Climbing Fish Parenting

Dr. Kristi Clarke
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Your kid isn't broken. Your parenting isn't broken. Sometimes, we're just asking our fish to climb trees. If you're an exhausted parent who's tried everything and nothing has worked—this podcast is for you. You're carrying guilt about your parenting. Your child's behaviors don't respond to the typical strategies. The advice from books, friends, and even professionals just... doesn't fit. Here's what I need you to know: You're not failing. You're just using the wrong map. I'm Dr. Kristi, a psychologist and behavior analyst, and I help parents understand their child's unique wiring and use strategies that actually work. Whether your child has a diagnosis or you just know they're wired differently—whether it's ADHD, ASD, anxiety, sensory sensitivities, or they're just... not like the parenting books describe—this is for you. No fluff. No shame. Just practical, evidence-based guidance from someone who gets it. Each episode gives you real strategies for real challenges—meltdowns, school struggles, bedtime battles, and everything in between. This is where we stop asking fish to climb trees and start helping them swim.

  1. -6 дн.

    The Skill Nobody's Born With

    A dad spends an entire summer teaching his son to ride a bike — holding the seat, running alongside, letting him wobble. Two weeks later, he's in the kitchen telling that same kid to "just calm down" during a meltdown over a broken cookie, with none of that same patience or teaching. No scaffolding. Just an instruction, expected to land on its own. In this episode: Why emotion regulation is a built skill, not something a child either has or doesn't have The three separate components a child's brain has to build to calm down: noticing escalation, pausing before reacting, and having a tool ready to use How this gap shows up differently for ADHD, autistic, and anxious kids, and why that matters for what to actually teach Concrete ways to start building the skill this week, including practicing the pause when nothing's wrong and building a visible toolbox before the storm hits Your kid isn't broken, and neither is your parenting — the skill just isn't finished being built yet. Resources mentioned: Why Your Kid Can't Calm Down — free training opens July 6 at  www.climbingfishparenting.com/products

    18 мин.
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  3. 22 июн.

    Why Your Teen's Reactions Feel So Much Bigger Than the Moment

    "You don't even like spending time with me." That's what came back after a mom asked her sixteen-year-old for one thing: text me when you get there. One line. Four seconds. And somehow it turned into a conversation about whether they'd ever have a good relationship. In this episode: -Why a request this small can detonate into something that feels like a referendum on the whole relationship -The brain science behind it — a reward system that peaks mid-adolescence, paired with a braking system that's still years from finished -Why this hits an ADHD or autistic teen's reactions even harder, and what's actually different underneath it -The one move to make in the moment, and the repair conversation to have afterward that actually builds frustration tolerance instead of just ending the fight The size of the reaction was real. It just wasn't about the text. Resources mentioned: climbingfishparenting.com/quiz  Learn more about your kid's brain profile.

    19 мин.

  4. 15 июн.

    "I'm Bored": What Your Neurodivergent Kid Is Actually Telling You

    You've pointed at the Lego bin. You've listed the options. You've suggested the thing they asked for three weeks ago. And they're still standing there looking at you like you are personally responsible for the problem. "I'm bored" — and it's not even July yet. In this episode: Why the school environment was quietly functioning as an external executive functioning system — and why removing it is a bigger neurological disruption than it looks Why an understimulated brain actually becomes less able to retrieve stored options from working memory, not more — and what to do instead of suggesting activities on the spot How to build an activity list with your child that removes the retrieval demand entirely, and how to layer a personalized challenge around it that works with how dopamine actually functions in neurodivergent brains A specific in-the-moment sequence for the next time you hear "I'm bored" — including why not solving it immediately is part of what shifts the pattern Once you understand what "I'm bored" is actually communicating, it stops feeling like a complaint and starts feeling like information. That's when you can actually do something useful with it. Resources mentioned: climbingfishparenting.com/newsletter

    18 мин.

  5. 8 июн.

    Summer Q&A: Chores That Never Get Done, House Rules That Aren't Sticking, and Yes — Whether Your Kid Actually Needs to Shower

    School is out — and suddenly you're realizing your kid has no idea how to set the table, hasn't showered since Tuesday, and is tracking mud through the kitchen for the fourteenth time this week. Summer doesn't create new problems. It reveals the ones that were always there, quietly held up by structures that are now gone. In this episode: Why chores that seemed manageable during the school year suddenly fall apart — and how to identify which specific executive function step is getting in the way Why house rules stop working the moment kids are on autopilot, and why redesigning the moment beats restating the rule Common reasons kids resist showering in summer — sensory discomfort, time blindness, initiation struggles — and strategies for each There's a gap between knowing the rule and applying it in context. That gap responds to environmental design, not repeated reminders. Resources mentioned: climbingfishparenting.com/newsletter

    19 мин.

