Control or Be Controlled

Darlington Ogbuka

Most people aren’t in control of their lives they’re driven by habits, addictions, emotions, and distractions they don’t question. Control or Be Controlled explores discipline, self mastery, modern addiction, and the psychology of ambition. Through raw solo episodes and real conversations, it breaks down what it takes to take back control mentally, emotionally, and financially. No surface level motivation just honest, direct insight for those ready to live with intention and build consistency, focus, and long term growth in a distracted world. New Episodes Weekly

  1. 5 giờ trước

    Stop Having the Same Fight | Rebecca Mullen on Better Marriage Communication

    Why do so many couples keep having the same argument over and over again? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, I sit down with Rebecca Mullen—marriage communication coach, author of Six Steps to Better Marriage Communication, and host of Habits for Your Happily Ever After—to explore the small habits that make the biggest difference in healthy relationships. Rebecca explains why recurring conflict isn't usually caused by one major issue, but by everyday patterns that slowly erode trust, connection, and emotional safety. She shares practical tools to help couples move beyond defensiveness, communicate with empathy, and build stronger relationships through intentional daily habits. In this episode, we discuss: Why couples get stuck in the same arguments The hidden cost of always needing to be right How to recognize and interrupt reactive conflict cycles Creating connection rituals before disagreements begin The importance of your daily hello and goodbye Healthy communication versus defensiveness and contempt The six-step framework for better marriage communication How boundaries, affirmations, and honest conversations rebuild trust Practical habits for creating a calmer, more connected relationship Whether you're newly married or have been together for decades, this episode offers practical strategies to strengthen communication and deepen your connection. Connect with Rebecca Mullen: 🌐 Website: https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/

  2. 1 ngày trước

    Lead With Purpose | Kevin Wayne Johnson on Authentic Leadership & Lasting Influence

    What makes someone a true leader—and why does leadership begin long before you receive a title? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, I sit down with Kevin Wayne Johnson—leadership expert, founder of the Johnson Leadership Group, author, and veteran of 34 years in federal service—to explore what it truly means to lead with purpose, integrity, and influence. Drawing from decades of leadership across military, civilian, and federal environments, Kevin shares why the best leaders serve others first, how self-awareness builds authentic confidence, and why listening is one of the most powerful leadership skills anyone can develop. Whether you're leading a business, a team, your family, or simply yourself, this conversation is filled with practical wisdom to help you become the kind of leader people choose to follow. In this episode, we discuss: The difference between leadership and management Why influence matters more than titles Building confidence through self-awareness and humility How serving others creates lasting leadership Why listening is an underrated leadership skill Lessons from 34 years of federal service Developing mentors and learning from great leaders Daily habits that shape your leadership legacy How anyone can begin leading today Kevin's philosophy: Know Better. Do Better. Lead Better. Connect with Kevin Wayne Johnson: 🌐 Website: http://www.thejohnsonleadershipgroup.com/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kevinwaynejohnsonpage ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8QdXWDOB889u5XKqazk6Hg 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/writingforthelord 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevinwaynejohnson

  3. 2 ngày trước

    Outrageously Happy: Reesi Roca on Faith, Mindset & Living Beyond Fear

    Can you choose happiness—even when life feels chaotic? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, I sit down with Reesi Roca—award-winning author, performer, and spiritual teacher—to explore how our thoughts, words, and beliefs shape the way we experience life. Reesi shares her remarkable journey from the world of rock and roll to a life centered on faith, personal growth, and spiritual transformation. Together, we discuss how shifting your mindset, focusing on gratitude, and aligning your life with purpose can help you move beyond fear, anxiety, and limiting beliefs. Whether you're navigating difficult circumstances or simply looking for a deeper sense of peace and purpose, this conversation offers practical tools and inspiring perspectives for living with greater joy and intention. In this episode, we discuss: How your thoughts and words influence your daily life Why gratitude and love can transform your mindset Overcoming fear and choosing faith Reprogramming limiting beliefs and creating healthier habits The role of affirmations and visualization in personal growth Finding purpose through adversity Living intentionally in the present moment Practical ways to cultivate lasting happiness and inner peace Becoming the hero of your own story Connect with Reesi Roca: 🌐 Website: https://superheroesareus.com/

  4. 3 ngày trước

    One Courageous Decision Can Change Everything | Lauren Fay

    In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, I sit down with Lauren Fay—award-winning author, keynote speaker, life strategist, former collegiate athlete, and Reiki Master—to explore what it truly takes to create lasting transformation. Lauren shares the powerful story behind her award-winning memoir, Blurred Lines: My Reclamation of Power from Alcohol Addiction (P.S. You Are Not Powerless.), revealing why overcoming addiction was only the beginning of a much deeper journey toward self-trust, emotional resilience, and intentional living. Together, we discuss why so many people stay stuck despite knowing exactly what needs to change, how internal negotiation keeps us trapped in familiar patterns, and what it really means to lead yourself before leading anyone else. In this episode, we discuss: - Why one courageous decision can change the course of your life - How sobriety became the beginning—not the destination—of Lauren's transformation - Understanding the "internal negotiation" that keeps people stuck - Why awareness alone doesn't create change - What self-leadership looks like in everyday life - Rebuilding confidence by keeping promises to yourself - The difference between achievement and genuine fulfillment - Lessons from Blurred Lines that extend far beyond addiction - The habits of people who create lasting personal transformation - Finding the courage to make the decision you've been avoiding Connect with Lauren Fay: 🌐 Website: https://laurenfaycoaching.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenfaycoaching/ 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurenfaycoaching/

  5. 4 ngày trước

    From Poverty to Building Million-Dollar Businesses | Joseph Edgar on Entrepreneurship & Real Estate

