SG² Steve Gladen on Small Groups

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Small group leaders, pastors, and more discussing strategies for growth and community in church groups. The Small Group Network is an international ministry that equips churches to engage in deeper discipleship and community.

  1. 2D AGO

    5 Ways We Can All Lead Better

    Subscribe and Connect with the Small Group Network Thank you for tuning in! Don't forget to subscribe to our podcast on your favorite platform. For more resources and to join the small group community, visit smallgroupnetwork.com.  THE MENDOZA STORY130 schools said no.He led the losingest program in college football history to a national championship anyway.Fernando Mendoza was a 2-star recruit from Miami. He tried to walk on at his hometown school. They passed.So did FIU.So did FAU.So did everyone else. At 17, he was sitting in his bedroom, crying over a silent recruiting inbox—after driving to 18 camps with his dad and sending highlights to more than 100 programs.Not one FBS offer.His only option? Yale. No scholarship. No NFL path. Everyone told him to be “realistic.”“Know your place.”“Be grateful.”He didn’t listen.Because Mendoza understood something most people miss:The worst outcome isn’t failing.It’s never getting the chance to try. Two weeks before signing day in 2022, his phone rang.Cal needed a body. One offer. Out of 134 schools.He took it.He arrived as the third-string quarterback.Spent a year on the scout team.Lost his first four starts.Got sacked 41 times behind a broken offensive line. Still got up. Every time.Then Cal brought in a transfer instead of building around him.So Mendoza left the only school that had ever said yes.He transferred to Indiana—the losingest program in college football history. People laughed.“Career suicide.”“Graveyard program.”“Nobody wins there.”One coach told him something different:“I’m going to make you the best Fernando Mendoza possible.”That was enough.Mendoza wasn’t just playing for football.His mother has battled multiple sclerosis for 18 years. Before every snap, he thought of her.“My mother is my why.”Indiana went 16–0.Beat six Top-10 teams.Won their first Big Ten title since 1945.Mendoza threw 41 touchdowns.Won the Heisman—first in school history.First Cuban-American to ever do it. Then came the title game.Miami. Near his hometown.Fourth-and-4. Season on the line.Quarterback draw.The kid 134 schools rejected spun through defenders and dove into the end zone. Game over.Indiana—national champions.The losingest program became the best team in America.All because a 17-year-old refused to believe “no” was the end. Rankings don’t decide your ceiling.Gatekeepers don’t write your ending.Being overlooked isn’t a verdict—it’s a starting point. Sometimes all you need is one shot…and the courage to bet on yourself when nobody else will.Don’t quit. 00:00 Thank You for Listening!18:31 Subscribe for More Content18:35 Join the Small Group Network18:43 See You Next Time! ★ Support this podcast ★

