Connection Codes

Connection Codes
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We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together. Hosted by Tera Wages of the I Get It podcast. For free resources to a better marriage go to https://www.connectioncodes.co/

  1. HACE 13 H

    Why Ignoring Your Emotions is Destroying Your Health (And What You Should Be Doing Instead)

    What if the reason you can't sleep, can't focus, and come home completely depleted has nothing to do with your schedule — and everything to do with what you're doing to your emotions? In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill, and Tera Wages go deep on one of the most important — and most overlooked — tools in the Connection Codes toolkit: oohing yourself. Not your partner. Not your kids. Yourself. We've all been taught some version of "don't be emotional," "choose joy," "power through." But what that messaging actually does is train us to reject ourselves at the deepest level. And the cost? It shows up in your body, your sleep, your productivity, your relationships, and your health. In this episode, you'll discover: Why suppressing emotions doesn't make them disappear — it sends them straight into your cells (and the science behind what that does to your body)The 3 powerful questions that help you tune into yourself in under 60 secondsHow a woman's 12-year battle with insomnia ended after one night of doing the Core Emotion WheelWhy "positive thinking" culture may actually be working against your emotional healthThe real reason you have nothing left for your spouse and kids at the end of the dayHow to process fear, shame, and hurt in 10–15 seconds (without a therapy session)What Tera discovered about herself, her kids, and the mistakes she made before she had these toolsThis episode is for you if:You've tried the productivity hacks, the sleep supplements, the mindset work — but something still feels stuck. Or if you teach communication tools to others and still forget to use them on yourself (yes, Tera goes there). Resources mentioned: 🌀 Download the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcast🤝 Book a certified Connection Codes Coach: connectioncodes.co/coaches📚 Start with Foundations: connectioncodes.co/foundationsKeywords: emotional health, marriage advice, mental health awareness, emotional intelligence, relationship communication, burnout recovery, emotional regulation, self-awareness, anxiety relief, insomnia and emotions, leadership emotional health, marriage therapy tools, how to process emotions, core emotion wheel

    39 min

  2. 17 FEB

    The Neuroscience of Connection: How Active Listening Releases Oxytocin in Your Marriage

    The Power of Active Listening: How Oooo Transforms Conflict Into Connection. What if the secret to emotional regulation in your marriage wasn't another therapy session, but a simple audible response that releases oxytocin in your brain? In Part 2 of our active listening series, Dr. Glenn Hill and Phyllis Hill dive deep into what stops us from connecting during conflict – and the surprising brain science behind why "oohing" your partner actually works. The oxytocin effect: How active listening naturally releases connection chemicals in the brain (no pills required)When you feel attacked: How to use curiosity instead of defensiveness when your partner comes at you with accusationsThe "never/always" trap: Why correcting your partner's exaggerations kills connection (and what to do instead)Processing emotion first: Why you must acknowledge feelings before discussing logisticsThe right of refusal: How to know the difference between everyday conflict and abuseIssue-specific wheels: When to pull out the Core Emotion Wheel during heated momentsSaying "ow" in the moment: Why you need to acknowledge your own hurt while still being present for your partnerGlenn and Phyllis share vulnerable stories about their own disconnection – from the dishwasher incident to cruise conflicts – demonstrating how Connection Codes tools work in real marriage dynamics. This episode is essential for anyone who: Gets defensive when their partner expresses hurtFeels like they're being attacked even in simple conversationsWants to understand the neuroscience of emotional connectionStruggles to stay curious when emotions run highNeeds practical tools for de-escalating conflict quicklyGet the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcast Book a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches Join the School of Connection waitlist: Limited cohorts opening May 2026 Shop Connection Codes Merch: Magnets, stickers, and wheels for every room Keywords: emotional regulation, marriage communication, active listening, relationship conflict resolution, oxytocin and connection, defensiveness in marriage, emotional health tools, curiosity in relationships, connection codes, core emotion wheel, marriage therapy alternatives, healthy communication skills, conflict de-escalation, mental health in relationships, relationship coaching

    59 min

  3. 10 FEB

    How to Be a Good Listener (The 2-Second Fix That Changes Everything)

