Dad Starting Over

Dad Starting Over
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Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place. I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com

  1. 2D AGO

    The Care & Feeding of Your Anxious Husband

    Today we’re talking about something that a lot of men won’t admit, but a lot of women quietly suffer through: living with an anxious husband. And yes, I’m going to make fun of us a little. This video is a tongue-in-cheek “instruction manual” for how to care for the anxious, approval-seeking, reassurance-addicted man. The guy who needs constant validation, panics at every text message pause, reads every word you say like a legal document, and assumes you’re leaving him if you’re quiet for more than 30 seconds. It’s funny… but it’s also painfully accurate. The point of this episode isn’t to shame anxious guys. It’s to shine a big bright spotlight on the behaviors that slowly choke the life out of a relationship. And more importantly, to show that these patterns aren’t permanent. You can fix this. You can rebuild your confidence, your identity, and your internal leadership as a man. If this video hits a little close to home, that’s good. It means you’re ready for change. 📘 Read my book, REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man: https://readrebuild.com 👥 Join The Brotherhood – live meetings every week, private discussion forums, over 1,300 hours of audio content, coaching, and support from men all around the world: https://helpformen.com/join

    8 min

  2. 12/26/2025

    Rejection Sensitivity: Why You Overthink Everything

    Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it’s not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you’re spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down. This isn’t weakness. It isn’t you being dramatic.It’s rejection sensitivity—and most men who grew up in chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally unstable homes are living with it without ever knowing what it’s called. In this episode, I'll break down: — Why some men live relationships on “hard mode” — How your childhood wired your brain to scan for danger — Why neutral things feel like personal attacks — Why you over-apologize, over-explain, and overreact — How rejection sensitivity contributes to sexless marriages — Why anxious men attract avoidant or narcissistic partners — And, most importantly, what you can do to rewire this If you’re neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc.), this is going to make even more sense. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is something I see constantly in men in my audience and inside The Brotherhood. You’re not broken. You’re trained.  And you can retrain yourself. If you want deeper work on this, my book REBUILD and our Brotherhood community are powerful tools to help you break out of this pattern and build confidence, boundaries, and emotional stability. ► Get my book REBUILD on Amazon (hardcover, Kindle, or audiobook for members): https://a.co/d/e6KBqYE ► Join The Brotherhood – private men’s community, daily Zoom groups, 1,300+ hours of audio, coaching, and more: https://helpformen.com/join

    17 min

  3. 12/19/2025

    It’s Not Fair — I Did Everything Right!

    A lot of men struggle with the realization that they don’t actually have full control over how life or their marriage turns out. You can do everything “right”—be faithful, provide, stay fit, treat her well—and still end up rejected, divorced, or alone. In this episode, I talk about why that happens, and why it’s not a sign that you failed. Life isn’t fair… and that includes relationships. I also share a real message from a man dealing with a sexless, disconnected marriage due to his wife’s ADHD and perimenopause, and we unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface. If this hits close to home, you’re not alone.  Join The Brotherhood — a private support community for men struggling in marriage, divorce, or dating after divorce. 👉 https://helpformen.com/join

    16 min

  4. 12/16/2025

    REBUILD is now available in audiobook format! (here's a free sample)

    "REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man" is now available in audiobook format! Here is a quick sample for you to enjoy. Want to hear more? Check out the links below: Amazon: https://a.co/d/0k5nxmvAudible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0G75ZH84YApple: https://apple.co/45eKbNh

    5 min

  5. 12/12/2025

    Why Women Had More Sex Under Socialism

    I recently read a New York Times article claiming that women under socialism had more sex and better orgasms than women in capitalist Western countries. Sounds wild, right? But when you dig deeper, the real message is actually something I talk about all the time: Women shut down sexually when their lives are full of stress, chaos, financial pressure, and mental overload. This has nothing to do with politics — and everything to do with the realities couples face today. If you need a deeper dive into this, grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix — and if you’re ready to actually change your life, join The Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com/join

    10 min

  6. 12/05/2025

    Stop Forcing Closeness – How Anxious Men Kill Intimacy

    If you lean anxious in relationships, this one’s for you. I see it all the time—guys who crave closeness so much that they choke the relationship. You text too much, talk too much, try too hard to keep things “good.” But that desperate energy ends up pushing her away. I’ll show you what’s really happening under the surface—why your attachment system freaks out when she pulls away, and how to stop feeding that panic. You’ll learn how to regulate yourself, stop chasing reassurance, and build the kind of calm confidence that actually creates attraction. If you want more depth, grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix or check out The Brotherhood, our private men’s community with live meetings, courses, and 1,000+ hours of member-only content: 👉 https://helpformen.com/join 👉 https://deadbedroomfix.com

    17 min

  7. 11/28/2025

    Andrew Wilson’s Meltdown Caught Live

    Today we’re digging into something wild: how a guy who talks about masculinity, strength, and “doing it right” completely lost his cool when his own story was challenged. That guy is Andrew Wilson. If you’re rebuilding your life, your identity, or trying to walk the line of integrity after a setback—I promise you: this matters. We’ll cover: Who Andrew Wilson is and what he representsThe “rulebook” many men in the debate/manosphere space are handed (never date a single mom, don’t be a step-dad)The viral meltdown: what triggered it, what it revealsAnd most importantly: the real takeaways for you, the man rebuilding (not just surviving)My latest book: https://readrebuild.com 🌐The HFM Brotherhood (private group for men only): https://helpformen.com/join

    16 min

  8. 11/21/2025

    Why You Feel So Needy (And How to Stop)

    Let’s talk about neediness — what it really is, where it comes from, and how to stop letting it ruin your relationships. Neediness isn’t about “having needs.” It’s about trying to make one specific person fix your emotional state on demand. That’s not love — that’s panic. I’ll walk you through what’s actually happening inside your nervous system when you feel desperate for someone’s attention or affection… and how to train yourself to stay calm, confident, and grounded instead. We’ll cover: The difference between connection and controlHow “emotional hunger” tricks you into chasing validationThe 90-second anti-neediness drill you can do anytimeWhy secure men build multiple emotional pillarsHow to stop confusing gratitude with entitlementAnd why self-respect kills desperationIf this one hits home, grab a copy of my book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man at https://readrebuild.com, and join our Brotherhood of men doing this work together at https://helpformen.com/join.

    10 min
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Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place. I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books called "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" and "Red Flags". You can learn more about me, my books, one-on-one coaching, and the member-only part of my site called the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com

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  • Creator
    Dad Starting Over
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    244
  • Rating
    Explicit
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