Because I've Healed

Asha Wilkerson
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You did everything right. And still... something's off. Not quite broken, but not quite right either. Because I've Healed is for high-achieving Black women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves. We have real conversations and give real solutions. Asha Wilkerson is a former attorney, healing guide, and retreat curator in Lisbon, Portugal. She's been where you are. She got out., and she came back to get you! New episodes drop regularly. Go deeper with Love Notes, a weekly email for women ready to trust themselves again.

  1. 1d ago

    Ep 52: When "Tough Times Don't Last" Isn't Enough

    A few weeks ago, I came across a post on Threads that stopped me in my tracks. A woman wrote, "Somewhere deep within it hurts. Really wish I could get the words out, but it's so heavy to pen down." What struck me wasn't just what she said. It was who she appeared to be from the outside: successful, accomplished, building a business, encouraging others. And yet beneath all of that, something felt heavy. It reminded me how many of us are walking around carrying emotions we don't know what to do with. In this episode, I'm sharing a practical framework for navigating those moments when life feels overwhelming. Not with platitudes or toxic positivity, but with real steps you can take when you're in the trenches. We'll explore why feeling deeply doesn't mean you're broken, how to identify what your body and nervous system need, and how to use your emotions as information instead of getting lost in the stories they create. If you've ever felt stuck, heavy, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move through difficult emotions, this conversation is for you. (00:00) - Navigating Vulnerability on Social Media (02:52) - Understanding and Normalizing Emotions (05:45) - Identifying Needs and Seeking Support (09:00) - Decoding Emotions: Information vs. Story (12:02) - Practical Steps for Emotional Awareness (14:55) - Bridging Knowledge and Practice in Emotional Health Takeaways ✨ You are not broken because you feel deeply. Heavy emotions are not a sign that something is wrong with you. They are part of being human and provide valuable information about what is happening beneath the surface. ✨ Before you move on, ask yourself what you need. Instead of rushing to "fix" the feeling, pause and identify what would help you feel supported. Sometimes it's a hug, a conversation, rest, movement, nature, or simply being witnessed. ✨ Co-regulation is not a weakness. Humans are relational beings. Reaching out for support, connection, or comfort is often exactly what your nervous system needs to return to safety. ✨ Emotions carry information. Once your nervous system has settled, get curious. Ask yourself what the sensation in your body is trying to communicate rather than immediately reacting to it. ✨ Separate the emotion from the story. The emotion is the raw experience in your body. The story is the meaning your mind creates around it. Learning the difference can help you respond more intentionally. ✨ You can't always control what you feel, but you can choose how you respond. When you understand what an emotion is trying to tell you, you gain the power to decide what happens next. Connect with me on Threads: @ashawilkersonesq

    17 min

  2. Jun 9

    Ep 51: Why You Can't Take Everybody's Advice (Even When It Comes from Love)

    When you’re in a major season of transition, it’s completely natural to feel restless, unsure, and a little bit blind to your next move. But when we look outward for constant validation, we accidentally open the door for other people to build a ceiling over our lives. Key Takeaways External blueprints cannot solve internal transitions: Polling the audience when you are unsure only dilutes your path. You are the only one who has to live inside the life you are actively building. Limitations can be born out of love: The people closest to you project their own relationship with fear and safety onto your life. Their desire to protect you shouldn't become a ceiling that limits your expansion. Trust how advice lands in your body: If a piece of advice does not land all the way right in your spirit or your body, it will never work out the way it was intended to. Your physical alignment is your compass. Be fiercely choosy about who speaks into your life: You do not have to stop loving your family or friends, but you do have to recognize who has the capacity to hold your vision. Your future is worth pouring into, and it deserves protection. Ubuntu Design https://ubuntudesign.life/#/ 00:00 - Navigating Advice in Times of Transition 05:12 - Understanding Your Own Guidance 10:51 - The Limitations of Well-Meaning Advice 15:10 - Protecting Your Unique Vision In this episode, I get radically honest about my own four-year transition out of California and full-time legal work. I break down why the people who love you most will often give you advice designed to keep you safe rather than help you grow, how to filter through outside noise, and how to build the muscle required to trust the unique blueprint of your own vision.