    Description: What if the biggest barrier to emotional connection in your marriage isn't what you're saying—but the silence in between? In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill reveals the neuroscience behind "audible listening" and why silence literally disconnects us at a physiological level. Drawing from groundbreaking research like Dr. Tronick's Still Face Experiment, Glenn explains how our brains are wired to need audible responses—and what happens when we don't get them. You'll discover: Why traditional "silent listening" taught in marriage therapy actually creates disconnectionThe science behind the "ooh" and how it releases oxytocin in both the speaker and listenerHow babies and adults respond identically to silence (it's 100% universal)Why you feel drawn to certain people in a crowded room (hint: they're audibly listening)How to overcome the awkwardness of starting to "ooh" with your spouseReal stories of how audible listening transformed an 11-day cruise through a literal cycloneWhy this one simple tool is more powerful than learning every personality profileThe ooh isn't just a sound—it's a biological need. When someone "oohs" you, your nervous system calms, your fear decreases, and oxytocin floods your body. This is the connection we're all desperately craving. Glenn and Phyllis share vulnerable moments from their own marriage, including why this last cruise was their most connected yet—and how they stayed present through rough seas (literally and metaphorically). If you've ever felt unheard, unseen, or disconnected in your closest relationships, this episode will give you a tool you can implement today. No advanced degree required. No complex personality assessments. Just presence, sound, and connection. Keywords: audible listening, emotional connection, marriage communication, relationship tools, oxytocin, nervous system regulation, emotional intelligence, still face experiment, active listening, marriage therapy, emotional wellness, connection codes, Dr. Glenn Hill, vulnerability in marriage, mental health tools, anxiety relief, stress management, emotional validation Resources mentioned: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Connection Codes coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesJoin the Connection Codes Cruise (July 2025): Reach out for detailsRead more about the Still Face Experiment (Dr. Edward Tronick)Subscribe to never miss an episode where we make emotional connection simple, practical, and life-changing. Share this episode with five friends who need to know they're not crazy for feeling disconnected when met with silence.

    53 min

  4. 3 FEB

    The Hidden Gut Issues Hijacking Your Emotions (& How To Fix Them) | With Allison Jordan

    What if your anxiety, anger, or depression isn't a mental health issue—but a gut health issue? In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Allison Jordan, a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and founder of Better Bellies Therapies, who reveals how hidden infections, digestive dysfunction, and mineral imbalances can hijack your emotions and leave you feeling broken. Allison shares her groundbreaking "Five Toxin Trap" framework that has helped hundreds of clients come off anxiety medications, eliminate chronic pain, and finally understand why traditional medicine keeps missing the root causes of their symptoms. You'll discover: Why C. diff infections can cause chronic anxiety by blocking dopamine conversionHow H. pylori in your stomach prevents you from absorbing the nutrients needed for neurotransmittersThe shocking connection between copper toxicity and 50% of divorcesWhy your "stress" diagnosis might actually be parasites, food sensitivities, or poor detoxificationHow one client's sugar cravings disappeared in 3 days after removing hidden food sensitivitiesThe at-home baking soda test to check your stomach acid levelsWhy hormone imbalances aren't the root cause—and what is This episode is for you if: You've been told "it's just stress" or "it's all in your head"You're struggling with anxiety, depression, or anger that won't budge despite therapy or medicationYou have chronic health issues like IBS, acid reflux, insomnia, or unexplained painYou've tried "everything" but still don't feel like yourselfYou're tired of being told you lack willpower when it comes to food cravings or emotional regulationAllison's approach is different from conventional medicine—she uses specialized testing that hospitals don't run to find infections like chronic low-grade C. diff, H. pylori, parasites, mineral imbalances, food sensitivities, and liver congestion that are driving your symptoms. The best part? Many of these issues are completely reversible when you address the actual root cause instead of just managing symptoms. Keywords: anxiety root causes, gut health and mental health, emotional health solutions, functional medicine for anxiety, gut-brain connection, hidden infections causing anxiety, food sensitivities and mood, copper toxicity symptoms, H. pylori emotional symptoms, natural anxiety treatment, digestive health and emotions, chronic fatigue root causes, IBS solutions, emotional regulation strategies, holistic mental health RESOURCES MENTIONED: Allison Jordan's Resources: Better Bellies Therapies Website: betterbellytherapies.com/constipation (Free baking soda test recipe)Free Training on the 5 Toxin Trap: betterbellytherapies.com/trainingThe Better Belly Podcast: Episode 159 (Copper Toxicity) & Episode 267 (Best Food Sensitivity Test)Connection Codes Resources: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesExplore Connection Codes Programs: www.connectioncodes.co ABOUT ALLISON JORDAN: Allison Jordan is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner who has been helping clients heal chronic gut and health issues since 2018. After experiencing her own health crisis—including losing her period for two years, chronic pain, insomnia, IBS, and anxiety—she discovered the root causes conventional medicine missed and now teaches others how to do the same. Allison hosts the Better Belly Podcast and has helped hundreds of clients reverse conditions like chronic constipation, anxiety, autoimmune diseases, and unexplained symptoms through her signature "Five Toxin Trap" framework. CONNECT WITH ALLISON: Website: betterbellytherapies.comPodcast: The Better Belly PodcastInstagram: @betterbellytherapies CONNECT WITH CONNECTION CODES: Website: www.connectioncodes.coInstagram: @connectioncodesSchool of Connection: www.connectioncodes.co/school

