Authenticity Lab

Dr. Kelsey Miles
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Welcome to Authenticity Lab a podcast about building self-trust in seasons of uncertainty. Hosted by Dr. Kelsey Miles — PhD chemist and songwriter — this show blends scientific thinking with creative reflection to help you navigate identity shifts, overthinking, people pleasing, and the quiet questions we rarely say out loud. Instead of prescribing step-by-step fixes, each episode walks through a simple framework: Calibrate — get honest about what’s actually happening. Experiment — try one small, intentional shift. Optimize — reflect, adjust, and keep what works. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with who you already are and expanding your capacity to handle change. New episodes every Tuesday.

  1. Why Can't I Make a Decision? | S3E10

    1D AGO

    Why Can't I Make a Decision? | S3E10

    You’re not stuck because you can’t decide.You’re stuck because of one of two things: You either don’t have enough dataoryou don’t trust yourself to handle what happens after you choose. And most people never figure out which one it is.You’ve probably tried everything: pros and cons listsasking your friendsgoing back and forth in your head And at some point, someone tells you: “Just make a decision.” That advice only works if you trust yourself after the decision.If you don’t… you just end up back in the same loop. In this episode of Authenticity Lab, we break that cycle using the CEO Method: Calibrate → Do you actually need more data, or are you chasing certainty?Experiment → Set a clear action. A conversation. A deadline. Or make the decision.Optimize → Treat the outcome like data, not a verdict. This isn’t about making the “right” decision. It’s about building the ability to move forward and trust yourself no matter what happens next. Because once you trust yourself, decisions get lighter. If you’ve been stuck on the same decision for weeks, this episode will help you move. 00:00 Why "just commit" advice falls short01:45 The real reason you can't decide03:10 Do you need more data, or are you chasing certainty?04:55 The CEO Method for decisions: Calibrate, Experiment, Optimize07:20 What happens when you stop needing to be right 🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover. If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too. Be bold.Be curious.Be you. ✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    9 min
  2. Why You Keep Second-Guessing Yourself (And Why It’s Not the Problem) | S3E9

    MAR 31

    Why You Keep Second-Guessing Yourself (And Why It’s Not the Problem) | S3E9

    You know that feeling when you say something in a conversation or make a decision and then later, you start replaying it in your head. Did I say the wrong thing?Was that the right choice?Should I have done something different? Most advice will tell you to stop second-guessing. To “trust yourself,” move on, and don’t look back. But what if second-guessing isn’t actually the problem? In this episode, I’m breaking down why you second-guess yourself and how this habit might actually be trying to help you, not hurt you. Because there are two very different ways to second-guess yourself: One that keeps you stuck in anxiety, overthinking, and self-judgmentAnd one that helps you reflect, learn, and build real self-trust. And the difference between the two? It has nothing to do with the decision…It has everything to do with whether you trust yourself after you make one. We’ll walk through: -Why second-guessing happens (and what it’s actually trying to do)-The difference between rumination and reflection-How self-trust changes everything-How to use second-guessing in a way that actually moves you forward This is part of a bigger conversation about self-trust, decision-making, and navigating uncertainty. If you’ve ever felt stuck in your head after making a decision this episode is for you. This episode also sets up next week’s conversation:Why can't I make a decision? 🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve. It’s something to discover. If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too. 🎧 Run your next life experiment. Because self-trust is built one discovery at a time. Be bold.Be curious.Be you. ✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    10 min
  3. Why Do I Care So Much What People Think? (Stop Trying to Care Less) | S3E8

    MAR 24

    Why Do I Care So Much What People Think? (Stop Trying to Care Less) | S3E8

    How to stop caring what people think… isn’t actually the solution. Here’s what works instead.If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation and replayed everything you said, wondering how you came across or what someone thinks about you, this episode is for you. Most people try to solve this by asking, “How do I stop caring what people think?” But that’s the wrong question. In this episode, I walk you through a different approach.One that doesn’t require you to shut down your ability to care, but instead helps you rebalance it. Caring what people think is not a weakness. It’s a strength. The problem is when all of that care is directed outward, and you lose connection to what you think. You don’t need to care less what people think.You need to care more about what you think. We’ll explore: - how to recognize when this has gone too far- why this creates disconnection from yourself- a simple way to start rebuilding your own voice This episode also sets up next week’s conversation:Why do I second-guess everything? 🎧 Authenticity Lab is the podcast where we run life experiments.Because life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover. If this resonated, subscribe and share it with someone who’s been feeling this too. Be bold.Be curious.Be you. ✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    12 min
  4. Why Do I Feel Like an Imposter? S3E7

    MAR 17

    Why Do I Feel Like an Imposter? S3E7

    If you’ve ever felt like you don’t belong… like you’re going to be “found out”… you’ve probably felt this before. We call it imposter syndrome. Most people think it shows up when you’re in a new room, but what happens when you start feeling that way in places that used to feel familiar? In this episode, I share my experience of feeling like an imposter in music and then unexpectedly feeling like an imposter in science, even though I had years of experience there. That led me to a realization: Sometimes you feel like an imposter because the room is unfamiliar.But sometimes you feel like an imposter because you are unfamiliar to yourself. In this episode we explore: Why this feeling shows up in both new and familiar environments What’s happening when your identity starts to shift How to move from self-judgment into curiosity A simple life experiment to help you navigate it If you’ve been in that in-between space where something feels off, this episode will help you understand what’s going on. It's time to run your next life experiment. Because self-trust is built one discovery at a time. Life isn’t something to solve.It’s something to discover. Be bold.Be curious.Be you.

