Becoming You Again

Karin Nelson

Becoming You Again is for women going through divorce who need guidance and support. In this podcast you'll learn from Karin Nelson, a certified confidence divorce coach, on three main pillars that will help you as you create an even better life than when you were married. You'll learn about creating a solid, authentic identify full of self love and confidence, how to be emotionally resilient taking back control over your own emotional life, and how to live a truly independent life after divorce.

  1. Moving Through Loneliness After Divorce

    22 СЕНТ.

    Moving Through Loneliness After Divorce

    Feeling lonely after divorce can seem overwhelming and endless, but what if your loneliness isn't actually about being alone? In this deeply personal episode, I unpack the true nature of loneliness and why it feels so heavy when we're navigating life after divorce.   The truth might surprise you: loneliness isn't caused by the absence of people. You can be physically alone without feeling lonely, and conversely, feel profoundly lonely while surrounded by family or even while married. What creates that hollow feeling in your chest isn't your circumstances; it's your thoughts about those circumstances. The stories we tell ourselves about what it means to be divorced, single, or alone can transform a quiet evening into a painful experience of isolation.   When loneliness strikes, our instinct is often to resist it or find ways to escape it. We might rush into dating, rearrange custody schedules, or isolate ourselves further because we believe something must be wrong with us. But what if there's another way? I'll walk you through a step-by-step process for sitting with loneliness, understanding its physical sensations, and learning to move through it rather than around it.   The most powerful realization? The antidote to loneliness isn't being with others; it's connection, beginning with yourself. When you build a compassionate relationship with yourself first, you transform how you relate to everyone else in your life. Your emotional wellbeing no longer depends on others' availability or choices.   This episode offers practical strategies for creating self-connection, recognizing thought patterns that intensify loneliness, and finding kinder alternatives that feel true and supportive. You'll walk away with tools to make loneliness feel less overwhelming and more manageable as you continue becoming you again. To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

    28 мин.
  2. From Reacting to Responding: Building Resilience After Divorce

    15 СЕНТ.

    From Reacting to Responding: Building Resilience After Divorce

    The emotional rollercoaster of divorce can leave us feeling like we're constantly in survival mode, reacting to every text, comment, or situation with immediate emotion rather than thoughtful response. This heightened state keeps us stuck in cycles that prevent healing and forward movement.    I’m talking about this common struggle by exploring the difference between being consumed by emotions and being healthily connected to them. When we're constantly reacting from a place of anger, fear, or hurt, our emotions are actually running the show while we watch helplessly from the passenger seat.    When our nervous system stays heightened, our prefrontal cortex (the brain's decision-making part) becomes less flexible. This creates the effect of choices that may not be aligned with what’s best and right for you, increased stress, and more negative emotions.    The solution is in creating space between stimulus and response. By validating our feelings without immediately acting on them, we gain the power to choose how we respond. I’ll offer practical guidance on shifting from emotional survival to emotional resilience through simple but powerful practice in this episode.   This practice transforms not only our divorce experience but ripples through every relationship in our lives. As we model emotional regulation, we become powerful architects of our future rather than reactive victims of our circumstances.    Ready to stop letting your emotions drive your decisions? This episode provides the roadmap to build emotional resilience that will serve you long after your divorce is finalized.  To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

    30 мин.
  3. Rediscovering Your Decision-Making Power After Divorce

    8 СЕНТ.

    Rediscovering Your Decision-Making Power After Divorce

    Standing in your kitchen at 8 PM, staring at unwashed dishes and feeling completely overwhelmed by the simplest decisions? You're experiencing what many women face after divorce which is decision paralysis. Even when you absolutely knew ending your marriage was right, the decision fatigue that comes after can leave you questioning your ability to choose anything from breakfast options to career moves.   One of my clients said, "I feel like I used all of my decision-making energy just getting out of my marriage," and this summed up what I hear from so many divorcing women as a common struggle. After spending months or years gathering courage for that monumental life decision, even small choices now carry what feels like impossible weight.   The challenge isn't just about making decisions. It's about making them as this new version of yourself you're still getting to know. For years, your decision-making muscles were trained to filter choices through questions like "What will keep the peace?" or "What might avoid conflict?" You learned to put everyone else's needs before your own. Now, you're suddenly expected to decide based on what YOU want except that muscle of knowing yourself, your wants, needs and desires has become weak because of years of ignoring it.   This episode walks you through four transformative steps to break free from post-divorce paralysis: grounding yourself, learning to process emotions, examining limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, and taking small aligned actions to rebuild self-trust. You'll discover that the courage and wisdom that got you through divorce haven't disappeared; you just need to reconnect with those qualities. To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

    35 мин.
  4. The Power of Living in the Gray: Escaping Black and White Thinking After Divorce

    1 СЕНТ.

    The Power of Living in the Gray: Escaping Black and White Thinking After Divorce

    Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I guess this is just how my life is now," or "There's nothing I can do to make this better"? That's the trap of black and white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking. This is a mental habit that convinces us we have no control over our life, especially during divorce.   In this episode, I dive deep into how black-and-white thinking keeps us feeling powerless and stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. When we believe there are only two options, usually the extreme end of the spectrum, our brains literally stop searching for solutions. We become convinced that our situation is fixed, immovable, and beyond choice of any kind. But that's a lie we tell ourselves, and I'm here to help you see through it.   The truth is that very few things in life are purely good or purely bad, all or nothing. By learning to recognize this habitual way of thinking we can begin to challenge these limiting beliefs. The real magic happens when we step out of these extremes and into what I call "the gray"; not a place of indecision or uncertainty, but a place of possibility, nuance, and choice.   Drawing from my own experience of breaking free from all-or-nothing thinking about marriage and divorce, I share practical strategies to help you recognize these patterns, challenge your thought processes, and gradually reclaim your sense of agency. Even a small 2% shift toward more flexible thinking creates movement that can transform your entire perspective on life after divorce.   Ready to break free from black-and-white thinking and start living in the gray to discover the choices that have been there all along? Listen now to learn how to live in the gray, make decisions from a place of empowerment rather than fear, and create a more expansive story for your life moving forward after divorce. To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

    26 мин.
  5. Unhappily Ever After? The Exit Signs You're Ignoring

    25 АВГ.

