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Advice, commentary, and conversation from Danny M. Lavery, author of Slate's Dear Prudence column. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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    • 4.3 • 841 Ratings

Advice, commentary, and conversation from Danny M. Lavery, author of Slate's Dear Prudence column. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

    Buying Off The Kids

    Buying Off The Kids

    Prudence is joined this week by Isaac Fellman, a writer and an archivist at the GLBT Historical Society, where he gets to tell the story of San Francisco's queer history. His fantasy novel about traumatized mountain climbers, The Breath of the Sun, won a 2019 Lambda Literary Award.
    Prudie and Fellman dig into letters about what to do when your ex-husband spoils your daughters with lavish gifts, how much should you conceal your “sugar daddy” arrangement at home, how to tell your sister to stop talking to you like one of her sixth grade students, what to do when you feel like people are dismissing your identity as “not gay enough”, what to consider when your new live in partner wants to display his trinkets from childhood all over the house.

    Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny.
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    Email: prudence@slate.com 
    Production by Phil Surkis
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    • 51 min
    No-Good Dates

    No-Good Dates

    Prudence is joined this week by Amanda McLoughlin, a podcaster and businesslady who runs Multitude, a podcast collective and production studio located in Greenpoint, Brooklyn. She co-hosts Spirits, a boozy dive into mythology and folklore, and Join the Party, a collaborative storytelling podcast powered by the rules of Dungeons & Dragons.
    Prudie and McLoughlin tackle letters about what to do when you can’t find anyone to date who meets your standards, should you and your husband keep ignoring his biological child who lives across the country, how to extricate yourself from helping your sister hide her relationship from your parents, what to do with a husband who does not accept that his son is bisexual, what to do with a partner who never eats the leftovers they insist they’re going to eat.
    Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny.
    Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. 

    Email: prudence@slate.com 
    Production by Phil Surkis
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    • 54 min
    Never Wanted Kids

    Never Wanted Kids

    Prudence is joined this week by Austin Channing Brown, an author, speaker and media producer providing inspired leadership on racial justice in America. She is the New York Times Bestselling author of I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness and the Executive Producer of The Next Question: a web series imagining how expansive racial justice can be.
    Prudie and Channing Brown dig into letters about what to do when you can’t stand spending time with your kids, what to consider when your wife is ready to have a baby and you’re not, how to have a relationship with your half-siblings without having one with the father you share, should you sell your deceased roommate's graphic novel collection to make up for the rent he owed to you.
    Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny.
    Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. 

    Email: prudence@slate.com 
    Production by Phil Surkis

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    • 48 min
    Not Quilty

    Not Quilty

    Prudence is joined this week by Dr. Jennifer M. Buck, an Assistant Professor of Practical Theology at Azusa Pacific University. Her books and research explore themes of global Christianity, Quakerism, gender, race and popular culture. She also is a licensed minister and helps pastor a church in Pasadena, CA where she lives with her husband and foster son. 
    Prudie and Buck tackle letters about what to do when your husband reveals that he’s competitive with you about weight loss, should you feel guilty about thinking about future partners while taking care of your wife who has cancer, what to do when your partner's mom furnishes your home with lots of homemade quilts, how to protect your grand-niece from her abusive father, what to consider when your boyfriend refuses to marry you, even for the purpose of sharing health care.
    Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny.
    Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. 

    Email: prudence@slate.com 
    Production by Phil Surkis

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    • 54 min
    My Body, My Kidney

    My Body, My Kidney

    Prudence is joined this week by the critic at large for Vox, Emily VanDerWerff. VanDerWerff is the co-creator of the fiction podcast Arden and the co-author of the book Monsters of the Week: The Complete Critical Companion to The X-Files.
    Prudie and VanDerWerff dig into letters about what to do when your family wants you to give your kidney for your abusive dad, how to handle a partner who’s horrified about you quitting social media, what to consider when your ex-wife wants you to babysit her child that’s not yours, what to consider when your girlfriend wants to get rid of the furniture that was chosen by your ex.
    Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. 
    Email: prudence@slate.com 
    Production by Phil Surkis
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    • 47 min
    Detachment Guilt

    Detachment Guilt

    Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Markbreiter, who is an editor at The New Inquiry, cohost of the Art is Easy gathering, mod prince at the Death Panel discord, and a PhD student at the CUNY Graduate Center. 
    Prudie and Markbreiter tackle letters that ask if it’s unethical to apply to a job you don’t really need when unemployment is so high, what to consider after cheating on your live-in partner with someone in your new apartment complex, should you worry about enabling internalized racism because you’re dating a Black man, what to do when you constantly think about abandoning your disabled spouse. 
    Get $5 off Danny’s latest book, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, at slate.com/danny.
    Slate Plus members get an additional mini-episode of Dear Prudence every Friday. Sign up now to listen. 
    Email: prudence@slate.com 
    Production by Phil Surkis
    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    • 50 min

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I love the content of the podcast, but more importantly, hearing the genuine glee in Danny's voice as he reads copy for toilet and potato bribery ads is simply the best thing.

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