Climbing Fish Parenting

Dr. Kristi Clarke
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Your kid isn't broken. Your parenting isn't broken. Sometimes, we're just asking our fish to climb trees. If you're an exhausted parent who's tried everything and nothing has worked—this podcast is for you. You're carrying guilt about your parenting. Your child's behaviors don't respond to the typical strategies. The advice from books, friends, and even professionals just... doesn't fit. Here's what I need you to know: You're not failing. You're just using the wrong map. I'm Dr. Kristi, a psychologist and behavior analyst, and I help parents understand their child's unique wiring and use strategies that actually work. Whether your child has a diagnosis or you just know they're wired differently—whether it's ADHD, ASD, anxiety, sensory sensitivities, or they're just... not like the parenting books describe—this is for you. No fluff. No shame. Just practical, evidence-based guidance from someone who gets it. Each episode gives you real strategies for real challenges—meltdowns, school struggles, bedtime battles, and everything in between. This is where we stop asking fish to climb trees and start helping them swim.

  1. 6일 전

    The Child Who Saves Their Worst for You

    You pick them up from school and the teacher says it was a great day. The report is good. By every external measure — fine. And then you get to the parking lot.  Or the dinner table. Or the moment the front door closes and the backpack hits the floor. And the child who held it together all day is suddenly a completely different kid. And you're standing there wondering what you did wrong — or whether something is wrong with them — or how the same child can be so different depending on where they are. Nothing is wrong with them. And nothing is wrong with you. What you're watching is information. And this episode is about learning to read it. In this episode: Why the hardest moment of the day is almost never school — and what that tells you about what your child's day is actually costing them What Russell Barkley's longitudinal research tells us about why the crash comes after — not during — and why that pattern is more predictable than it feels What the research on masking shows us about the effort behind "fine" — and why that effort has to land somewhere Why your child saves their worst for you — and why that is evidence of your relationship, not a failure of your parenting Resources mentioned:🔗 Make sure you're on the newsletter list so you don't miss what's coming next: climbingfishparenting.com

    13분
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  3. 5월 10일

    What Mother's Day Showed You (That Nobody Else Could See)

    Mother's Day doesn't always look like the pictures. Sometimes it looks like a meltdown in the parking lot. Sometimes it looks like an hour finally to yourself that you spent thinking about your kid anyway. Sometimes it looks like buying the card yourself the night before and signing your child's name — because you knew it wasn't going to happen otherwise, and you didn't want there to be nothing on the table in the morning. If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. In this episode: Why the attempt to make the day special can be the thing that makes the day hard — and what routine disruption actually costs a wired-differently child's nervous system The invisible labor of Mother's Day that nobody talks about — including the emotional work of making your own celebration possible Why your child held it together for everyone else and fell apart with you — and what that dynamic actually means about your relationship The quiet that didn't feel like rest — and why your nervous system doesn't have an off switch just because your child left the room The weight of complicated feelings about your own mother, your mother-in-law, and the people who handled your child just fine and made you wonder, just for a second, if you've been overcomplicating things The reframe that changes how you carry yesterday — and every hard day that came before it By the end of this episode, you'll feel less alone in whatever Mother's Day actually was — and you'll have a different way of seeing what it means to be the safe place for a child who is wired differently. Resources mentioned: Child Profile Quiz: www.climbingfishparenting.com/quiz

