Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Dr. Tülay Massey

Do you find it hard to get to sleep?

 

Or perhaps you wake up at night with anxiety and can't go back to sleep?

 

I know how you feel.

 

Well, I don't suffer from much anxiety these days, but there was a time I used to wake up feeling anxious or found it hard to fall asleep.

 

This always coincided with when my head was full of 'stuff', I have been working in the evening or just engaging in some 'social media' at night!

 

So now I know better not to do any of that to make sure I go to sleep easily and have a way to get back to sleep if I do wake up.

 

If you are like most women I work with, then the chances are you too might find it hard to go to sleep because you are full of anxiety at night.

 

This is what we talked about this week on Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Podcast! I talked about 5 simple strategies that will help you get the 'stuff' out of your head and allow you to get to sleep much quicker.

 

Tune in today 🎧on your favourite platform or hop over to YouTube ▶️ to watch the full episode, and discover the 5 strategies I shared that will help you stop feeling anxious and go back to sleep easily.

 
How about you? What causes you to feel anxious and keeps you awake at night?

 

Comment on YouTube or hit reply to let me know. I can't wait to hear from you.

 

Do you ever get the feeling that no matter what you do, How Hard you work, and how many sacrifices you make for others, you are heard, valued or appreciated by others {{ first_name }}?

 

I get it.

 

This is how you used to feel.

 

 I lived like this for many years, and after a while, I realised I lived to get some appreciation from others without even realising it.

 

It was great when I got it, but when I didn't my world inside would fall apart. I felt crushed.

 

After being so frustrated and angry with the outside world for such a long time, I realised it was ME causing this all.

 

I was too busy looking for that validation and appreciation from others, but I didn't even realise I wasn't showing it to myself!

 

This realisation started my whole journey to become a coach to help others.

 

This week on Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Podcast, I am talking about the 3 reasons why you may not be valued and appreciated by others! Don't miss out, this is a good one!

 

How about you?  Which one of the 3 things you are missing?

 

Comment on YouTube to let me know. I can't wait to hear from you.

 

Do you find you spend most of your time trying to make sure other people in your life are happy?

 

It is down to YOU to make sure kids are looked after,

 

It is YOU who is always running around your husband.

 

It is YOU people turn to when they have a problem.

 

It is YOU who says YES to all, except for yourself... is it not?

 

Yet you might find that people are never there when you need them!

 

They always have something to be unhappy about and complain about.

 

They don't even appreciate half the stuff you do for them

 

...

 

You see Tulay, it is not your job to make other people happy!

 

Being happy is a decision everyone gets to take for themselves. No matter what you do to make them happy, they will not be happy until they decide to be.

 

So it is time to STOP trying to make people happy and focus on your happiness.

 This is what we talked about this week on Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Podcast!

 Tune in today on your favourite platform or hop over to YouTube to watch the full episode, and discover why trying to make everyone happy is an impossible task.

How about you?  What have you been neglecting about yourself whilst trying to make other people happy Tulay? How has this been serving you so far?

 Comment on YouTube or hit reply to let me know.

 In a world full of chaos, if you have been wondering "How can I find peace in a busy life?" You are in the right place. In this video, we will be talking about 3 Things that will help you find peace today! In a world that is in constant chaos, finding inner peace might seem hard. It might seem even harder if you are juggling work, family, self-care and just life in general. This is why I wanted to bring you again, the 4 simple things you can choose that will bring you inner peace no matter how much chaos there is outside. These are: 1. Have a clear purpose to live for that is bigger than you 2. Let go of the need to control things, outcomes, people and processes and surrender! Detach from the outcome and control the process 3. Be in gratitude, because you are where your attention is. Watch the full episode, and discover how to apply these 3things to your life with the examples I provided today. Please SUBSCRIBE to this channel for more great videos like this released every Thursday. Make gratitude a daily habit with this amazing audio in just 8 minutes a day. Download now for FREE 👇

 

We are talking about feeling good enough - or not feeling good enough as the case maybe.

 

One of my clients said this is how she felt before we started our coaching journey together: “No matter how much I achieve and what job title I have I will never feel good enough! I was seeking the credibility, legitimacy and approval of others.”

 

You might be feeling the same.  

 

It was as if her value depended on how much other people saw it and validated it. This is why she spent most of her time to have that validation and ended up with burnout.

 

You see, your value does not depend on other people's ability to see it! It depends on how much you value yourself! Because other people, don't care about you, they care about themselves and therefore their interpretation of YOUR value might change depending on how much you do for them, how much they need you or how useful they think you are.

 

...and you guessed, this can change! But your value doesn't.

 

Today we talked about why women like you (and J- my client) never feel like they are good enough and what you can do to change that even if you are not confident in yourself!

  

Don't take my word for it, tune in today as I talk about how you can feel good enough now no matter where you are in life and in your career and discover it for yourself.

 
How about you?  What is stopping you from feeling good enough now? 

 

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