Expecting Expats

Hosts Amanda and CJ
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Welcome to Expecting Expats- a space where we’re expecting more than just babies—join Amanda, a childbirth educator and doula, and CJ, a therapist-in-training, as they explore parenting, partnerships, emotional growth, and the journey of building a life in a new country.

  1. APR 8

    Choosing a School Abroad: Head, Heart & Identity

    Choosing a school is one of the biggest—and often most emotional—decisions in expat parenting. In this episode, Amanda and CJ dive into the realities of navigating school choices while raising kids abroad, especially within the context of expat motherhood and expat family life. With millions of families living outside their home countries, the question of local vs. international school is more relevant than ever. But beyond academics, this decision touches on identity, belonging, language, and your child’s long-term development. What We Cover In this episode, we explore: * The pros and cons of local vs. international schools * How school choice impacts your child’s identity and cultural connection * The role of language in expat family life and long-term integration * Practical considerations like cost, commute, curriculum, and teacher turnover * The emotional side of decision-making in expat motherhood We also share personal stories from raising children in Germany and the very real pressures that come with making “the right” choice for your family. Expat Parenting Tips from This Episode If you’re currently choosing a school abroad, here are some key expat parenting tips we discuss: * Think beyond academics: Schools shape values, identity, and social skills * Consider your child’s temperament: Will they thrive in a new language environment? * Ask the right questions: * What language(s) are used in teaching? * How does the school support non-native speakers? * What’s the teacher turnover rate? * Look at logistics: Where do classmates live? How easy are playdates? * Plan for the future: Will this school support potential moves to another country? Supporting Your Expat Family This episode highlights the importance of expat family support—from teachers, schools, and fellow parents. Whether you choose a local or international path, having a supportive community can make all the difference in your child’s experience (and yours). Join the Conversation We’d love to hear from you: * How did you choose a school for your child abroad? * What factors mattered most to your family? * Do you have any advice for other expat parents navigating this decision? Send us a message or connect with us on social—we’re building this space together 💛 🎧 Mentioned in This Episode * “Unpacked” podcast – on navigating expat life during crisis * “The Psychology of Your 20s” – insights on identity, attachment, and more

    45 min

  2. MAR 25

    Starting Kita in Germany - What Expat Parents Need to Know

    Starting daycare abroad can feel overwhelming — especially when you’re navigating a new system, a new language, and a new culture at the same time. In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ talk about one of the biggest milestones in expat family life: starting Kita (daycare) in Germany. From confusing application portals to the emotional rollercoaster of the settling-in period, this conversation covers the practical realities and the emotional side of expat parenting when your child enters childcare in a new country. Whether you’re pregnant, waiting for a daycare spot, or already in the middle of the process, this episode is packed with honest stories, helpful insights, and real-life expat parenting tips. 🇩🇪 What we talk about in this episode * How the German Kita system works * Why you may need to apply for daycare while still pregnant * Different childcare options (Kita, Tagesmutter, kindergarten) * What the Eingewöhnung settling-in period is really like * How long the adjustment phase can take (and why it’s hard to plan around) * The emotional side of daycare for parents — guilt, relief, and everything in between * Why childcare is especially important for expat family support * How sibling spots and networking sometimes help you get a place * What to look for when choosing a Kita * How daycare culture in Germany differs from other countries 🌍 Expat parenting reality: Doing it without family nearby For many families abroad, daycare isn’t just helpful — it’s essential.
Without grandparents or relatives nearby, childcare providers often become a key part of your expat motherhood and expat parenting journey. Amanda and CJ share their own experiences raising kids in Germany, including: * Finding childcare without local family support * Balancing work, identity, and motherhood abroad * Feeling guilty even when daycare is the right choice * Why high-quality childcare matters so much for expat families ❤️ The emotional side of starting daycare Starting Kita isn’t just a logistical step — it’s a huge emotional transition. In this episode we talk about: * The first time leaving your baby with someone else * Feeling ready to work again but also sad * How the slow German settling-in process can help both parents and kids * Why the transition can be harder for expats If you’re in the middle of this stage, you’re not alone — and this episode is here to give you reassurance, perspective, and practical expat parenting tips. 📚 Recommendations from this episode * Book: Your Competent Child by Jesper Juul * Podcast: The Worldschooling Podcast 🎧 About Expecting Expats Expecting Expats is a podcast about expat motherhood, expat parenting, and expat family life — the real, honest, sometimes messy experience of raising children abroad. We talk about pregnancy, parenting, relationships, identity, and building a support system far from home. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe and share it with another expat parent who might need some expat family support today.

    42 min

  3. MAR 11

    The role of Attachment - in early childhood and adult relationships

    In this episode, Amanda and CJ explore the significance of attachment styles in early childhood and adult relationships, particularly for expat families. They discuss how early attachment shapes emotional stability and learning, the implications of the still face study, and common misconceptions about attachment. The conversation delves into the four adult attachment styles, the impact of moving abroad on attachment, and practical tips for new parents to foster secure attachments. They emphasize the importance of communication, repair in relationships, and creating stability through routines and rituals. Podcast recommendations: The Mel Robbin’s Podcast: Why do I love the way that I love? The 4 attachment styles explained: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3MC7N7rJW2KHoHdSQgmnCx?si=i7ioP_ddTSGBW68NSq3fTw Dybdepsykologi: https://open.spotify.com/show/10J3TORvJKFMANnCHrimKd?si=qu9aTy2FQNypOC2HuYaI1w

