boy meets therapy

Dustin Oliver
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Hosted by therapist Dustin Oliver, MHC-LP, boy meets therapy blends clinical research with real conversations about vulnerability, relationships, friendship, identity, and culture with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Episodes feature solo insights and in-depth interviews with licensed professionals who share both their expertise and their humanity. Perfect for queer listeners, allies, and mental health aficionados seeking affirming, research-informed discussions about therapy and life.

  1. Mean Gays, Part 2: How to Stay Open When Belonging Is Conditional

    3D AGO · VIDEO

    Mean Gays, Part 2: How to Stay Open When Belonging Is Conditional

    In Part 1, we explored why gay spaces can sometimes feel cold, competitive, or quietly unkind and how conditional belonging can shape gay male social culture. In this follow-up episode, we shifts the focus from culture to skills. This conversation is about how to stay emotionally open, grounded, and self-respecting in gay social environments that are not always designed for emotional safety or relational depth. Drawing from attachment theory, emotion regulation research, and clinical work, this episode offers practical tools for building secure connection without overexposing yourself, confusing boundaries with emotional shutdown, or internalizing social rejection. You will learn how to recognize real reciprocity early, disengage without becoming cold, reduce over-personalization after subtle social rejection, and create healthier connection outside high-evaluation spaces such as nightlife and dating apps. This episode is for gay men who want deeper friendships and relationships, but do not want repeated social hurt to turn into emotional distance or cynicism. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    39 min
  2. Mean Gays: When Belonging Is Conditional

    FEB 2 · VIDEO

    Mean Gays: When Belonging Is Conditional

    Why do gay spaces sometimes feel cold, competitive, or quietly unkind? In this season three premiere and solo episode, host Dustin explores what people mean when they talk about “mean gays” and why unkindness can become normalized in gay social spaces. Rather than framing this as a character flaw or a community failure, this episode looks at the psychological and social forces that shape these interactions. Drawing from research on minority stress, shame, social comparison, and attachment, this episode examines how conditional belonging, appearance-based status, and fear of rejection can turn connection into competition. It also explores how many of us participate in these dynamics without realizing it, and what it looks like to recognize when emotional distance is being used as protection. You will also learn how to respond when you are on the receiving end of subtle social cruelty, including how to avoid internalizing rejection, set boundaries without becoming cold, and seek spaces where reciprocity actually exists. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt invisible in gay spaces, questioned their worth after social rejection, or wondered why belonging sometimes feels earned instead of given. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    43 min
  3. Gay and Going Home: Navigating Family, the Holidays, and Your Hometown

    12/15/2025 · VIDEO

    Gay and Going Home: Navigating Family, the Holidays, and Your Hometown

    Going home for the holidays can bring up more than nostalgia for many gay people. It can activate old family roles, unspoken rules, emotional triggers, and versions of yourself you thought you outgrew. In this episode, Dustin explores why returning to your hometown can feel so emotionally complex. From family systems that never updated, to subtle invalidations, to the tension between who you are now and who you had to be growing up, this conversation breaks down what is actually happening beneath the surface. You’ll hear a psychological look at why going home can trigger anxiety, people pleasing, or emotional regression, how family dynamics shape what feels safe to share, and why holidays can intensify loneliness or comparison. We also talk about navigating boundaries, coping in real time, and finding grounding when home no longer feels like the place you belong. Whether you are heading home for the holidays, thinking about it, or choosing not to go at all, this episode offers language, insight, and reassurance for navigating family, identity, and emotional safety with more clarity. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Note: There is a blog post written about every episode that summarizes key points of episodes for easy referral and understanding of the topics discussed. Blog: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    41 min
  4. The Psychology of Overthinking and What to Do About It

    12/08/2025 · VIDEO

    The Psychology of Overthinking and What to Do About It

    In this episode, host Dustin breaks down why overthinking happens, what part of the brain drives it, and how attachment patterns, trauma histories, and emotional avoidance shape the habit. You will learn why your mind replays conversations, predicts worst case scenarios, and struggles with uncertainty even when nothing is actually wrong. This conversation blends clinical research on rumination, worry, and the default mode network with practical guidance for shifting the patterns that keep you stuck. You will hear tools for breaking mental loops, strengthening self trust, and identifying the emotions beneath your spirals so you can respond with clarity instead of fear. (Also, Dustin reveals his Spotify Wrapped and....it's exactly what you would think) Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Note: There is a blog post written about every episode that summarizes key points of episodes for easy referral and understanding of the topics discussed. Blog: ⁠⁠⁠www.boymeetstherapy.com/blog⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    35 min
  5. The Struggle to Find or Sustain a Relationship, Part 3: What Is/Is Not Healthy (LGBTQ+ Edition)

