The Authentic Man Podcast with David Chambers: Dating, Relationship, Masculinity & Intimacy Guidance For Men

David Chambers - Men's Dating & Relationship Coach
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Have you done the work on yourself, but still find yourself stuck or repeating the same patterns in relationships? The Authentic Man with David Chambers is for men who feel disconnected, confused, or frustrated in dating, intimacy, and relationships, even if they're successful in other areas of life. If you've done the work but still find yourself struggling to communicate, feeling emotionally disconnected, overthinking, shutting down when it matters, pulling away, or repeating the same psychological patterns in relationships, this podcast helps you understand what's really keeping you stuck and how to change it. Through solo episodes and conversations with leading experts in psychology, relationships, and masculinity, David breaks down the hidden patterns and mistakes men make that lead to disconnection, lack of intimacy, and frustration, and shows you how to lead with clarity, express yourself fully, and create deeper emotional and sexual connection. For high-performing and professional men in their 30s and 40s who are ready to build strong, connected relationships through grounded, healthy masculine presence. New episodes every Wednesday and Sunday. Find out more at www.TheAuthenticMan.net & https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_. Book a free call: https://linktw.in/fvhwMU

  1. 1d ago

    Avoidant Men Series: I Can't Ask For Help

    If you can't ask for help , it's not strength — it's hyper independence  running your avoidant attachment . You go quiet, handle it alone, and she feels shut out. In this episode I break why asking felt dangerous as a kid, the 3 vague ways men ask that get rejected, and what it costs you, her, and the relationship. Then I give you my 3-sentence script to ask without feeling weak, plus 5 small bicep-curl practices to build interdependence.   Chapters  00:00 You tell her you're fine while you drown alone  01:12 Why asking for help felt dangerous as a kid  03:45 The 3 terrible ways you ask when you finally do  06:20 What it costs you — isolated, overwhelmed, no deep mates  08:10 What it costs her — no place in your life 09:30 What it costs the relationship — disconnection  10:30 Life is a team sport — interdependence + 5 bicep curls     RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

  2. 4d ago

    A Generation Of Boys Grew Up Without Role Models — This Is What It Made Them

    I sat across from a man who was nearly stabbed three times and it changed nothing — because the thing killing him was never outside him. David Patrick Farrell spent his twenties in addiction, debt collecting and armed robbery, chasing a masculinity he'd learned from criminals instead of a father. Then, at 5am on the 18th of March 2019, everything broke open. We talk about the moment that actually changed him, why he refuses the phrase "toxic masculinity", what real brotherhood does that a gang never could, and how men learn to feel emotion without letting it run them. David Patrick Farrell is a global leader in men's work and transformational facilitation. With a background in Counselling & Psychotherapy, Psychosomatic Therapy, and Shadow Work, his approach bridges clinical depth, embodied practice, and grounded spiritual insight. Over the past decade, David has guided men's circles, rites-of-passage journeys, and immersive retreats across multiple continents, working with thousands of men from all walks of life. His work creates spaces where truth can be spoken, emotional intelligence restored, and real personal responsibility reclaimed. Known for his clarity, presence, and uncompromising integrity, David is recognised for his ability to hold deep emotional processes, catalyse profound inner breakthroughs, and lead groups through lasting, embodied change—not just insight. Rooted in devotion, purpose, and faith, his work calls men to rise to a higher standard of leadership, courage, and authenticity - within themselves, their families, and the wider world. His authority is earned through lived experience, deep inner work, and a lifelong commitment to walking his own path first.   Key Topics: ⭐ Brotherhood, Community & Men's Work ⭐ Intergenerational Trauma & Breaking Patterns ⭐ Masculinity, Identity & Male Role Models ⭐ Emotional Expression, Vulnerability & Healing ⭐ Accountability, Integrity & Personal Growth ⭐ Addiction Recovery & Life Transformation ⭐ Relationships, Communication & Conflict Repair ⭐ Purpose, Self-Leadership & Lasting Change   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe   Connect With David Patrick Farrell: David Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidpatrickfarrell/ David Website: https://www.davidpatrickfarrell.com/   ___________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