    Unhappily Ever After? The Exit Signs You're Ignoring

    Are you constantly making excuses for your partner's behavior? Walking on eggshells in your own home? Pretending to be asleep when they come to bed? Your intuition might be trying to tell you something important about your marriage.   Society conditions us to believe marriage should last forever, that we must honor our vows "for better or worse." But what happens when that conditioning keeps us trapped in relationships that harm our wellbeing or prevent us from creating genuine happiness? This powerful episode tackles the signs that might indicate it's time to consider divorce, and more importantly, gives you permission to honestly ask yourself what you truly want.   I'm not here to tell you whether you should get divorce. That decision belongs to you alone. However, I am here to help you recognize when your body, mind, and intuition are signaling that something needs to change. From researching divorce laws in your state to constantly walking on eggshells around your partner, these signals deserve your attention rather than dismissal.   Many women stay in unhappy marriages because the uncertainty of divorce feels overwhelming. Will I be able to support myself financially? Where will I live? How will this affect my children? These are valid concerns, but they're obstacles that can be overcome with proper planning and support. As women, we are remarkably resilient and resourceful. We are really great at problem solving. We figure things out all the time, often while juggling multiple responsibilities already.   You deserve to wake up feeling hopeful about your day and your future. You deserve relationships that add to your life rather than drain your energy. Most importantly, you deserve to give yourself permission to create the life you truly want, even if that means ending your current marriage. The healing begins once you face the truth of what you want and take those first steps toward a different future.   Whether you're considering divorce yourself or know someone who might need this message, remember: choosing yourself isn't selfish; it's necessary for your wellbeing and ultimately benefits everyone around you. To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

    23 мин.
  6. Grounded Swaying: Reconnecting with Your Body's Wisdom Post-Divorce

    18 АВГ.

    Grounded Swaying: Reconnecting with Your Body's Wisdom Post-Divorce

    Feeling like the ground beneath you has shifted after divorce? You're not alone. That sense of instability, of losing your foundation, is one of the most challenging aspects of divorce recovery. But what if reconnecting with your body could help you find your footing again?   This episode of Becoming You Again explores what it truly means to feel grounded after divorce and introduces a powerful practice called "grounded sway" that can help you rebuild trust in yourself. Many women tell me they feel constantly off-balance during divorce, unsure how to recreate that sense of safety. The truth is, you have the capacity to create safety for yourself through reconnecting with your body's wisdom.   The guided practice I share walks you through a gentle swaying movement that helps you experience different sensations while actively narrating safety for yourself. As you sway and feel the solid ground beneath your feet, you learn to stay flexible rather than rigid when facing uncertainty - like willow bending in the wind rather than breaking. There's no right or wrong way to do this exercise, only your way, as you discover what feels right for your unique body.   So much of healing after divorce involves learning to trust ourselves again; our bodies, our intuition, and our ability to create the lives we want. This practice offers one gentle pathway toward rebuilding that trust, reminding us that everything we need to feel safe and balanced already exists within us. Sometimes we just need a reminder of how to access it.   Ready to go deeper with your healing? Working one-on-one with me as your coach might be exactly what you need to implement these practices in your daily life. Visit karinnelsoncoaching.com to learn more about how we can work together to help you become you again.  To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

    16 мин.
  7. From Transactional to Unconditional: Rebuilding Your Relationship with Yourself

    11 АВГ.

    From Transactional to Unconditional: Rebuilding Your Relationship with Yourself

    Self-love shouldn't come with conditions, yet so many of us hold ourselves hostage to impossible standards. I’m tackling this concept of "transactional self-love" in this throwback episode. Transactional self-love are the unconscious bargains we make with ourselves, promising kindness and acceptance only after certain benchmarks are met.   We've all said it: "I'll love myself when I lose weight," "I'll be kind to myself once my divorce is finalized," or "I'll accept myself when I find someone new." These conditional statements reveal how deeply we've internalized the message that we must earn our own affection. I explore this phenomenon through multiple lenses; our biological negativity bias, childhood experiences of conditional love, and the societal conditioning that teaches women their value depends on external factors.   The relationship you have with yourself forms the foundation for every other relationship in your life. When you withhold compassion from yourself, you're likely applying the same transactional approach to others. Breaking free from this pattern starts with awareness – identifying your personal conditions for self-acceptance and consciously choosing more compassionate alternatives.   Through practical steps and thoughtful guidance, I demonstrate how to build an unshakable foundation of self-love that doesn't fluctuate based on achievements or circumstances. This isn't about achieving perfect self-love but creating a baseline of acceptance that supports you through life's inevitable challenges. You'll learn how to recognize your conditional thinking and practice new neural pathways of self-compassion through consistent, intentional thought work. To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

    25 мин.
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Becoming You Again is for women going through divorce who need guidance and support. In this podcast you'll learn from Karin Nelson, a certified confidence divorce coach, on three main pillars that will help you as you create an even better life than when you were married. You'll learn about creating a solid, authentic identify full of self love and confidence, how to be emotionally resilient taking back control over your own emotional life, and how to live a truly independent life after divorce.

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