Innerspace: Deep, Meaningful Conversations with Brett Kaufman

Brett Kaufman
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Innerspace is a space for reflection, awareness, and lived experience. Through calm, grounded conversations with Brett Kaufman, the show explores what happens beneath the surface, the inner signals, transitions, and moments of clarity that shape how we move through the world.

  1. 5d ago

    When You Finally Listen to Yourself | Five Innerspace Conversations

    Five women. Five very different lives. One thread running through all of them. Each of them learned early to go quiet. To keep the peace, to be the good one, to do what was expected. Each built a life on that script, and each hit a point where it stopped working. Nicole DiTommaso, founder of Sauce Boss Gang, describes what it feels like to lose your inner voice inside someone else's business, and the year of solitude that brought it back. Nancy Kramer, founder of Resource and lead partner at IBM Consulting, walks through the wedding she knew was wrong the night it happened, the whole other life she built to survive it, and the point where her body refused to keep going along. Vanessa Benett, psychotherapist and author, talks about running from home at 18, the friend who told her she was always angry, and the moment she decided the cycle she inherited ends with her. Tricia Eastman, psychedelic medicine facilitator and author of Seeding Consciousness, on why no one is coming to save you, and the experience that told her she was not living her true life. Gabby Goldlach, chiropractor and founder of The Inside Space, on the question she kept getting asked until she broke, and what it took to reconnect with her dad when her family was worried for her. The common ground is simple to say and hard to live. The answers were inside the whole time. The work is learning to trust them. Follow Nicole Business Instagram: @saucebossgang Personal: @thefireqween Website: saucebossgang.com Connect with Nancy https://www.linkedin.com/in/nancyjkramer/ Learn More about Vanessa Website: https://www.vanessabennett.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett/ The Motherhood Myth: https://www.vanessabennett.com/the-motherhood-myth Donate to Tricia's initiative: https://donorbox.org/ancestralheart Follow Gabby https://www.instagram.com/gab_chiro/ https://scheduleinsidespacefamilychiro.as.me/schedule/49d440d7 Timestamps 00:00 Intro 04:13 Nicole DiTommaso 09:10 Nancy Kramer 20:43 Vanessa Benett 30:07 Tricia Eastman 34:00 Gabby Goldlach

  2. Sep 14

    ASK ME ANYTHING, PART TWO | Brett Kaufman

    You sent the questions. Brett answers them. Part two picks up with the one that comes in most often, in some version or another. Twelve years into a business, successful by every measure, and completely empty. Brett has felt that exact thing, and he starts where he thinks anyone in it has to start. From there, whether you actually need a coach or can sort it out yourself, and why the honest answer is that almost nobody does this alone. What to do in the months after you sell the company, when everyone tells you to enjoy it and you feel lost instead. Brett's read is that it is rarely about the money. It is about who you are when nobody needs you anymore. He also gets into plant medicine, carefully, and is direct about who it is not for. Then the hardest things he has said no to, and what he looks for in a first conversation with a founder that tells him whether they are actually willing to do the work. Keep sending questions. He is going to keep answering them.

  3. Sep 7

    ASK ME ANYTHING, PART ONE | Brett Kaufman

    You sent the questions. Brett answers them. This is the first Ask Me Anything episode of Innerspace. It covers the ground listeners keep asking about: what Brett is actually building toward now, the lessons that cost him the most, the moments that woke him up, and how to have the conversations most people spend their lives avoiding. The first hard lesson came the day he realized nobody was going to hand him the life he wanted, and that freedom of his time, his money, and his relationships was something he would have to go make himself. The second came later, after the achieving and the accolades, when he got to the top of that mountain and found out it was not the thing. The third landed hardest. Moving from one business into the next taught him who his friends really are and who his friends really aren't. From there, the wake up calls that redirected his life inside a single stretch of ninety days. The listening practice he still uses in difficult conversations. What to do with the voice in your head. And an honest accounting of Gravity, what worked, what didn't, and why community stopped needing a building. Part two is coming. Timestamps 0:00 Welcome 0:14 The goal and the motivation 3:43 The hardest lesson 5:13 When the things you chased stop mattering 7:13 Who your friends really are and who they aren't 10:21 The wake up calls with the biggest impact 11:56 Landmark Forum and authoring your own life 12:40 Summit Series and seeing it lived 15:34 Difficult conversations 16:45 Curiosity and seven good minutes 18:38 Bubbling up conflict 22:58 Negative self talk 25:48 Gravity, honestly 28:45 Why community stopped needing a building