  3. Sep 13 ·  Video

    Avoidant Men Series: 3 Reasons You Have A Sexless Relationship

    1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 hello@theauthenticman.net 2️⃣ The Flatmate Fix - 16th Sept 7.30pm UK time 👉🏾  https://linktwin.co/ysqjwt   If your marriage feels sexless or stuck in a dead bedroom, you're not broken and she's not cold — you've become flatmates not lovers.    For avoidant men, sex doesn't die in the bedroom, it dies long before, when emotional safety collapses. In this episode of The Authentic Man Podcast, David Chambers breaks down 3 invisible reasons intimacy shuts down — shutdown, pursuit-withdrawal, and performance pressure — and why fixing technique never works.    Understand where you disappeared and how to bring desire back. Plus the one shift that restores safety so she reaches for you again.   ____________   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

  4. Sep 9 ·  Video

    Why Your Partner Doesn't Trust You (Even Though You've Never Lied)"

    You've never lied to her. You've never cheated. So why does she still not feel safe with you? I sat down with former rabbi turned intimacy coach Ted Riter, and his answer hit hard: honesty is only level one of trust. Most men stop there. We unpack the 4 levels of trust — Words, Body, Heart, Soul — and why your emotional shutdown reads as dishonesty, even when you're telling the truth. Plus: how to fight with kindness, why 'curated vulnerability' kills intimacy, and the perimenopause conversation every man needs to hear. If you want to be truly trustable, start here. Ted Riter is a relationship and intimacy teacher, coach, and guide helping men, women, and couples build trust, repair conflict, and create deeper connection … with themselves, with others, and with the Divine.   Especially for high-functioning people who look "fine" on paper … and quietly feel lonely, disconnected, or stuck at home. Key Topics: ⭐ Trust & Emotional Safety ⭐ Masculinity & Men's Growth ⭐ Vulnerability & Emotional Expression ⭐ Intimacy, Connection & Relationships ⭐ Conflict, Communication & Trust Building ⭐ Desire, Sexuality & Lasting Attraction ⭐ Long-Term Love & Relationship Dynamics ⭐ Menopause, Partnership & Life Transitions   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Dr Ted Riter:  Ted Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tedritertalks/ Ted Website: https://www.tedriter.com/   ______________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

  5. Sep 6 ·  Video

    Avoidant Men Series: I Can't Express What I Feel — And It's Killing My Relationship

    1️⃣ Work with me by emailing me "99" 👉🏽 hello@theauthenticman.net 2️⃣ How I went from avoidant to secure: From Avoidant Attachment to Intimacy: A Guide for Men 3️⃣ Why you keep pulling away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page   If you can't express what you feel without guilt, shutting down, or going numb — this is why.  So many avoidant men want to say what they actually want, but in the moment the words disappear.  You people-please, keep the peace, then secretly resent her for not knowing what you never said.  In this episode I break down why communication in relationships feels so unsafe when you learned to hide need — and the 5 shifts to speak up, set boundaries, and be assertive without the guilt or the blow-up.    Chapters: 00:00 Why you go blank when she asks how you feel  02:28 What this episode will cover (Ep 4 - Avoidant Man Series)  05:50 The 3 hidden beliefs that keep you silent  07:50 Why speaking up felt dangerous as a boy  09:50 Why the world taught you your feelings don't matter  11:20 What silence is really costing you, her & the relationship  14:20 How to shift the belief and build capacity to stay  16:30 What happens when you actually get vulnerable  17:50 5 steps to say what you actually want (without guilt)  22:50 Bonus: How to repair after you shut down  24:00 Where to go from here   This is episode 4 of the Avoidant Man series. —  Want to do this work live with other men? RELATE is linked below. _____________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

  6. Sep 2 ·  Video

    Most Men Blame Their Testosterone — The Real Problem Is Shame, Not Hormones w/ Dr Ben Davis

