Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Dr. Tülay Massey

I got really angry this morning!😠...because It was easier to be angry than to admit that I felt fearful!On this occasion, I was feeling fearful about something I decided to do this week.and even though I have consciously chosen to do this new thing,I have been observing, with great curiosity,how it is showing up in my bodyin my thoughts and if I allow it, in my actions.It feels like walking on eggshells or having to sit on a bed of nailsplus an uncomfortable feeling in my chest... like something is bubbling up.and just this morning, it showed itself as 'anger' towards someone else's choice!It is because I am so aware of what I am going through, that I realised what was REALLY going on.😌You see, most people are used to showing their anger, but no one wants to admit they are fearful.They are both emotions and neither feels good.Yet, more often than not you might choose to stay in one over the other thinking that it will make everything OK.I know I did, in the past.I feared that😔 I would die doing the same thing every day, making no impact on anything or anyone and call it a life!😔 I would be judged and criticized by others because of making mistakes - so I spent most of my time trying to make sure this did not happen 🙄😔 I would not matter to anyone, so I tried so hard to matter to everyone with all the things I didFor so long, I chose to stay in anger because of all this...until I realised that I was not angry at the world,I was angry at myself for not doing the things I really wanted to do quickly enough...It is then I realised what was really happeningI was actually so full of fear!and I was judging myself as a resultand it was only when I decided to forgive myselfand do something different to ride through the fear...my life has changed.You see, staying in anger made me a victimbut choosing to face my fears made me a human.I chose to face my fear to change my life and I never looked back.and because of this experience,I chose to show compassion to myself this morning even though I was angry for a few minutes.I know that each and every moment, I am here to learn my lessons and to grow and evolve...and so are you.So if you are feeling angry... then perhaps look a little deeper.You might start to see where is it really coming from.Just know, you always have a choice!What will you choose today?

 

P.S. I am accepting applications for 1:1 coaching clients starting this month.If you have been struggling to ride through some heavy feelings and are ready to discover what is really going on,book a breakthrough call today for just £99! If we are a good fit and you'd like to continue working with me afterwards then the investment you made for the call will be deducted from your 1:1 coaching package!If not, you'll discover what you are really afraid of and still have a fantastic breakthrough!Book your call now with this link: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/offers/2iLkiYs4

Today's episode is a very special one!

Ian is back and he spoke about his emergency surgery.

Listen to this episode in full to discover the one shift Ian decided to make on the day of his surgery and how this affected the rest of his experience not just for him but for the people around him.

Plus, we go back to the reason why he could make this decision and how he embodied the important mindset work we have been talking about in the past 3 years!

If you are ready to start embodying this work then you'll love my exclusive 5-day mini-course where I will teach you the 5 things you need to conquer now to step into the ultimate Serenity in your life now.

It is yours to have forever for just £33 today until the end of January. 

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#1 secret to having an easy life and still getting what you want is......to give yourself permission to have an easy life!There is nothing wrong with having an easy life, unlike what you may have been led to believe.You might be thinking: "But I have so much to do and I don't want to be lazy!"Notice, I haven't said lazy, I said easy.😉Easy doesn't mean you are being lazy.😲It means you are allowing things to take their course 🤗without having to worry about or control every step.🤯It means doing hard things without making them hard on yourself🤯and getting exactly what you want, when you want it... easily!🥰I was just thinking, for a split second, about contacting my best friend yesterday to organise our annual outing (& to celebrate my birthday).Just this morning she messaged me with her suggestion of what we could do and it was just perfect!🥰🥰🥰I didn't have to worry or think long and hard about it.Instead, I let it be and let it come to me.You probably already work hard enough as it is each day for yourself and for others.You don't have to make it even harder with the worrying thoughts and the feelings that come with it.What will you let go of and let it be today to make your life easier today?😍

message me on tulay@tulaymasseycoaching.com to share your answer

Are your SMART goals failing you every year? You are not alone!

I get it, I did this too, for a long time!

That is the way you have been taught to set goals all along!

I spent all of my professional life setting SMART goals...only to discover that they didn't help me grow as a person.Instead, they reminded me of the limitations (placed upon me by others)The more I stayed focused on these limitations (time, how realistic they are- according to who?  etc.) the bigger the gap I was feeling inside got I started to dread the start of each year. because I had to write down goals.which didn't light me up inside.Goals that felt like were not worth the paper they were written on.Goals that no one ever looked at or cared about!They felt like a vehicle to be judged on, though really and truly you were only ever judged on someone's opinion of you based on their own limitations.

You might be thinking:'But that is the only way to set goals, right?'

WRONG!

You see, there is a much better way to set your goals and actually achieve them, plus get exactly what you desire in life in every area!If your goals are not aligned with who you are and your purpose,they restrict you,they keep reminding you of your limitations, not the possibilities.As the world is changing,do something different this year!Let go of the goals that are no longer aligned with who you are.and if you are starting to wonder 'but how do I do that?'I've just the thing for you.Join my live workshop at 12.00 pm GMT on Thursday 19th January where I will be talking about a new way of setting goals and 3 essential elements to make anything you desire a reality in 2023!

This training relates to you if you are someone who… Is always missing your goals, especially when it comes to personal development, keep giving up or end up resenting them Is fed up with setting goals that suck your soul out and leave you frustrated year in year out! Wants to find a new way to achieve your personal development goals aligned with your career and home life.By the end of this workshop, It will be obvious to you… Why do you never seem to follow through with the goals you set at the beginning of each year? 3 must-do essentials for any goal setting How you can use these to help achieve your goals in 2023

Register here for free: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/no-more-setting-smart-goals

P.S. A recording of this workshop will be available for those who register even if you cannot attend!

Happy New Year!

New year, new start, new-found energy... but before you start charging into working hard and doing everything for everyone else, STOP

Ask for help! How many of the things on your to-do list have to actually be done by you?

When you listen to this full episode you'll realise you are taking far too much responsibility for others.

Start this year by asking for more help from others. You don't get a badge of honour or a medal for doing everything for everyone. and you certainly are not doing any favours to yourself.

Just stop and think about who can support you today. Even if it is for just 10 minutes. You'll find you have so much more time and feel less exhausted.

When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities in autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going?

If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just the thing for you!

You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook!

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Your words shape your world and your life.

Choose your words carefully. When it comes to setting intentions for the new year, it is always a great idea to remind yourself of that intention with a single word.

Each year I choose a word for the year and set my intention. 

In this episode, I talk about my words from the past 4 years, what my intentions were and how they shaped my year!

If you haven't chosen a word yet, this is the time to do it!