  4. Aug 31

    Special Episode: What You Carry Out of Childhood | Lewis Howes, Tucker Max & Dan Sullivan

    This one works differently. It is three conversations instead of one, pulled from the Gravity archive and placed side by side because they belong side by side. Lewis Howes, Tucker Max, and Dan Sullivan, each arriving at the same question from a completely different direction. Most people can tell you when their adult life started. The job, the move, the decision that changed the direction. Far fewer can tell you when their inner life started, because it started long before anyone was paying attention. Lewis spent years chasing achievement and discovered that it never actually landed. "No matter how much I accomplished or achieved, I still didn't feel it." What changed was not another win. It was going back and building a relationship with the part of himself that had been carrying everything alone. He talks about the emotional triggers most people live with without ever questioning them, and where a decade of that work has taken him. Tucker brings the research. The ACE study is one of the most rigorous looks at childhood experience ever conducted, and its central finding surprised nearly everyone who saw it. The children with the worst life outcomes were not the ones anyone predicted. Tucker walks through what that means, why attention matters more than we think, and what the psychological field had to rebuild once the data came in. Dan offers the counterweight. He grew up on a farm in Northern Ohio, the fifth of seven, with no playmate his own age until first grade. So he talked to adults instead. He figured out early that if you ask people about their lives, they will tell you for hours. That habit turned into a career, and he says he is doing the same thing now at seventy seven that he was doing at seven. Three childhoods. One that had to be healed, one that had to be understood, and one that quietly handed a man his life's work before he knew what was happening. The question underneath all of it is not whether your childhood shaped you. It is whether you have gone back and looked at how. 00:00 Intro 02:44 Lewis Howes 11:00 Tucker Max 19:58 Dan Sullivan

    Special Episode: What You Carry Out of Childhood | Lewis Howes, Tucker Max & Dan Sullivan

  5. Aug 24

    The Wrong Door to the Right Room | Michael Clune

    Michael Clune was born in Dublin and raised outside Chicago. When his parents divorced at twelve, what gave way was not just the household. It was his sense of what was real. Alcohol and weed came at fourteen, ecstasy at nineteen, heroin at twenty one. He describes that first time plainly. "Every problem I've ever had has now been solved. That was the feeling." He got into Johns Hopkins, held it together for a while, and then did not. He was arrested for felony possession and locked up in a jail he had painted himself, working summers as a teenager. What he understood in recovery is the part most addiction stories leave out. Heroin was never simply pleasure. It was a counterfeit of something real, delivered once and then dangled for years. Saying no was never going to be enough. He needed another route to the same place, and found it in Zen meditation and in a discipline he learned from people in recovery, something he says most people learn at five. He and Brett go well past addiction. What everyone chases when they are not chasing a drug. Whether an ordinary life can hold a spiritual one. And what it takes to keep writing through the resistance. More than two decades sober, Michael is a professor at the Chase Center at Ohio State, the author of three scholarly books and three works of creative writing, most recently the novel Pan.