    Is low testosterone really killing your sex drive — or is something deeper going on? In this episode, I sit down with Ben Davis to unpack the testosterone industry, what the numbers actually mean, and why so many men are chasing a hormonal fix for a psychological problem. We cover: • When low testosterone actually needs medical treatment (and what levels to look for)  • Why "more is better" thinking backfires  • The sponge analogy that explains why extra testosterone does nothing  • How sexual shame hijacks your sex drive — and what to do about it  • Natural ways to support healthy testosterone without TRT If you've ever worried your testosterone is too low or felt like something is "off" with your sex drive, this conversation is for you. 🎙️ The Authentic Man Podcast #testosteronetherapy #lowtestosterone #sexualshame #menmentalhealth #testosteronemyths   Dr Ben Davis is a private men's health GP in central London, with over 15 years of clinical experience and dual training in both men's health and psychosexual therapy. His approach is focused on helping men understand not just what is happening, but why — and supporting them in finding their way back to feeling like themselves again. Many of the men Dr Davis sees are busy, high-functioning, and accustomed to performing well in other areas of their lives. When something changes — whether it's energy, libido, erections, mood or confidence — it can feel confusing, frustrating, and difficult to talk about. Sometimes there is a clear symptom. Often, there isn't. Instead, there may simply be a persistent sense that something isn't quite right. Dr Davis believes that feeling is worth taking seriously — and that it is usually worth understanding properly. His role is to help men make sense of what is happening, clearly and thoughtfully, without oversimplifying the situation or jumping to quick fixes. Key Topics: ⭐ Testosterone, Hormones & Men's Health ⭐ Modern Masculinity & Male Identity ⭐ Sexual Desire, Libido & Attraction ⭐ Erectile Dysfunction & Sexual Performance ⭐ Sexual Shame & Male Vulnerability ⭐ Trauma, Anxiety & Emotional Health ⭐ Relationships, Intimacy & Connection ⭐ Communication & Sexual Expression ⭐ Healthy Masculinity & Self-Acceptance ⭐ Healing, Growth & Sexual Wellbeing   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Dr Ben Davis:  Ben Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbenuk/ Ben Website: https://drben.uk/   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

  7. Aug 30

    Avoidant Men Series: Why Do I Shut Down Emotionally

    She asks how you feel about something that matters — and your mind goes blank. Completely empty. You've got a hundred things you want to say, and you tell yourself it's fine, you don't need to say any of it. So you give her nothing. In this episode I break down what's actually happening in your nervous system when you shut down. It isn't weakness, and it isn't a lack of feeling — it's a protection strategy you built long before this relationship. You'll learn the belief that keeps you numb, why your silence reads as abandonment to her, and the five steps I used to come back out — catch it, ground it, name it, say it, and build the capacity. This is episode 3 of the Avoidant Men series.   chapters:  00:00 Why You Go Quiet When It Matters Most  00:54 The Deer In The Headlights Moment  01:29 I Lost My Voice — How I Destroyed 3 Relationships 02:49 The Belief That Keeps You Numb: "Your Feelings Are Too Much"  05:11 Where It Comes From — Emotional Neglect  07:37 The Damage: To You, To Her, To The Relationship  09:00 The New Belief: Your Feelings Do Matter  10:00 I Used To Lie To Avoid Her Tears  12:22 1. Catch It — Notice The Shutdown  12:50 2. Ground & Breathe — Regulate Your System  13:25 3. Name It — "I Feel Numb / Tight Chest"  14:10 4. Say What's Happening — Speak The Struggle  15:15 5. Build Capacity Daily — Like Learning A Language  16:00 6 & 7. Safe Spaces & Why Mistakes Are The Practice  17:06 Where To Go From Here   RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