    10 min
  5. Why Do Smart People Sometimes Feel Less Confident? S3E6

    MAR 10

    Why Do Smart People Sometimes Feel Less Confident? S3E6

    Have you ever noticed that the deeper you go into a subject, the less confident you sometimes feel? In this episode of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores a surprising pattern that shows up in highly intelligent and thoughtful people. The more knowledgeable you become about a topic, the more aware you also become of what you don’t know. At the same time, your standards rise. When those two things happen together, confidence can dip. That dip in confidence doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It means you’re leveling up.This pattern is related to something psychologists call the Dunning–Kruger effect, where beginners can feel very confident while people with deeper knowledge become more aware of complexity. Through stories from the classroom and from her journey as a musician and scientist, Kelsey shares why this experience is common among curious minds and how to move through it by thinking like a scientist and creating like an artist. If you’ve ever struggled with confidence while learning something new, this episode will change how you see it.✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. You build self-trust one small move at a time. Be bold. Be curious. Be you. ✨ Want to try this method for yourself?Email “COURSE” to kelsey@drkelseymiles.comand I’ll send you the free Life Experiments mini-course so you can begin on your own. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    10 min
  6. Why do I overthink everything? (And How to Stop Feeling Stuck) S3E5

    MAR 3

    Why do I overthink everything? (And How to Stop Feeling Stuck) S3E5

    If you’ve ever said, “I overthink everything,” this episode is for you. In this episode of Authenticity Lab, Dr. Kelsey Miles breaks down why overthinking happens, what rumination actually is, and how to stop feeling stuck in repetitive thoughts. Overthinking isn’t the problem. Directionless thinking is. You’ll learn:• The difference between overthinking and rumination• Why your brain acts like a nonstop hypothesis generator• The two types of overthinking (future simulation vs. past rumination)• How overthinking turns into shame and identity collapse• How to pivot from paralysis into small, powerful experiments Your brain is designed to simulate possible futures and replay past outcomes. That’s adaptive. But without a stopping rule, it creates stuckness. The goal isn’t to think less. It’s to think in a direction that creates momentum. In this episode, you’ll learn how to:Calibrate what you’re actually overthinkingDesign a small experimentGather data instead of sitting in “what if” landBuild self-trust one small action at a time If you’re feeling stuck in overthinking, this will give you the next step. ✨ Want to try the Life Experiments method for yourself? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send you the free mini-course with short videos and a worksheet to help you design your first small experiment. You build self-trust one small move at a time. Be bold. Be curious. Be you. ✨ Want to try this method for yourself?Email “COURSE” to kelsey@drkelseymiles.comand I’ll send you the free Life Experiments mini-course so you can begin on your own. 📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days ✨ Support the work on Patreon:www.patreon.com/kelseymiles Connect with me:https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymileshttps://www.youtube.com/c/KelseyMileshttps://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymileshttps://kelseymiles.com

    10 min
  7. Why You Feel Behind in Life (And What It Actually Means) | S3E4

    FEB 24

    Why You Feel Behind in Life (And What It Actually Means) | S3E4

    Why do I feel behind in life? If you’ve been comparing your progress, your career, or your relationships to some imagined timeline, you’re not alone. Almost everyone carries a quiet belief that they should be further by now. But feeling “behind” isn’t actually a feeling. It’s a measurement. In this episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores why comparison creates the illusion of being late, how our brains build unrealistic benchmarks, and how to separate distortion from genuine desire. You’ll learn how to recalibrate the thought instead of silencing it and how to design one small experiment that builds momentum instead of shame. If you’ve ever felt stuck because you think you’re behind, this episode will help you see what’s really going on. Want the free Life Experiments mini-course? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send it to you.

    9 min
  8. Is it normal to talk to yourself? S3E3

    FEB 17

    Is it normal to talk to yourself? S3E3

    Is it normal to talk to yourself? If you’ve ever wondered whether your inner voice means something is wrong with you, this episode is for you. Talking to yourself is not instability. It’s a regulatory tool your brain uses to create certainty and predict outcomes. The real question isn’t whether it’s normal — it’s what that voice is saying and how you relate to it. In this episode, Dr. Kelsey Miles explores: • Why we have inner dialogue• The difference between narrator, coach, and inner critic• How judgment becomes identity• Why harsh self-talk is often a learned coping pattern• A simple experiment to help you build a healthier inner voice If you’ve ever felt attacked by your own thoughts, you are not broken. You’re human.And just to say — I’m not a therapist. I’m sharing what’s worked for me and how I think about it. If your inner voice feels overwhelming or scary, it’s always a good idea to talk to a trained professional. Want the free Life Experiments mini-course? Email “COURSE” toKelsey@drkelseymiles.com and I’ll send it to you. You build self-trust one small experiment at a time.📓 Want to reclaim your voice?My guided journal + album “I Am” helped me and others build self-trust.Get your copy here: www.kelseymiles.com/100days✨ Support the work on Patreon: www.patreon.com/kelseymilesConnect with me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkelseymilesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/iamkelseymilesWebsite: https://kelseymiles.com

    18 min
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Welcome to Authenticity Lab a podcast about building self-trust in seasons of uncertainty. Hosted by Dr. Kelsey Miles — PhD chemist and songwriter — this show blends scientific thinking with creative reflection to help you navigate identity shifts, overthinking, people pleasing, and the quiet questions we rarely say out loud. Instead of prescribing step-by-step fixes, each episode walks through a simple framework: Calibrate — get honest about what’s actually happening. Experiment — try one small, intentional shift. Optimize — reflect, adjust, and keep what works. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about reconnecting with who you already are and expanding your capacity to handle change. New episodes every Tuesday.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Kelsey Miles
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    46
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © I See You Network 2024. All Rights Reserved.
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