Every family hands something on. Not just property or a business, but a way of speaking to one another, a set of habits, the things we talk about and the things we have silently agreed never to raise. Some of that was built on purpose. Most of it was not. And one day, without any announcement, you find that you are no longer the one receiving the culture of your family. You are the one responsible for it. My guest today puts the question this way: what kind of ancestor am I becoming? Josh Gentine advises families who own businesses and manage shared wealth. He is hired for governance and succession and estate planning, but none of it works until a family can actually talk honestly to one another. Corporations spend millions building psychological safety on their teams. Almost no one spends anything building it at home. Most families, Josh says, are not broken. They are circling each other at altitude, waiting for someone to go first. What draws me back to Josh's newsletter is that the human heart is always at the center. The complexity is financial and legal, but underneath it is the same thing underneath every family: we would rather keep the peace than risk the conversation, and that peace is not really peace. So this episode is for business leaders, certainly. But it is just as much for parents, for anyone caring for aging parents, for anyone who has moved from being mentored to being the mentor, and for anyone who suspects that what they will pass along is the life they lived rather than the advice they gave. Josh Gentine is the founder and president of Bench Consulting, where he guides enterprising families through generational change. He is a third-generation owner and board member at his family's company, Sargento Foods, and he teaches part-time with the Family Enterprise Center at UNC Kenan-Flagler Business School. He studied finance at Notre Dame and later spent a year at Moreau Seminary discerning the priesthood, a story he tells in this episode. He is also, I am proud to say, my classmate in the Notre Dame Class of 2003. He and his wife, Meredith, are raising their two children in Charlottesville, Virginia. Follow-up Resources: Bench Consulting, where Josh and his team work with enterprising families on alignment, transitions, and conflict.Read Josh's newsletter, Family Matters, including the "Monetary Policy" edition that prompted this conversation."The Monastery, the Boardroom, and Daily Life, with John Cannon," (also class of 2003, by the way) podcast episode via Church Life Today"What is College Really for? Notre Dame's Experiment in Holistic Education, with Bill Mattison," podcast episode via Church Life Today"Nationwide Study on Faith and Relationships, with J.P. De Gance," podcast episode via Church Life Today"Envy: The Anti-Life Sin, and Its Cure, with Michon Matthiesen," podcast episode via Church Life Today"Jesus Changes Everything: What About Wealth?" by Stanley Hauerwas, article via Church Life Journal"Día de los Muertos and the Prayer Over the Offerings," by Leonard J. DeLorenzo, article via Church Life JournalChurch Life Today is a partnership between the McGrath Institute for Church Life at the University of Notre Dame and OSV Podcasts from Our Sunday Visitor. Discover more ways to live, learn, and love your Catholic faith at osvpodcasts.com. Sharing stories, starting conversations.