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  4. 5월 4일

    The Fear Every Parent of a Wired-Differently Kid Carries Alone

    "The Fear Every Parent of a Wired-Differently Kid Carries Alone" There is a distance between where your child is right now and where the world expects them to be. You live in that distance every single day. You manage it, scaffold it, show up for it again and again — and then do it all over again the next morning. And somewhere in the middle of all that managing, most parents stop letting themselves look directly at it. Stop asking whether anything is actually shifting. Stop imagining the wide-open future because the gap between here and there feels too large to hold. This episode is about looking at it directly. And I promise — the looking is worth it. In this episode: The grief that comes with raising a wired-differently child that nobody names — and why naming it matters more than you think Why the parent of a five-year-old and the parent of a fifteen-year-old are often carrying the same fear — just wearing different faces What happens when you stop letting yourself imagine your child's future — and what becomes possible when you start again Why the gap is real but not fixed — and what the difference between those two things actually means The one question to ask yourself this week that tells you whether the support you're giving is pointed somewhere — or just getting through today By the end of this episode, you'll have language for something you've been carrying alone for a long time — and a different way of seeing what's actually possible for your child. Resources mentioned: 🔗 Free training — The Accommodation Trap, Thursday May 7th: climbingfishparenting.com/webinar

    14분

  5. 4월 27일

    When Everyone Else's Parenting Advice Makes Things Worse

    You're at the pediatrician's office. You start listing everything you've tried — sticker charts, time-outs, natural consequences, behavior contracts. And the doctor nods and says: have you tried being more consistent? And something inside you breaks a little bit. Because yes. You have. Here's what nobody is saying clearly enough: when a strategy doesn't work for your child, the default assumption is that the implementation is the problem. But there's another possibility that almost never gets named. The strategy itself might be mismatched to your child's brain. And if that's true, trying harder doesn't fix the problem. It intensifies it. In this episode: Why most parenting advice fails kids who are wired differently — not because you're doing it wrong, but because it was never designed for their brain What sticker charts, natural consequences, and logical consequences each assume about how a brain works — and why those assumptions don't hold for your child The quiet cost of applying the wrong strategies long enough — and what it does to your child's belief in themselves The one question that immediately changes what you're looking for when nothing is working What "building the right pond" actually looks like on a Tuesday night when everything is falling apart — with concrete examples for homework and social situations By the end of this episode, you'll understand why the strategies keep failing — and you'll have a completely different question to ask that changes how you see your child's hardest moments. Resources mentioned: Registration for the free live training opens Wednesday. Get on the newsletter list to receive the link: climbingfishparenting.com/newslettersignup

    21분

  6. 4월 20일

    When You Realize You've Been Performing Calm — What Comes Next

    You stayed calm. While everything around you escalated — while words were flying and the room was filling with heat — you made a choice to be the counterweight. You kept your voice low and steady. You stayed in the room when every instinct said otherwise. And then your child turned around and said: stop using that voice. That stings in a way that's completely different from other parenting feedback. It's not the sting of having lost your temper. It's the sting of having worked incredibly hard not to — and being told your effort was somehow still wrong. Here's what your child was actually telling you — and why it's more useful than it felt. In this episode: Why your child's nervous system can detect the gap between your calm voice and your activated body — and what signal that mismatch sends The difference between performing calm and being calm — and why one works and one doesn't What the noticing means when you catch yourself in the gap — and why it's evidence of something shifting, not something failing Why going back after a hard moment doesn't always mean apologizing — and what to do instead How one simple, honest sentence after a hard moment closes the gap your child's nervous system was left holding Why doing this consistently builds something in your child's nervous system that makes the next hard moment a little easier By the end of this episode, you'll understand what your child was actually receiving when you performed calm — and you'll have one small, concrete practice that changes how hard moments end in your house. Resources mentioned: Take the free two-minute quiz at climbingfishparenting.com/quiz — it helps you identify exactly what kind of barrier is getting in the way for your specific child, so you finally understand why nothing has been working and where to start instead. Sign up for the newsletter at climbingfishparenting.com/newslettersignup for this week's exclusive Swim Strategy content. Your kid isn't broken. Your parenting isn't broken. Sometimes we're just asking our fish to climb trees. That's what we fix here.

    21분

  7. 4월 13일

    Your Teen Isn't Checking Out. They're Running on Empty.

