You just need one small win today.

    29 min
  4. Episode 217: Keeping the Magic Alive (Even When Adulting Hits Hard)

    12/24/2025

    Episode 217: Keeping the Magic Alive (Even When Adulting Hits Hard)

    Keywords holiday spirit, Christmas magic, self-care, festive traditions, mindfulness, family activities, joy, intentional living, holiday rituals, simplifying celebrations Summary In this episode of the Ask Yourself Why Not podcast, hosts Shaye and Jayla explore how to embrace the holiday spirit as adults. They discuss ways to create personal magic during the holidays, emphasizing the importance of small rituals, fun activities, and self-care. The conversation highlights the need to simplify holiday celebrations and prioritize joy, allowing listeners to enjoy the season without feeling overwhelmed. Takeaways Christmas magic feels different as an adult. You are the magic of the holidays. Focus on small rituals to enhance holiday spirit. Choose fun activities that bring joy. Celebrate every day as if it's your favorite day. Don't overthink gift-giving; it's the thought that counts. Simplify holiday preparations to reduce stress. Prioritize self-care during the busy season. Make space for joy to find you. Choose your joy on purpose this holiday season. Titles Rediscovering Holiday Magic as Adults Creating Your Own Christmas Spirit Sound bites "You are the magic." "Choose fun, have more fun." "Make it merrier, Jayla." Chapters 00:00 Embracing Holiday Spirit 00:58 Finding Magic as Adults 02:47 Creating Cozy Rituals 05:02 Choosing Fun and Joy 06:53 Making Life Festive 07:47 Simplifying Holiday Preparations 08:42 Prioritizing Self-Care

    11 min
  5. Episode 216: New Year, New Intentions: Intentions Activate

    12/18/2025

    Episode 216: New Year, New Intentions: Intentions Activate

    Get your tickets here The "New Year New Intentions Setting Workshop" is a transformative event designed to help participants release past energies and set clear intentions for the future. The workshop includes a hot yoga session, a future self meditation, a catered brunch, and a journaling session focused on setting intentions across major life categories. Participants also engage in a burning ceremony to let go of past irritations and create a personalized "word of the year" bracelet. The event emphasizes personal growth, mindfulness, and community support. Keywords New Year, Intentions, Yoga, Meditation, Journaling, Personal Growth, Mindfulness, Community, Workshop, Intention Setting Takeaways Start with a hot yoga session to release energy. Future self meditation to bridge current and future self. Catered brunch with light, refreshing food. Journaling session to set intentions in life categories. Burning ceremony to release past irritations. Create a personalized 'word of the year' bracelet. Emphasize personal growth and mindfulness. Supportive community environment. Encourage participants to focus on feelings and intentions. Limited spots available, book early.

    19 min
  6. Episode 215: Why Not Be in a Movie? Our Late-Night Film Adventure

    12/12/2025

    Episode 215: Why Not Be in a Movie? Our Late-Night Film Adventure

    Keywords movie set, fashion, David Bowie, extras, creative experience, arts, personal growth, storytelling, film production, friendship Summary In this episode, Shaye and Jayla share their unexpected adventure as extras on a movie set, discussing their late-night experience, the creative process of selecting outfits, and the film's serious premise. They reflect on the importance of stepping out of their comfort zones and embracing artistic opportunities. Takeaways Stop asking yourself why and start asking why not. Experiences can lead to unexpected adventures. Fashion choices can reflect personal creativity. Being an extra in a film can be a fun experience. Supporting the arts is important to personal growth. Late-night adventures can be memorable. The creative process involves collaboration and spontaneity. Embracing unique styles can be empowering. Movies can tackle serious themes. Friendship enhances shared experiences. Titles Why Not Embrace the Unexpected? A Night on a Movie Set Sound bites "I brought a box of clothes." "Mommy's in the movies." "It's based on two cops." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Adventure 02:40 The Movie Set Experience 05:43 Fashion Choices and Styling 08:49 The Premise of the Film

    24 min
  7. Episode 214: The Pre-Thanksgiving Peace Plan

    11/21/2025

    Episode 214: The Pre-Thanksgiving Peace Plan

    Keywords boundaries, self-honor, personal growth, self-awareness, mental health Summary In this conversation, Jayla and Shaye discuss the importance of setting boundaries as a means of honoring oneself. They emphasize the need to focus on the current version of oneself rather than past expectations or societal pressures, highlighting that personal growth and enjoyment of life are paramount. Takeaways Boundaries are essential for self-honor. Focus on your current self, not past expectations. Personal growth is a continuous journey. Enjoying the moments is crucial for well-being. Self-awareness leads to better boundary setting. It's important to prioritize your needs. Societal pressures can distort self-perception. Honor your feelings and needs. Setting boundaries can enhance relationships. Personal fulfillment comes from within. Titles Honoring Yourself: The Power of Boundaries Embracing Your Current Self Sound bites "Boundaries are simply permission to honor yourself." "Enjoy the moments, that's what it's all about." Chapters 00:00 Embracing the Holiday Spirit 00:32 Practical Scripts for Setting Boundaries

    21 min
  8. Episode 213: New Season, Who Dis?

    11/14/2025

    Episode 213: New Season, Who Dis?

    Keywords social media, career stages, comparison, highlight reel, envy, personal growth, seasons of life Summary The conversation explores the impact of seasons of life , emphasizing the importance of recognizing different life seasons and avoiding envy. Takeaways Social media often showcases a highlight reel of life. People may feel envy when comparing their journey to others. Different career stages can lead to different feelings of inadequacy. It's important to recognize that everyone is in a different season. Comparison can be detrimental to personal growth. Understanding your own journey is crucial for self-acceptance. Social media can distort reality and create unrealistic expectations. Acknowledging your unique path can foster a healthier mindset. Career success is subjective and varies from person to person. Embracing your own timeline is key to fulfillment. Titles The Illusion of Perfection on Social Media Understanding Career Stages in a Digital Age Sound bites "in this day and age of social media" "you could be just starting out in your career" Chapters 00:00 Navigating Social Media's Highlight Reel 00:10 Career Stages and the Comparison Trap

    28 min
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Ask Yourself Why Not is a feel-good personal growth podcast where two friends share what they're learning from self-help books, podcasts, and their community and talk through how it actually shows up in real life. Hosted by Shaye and Jayla, AYWN is rooted in a Why Not mindset choosing curiosity over pressure, honesty over perfection, and small, supportive shifts over trying to fix yourself. This is a space for real conversations, everyday wisdom, and reminders that you're allowed to grow gently and in your own time. Come as you are. Stay as long as you need.

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    Ask Yourself, Why Not ?
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    223
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