Ladies... we let a man in the house. For 120 episodes it's been us, our people, and a lot of opinions about men. This week we finally handed one the mic, and honestly? He came correct. Garth Gerhart is a writer, a former Mad Magazine cartoonist, an Army vet, and the author of Montana Made: How Losing My Father, My Mind, and My Patience Made Me Sort Of a Better Man. (Our favorite part of that title is "sort of." His too.) If you have a complicated dad, a diagnosis you're scared to say out loud, or a man in your life who thinks asking for help is weakness, send this one to them. We got your back. All of you. Even the fellas, apparently. Get the book: Available on Amazon, at Target, Barnes & Noble, and Simon & Schuster. Follow Garth: Instagram @garthgerhart And listen: his aunt left a one star review. We're asking the Got HER Back family to go handle that. Chapters: 00:00:00 Cold open: "All my friends are dead" 00:00:45 Gold era, anniversary bracelets, and our first man 00:02:00 Montana Made and why "sort of" is the best part 00:03:00 Estranged since 21 and a phone call asking for $500 00:04:00 When your kid is stuck between two parents 00:05:00 The 2020 snap: a bipolar diagnosis at 45 00:07:00 Mad Magazine, comics, and betting his career on the book 00:08:00 Bozeman, wood paneling, and 40 years of memory 00:09:00 Casino, bar, casino, bar: finding empathy for his father 00:10:00 Dino turns 70 and refuses to enjoy it 00:11:00 Meeting your dad where he is (and the Colorado Bulldog) 00:13:00 Four DWIs, wild stories, and doing the forgiving for yourself 00:14:00 Ashes on the mountain: the first time he ever held him 00:15:30 The clown urn and Megan's cremation panic 00:18:00 Sisters, Beth Dutton energy, and a book they didn't love 00:19:00 Same parents, completely different childhoods 00:20:00 Parenting at 25 versus parenting at 50 00:23:00 Patience, perimenopause, and changing temperaments 00:25:00 The rules: "I'm allowed one vice" 00:28:00 The "drugs are bad" rule that delayed his medication 00:29:00 Why mania feels like a superpower 00:30:00 Old Megan versus new Megan: boundaries and misdiagnosis 00:31:00 Hyperfixation, intrusive thoughts, and the life jacket fight 00:33:00 Emergency protocol and the flight home from Hawaii 00:35:00 The stop sign that saved his life 00:36:00 Men's mental health and the stigma nobody names 00:38:00 Shame, projection, and learning your own symptoms 00:40:00 Where to get Montana Made (and please fix that one star) 👀 Check Out Our Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6sOJxIJ-U0XDJnLYkrR5N4nMeSwplBoT&si=SOqklgdZv7k7Z6X0 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/got-her-back/id1726769772 ❤️ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gotherbackpodcast?igsh=OWx2ajlmbXFraDBv&utm_source=qr 🖤 Follow us on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gotherbackpodcast?_t=ZP-8tOjiUz0Ro7&_r=1 💙 Follow us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/share/15hZm16v7B/?mibextid=wwXIfr #MentalHealthMatters #EndTheStigma #BipolarDisorder #LateDiagnosis #TherapyWorks #SuicidePrevention #988Lifeline #EstrangedParents #DaddyIssues #GriefAndHealing #ForgivenessJourney #NewAuthor #BookTok #Bookstagram
