Guy Shrink

Bill Roman
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Welcome to Guy Shrink, a bi-weekly podcast where we discuss guy stuff, hosted by Bill Roman, MA, LPC. You know, the stuff that rolls around in your head, keeps you up at night, gives you heartburn and sometimes makes you say, "what was i thinking?" We've all been there, and at times we stay there longer than we intended and certainly longer than what's good for us. Bill is a Licensed Professional Counselor, in Toledo, Ohio - the Glass City, where most of his practice is devoted to men who are trying to figure out life's big questions and little annoyances. On the show, Bill will interview people who can offer a voice and opinion about what's bothering us. "I want to talk about stuff that never in a million years would we seek out a therapist for but we might open up to a buddy. I'm pretty well-convinced life is more than a DIY project." If what you hear is helpful or even annoying let me know by dropping me a line at bill @ guy shrink .com or check out the website. Also, if you've got a problem and want some help, let me know, too. All mail is confidential so you'll never have to worry about getting outed. `So, listen up as you're working out, driving the car, or just sitting down.

  1. DEC 9

    The Addictive Science of Revenge | Dan Schaefer | Episode 32

    Ever fantasized about getting even? You're not alone — and it turns out revenge isn't just satisfying… It's literally addictive. Clinical psychologists Bill Roman & Dan Schaefer dive deep into: Why revenge triggers the same dopamine rush as cocaine How harboring resentment is a "behavioral addiction" (new brain science!) The dark reason Hollywood revenge movies (John Wick, Kill Bill, Gladiator) make billions Why "venting" your anger actually makes it worse The one thing that finally breaks the cycle: forgiveness (and it's harder than it sounds) If you've ever replayed "that moment" in your head, chopped wood while imagining someone's face, or cheered when the bad guy finally gets it — this episode is for you. Listen now wherever you get podcasts: search "GuyShrink" 🎧 Apple | Spotify | YouTube #Guyshrink #Revenge #Psychology #Dopamine #Forgiveness #MentalHealthForMen

    44 min

  2. OCT 27

    Wired Differently: Unpacking Men and Women in Relationships | Jan Meyer | Episode 31

    On the latest episode of the Guy Shrink Podcast, host Bill Roman welcomes seasoned therapist Jan Meyer to explore the fundamental differences between men and women in relationships. With over 50 years of friendship and professional expertise, Jan shares insights from her practice and personal life, highlighting how men often focus on solutions and efficiency, while women prioritize emotional connection and relational understanding. She discusses how men tend to let go of issues quickly, whereas women may dwell on them, leading to communication gaps—like when a husband forgets a morning disagreement by evening, leaving his partner still processing. Jan emphasizes the importance of recognizing these differences, noting that stereotypes hold true about 80% of the time, and encourages couples to study these distinctions to improve mutual understanding. Jan delves into practical strategies for bridging these gaps, such as women clearly stating whether they need a listener or a problem-solver, and men learning to validate feelings rather than jumping to fix issues. She introduces the concept of men having "drawers" in their brains, handling one issue at a time, while women's thoughts are interconnected, often leading to misunderstandings. Using analogies like men as "hunters" and women as "shoppers," Jan illustrates how men seek direct solutions, while women explore options relationally. The episode wraps with a call to honor these innate differences, with Jan's elevator pitch urging couples to understand that neither partner intends to create conflict—it's simply a matter of wiring.    Connect with the Guy Shrink Podcast across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

    41 min

  3. OCT 2

    Symphony as Antidote: How Music Sharpens the Male Mind | Zak Vassar | Episode 30

    In this engaging episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill Rothman sits down with Zak Vassar, CEO of the Toledo Symphony Orchestra, to explore why men should embrace the symphony as a powerful antidote to the chaos of modern life. Vassar shares his passion for classical music, emphasizing its ability to cut through the noise of "doomscrolling" and digital distractions, offering a visceral and authentic experience that fosters emotional depth and presence. From the transformative power of live performances to their role in enhancing leadership skills, this episode highlights how symphonic music can inspire men to feel deeply, think differently, and reconnect with what truly matters. Vassar recommends three must-hear works—Beethoven's Ninth Symphony, Shostakovich's Fifth Symphony, and Tchaikovsky's Sixth Symphony—for their profound narratives of resilience, defiance, and vulnerability. These pieces, he argues, resonate with the male psyche, addressing struggles like anxiety, professional pressures, and personal identity. By attending a symphony, men can escape the urgency of daily life, tap into a primal connection, and walk away sharper and more grounded. Tune in to discover how the symphony can be a game-changer for mental clarity and emotional strength.   Connect with the Guy Shrink Podcast across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

    50 min

  4. AUG 28

    The Power of Questioning Your Thoughts: A Guy's Guide to Better Thinking | Chris Niebaur, Tim Lusch, Jordan Valdiviez| Episode 29

    In this episode of GuyShrink, host Bill Roman and guests Tim Lusch, Chris Niebaur, and Jordan Valdiviez delve into epistemology—the study of how we know what we know—and why men should critically examine their thinking processes. Drawing from his background in neuroscience, Chris explains how the brain often confabulates explanations for actions, as seen in split-brain studies, and how many thoughts aren't truly our own, urging awareness to avoid detachment from reality. Tim emphasizes staying grounded in truth to extract meaning from life and avoid self-deception, while Jordan highlights the shift from automatic, culturally influenced thinking to deliberate modes fostered by mentors, community, and institutions (though critiquing their current failures). The discussion critiques wokeism as a power-serving ideology, praises Peter Boghossian's street epistemology for challenging beliefs, and explores truth as objective rather than subjective, warning against conflating feelings with facts. The conversation also touches on practical ways to improve thinking, such as reading widely (and multiple books simultaneously), writing to clarify ideas, and engaging in Socratic dialogue. They stress the dangers of unchecked ideologies, cancel culture in academia, and the value of virtues like courage and wisdom for pursuing truth.   Connect with the Guy Shrink Podcast across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