    40 min

  4. FEB 25

    Expat Experts: Navigating Perimenopause: Interview with Dr. Colette White

    In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ delve into the often misunderstood topic of perimenopause, a phase that affects millions of women globally. They are joined by Dr. Colette White, a clinician specializing in women's health, who shares her insights on the challenges women face during this transition. Dr. White emphasizes the importance of awareness and education regarding perimenopause, highlighting that symptoms can begin as early as the mid-30s and can include mood changes, sleep disturbances, and physical discomfort. Despite the prevalence of these symptoms, many women feel unprepared and unsupported due to a lack of information and stigma surrounding the topic. Dr. White discusses her personal journey through motherhood and perimenopause, illustrating the unique challenges faced by expat women navigating healthcare systems in foreign countries. She stresses the importance of seeking evidence-based support and encourages women to document their symptoms to better communicate with healthcare providers. The conversation also touches on the misconceptions surrounding hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and the benefits it can offer, dispelling fears and promoting a proactive approach to managing health during this life stage. Overall, the episode serves as a valuable resource for women seeking clarity and support during their perimenopausal journey. Link to Dr. White’s website: https://www.menocare.de/ Find her on instagram: @menocare_de Podcast Recommendations: ​Unpacked with Anna & Emma: Episode 14, The Magic Formula for Thriving abroad: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6PLm1K0soaAuB8FYNH3Z5r?si=tqmxEN_HTTS7U5s9inq2Sw​Wiser than me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus: https://open.spotify.com/show/3zaHNdVeLiqOSXwxdoWcij?si=iKdJTD83RYWt8n_mGrPOZw​How to Fail by Elizabeth Day: https://open.spotify.com/show/4m7U7kNne0iu35HK571Ui8?si=Kzg847O9TOCtciKzFuPuMg

    45 min

  5. FEB 11

    Keeping the romance alive after kids: a Valentines Special

    In this episode, Amanda and CJ explores the significant decline in sex among couples after having children, highlighting the various factors contributing to this change, including fatigue, caregiving demands, and shifts in couple dynamics. Takeaways * A lot of studies show that couples' sex life tends to decline after having kids. * Fatigue, sleep disruption, and caregiving demands contribute to this decline. * Change in roles and less couple time affects intimacy. * As much as 60% of married couples report a decrease in sexual frequency after having kids. * 30% say that sex has become less satisfying in the last five years after having kids. * The decline in sexual frequency is a significant issue for many couples. * Understanding these changes is crucial for maintaining intimacy. * Couples need to find ways to reconnect after having children. * Communication is key to addressing sexual satisfaction. * Support systems can help couples navigate these challenges. Podcast Recommendation: Motherhood Sessions: 2 Years Without Sex : https://open.spotify.com/episode/4oQ1SbW6yVw6ILUhixUeOs?si=m0Nn1kC5RraRBG6mYl2bRA Book Recommendation: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Ester Perel

    28 min

  6. JAN 29

    Who am I now? Identity changes in motherhood

    In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ explore the profound identity shifts that accompany motherhood, particularly for those parenting abroad. They discuss personal experiences, the evolution of relationships, the importance of community support, and strategies for reclaiming one's identity amidst the challenges of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes that while the journey can be difficult, it ultimately leads to personal growth and a new understanding of self. Takeaways * Becoming a parent reshapes your identity in profound ways. * Motherhood abroad adds layers of complexity to identity shifts. * It's common to feel a sense of loss regarding your old self. * The transition into motherhood often involves grief for your previous life. * Community support is crucial for navigating motherhood. * Reclaiming your identity is a step-by-step process. * Relationships with partners and friends evolve after having children. * Self-care practices, like meditation, can help in the transition. * Understanding that motherhood is an evolution can provide relief. * You're not alone in feeling lost; it's a shared experience among mothers. Podcast recommendation: This is Actually Happening (by Wondery) Book recommendation: Boy mom (by Ruth Whippman) Link to the podcast episode referred to: https://open.spotify.com/episode/26KSGRz0cYTubqqnp366d5?si=UynpSCuUS3ycpPzBhmursA

    35 min

  7. JAN 21

    Post holiday check in

    Amanda and CJ discusses how their New Years ritual unfolded and how they feel about the wish they are responsible for (listen to the holiday special episode for context). CJ also shares her considerations regarding having another child. Podcast recommendations: Dr. Death (from Wondery) A Little Bit Culty The Daily (from New York Times)

    26 min

  8. JAN 14

    Expectations for Maternity Leave: Comparison is the thief of joy

    In this episode of Expecting Expats, Amanda and CJ delve into the complexities of maternity leave, discussing the pressures of productivity, cultural differences, and the often invisible labor involved in new parenthood. They share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the importance of self-care, community support, and reframing expectations around maternity leave as a time of transformation rather than a break. The conversation highlights the need to recognize the value of care work and the unique challenges faced by new parents, encouraging listeners to give themselves grace during this significant life transition. Podcast recommendations: Unpacked - with Anna & Emma Pink pill rx

    42 min
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Welcome to Expecting Expats- a space where we’re expecting more than just babies—join Amanda, a childbirth educator and doula, and CJ, a therapist-in-training, as they explore parenting, partnerships, emotional growth, and the journey of building a life in a new country.

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  • Creator
    Hosts Amanda and CJ
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    78
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © Hosts Amanda and CJ
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    Expecting Expats