    In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, I sit down with Joseph "Joe" Edgar—serial entrepreneur, investor, real estate developer, and CEO of Loca.us. Joe's journey is extraordinary: from growing up in poverty on a Native American reservation as one of thirteen children to buying his first investment property at 14 and building multiple companies worth hundreds of millions of dollars. We explore the mindset behind entrepreneurship, the lessons learned from owning more than 1,000 rental units, his experience working in government and venture capital, and how Loca.us is helping local businesses thrive through innovative customer rewards. Joe also shares powerful insights on leadership, resilience, failure, and creating opportunities regardless of where you start. In this episode, we discuss: Buying his first investment property at just 14 years old Lessons from growing up in poverty on a Native American reservation What separates successful entrepreneurs from everyone else How Loca.us is transforming local business marketing Leadership lessons from government, venture capital, and private business Common mistakes new real estate investors make Working in Ukraine during wartime and the perspective it gave him Business insights from over a decade writing for Forbes Business Council Why failure is often the greatest teacher Principles for building wealth, opportunity, and a meaningful life Learn more about Joseph Edgar and Loca.us: 🌐 https://loca.us/

  6. 5 ngày trước

    It's Never Too Late to Begin Again | Abigail E. Dominguez on Faith, 0Motherhood & Reinvention

    What if your greatest purpose was waiting for you in the second half of life? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, I sit down with Abigail E. Dominguez—author, podcast host, early childhood educator, and first-time mother of fraternal twins at 48. From growing up in Ghana dreaming of a different future to reuniting with her mother after more than three decades, Abigail's journey is a powerful story of faith, resilience, forgiveness, and hope. With over 20 years of experience serving children and families, Abigail shares life-changing lessons on motherhood, healing from loss, embracing new opportunities after 50, and believing that it's never too late to pursue the life you were created to live. In this episode, we discuss: Growing up in Ghana and pursuing dreams that seemed impossible Reuniting with her mother after more than 30 years The power of forgiveness and emotional healing Becoming a first-time mother of twins at 48 Lessons from more than two decades in early childhood education Why dreams don't have an expiration date Finding purpose in every season of life Faith, resilience, and overcoming life's greatest challenges Reinventing yourself after 50 with confidence and grace Connect with Abigail E. Dominguez: 🌐 Website: https://abigailedominguez.com/ ❌ X: https://x.com/abigailedoming1 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/author_abigaile_dominguez/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abby.hanson.106

  7. 6 ngày trước

    Beyond Meta: How Ben Davis Helps Shopify Brands Build Profitable Google Ads Engines

    What happens when a Shopify brand scales quickly on Meta Ads but eventually hits a growth ceiling? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, I sit down with Ben Davis, founder of JB Marketing, a Google Ads agency helping Shopify brands generating $2–5 million per year build their second profitable acquisition channel. Ben shares why many eCommerce brands struggle with Google Ads—not because they need a better campaign, but because they lack the right foundation, measurement, and strategy. From fixing broken tracking systems to building profitable non-brand search engines, Ben explains what it takes to turn paid advertising into a predictable growth channel. We also discuss agency growth, honest client communication, why ROAS can be misleading, and the metrics founders should actually focus on when making marketing decisions. In this episode, we discuss: Why successful Shopify brands hit a ceiling after scaling on Meta When Google Ads makes sense—and when it doesn’t The biggest mistakes brands make with tracking and attribution Why ROAS can be a misleading metric What businesses should measure instead of vanity numbers How to build a profitable second acquisition channel The importance of telling clients the truth when campaigns fail Growing an agency from a solo operation to a team Lessons learned from scaling a marketing business Connect with Ben Davis: 🌐 Website: https://jbmktg.com/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@benjamindavisjb 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjamingjdavis/

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    3,000 Miles for Unity: Teddy Bloom's Ride Across America for Free Speech & Civil Dialogue

    What would make someone spend their house savings to ride a bicycle across America? In this episode of CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED, I sit down with Teddy Bloom, founder of Ride4Rights, who cycled from the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco to the Washington Monument in Washington, D.C., on a mission to promote free speech, equal justice under the law, civic education, and national unity. Facing hailstorms, 50 mph wind gusts, 104-degree heat, injuries, equipment failures, and more than 3,000 miles on the road, Teddy shares the incredible physical and emotional journey behind his peaceful protest. We also discuss what he learned from meeting Americans across the country and why respectful dialogue matters more than ever. In this episode, we discuss: Why Teddy sacrificed his home savings for Ride4Rights The inspiration behind cycling across America Preparing for a 3,000+ mile bikepacking adventure Lessons learned from extreme weather, injuries, and equipment failures Tips for anyone interested in long-distance cycling and bikepacking The importance of free speech and equal justice Why civic education matters What Teddy observed about America's political climate Finding common ground in a divided nation Why respectful conversations can strengthen democracy Connect with Teddy Bloom & Ride4Rights: 🌐 Website: https://www.ride4rights.com/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Ride4Rights 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ride4_rights/ 🧵 Threads: https://www.threads.com/@ride4_rights 👽 Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/user/Ride4Rightsofficial/

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Most people aren’t in control of their lives they’re driven by habits, addictions, emotions, and distractions they don’t question. Control or Be Controlled explores discipline, self mastery, modern addiction, and the psychology of ambition. Through raw solo episodes and real conversations, it breaks down what it takes to take back control mentally, emotionally, and financially. No surface level motivation just honest, direct insight for those ready to live with intention and build consistency, focus, and long term growth in a distracted world. New Episodes Weekly

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  • Nhà sáng tạo
    Darlington Ogbuka
  • Năm hoạt động
    2026
  • Tập
    67
  • Xếp hạng
    Sạch
  • Bản quyền
    © Darlington Ogbuka
  • Trang web chương trình
    Control or Be Controlled

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