    The Wrong Door to the Right Room | Michael Clune

  6. Aug 17

    The Identity You Build Can Become the Cage You Live In | Chip Conley

    Chip Conley bought a broken-down pay-by-the-hour motel in the Tenderloin of San Francisco in his mid-twenties, on the strength of an offhand suggestion from concert promoter Bill Graham, and spent 24 years building Joie de Vivre Hospitality into the second largest operator of boutique hotels in the country. Then the thing he built stopped fitting. He launched fifteen new hotels into a collapsing economy and found himself running a company he no longer recognized as his. What came next was a break, a second act at Airbnb as Head of Global Hospitality and Strategy, and co-founding MEA, the world's first midlife wisdom school, now on a regenerative horse ranch in Santa Fe. Chip calls the whole arc the crescendo effect. Nothing wasted. Every skill and every detour feeding the next one. You only see the shape of it looking back. As he puts it, he is all the ages he has ever been. His latest book, The Midlife Manifesto, is out now. Brett and Chip get into what it costs to hold on to an identity past its usefulness, what it means to be a mentor and an intern at the same time, the father who talked him out of writing and the books that came anyway, and the tension he is living inside now between what he calls holy urgency and the instruction he keeps receiving to slow down. Connect with Chip: Instagram: @chipconley MEA: meawisdom.com Podcast: The Midlife Chrysalis, meawisdom.com/podcast Book: The Midlife Manifesto, meawisdom.com/product/the-midlife-manifesto-book

    The Identity You Build Can Become the Cage You Live In | Chip Conley

  7. Aug 10

    When You're Triggered, You're Not Deciding. You're Reacting. | Kylie Ryan

    Kylie Ryan grew up on thirty acres outside Sydney, in a house that looked abundant from the road and carried a different story inside it. Her father was defrauded by business partners. Her parents' marriage came apart slowly, in the same building. Kylie became the one who held things together, and she had nowhere to put any of it, so she put it in her body. At 23, in a session meant to help with audition nerves, she found a belief buried in her unconscious that did not start with her. It traced back through the women in her family, generations older than she was. She cleared it, and the year that followed changed nearly everything. Two decades on, Kylie is a mindset coach and emotional intelligence specialist who works with founders moving through the transition she calls the Dark Night of the Soul. She is the director of the Spiral Institute, where she certifies practitioners in The Spiral™, a nervous system based emotional clearing method, and her broader body of work, Heart Alchemy™, sits where psychology, neuroscience, trauma informed coaching, and spiritual intelligence meet. All of it comes back to one question. Why do people stay stuck even when they can name what is holding them back? Her answer runs through the Karpman drama triangle and lands somewhere uncomfortable. When you are triggered, the space between stimulus and response collapses. There is no room left for consciousness, and without consciousness there is no real choice. You are not deciding. You are reacting. Connect with Kylie: Heart Alchemy: hello.kylieryan.com/drama Instagram: @kylieryan.mmc Website: KylieRyan.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kylieryan

    When You're Triggered, You're Not Deciding. You're Reacting. | Kylie Ryan

  8. Aug 3

    The Cycle Almost Every Couple Runs Without Naming It | Alex Charfen

    Alex Charfen is the founder of The Brotherhood, A Society for Men, and the creator of Masculine Containment, a discipline that trains men to regulate themselves in real time. The work came out of the most confronting moment of his life. After years of therapy, personal development, and real effort in his marriage, his wife sat down with him. Not in a fight. Not in a therapist's office. She said, "I don't feel seen. I don't feel heard. I don't feel safe. And if something doesn't change, I can't do this anymore." Not long after, he sat down with her on the floor of their bedroom and asked her to tell him what the relationship had actually been like. No explaining. No fixing. No defending. Just staying present while she talked. They have done it nearly every day since. Alex takes Brett through everything that led there. Born in Mexico City and in the US by five, watching his family lose everything. Working swap meet stands next to a father who communicated in rage, silence, and punitive teasing. Bankruptcy with a one year old at home, then a rebuild that ended with the twenty-first fastest growing company in the country. And a marriage that worked from the outside while quietly eroding underneath. The Brotherhood is currently accepting interviews. Register at thebrotherhoodsociety.com Connect with Alex: Instagram: instagram.com/alexcharfen Facebook: facebook.com/alexcharfen1 TikTok: tiktok.com/@thealexcharfen Website: charfen.com Podcast: Masculine Containment podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masculine-containment/id1872558844

    The Cycle Almost Every Couple Runs Without Naming It | Alex Charfen
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