Choose YOU! Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Carmen Sakurai
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Support, validation, and actionable tools to help you move beyond narcissistic abuse and back to your authentic self. Hosted by Certified Trauma-Informed Master Life Coach, best-selling author, and survivor advocate Carmen Sakurai. chooseyou.substack.com

  1. Apr 23

    #19: Why Do They Treat Everyone Else Better Than Me?

    We’re Talking About: Why it feels like narcissists give everyone else kindness, attention, and warmth — but not you — and what’s really going on beneath that dynamic. If you feel like you’re reaching the end of your rope, call the 24-hr National Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. In an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. 💌 Was this Show Helpful? Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you! Join the Discussion at: https://chooseyou.substack.com/p/choose-you-19 Download on iTunes | Spotify Watch on YouTube Music: Dreaming by Silicon Estate 🤍 Get full access to Choose YOU! with Carmen Sakurai at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    9 min

  2. Jan 5

    #18: Narcissism Is NOT What TikTok Makes It Sound Like

    We’re Talking About: The real differences between regular toxic behavior, pathological narcissism, and narcissistic abuse If you feel like you’re reaching the end of your rope, call the 24-hr National Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. In an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. 💌 Was this Show Helpful? Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you! Join the Discussion at: https://chooseyou.substack.com/p/260105 Download on iTunes | SpotifyWatch on YouTube Music: Dreaming by Silicon Estate 🤍 Get full access to Choose YOU! with Carmen Sakurai at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    11 min

  3. 04/29/2020

    #17: Surviving Quarantine With a Narcissist

    Download on iTunes We're Talking About: I’ll give you some coping strategies to help survive COVID 19 lock down while living with a narcissist or other toxic people Tools & Resources from This Episode: * Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/ * No Contact guide https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/ * Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/ * Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/ National Domestic Violence Hotline * Website https://www.thehotline.org/help/ * Phone: 1-800-799-7233 * Chat: https://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/ * My Plan App: https://www.myplanapp.org/home If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. 📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://carmensakurai.com 💌 Was this Show Helpful? Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you! Get full access to Choose YOU! with Carmen Sakurai at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    14 min

  4. 04/29/2020

    #16: Surviving Self Isolation During COVID-19

    Download on iTunes We're Talking About: * Strategies to help survive the COVID 19 self isolation, while taking care of your mental and emotional health. Tools & Resources from This Episode: * Boundaries cheat sheet: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12700/ * No Contact guide: https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12709/ * Free workout list https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12712/ * Quarantine schedule https://npd.carmensakurai.com/download/12715/ If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. 📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP! https://carmensakurai.com/video-coach 📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://carmensakurai.com/ 💌 Was this Show Helpful? Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you! Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Choose YOU! with Carmen Sakurai at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    11 min

  5. 04/14/2020

    #15: Should I Feel Sorry for the Narcissist?

    Download on iTunes We're Talking About: * I'm frequently asked by survivors if instead of going no contact, they should try and understand the hows and whys the narcissist in their life became that way... and if they should stick around to give the narcissist the love, compassion, and patience they seem to lack in their lives. Tools & Resources from This Episode: * Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. 📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP! https://carmensakurai.com/video-coach 📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://carmensakurai.com 💌 Was this Show Helpful? Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you! Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Choose YOU! with Carmen Sakurai at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    4 min

  6. 01/21/2020

    #14: Victim Blaming, Re-Traumatization, and 4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs

    Download on iTunes We're Talking About: * I will be addressing some important issues regarding victim shaming and victim blaming, and how those who are not familiar with NPD abuse inadvertently re-traumatize survivors. * 4 Victim Shaming False Beliefs * And more… Tools & Resources from This Episode: * Subscribe to the Free Survivors Support Email List If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. 📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP! https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice 📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://carmensakurai.com 💌 Was this Show Helpful? Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you! Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Choose YOU! with Carmen Sakurai at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    10 min

  7. 06/22/2019

    #13: Symptoms of NPD Abuse and Common Characteristics of Abuse Victims

    Download on iTunes We're Talking About: * Quick review of what Cognitive Dissonance is * 8 of the most common damages caused by narcissists * 12 common characteristics of NPD abuse victims * ... and more Tools & Resources from This Episode: * Grab Your Worksheet THIS WORKSHEET INCLUDES… * Damages Caused by Narcissists * Common Characteristics of Victims of Narcissistic Abuse * A Printout to Remind You that YOU are the Source of Your Love, Strength, and Identity… not the narc. * Carmen’s 20-Month Long Distance Relationship with a Narcissist If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. 📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP! https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice 📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://carmensakurai.com 💌 Was this Show Helpful? Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you! Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Choose YOU! with Carmen Sakurai at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    10 min
  8. #12: Tips for Dealing with Narcissists in the Workplace

    06/15/2019

    #12: Tips for Dealing with Narcissists in the Workplace

    Download on iTunes We're Talking About: * I'll be covering some strategies to help working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable * What a narcissistic boss or coworker looks like * 10 tips to help make working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable * When you should call it "quits" * ... and more If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. 📺 NEW! Quickie Video Response Mini-Coaching Does your relationship leave you feeling unheard, confused, invalidated, drained, and depressed? Are you looking for validation? Talk to me. I'll send you back a 3-5 minute personal video advice to help you eliminate doubts and take that important NEXT STEP! https://carmensakurai.com/video-advice 📚 NPD Abuse Recovery Courses, Coaching, & Free Resources After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same. https://carmensakurai.com 💌 Was this Show Helpful? Please leave a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback. Thank you! Survivors' Pocket Coaching is a reader-supported publication. Join us as a free or paid subscriber today! Get full access to Choose YOU! Pocket Coaching at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Choose YOU! with Carmen Sakurai at chooseyou.substack.com/subscribe

    11 min
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Support, validation, and actionable tools to help you move beyond narcissistic abuse and back to your authentic self. Hosted by Certified Trauma-Informed Master Life Coach, best-selling author, and survivor advocate Carmen Sakurai. chooseyou.substack.com

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