    19 min

  3. Jun 2

    Ep 50: Tuning In: How to Trust the Subtle Voice of Your Intuition

    Have you ever had a random thought cross your mind, brushed it off, and then later found out it was completely accurate? You look back and think, Dang it, I should have clocked that. This week at the studio, we are talking about learning how to trust yourself and the decisions you make based on your intuition or your inner knowing. For a long time, I didn't think I was intuitive at all because my style didn't look like my mom's. But the truth is, we are all born with this capability. Because everything is made of energy, your intuition is simply your ability to perceive information beyond your five physical senses in this 3D world. In this episode, I break down what the "Claire" senses actually look like in real life, from hearing the voice of wisdom to tasting unexpected memories. I share personal stories of how this plays out in my own life here in Portugal (including a countercultural nudge involving the local police), and I give you three practical, everyday steps to stop gaslighting yourself, dial in your inner knowing, and test the universe for yourself. (00:00) - Unlocking Intuition: A Personal Journey (06:05) - Understanding Intuition: The Claire Senses (11:43) - Trusting Your Intuition: Practical Steps (17:55) - Asking for Signs: Engaging with the Universe Key Takeaways The Physics of Intuition: Your intuition isn't magic; it’s science. Everything is made of energy, and energy impacts other energy. Intuition is simply perceiving that energy beyond the naked eye. The Everyday Nudge: Unless you are in danger, normal everyday intuition is rarely a loud, neon sign. It is incredibly subtle. Learning to trust it means paying attention to the quick, quiet thoughts that drop in. Three Steps to Trust Your Knowing: To sharpen your volume, start keeping a log of your inner hits, follow small grocery-store-level nudges, and challenge the universe by asking for a highly specific confirmation sign. Book Mentioned in this episode: Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe by Laura Lynne Jackson Join the RESET Journey: If you are a busy, burned-out, exhausted Black woman who is tired of feeling like you've done everything right on paper but something is still missing, it's time to come home to yourself. Take a look at our 6-week course or join us for our intimate, two-day RESET Retreat in Lisbon this July 3rd and 4th. [Click Here to Learn More & Enroll] Get on the List: Don't miss out on weekly love notes and studio updates. [Join My Mailing List Here] Chapters: Key TakeawaysBook mentioned: Connect With Asha

    21 min

  4. May 26

    Ep 49: Your Comfort Zone is a Big Fat Lie!

    People call it a comfort zone all the time. But what if the thing you’re struggling to leave isn’t actually comfortable? In this episode, Asha unpacks the difference between what is comfortable and what is simply familiar, and why confusing the two can keep you stuck in jobs, relationships, routines, and identities that no longer fit who you are becoming. Because the truth is, most people are not staying because they feel good; they’re staying because they know what to expect. This conversation moves through nervous systems, survival instincts, language, and the stories we tell ourselves about change. Asha shares personal reflections about chronic back pain, leaving a tenured teaching career in the U.S., moving to Portugal, and what it means to stop choosing discomfort simply because it’s predictable. If you’ve been circling a decision for months, if something in your life feels heavy, restrictive, or misaligned, if you keep calling it a “comfort zone” even though it doesn’t actually feel good, this episode might help you tell the truth about what’s really happening. And once you tell the truth, the next step becomes easier to see. 00:00 - Understanding Comfort vs Familiarity 09:58 - Embracing Change and the Unfamiliar 16:56 - Identifying Your Hesitations Why your brain mistakes familiarity for safetyThe nervous system’s relationship to change and uncertaintyHow language shapes the choices you believe are available to youThe hidden exhaustion of staying in lives that no longer fitWhy unfamiliar doesn’t mean dangerousWhat helped Asha leave a life that looked successful on paper but no longer felt alignedIs this situation actually comfortable or just familiar?Am I staying because it feels good, or because I know what to expect?What might become possible if I stopped treating unfamiliarity like danger?Resources: Join Love Notes, the email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing: self-trust, nervous system, and coming home to the freedom that's always been yours. Learn more about RESET. Ask a question in the RESET WhatsApp group. RESET: A six-week experience for high-achieving Black women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves. Inside RESET, we explore nervous system regulation, ancestral connection, identity shifts, rest, and the space between the life you built and the life you actually want. If enrollment is currently closed, future cohorts and retreats will still be announced. In this episode:Questions to sit with after listening:

    18 min

  5. May 19

    Ep 48: Burnout Recovery for Black Women: Where to Actually Start

    Burned Out and Stuck: Where Black Women Start Over You've done everything right. And somehow you're standing at the top of the ladder, wondering why you don't want to climb anymore, or worse, not even knowing what you'd want instead. That freeze isn't a character flaw. It's not a sign that something's broken in you. It's a signal that your sacral chakra, the part of you that learned what you liked and what lit you up, went quiet a long time ago, somewhere between the degrees and the promotions and the people you were making proud. In this episode, I talk about what it actually means to reignite it, and why clarity doesn't come from thinking harder. It comes from moving. I also walk through RESET, my six-week program for high-achieving Black women who are stuck in the "in between" and don't quite know where to start. We work through listening to your body, releasing what you inherited that was never yours to carry, and mapping the desires you've been told are too much. It's not about blowing your life up. It's about creating enough space to finally hear yourself. Chapters: (00:00) Navigating Uncertainty: Where to Start?(05:41) Where to Start When You Don't Know What Change to Make(06:34) How the HELD Retreat Supports Your Process(07:23) RESET Gets You UnStuck in 6 Weeks(12:32) How RESET Moves You Forward(13:52) Which RESET Option Is Right for You?(15:36) Asha's Move from Burnout to Lisbon Resources: Join Love Notes, the email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing: self-trust, nervous system, and coming home to the freedom that's always been yours. Learn more about RESET. Ask a question in the RESET WhatsApp group.

    18 min

  6. May 12

    Ep 47: You're Not Broken: These Are Your Growing Pains

    That restlessness, that emptiness you can't quite name, it's not a sign that something went wrong. It's a sign that something is ready to grow. In this episode: What actually happened inside the first round of RESET: the real moments, not the highlight reelWhy your nervous system resists rest even when you've created the space for it (and the 20-minute practice that starts to change that)How following someone else's script creates the exact emptiness you're trying to escapeWhy I lead this container from inside the experience, not above it, and why that makes all the differenceWhat lineage healing actually looks like in the small, ordinary moments of your day Chapters: (00:00) Introduction to Reset: A Journey of Reconnection(02:05) RESET Is a Guide Back to Yourself(03:09) Understanding Discontent: The Emotional Compass(06:35) Nervous System Regulation: Creating Spaciousness(08:22) The Power of Small Changes: Building Towards Transformation(10:51) Transparency in Growth: Learning Together(17:03) Invitation to Join Reset: Embracing Freedom and Healing Links mentioned: → Learn more about RESET (a 6-week group or a 2-day retreat)  → Join Love Notes

    21 min

  7. Apr 28

    Ep 46: You Already Hear Your Intuition, You're Just Not Listening

    You Hear Your Intuition. You're Just Not Listening. It's not that your intuition went quiet. It's that you stopped recognizing it as yours. In this episode: Why intuition often shows up like background music: present the whole time, but easy to tune out.Two real-life moments where Asha heard her intuition and didn't realize it until later.Why going quiet isn't about 30-minute meditations, and where you're actually missing it.How to tell the difference between intuition and fear (hint: real intuition usually isn't emotional).The practice of trusting what you hear before you understand why. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction - recording live from the streets of Lisbon(03:36) What it actually costs you when you miss your intuition(06:45) How to start tuning in - step one: be open(08:30) Quieting the noise (it's smaller than you think)(10:15) Trust it, test it, step out on faith Links mentioned: → RESET - Asha's 6-week program + 2-day retreat option for women ready to hear and act on their intuition → Join Love Notes If this touched something in you, Love Notes was made for you. It's a weekly email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing; self-trust, nervous system, and coming home to the freedom that's always been yours.

    14 min
  8. Ep 45: Here’s Why You've Done Everything Right and Still Feel Empty

    Apr 28

    Ep 45: Here’s Why You've Done Everything Right and Still Feel Empty

    You've Done Everything Right and Still Feel Empty You've got the credentials, the career, the life that looks excellent on paper, and still, privately, something feels off. This episode is about why thinking harder won't fix that. In this episode: Why your patterns aren't stored in your mind; they're stored in your body, your breath, your postureWhat nervous system regulation actually means for high achievers (it's not bubble baths)The difference between understanding why you're stuck and actually being able to moveAncestral connection as a resource, and why your ancestors wanted you free, not impressiveThe "between shells" moment: what it means to be in transition and why it's supposed to feel uncomfortableTimestamps: (03:15])Why thinking and talk therapy aren't enough(06:45) What nervous system regulation actually means(10:30) Ancestral healing and what's yours to carry forward(13:00) The hermit crab and the "between shells" identity shift(17:00) Three things to start noticing in your body today(20:15) RESET: formats, dates, and early bird detailsLinks mentioned: RESET: online, in-person Lisbon, and 2-day retreat formats Join Love Notes

    21 min
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You did everything right. And still... something's off. Not quite broken, but not quite right either. Because I've Healed is for high-achieving Black women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves. We have real conversations and give real solutions. Asha Wilkerson is a former attorney, healing guide, and retreat curator in Lisbon, Portugal. She's been where you are. She got out., and she came back to get you! New episodes drop regularly. Go deeper with Love Notes, a weekly email for women ready to trust themselves again.

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  • Creator
    Asha Wilkerson
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    52
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Asha Wilkerson
  • Show Website
    Because I've Healed