    47 min

  5. 27 ENE

    Walking Through Difficulty Over & Over Again - How Creativity Heals Identity When Life Falls Apart

    What happens when you lose your identity in a new country, face 65 consecutive rejections, and your creative voice gets buried under the weight of just surviving? Lara Pilcher, actress, author, and ICF-certified coach, shares her raw journey from Melbourne to America—and how creativity became her lifeline when everything else fell apart. In this deeply vulnerable conversation, Lara reveals: Why creativity isn't just for artists—it's a life force everyone needs to surviveHow she rewrote her entire book after getting dropped by her literary agentThe difference between grief and depression (and why most creatives are actually grieving)Why we shut down creativity during pain—and how to awaken it againThe "mansion with many rooms" approach to finding your creative voiceHow rejection taught her resilience and audacity in a saturated worldThis episode is for you if: You've lost touch with your creative self and don't know how to find it againYou're processing grief, loss, or major life transitionsYou feel stuck in the "acquisitions track" and disconnected from who you really areYou need permission to be a beginner again—to skip, dance, paint, or create badlyYou're afraid of judgment and need to "embrace the cringe"Glenn and Phyllis explore how creativity connects directly to identity, emotional health, and relationship wellness. This isn't about becoming an artist—it's about reconnecting with the part of you that says "there I am." About Lara Pilcher: Lara Pilcher is an actress, author, and ICF PCC-certified coach who has performed on London's West End and now helps creative souls reclaim their voice. Her debut book Audacious Artistry: Reclaim Your Creative Identity and Thrive in a Saturated World releases through a London publisher after a journey of resilience that included 65+ rejections and completely rewriting her manuscript. Mentioned in this episode: Brené Brown's research on creativity as life forceDr. Echo Hill on grief vs. depressionWill Palomo on creativity as "connecting the seemingly unconnected"Diane Collards' I Choose to ForgiveResources: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Connection Codes Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesFind Lara's book Audacious Artistry at Barnes & Noble, Waterstones (UK), Blackstone's (Australia), and all major booksellersLearn more: www.larabiancapilcher.comKeywords: mental health, emotional wellness, creativity and identity, overcoming rejection, marriage communication, grief vs depression, emotional regulation, relationship coaching, creative identity crisis, finding yourself again, emotional health tools, leadership development, creative resilience

    46 min

  6. 20 ENE

    From Judgment to Curiosity: What Judgment Is Costing You and What Changes When You Get Curious

    What if the harshest critic in your life isn't someone else—it's you? We judge ourselves constantly. Our fears, our bodies, our parenting, the way we show up in relationships. And while we think judgment is motivating us to change, it's actually keeping us trapped in cycles of shame, anger, and disconnection. In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill, and Tera Wages unpack the destructive patterns of self-judgment and reveal the powerful alternative that transforms everything: curiosity. You'll discover: Why toddlers don't judge themselves and what we can learn from their natural self-acceptanceThe shame-anger cocktail that fuels judgment and keeps you stuckHow 10 seconds of curiosity can completely change any interaction or internal struggleWhy keeping your struggles secret feeds shame and makes judgment growThe question that stops judgment cold and opens the door to compassionHow to recognize your personal trigger topics so you can respond differently next timeWhy social media has created a judgment epidemic and how to protect yourselfReal-life examples of shifting from judgment to curiosity in marriage, parenting, and everyday momentsWhat to do when someone shuts down (the "still face" phenomenon) and you feel flooded with shameWhether you're battling negative self-talk, living in fear of others' opinions, or finding yourself quick to criticize people around you, this conversation will give you practical tools to break the judgment cycle and step into genuine emotional freedom. What you'll walk away with:The understanding that judgment isn't helping you grow—it's keeping you isolated. But when you get curious about yourself and others, everything shifts. Compassion replaces criticism. Connection replaces division. And you finally get the space to be your authentic, vulnerable self. Keywords: self-judgment, mental health, emotional regulation, marriage counseling, shame and anger, curiosity vs judgment, self-compassion, relationship communication, emotional intelligence, breaking negative patterns, therapy tools, mental wellness, emotional freedom, self-criticism, Nashville therapist