    11/24/2025 · VIDEO

    The Struggle to Find or Sustain a Relationship, Part 3: What Is/Is Not Healthy (LGBTQ+ Edition)

    In the final part of this series, we explore what unhealthy relationships actually look like for LGBTQ+ people and why so many harmful patterns feel familiar instead of alarming. This episode breaks down confusion between passion and chaos, the struggle to maintain desire, and the ways inconsistency, criticism, power imbalances, and identity-related harm show up in queer dating. We also look at why passion is hard to sustain, why the nervous system mistakes anxiety for attraction, and how to recognize when a dynamic is undermining your emotional safety. This conversation offers clarity, language, and guidance for identifying unhealthy patterns so you can move toward relationships that feel stable, respectful, and supportive of your whole identity. Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    45 min
  6. The Struggle to Find or Sustain a Relationship, Part 2: How to Relate Differently (LGBTQ+ Edition)

    11/17/2025 · VIDEO

    The Struggle to Find or Sustain a Relationship, Part 2: How to Relate Differently (LGBTQ+ Edition)

    In Part 2 of this series on queer relationships, we explore how LGBTQ+ people can begin relating differently after years of dating in environments shaped by shame, scarcity, and minority stress. This episode focuses on practical skills for connection, including attachment awareness, emotional literacy, relational repair, communication about identity, and the role of community support. We look at how hyper-independence forms, why many queer adults feel behind in dating, and how to build trust, safety, and clarity in real time. This conversation offers guidance for creating healthier relationships and more grounded connection while honoring the unique experiences of LGBTQ+ people Follow and rate us to see more boy meets therapy, it really helps the show! Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    49 min
  7. The Struggle to Find or Sustain a Relationship, Part 1: Why It Feels So Hard (LGBTQ+ Edition)

    11/10/2025 · VIDEO

    The Struggle to Find or Sustain a Relationship, Part 1: Why It Feels So Hard (LGBTQ+ Edition)

    Why does finding and keeping love feel so complicated for so many LGBTQ+ people? In this episode, we explore the emotional and cultural forces that shape queer dating, from minority stress and loneliness to shame, scarcity, and community pressures around desirability. This is not about blaming ourselves but about understanding the systems and experiences that shaped how we learned to love, protect ourselves, and connect. Part 1 sets the foundation for a deeper look at queer relationships and why love often feels harder than it should. Follow and rate us to see more boy meets therapy, it really helps the show! Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    43 min
  8. Intimate Partner Violence in LGBTQ+ Relationships: Power, Shame, and Vulnerability

    11/03/2025 · VIDEO

    Intimate Partner Violence in LGBTQ+ Relationships: Power, Shame, and Vulnerability

    In this episode, host Dustin sits down with Eric Batchelder, LMSW to explore intimate partner and domestic violence within LGBTQ+ relationships. We unpack how power, shame, and cultural expectations shape the dynamics of harm and healing. The conversation examines many forms of spousal abuse, including emotional, financial, psychological, and physical, and how they can manifest in Queer relationships. We discuss the emotional and psychological complexities of queer relationships, the barriers survivors face, and what safety and recovery can look like through self-awareness and support. LGBT Power and Control Wheel: ⁠Click Here⁠ Equality Wheel: ⁠Click Here⁠ Connect with Eric Batchelder, LMSW: LinkedIn: ⁠Link Here⁠ Connect with boy meets therapy: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@boymeetstherapy⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website with Free Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠boymeetstherapy.com⁠ Created and Produced by Dustin Oliver

    51 min
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Hosted by therapist Dustin Oliver, MHC-LP, boy meets therapy blends clinical research with real conversations about vulnerability, relationships, friendship, identity, and culture with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Episodes feature solo insights and in-depth interviews with licensed professionals who share both their expertise and their humanity. Perfect for queer listeners, allies, and mental health aficionados seeking affirming, research-informed discussions about therapy and life.

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  • Creator
    Dustin Oliver
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    35
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Dustin Oliver
  • Show Website
    boy meets therapy