Ep. 69 How to Reduce Your Triggers and Strengthen Your Emotional Intelligence

This week on The Unlock Lab, I talk about how to address and manage our triggers, which is very much tied to working our emotional intelligence muscles. Triggers can feel overwhelming whether they happen in personal relationships or in the workplace, but they don’t have to derail you. In this episode, I talk about how I have responded to triggers in a way I'm not proud of, and how I learned to come back to compassion, truth and self-respect. I explain why triggers are actually gifts, how to use them as guides for healing, and share actions that you can take to help you recover faster, and experience them less often over time.

Episode Highlights:

1. Practical ways to pause, create space and respond with intention.

2. Reframing triggers as opportunities for healing, growth and better leadership

3. Why compassion and ownership reduce the impact of future triggers.

Quotables:

[00:00:33]

"Improve your emotional intelligence. It's really important to do this work, not just for the personal relationships in your life, but your professional relationships."

[00:09:47]

"I wrote about this triggering experience and it took me about a day to move through the emotions. I had to let myself feel what was coming up and what was coming up were emotions, not from actually the present moment, but they were coming up from the past."

[00:26:41]

"There are certain emotions that we are afraid of having. Anger is one of them and I believe all emotions serve us. They're our greatest teacher and they show us where the work is."

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