    29 min
  2. 10/01/2025

    10 Ideas For Engaging Upset Members

    10 Practical Steps for Handling Upset Individuals in Small Group Ministry In this episode of SG Squared, Pastor Steve Gladen, with over 25 years of small group ministry experience, and his co-host Derek discuss valuable advice on managing upset individuals within small group ministry. The conversation includes light-hearted pre-show banter about their college football teams, but focuses deeply on equipping listeners with 10 practical tips for dealing with conflict. Key points discussed include listening actively, validating feelings, offering practical support, and much more. The episode concludes with the importance of patience and understanding that not all conflict situations will be resolved immediately. Listen in to gain essential tools to foster peaceful and empathetic conversations within your ministry. 10 Tips For Tough Conversations (and to download the full notes click HERE) Start the time in prayer.Make the meeting in a quiet public placeListen actively and empathetically: Allow the member to express their feelings without interruption or judgment. Show that you are truly hearing them by nodding, making eye contact, and offering verbal affirmations like "I understand" or "That sounds really tough."Validate their feelings: Let them know that their feelings are understandable given the situation. You can say something like, "It makes sense that you feel [upset emotion] about this" or "I can see why you'd be frustrated." Get to a place where you can express that "feelings" aren't "facts".Offer practical support (if appropriate): Ask if there's anything they are looking for to be done. This could help you know how extreme they are coming from or they just may want to be heard. You can help them brainstorm solutions, or simply pray with them.Suggest a distraction or activity: Sometimes a change of scenery or a fun activity can help shift their mood. This could be going for a walk, watching a movie, or doing something they enjoy. However, be sensitive to their readiness for this and don't push it if they prefer to talk. A prayer meditation time may bring another perspective.  BBasically focus on Jesus versus the situation.Remind them of your support: Reassure them that you care about them and are there for them. A simple "I'm here for you" or "You're not alone in this" can be very powerful.Encourage self-care: Suggest activities that might help them relax and de-stress, like taking a quiet time, listening to music, or getting some rest.Avoid minimizing their feelings: Don't say things like "It's not that big of a deal" or "You're overreacting." Even if the issue seems small to you, it's significant to them.Don't offer unsolicited advice: Unless they specifically ask for your opinion or solutions, focus on listening and validating. Sometimes people just need to vent.Share a relevant experience (briefly and cautiously): If you've gone through something similar, you might briefly share your experience to show solidarity, but avoid making the conversation about you.Be patient: It can take time for someone to process their emotions. Continue to check in with them and offer support as they navigate their feelings. 00:00 Welcome to SG Squared00:21 Pre-Show Banter and Game Week Excitement03:24 Addressing National Tensions and Church Relevance04:17 Setting Up for Practical Tips11:04 10 Practical Tips for Handling Upset People28:07 Bonus Tips and Final Thoughts33:09 Closing Remarks and Subscription Reminder ★ Support this podcast ★

    34 min
  3. 09/03/2025

    SGN Update #3 & 10 Things That Could Be A Part Of Your Group Guidelines

    SGN Update #3 & 10 Things That Could Be A Part Of Your Group Guidelines Join hosts Steve Gladen and Derek Olson for a lively and insightful episode packed with updates from the Small Group Network and a practical deep dive into crafting effective small group guidelines. Steve shares the latest on SGN’s mission, new initiatives, and the ongoing effort to end loneliness among pastors and church members. Then, the duo unpacks 10 essential elements you can include in your group’s guidelines, drawing from decades of small group ministry experience. Whether you’re launching a new group or looking to strengthen an existing one, this episode is full of wisdom, humor, and actionable tips. Chapters & Timestamps: [00:00] Introduction & BanterDerek and Steve kick off with some friendly sports rivalry, coffee cup confessions, and updates on Steve’s “office on wheels.”[04:18] SGN Update: New Initiatives & State RepsSteve shares exciting news about SGN’s 501(c)(3) status, upcoming Bible engagement resources, and the push to recruit state representatives to combat loneliness and resource churches nationwide.[09:35] How to Get InvolvedLearn how you can become a state rep, make an impact, and connect with Steve directly.[10:55] Why Group Guidelines MatterThe hosts explain the importance of group covenants/guidelines and how they set expectations for healthy, thriving small groups.[12:17] 10 Things That Could Be Part of Your Group GuidelinesClear Purpose – Define your group’s mission and goals.Group Attendance – Commit to regular, intentional meetings.Safe Environment – Foster a space where everyone feels comfortable sharing.Confidentiality – Build trust by keeping group discussions private (with legal exceptions).Conflict Resolution – Handle disagreements biblically and directly.Spiritual Health – Encourage accountability and growth in faith.Limit Our Freedom – Be sensitive to others’ backgrounds and struggles.Welcome Newcomers – Keep your group open and inviting.Building Relationships – Go deeper through authentic community and subgrouping.Teamwork – Involve everyone in the group’s life and mission.[32:56] Final Thoughts & EncouragementSteve and Derek wrap up with practical advice for customizing your group guidelines and a reminder to revisit them regularly.[37:01] How to Become a State LeaderSteve outlines the proactive and reactive roles of a state leader and invites passionate listeners to join the mission.[37:01] Closing & Call to ActionDon’t forget to subscribe and visit smallgroupnetwork.com for more resources, support, and opportunities to connect.Ready to take your small group to the next level?Explore more resources and join the community at https://smallgroupnetwork.com! ★ Support this podcast ★

    38 min
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Small group leaders, pastors, and more discussing strategies for growth and community in church groups. The Small Group Network is an international ministry that equips churches to engage in deeper discipleship and community.

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