  6. 1 июн.

    The Child Only You Know

    You've been in that room. The parent-teacher conference. The conversation with the coach or the family member who loves your child and is still somehow describing a person you don't quite recognize. And you sat there, nodding, holding it together, thinking: that's not my kid. That's a version of my kid. But it's not the whole thing. This episode is about why the picture you're carrying is more clinically valuable than anyone has ever told you — and why getting a map for it doesn't add to your load. It makes what you're already carrying lighter. In this episode: Why parent and teacher ratings of the same child correlate at only 0.30 — and what that number actually means for what you've been seeing at home Why the gap between who your child is at school and who they are with you is not inconsistency — it's the most important data you have What the assessment literature says about parent report that nobody has ever said to your face Why doing this without a map is costing you more than you realize — and what changes when you finally have one Plus: a story about a driver's ed instructor who wrote my daughter off on day one — and what happened by the end. By the end of this episode, you'll understand why you are not the less objective observer. You are the broadest one. And that changes everything. 🔗 Free live training — When Everyone Else Says Your Kid Is Fine: climbingfishparenting.com/webinar

    14 мин.

  7. 25 мая

    Why Your Teenager Holds It Together All Day — And What That's Actually Costing Them

    The shower drain kept clogging. They used Draino. They snaked it themselves. They called a plumber. Nobody connected it to their daughter. And then a mom went to smooth her daughter's comforter. And saw a clump of hair on the pillow. That pause — before she fully understood what she was looking at — is where this episode begins. Because a lot of parents of teenagers are living in some version of that pause right now. Something is slightly off. The bedroom door is always closed. The headaches every Sunday evening. The grumpiness that sleep doesn't fix. The tears without obvious cause. This episode is about what you might be looking at when you pause. And why it's more predictable — and more readable — than it feels. In this episode: The spectrum of what holding-it-together looks like when it starts to spill — from the subtle signs to the more serious ones, and why all of it is the same thing wearing different clothes Why teenagers know they're struggling in a way younger kids often don't — and what that self-awareness costs them What Brené Brown's research on shame tells us about the wall of anger you get when you see something your teenager didn't want you to see The one thing to try this week that isn't a confrontation, a system, or a conversation you've been dreading A note on the research: most of what we know comes from studies done primarily on male children. If your teenager isn't male or doesn't fit the textbook presentation — I talk about that gap in this episode. If you are worried about your child right now: climbingfishparenting.com/resources. If it is a crisis, please seek crisis support immediately. 🔗 Don't miss what's coming: climbingfishparenting.com

    17 мин.

  8. 18 мая

    The Child Who Saves Their Worst for You

    You pick them up from school and the teacher says it was a great day. The report is good. By every external measure — fine. And then you get to the parking lot.  Or the dinner table. Or the moment the front door closes and the backpack hits the floor. And the child who held it together all day is suddenly a completely different kid. And you're standing there wondering what you did wrong — or whether something is wrong with them — or how the same child can be so different depending on where they are. Nothing is wrong with them. And nothing is wrong with you. What you're watching is information. And this episode is about learning to read it. In this episode: Why the hardest moment of the day is almost never school — and what that tells you about what your child's day is actually costing them What Russell Barkley's longitudinal research tells us about why the crash comes after — not during — and why that pattern is more predictable than it feels What the research on masking shows us about the effort behind "fine" — and why that effort has to land somewhere Why your child saves their worst for you — and why that is evidence of your relationship, not a failure of your parenting Resources mentioned:🔗 Make sure you're on the newsletter list so you don't miss what's coming next: climbingfishparenting.com

    13 мин.
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Your kid isn't broken. Your parenting isn't broken. Sometimes, we're just asking our fish to climb trees. If you're an exhausted parent who's tried everything and nothing has worked—this podcast is for you. You're carrying guilt about your parenting. Your child's behaviors don't respond to the typical strategies. The advice from books, friends, and even professionals just... doesn't fit. Here's what I need you to know: You're not failing. You're just using the wrong map. I'm Dr. Kristi, a psychologist and behavior analyst, and I help parents understand their child's unique wiring and use strategies that actually work. Whether your child has a diagnosis or you just know they're wired differently—whether it's ADHD, ASD, anxiety, sensory sensitivities, or they're just... not like the parenting books describe—this is for you. No fluff. No shame. Just practical, evidence-based guidance from someone who gets it. Each episode gives you real strategies for real challenges—meltdowns, school struggles, bedtime battles, and everything in between. This is where we stop asking fish to climb trees and start helping them swim.

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  • Автор
    Dr. Kristi Clarke
  • Годы выхода
    2025 - 2026
  • Выпуски
    42
  • Ограничения
    С ненормативной лексикой
  • Авторские права
    © 2025
  • Сайт подкаста
    Climbing Fish Parenting

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