    53 min

  5. AUG 22

    Now What? Navigating Retirement, Empty Nests, and Life's Next Chapter | Joe Gerhardinger | Episode 28

    In this episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill Roman discusses retirement's challenges with guest Joe Gerhardinger, a retired math and astronomy teacher from an all-girls Catholic school in Toledo, Ohio. After 25+ fulfilling years, including teaching his own daughters, Joe chose to "graduate" alongside his youngest child, recognizing he'd peaked and sought new adventures. He faces the "double whammy" of retiring amid becoming an empty nester, which leads to sleepless nights filled with questions about purpose, potential, and whether he's squandering opportunities. Joe tried handyman work, school scheduling gigs, and subbing—but realized teaching was behind him, emphasizing self-reflection and avoiding job-defined identity. Drawing from astronomy's "averted vision," Joe advises patience in seeking meaning without chasing "passion" or constant rapture; instead, aim for rapport with the world and a sense of responsibility. References to Viktor Frankl, Stephen Covey, and John Updike enrich the talk on redefining fulfillment. Perfect for those navigating career shifts or empty nests—listen for wisdom on embracing the journey. Connect with the Guy Shrink Podcast across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

    38 min

  6. JUL 15

    The Power of Choice: Redefining Pornography Recovery | Jordan Keefe | Episode 27

    In this  episode of GuyShrink, host Bill Roman reconnects with Jordan Keefe, an entrepreneur and coach who shares insights from his nomadic RV lifestyle and his work helping men overcome pornography addiction through his program, "Take a Break from Porn." Jordan discusses the challenge of letting go of the need to control unpredictable outcomes in life, drawing parallels to the entrepreneurial experience. It introduces his approach to addressing pornography use as a choice rather than an uncontrollable addiction, rooted in managing anxiety or boredom. Jordan outlines his coaching strategies, emphasizing mindful breathing to reduce reactivity, tracking urges to identify patterns, and providing a safe space for emotional expression to alleviate underlying pressures. He advocates for embracing boredom and building mental resilience, illustrated by an exercise where clients lie down in a grocery store aisle to confront discomfort. Critiquing reliance on external tools like porn blockers, Jordan encourages internal emotional work and invites listeners to explore resources at takeabreakfromporn.com to start their journey toward change. Learn more about Jordan Keefe at his website: https://takeabreakfromporn.org/  Connect with us across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

    45 min

  7. JUN 24

    Facing the Silent Fight: Prostate Cancer and the Power of Attitude | Matt Kutz | Episode 26

    In this deeply personal episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill Roman sits down with his friend Matt Kutz, a professor at Florida International University, to discuss a life-altering diagnosis of advanced metastatic prostate cancer. Matt shares his journey from being an active, symptom-free athlete to facing a challenging reality that affects not only him but his family. With candid vulnerability, he opens up about the emotional and physical toll of treatments, the stigma surrounding prostate cancer, and the importance of routine checkups. Matt also introduces his initiative, Battle for the Bulge, aimed at raising awareness and supporting prostate cancer research. This episode is a powerful reminder to prioritize health, embrace a positive attitude, and lean on community in the face of adversity. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience and hope. Connect with us across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

    32 min

  8. JUN 3

    Off Autopilot: Embracing a Philosophical Life | Tim Lusch | Episode 25

    In the season premiere of Guy Shrink, host Bill Roman welcomes back friend Tim Lusch for a deep dive into why every man should embrace philosophy. This episode explores the concept of living intentionally in a distracted world. Tim shares how a personal crisis at 21, sparked by his father's 20-year affair, led him to question his identity and purpose, finding answers through philosophy and mentorship. Drawing on the insights of Stoic thinkers like Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius, as well as the resilience of figures such as Jim Stockdale, they discuss navigating existential crises, from daily routines to life-altering events. The conversation touches on the suicide of Fandango founder Michael Klein, reflecting on what keeps us grounded. Tim emphasizes the importance of staying off "autopilot" to live fully, offering practical insights on morning routines, self-examination, and learning from literature such as *A Man for All Seasons* and *The Moviegoer*. A compelling call to ask big questions and live with purpose. Connect with us across all platforms here: https://linktr.ee/guyshrink

    37 min
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Welcome to Guy Shrink, a bi-weekly podcast where we discuss guy stuff, hosted by Bill Roman, MA, LPC. You know, the stuff that rolls around in your head, keeps you up at night, gives you heartburn and sometimes makes you say, "what was i thinking?" We've all been there, and at times we stay there longer than we intended and certainly longer than what's good for us. Bill is a Licensed Professional Counselor, in Toledo, Ohio - the Glass City, where most of his practice is devoted to men who are trying to figure out life's big questions and little annoyances. On the show, Bill will interview people who can offer a voice and opinion about what's bothering us. "I want to talk about stuff that never in a million years would we seek out a therapist for but we might open up to a buddy. I'm pretty well-convinced life is more than a DIY project." If what you hear is helpful or even annoying let me know by dropping me a line at bill @ guy shrink .com or check out the website. Also, if you've got a problem and want some help, let me know, too. All mail is confidential so you'll never have to worry about getting outed. `So, listen up as you're working out, driving the car, or just sitting down.

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  • Creator
    Bill Roman
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    33
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    Guy Shrink