    Your teenager failed multiple classes last semester. Not because they didn't understand the material — their teacher says they're one of the most engaged kids in the room. But the assignments aren't getting turned in. And when you ask why, they shrug. "I don't know." You've taken away the phone. You've sat next to them at the kitchen table. You've hired a tutor. Nothing sticks. And the thing making you crazy is that they don't seem to care. Here's what I need you to hear: they care. The problem was never motivation. In this episode: Why the executive function gap that was visible in childhood goes underground in the teenage years — and what it looks like when it does What "I don't know" actually means when your teenager can't explain themselves — and why pushing for the explanation makes everything worse The three patterns I see constantly in wired-differently teenagers — and what each one actually looks like from the inside when nobody around them can see it Why motivational strategies don't work when motivation was never the problem — and what does work instead Two concrete things to try this week that match the support to the brain instead of the expectation By the end of this episode, you'll understand what the shrug actually means, what's really happening during those twelve days before the project deadline, and what your teenager needs from you that looks completely different from what you've been trying. Resources mentioned: Sign up for the newsletter at www.climbingfishparenting.com/newslettersignup for this week's exclusive Swim Strategy content.  Your kid isn't broken. Your parenting isn't broken. Sometimes we're just asking our fish to climb trees. That's what we fix here.

    20분

  8. 4월 6일

    Your Child Isn't Falling Apart - Their Brain Just Hit Its Limit

    It's 3:15pm. Your child just walked through the door. They drop their backpack somewhere between the entryway and the kitchen — not where it goes, just somewhere. You ask how their day was. They grunt. You ask if they have homework. They explode. Not a little frustrated. Not mildly annoyed. Explode. Slammed door. Maybe something thrown. Maybe words that sting. And you're standing there thinking: I said two words. Two completely normal words that every parent says to every kid who comes home from school. And somehow that became a crisis. It's not about the homework. It's not about the chips. It's not even about you. In this episode, I'm going to show you exactly what's happening inside your child's brain by the time they walk through that door — and why the way most parents respond (naturally, instinctively, reasonably) accidentally makes it worse. In this episode: The whiteboard metaphor that will permanently change how you see your child's hardest moments Why your child can hold it together all day at school and completely fall apart the moment they get home — and why that's actually a sign your relationship is working What a "depleted whiteboard" actually looks like in real life (the after-school explosion, the bedtime unraveling, the homework shutdown) Why consequences and lectures don't work in these moments — and what restoring capacity actually looks like instead The one thing to try this week that parents tell me is a game-changer within days This episode is the lens that makes everything else click. Once you see it, you can't unsee it. Resources: Newsletter signup at www.climbingfishparenting.com/newslettersignup — and registration for my free April webinar opens soon. Your kid isn't broken. Your parenting isn't broken. Sometimes we're just asking our fish to climb trees. That's what we fix here.

    21분
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Your kid isn't broken. Your parenting isn't broken. Sometimes, we're just asking our fish to climb trees. If you're an exhausted parent who's tried everything and nothing has worked—this podcast is for you. You're carrying guilt about your parenting. Your child's behaviors don't respond to the typical strategies. The advice from books, friends, and even professionals just... doesn't fit. Here's what I need you to know: You're not failing. You're just using the wrong map. I'm Dr. Kristi, a psychologist and behavior analyst, and I help parents understand their child's unique wiring and use strategies that actually work. Whether your child has a diagnosis or you just know they're wired differently—whether it's ADHD, ASD, anxiety, sensory sensitivities, or they're just... not like the parenting books describe—this is for you. No fluff. No shame. Just practical, evidence-based guidance from someone who gets it. Each episode gives you real strategies for real challenges—meltdowns, school struggles, bedtime battles, and everything in between. This is where we stop asking fish to climb trees and start helping them swim.

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  • 제작진
    Dr. Kristi Clarke
  • 방송 연도
    2025년 - 2026년
  • 에피소드
    36
  • 등급
    무삭제판
  • 저작권
    © 2025
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    Climbing Fish Parenting

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