In this episode of Let’s Parent on Purpose, Jay sits down with Dr. Charles Fay, president of the Love and Logic Institute, to explore how Christian parents can raise spiritually strong kids through intentional discipleship, biblical principles, and practical parenting strategies. Dr. Fay explains how the Love and Logic® approach combines love with healthy boundaries, appropriate choices, accountability, and opportunities for children to experience the consequences of their decisions. Rather than rescuing children from every struggle or controlling them through fear and threats, parents can help their children develop wisdom, responsibility, self control, and the ability to make good decisions from the inside out. Most importantly, Dr. Fay emphasizes that effective parenting techniques are not a substitute for the gospel. Christian parents are called to model authentic faith, point their children toward Jesus, and depend on the Holy Spirit as they seek to disciple their children. Jay and Dr. Fay get especially practical, discussing chores, allowance, serving others, freedom, failure, sports, and the pressures of competitive and travel sports. They explore how everyday responsibilities can teach children to serve, how limited resources can help them learn wise financial decisions, and how gradually increasing freedom prepares them for adulthood. Dr. Fay also challenges parents to evaluate whether activities and commitments are helping their family glorify God or becoming idols that compete for their time, attention, and affection. Throughout the conversation, parents are encouraged to focus on what they can control: their own faithfulness, their example, their conversations about Jesus, and their willingness to turn back to God when they fail. This episode offers Christian moms and dads practical encouragement for raising spiritually strong children who develop authentic faith, character, responsibility, and a heart for serving others. Takeaways • Lead with love, empathy, boundaries, and accountability rather than fear or control. • Give children age appropriate choices and gradually increase their freedom as they demonstrate responsibility. • Allow children to experience manageable failures while they are still at home and under your guidance. • Use everyday chores as opportunities to teach children the joy and responsibility of serving others. • Use allowance as practice for learning how to earn, save, spend, and manage money wisely. • Evaluate sports and extracurricular activities by asking whether they are helping your family glorify God or becoming an idol. • Model authentic faith by admitting when you fail, asking for forgiveness, and turning back to Jesus. • Focus on what you can control rather than attempting to control your child’s spiritual decisions. • Remember that parenting strategies are tools, while Jesus and the work of the Holy Spirit remain at the center of Christian parenting. About Seth Troutt Charles Fay, PhD, is an internationally recognized author, consultant, and public speaker and serves as president of the Love and Logic Institute. He has spent decades helping parents, educators, and mental health professionals address challenging behaviors in children and teens through practical, research based solutions shaped by his clinical experience. Introduced to Love and Logic from childhood through the work of his father, Jim Fay, Charles went on to earn his PhD with highest honors from the University of South Carolina and became a leading voice in parenting and child development. He is the author of Raising Spiritually Strong Kids, where he combines biblical principles with the Love and Logic approach to help parents raise children who develop authentic faith, wisdom, responsibility, and strong character. Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcasting Network. For more information, visit www.ChristianParenting.org Resources & Links: Grab a copy of Raising Spiritually Strong Kids: How to Apply Biblical Principles with Love and Logic® to Bring Up Children Who Live with Authentic Faith on Amazon or through their websiteFollow Dr. Charles Fay: Love and Logic | Facebook | Instagram | X | YouTube More Resources & Links: Get Jay's new devotional, Renewed: The 365-Day Christian Gratitude Journal Use it solo, with your small group, or as a family for daily Scripture-based prompts to foster gratitude and closeness to Christ.Text "THINGS" to 66866 for free high-quality resources from Jay, including fun family conversations, a 52-week Scripture memory system, dating questions for kids, marriage tools, and more.Check out www.youthministry.coachDaily Devotional Podcast Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.netJoin my Things for Thursday Email List and get a free Marriage Snapshot Tool and Fun Family Conversation Ebook! Support Let’s Parent on Purpose as we help families thrive through the gospel: https://letsparentonpurpose.com/support/