    56 min

  7. 13 ENE

    When Pain Becomes Home: Breaking the Pattern That Keeps You Stuck

    Have you ever noticed how easy it is to stay in painful patterns—even when you know they're hurting you? In this powerful episode, we explore why pain becomes a "home base" for so many people, how depression and emotional suffering can feel safer than joy, and what it actually takes to break free. In this episode, you'll discover: Why homeostasis keeps us returning to painful patterns (even when we desperately want change)The psychological phenomenon of anhedonia—the inability to experience joy—and how to recognize it in your own lifeHow pain can become a badge of honor and part of your identityThe three essential ingredients for lasting transformation: pattern disruption, new environment, and timeWhy all eight core emotions (including pain AND joy) are designed to protect and guide youReal stories of radical pattern breaking—from career changes to selling everything and starting overHow to recognize when you're living in emotional survival mode versus thrivingKey insights from this episode: Glenn shares his experience of living with depression as his baseline for decades, where his daily goal was to "claw my way up to zero." Phyllis reveals the moment she knew their marriage pattern had to break—when she told Glenn to quit his construction job and go back to school, even though she'd never supported the family before. Tera opens up about her own relationship with pain, realizing she wore it as a badge of honor—even laughing through physical pain because she wanted to be seen as strong, not weak. The message of pain is simple: there's a problem. But too many of us have become numb to it, accepting suffering as "just the way it is." This episode will help you identify where pain has become your comfort zone and give you the courage to disrupt the pattern. Keywords: emotional health, mental health, depression recovery, marriage transformation, breaking patterns, emotional regulation, identity crisis, joy and pain balance, relationship coaching, emotional processing, therapy tools, mental wellness, overcoming depression, emotional awareness, self-discovery Resources mentioned: Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coachesSchool of Connection (starts Jan 20): www.connectioncodes.co/school

    46 min

  8. 6 ENE

    Why Your Emotions Are Throwing a Temper Tantrum (And What to Do About It)

    What if the "temper tantrums" in your life—whether from your kids, your partner, or even yourself—aren't misbehavior at all, but a desperate cry to be heard? In this episode, Dr. Glenn Hill and Tera Wages unpack a powerful truth: our emotions are pitching a temper tantrum when they're not being acknowledged. From the three-year-old crying over a scraped knee to the adult who shuts down completely, we explore what happens when our emotional energy is resisted instead of received. In This Episode: Why saying "you're okay" to a crying child creates two problems instead of solving oneHow emotional resistance shows up differently in adults (yelling, shutting down, or exploding)The powerful three-phrase framework that stops tantrums in their tracksReal stories of transformation when couples learn to follow each other's energyWhy our culture teaches us that suppressing emotions is mature (and why it's actually destroying us)Whether you're parenting young children, navigating marriage conflict, or trying to understand your own emotional patterns, this episode will help you recognize when energy is being resisted—and how to create connection instead. Key Concepts: Emotional regulation and emotional healthThe "ooh" response and following energyTemper tantrums in children and adultsMarriage communication and conflict resolutionParenting with emotional intelligenceMental health and self-awarenessLeadership through emotional presenceResources Mentioned: Connection Codes Three-Phrase Magnet (available on our website)The Core Emotion WheelFoundations CourseReady to stop resisting and start connecting? This episode will change how you see every "temper tantrum" in your life. Get the Core Emotion Wheel: www.connectioncodes.co/podcastBook a Coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches

    37 min
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We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together. Hosted by Tera Wages of the I Get It podcast. For free resources to a better marriage go to https://www.connectioncodes.co/

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    2022 - 2026
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