  8. Aug 26 ·  Video

    36% Of Young Men Think No One Will Ever Love Them — Psychologist Explains Why

    36% of young men believe no one will ever love them. Dating app usage is falling. Synthetic relationships with AI are on the rise. This isn't just a cultural shift — it's a full-scale dating recession, and most men don't know why it's happening to them. In this episode of The Authentic Man Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Madeleine Mason-Rountree — chartered counselling psychologist and relationship expert — to unpack the real psychology behind why modern men are struggling to connect, date, and find lasting love. We cover: The data behind the dating recession and why it's worse than headlines suggest Why anxiety is the single biggest barrier men face in dating The rise of "synthetic relationships" and what AI companionship is doing to real connection The "centre of health" framework — how self-perception shapes who you attract Why vulnerability is your greatest dating asset, not a weakness Practical tools from relational life therapy to help you show up authentically If dating feels harder, more confusing, or just exhausting — this conversation is for you.   Dr Madeleine Roantree is a Chartered Counselling Psychologist registered with both the BPS and HCPC, with over 20 years' experience in mental health. Her clinical background includes extensive experience within the NHS, where she has supported individuals experiencing complex and enduring psychological difficulties. This work has provided her with a depth of experience in understanding not only psychological distress, but also what is required to facilitate meaningful and sustained change. Her training spans multiple evidence-based modalities, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy (DIT), Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), Trauma-Focused Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (TF-ACT), and ILF Neurofeedback. She integrates these approaches within a cohesive framework, tailoring her work to the unique needs of each individual or couple she supports.   Key Topics: ⭐ The Dating Recession & Modern Dating Challenges ⭐ Dating App Fatigue & Changing Relationship Trends ⭐ Anxiety, Rejection & Fear of Dating ⭐ Self-Worth, Confidence & Desirability ⭐ Victim Mindset vs Personal Accountability ⭐ Emotional Resilience & Managing Rejection ⭐ Vulnerability as the Foundation of Connection ⭐ Communication Skills & Building Attraction ⭐ Attachment, Intimacy & Healthy Relationships ⭐ Intentional Dating & Long-Term Relationship Success   Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe    Connect With Madeleine Roantree:  Madeleine Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.madeleineroantree/ Madeleine Website: https://madeleinemasonroantree.com/   ___________________ RELATE:    👉🏽 Where modern men reclaim depth, direction, and relational leadership. Join Relate: https://relatewaitlist.carrd.co/  ____________________ ____________________   What To Do Next:   1️⃣ Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ 2️⃣ Get specialised relationship and dating advice: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe 3️⃣ Go bag one of the resources below   ____________________ ____________________   🧨 RESOURCES 🧨    ✅ Modern dating feels impossible? It doesn't have to stay that way. The Men's Dating Accelerator, master the most important skills: https://www.theauthenticman.net/mda-landing-page-direct-update-v2    Check out these FREE resources:   👉🏽 5 mistakes in embodying healthy masculinity: https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/masculinity-mistakes-in-dating-giveaway  👉🏽 The Hidden Mistakes Men Make in Dating & Relationships: https://mailchi.mp/faaf98ceedd8/hiddenmistakes  👉🏽 30 Dating App Conversation Starters: https://www.theauthenticman.net/app-openers-landing-page  👉🏽 Why You Keep Pulling Away: https://www.theauthenticman.net/why-you-keep-pulling-away-page  👉🏽 Why you are REALLY fighting - https://mailchi.mp/theauthenticman/why-you-keep-fighting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=conflict-guide   ____________________     Loving the podcast? Leave us a review…   📱Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-authentic-man-podcast-with-david-chambers/id1447910686?action=write-review   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/64n26CAX3FIhJj7aMR2CO6    LIKE. SHARE. SUBSCRIBE.   Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed watching 👍   #relationship #dating #masculinity

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Have you done the work on yourself, but still find yourself stuck or repeating the same patterns in relationships? The Authentic Man with David Chambers is for men who feel disconnected, confused, or frustrated in dating, intimacy, and relationships, even if they're successful in other areas of life. If you've done the work but still find yourself struggling to communicate, feeling emotionally disconnected, overthinking, shutting down when it matters, pulling away, or repeating the same psychological patterns in relationships, this podcast helps you understand what's really keeping you stuck and how to change it. Through solo episodes and conversations with leading experts in psychology, relationships, and masculinity, David breaks down the hidden patterns and mistakes men make that lead to disconnection, lack of intimacy, and frustration, and shows you how to lead with clarity, express yourself fully, and create deeper emotional and sexual connection. For high-performing and professional men in their 30s and 40s who are ready to build strong, connected relationships through grounded, healthy masculine presence. New episodes every Wednesday and Sunday. Find out more at www.TheAuthenticMan.net & https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_. Book a free call: https://linktw.in/fvhwMU

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