Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

Andrea Giles
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Heal from Infidelity with Master Coach Andrea Giles is your guide to rebuilding after betrayal with grace and power. Through trauma-informed coaching, honest stories, and grounded wisdom, Andrea helps you move from pain to peace, from confusion to clarity. You'll learn to trust yourself again, lead with integrity, and create a life and love rooted in truth. Healing begins when you stop trying to fix him — and start reclaiming you. For more information, visit andreagiles.com.

  1. 5d ago

    Ask Andrea - Finding Clarity in the Middle of the Mess

    When you're in the middle of betrayal, confusion can feel overwhelming. You may question your reality, your instincts, and your ability to know what is true. In this special "Ask Andrea" episode, I answer listener questions about projection, reconciliation after decades of deception, lingering resentment, unmet emotional needs, staying for the children, and the powerful connection between your mind and body. I talk about why healing does not require immediate answers, how boundaries help you step out of the "courtroom," and why your body often knows the truth before your mind is ready to accept it. Most importantly, I want you to know that it is never too late to build a more truthful and peaceful life. In this episode, we cover: How to respond when blame and projection distort your reality Why understanding the meaning behind betrayal matters How to know if your needs are reasonable When staying for the children can be a healthy choice Why body-mind conflict can contribute to depression If you are navigating infidelity and searching for clarity, this episode will help you trust yourself and move forward with greater confidence. More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

    25 min

  2. May 22

    Decentering Your Partner Without Closing Your Heart

    When infidelity turns your world upside down, it's easy to make your healing dependent on what your partner is doing, feeling, or deciding. I know how tempting it is to monitor their progress, wait for reassurance, and hope that if they finally change, you'll feel safe again. In this episode, I share why true healing begins when you stop revolving around your partner and start returning to yourself. Decentering your partner doesn't mean you stop loving them or close your heart. It means your peace, clarity, and sense of worth are no longer controlled by someone else's choices. I talk about how childhood conditioning and codependent patterns can lead us to lose touch with our own needs, and I offer practical journal prompts to help you reconnect with your truth and rebuild self-trust. In this episode, we cover: What it means to decenter your partner after infidelity How codependent patterns keep you emotionally stuck How to rebuild self-trust and strengthen boundaries Journal prompts to help you return to yourself How to keep a soft heart and a strong spine If you're ready to stop waiting for someone else to hand you your life back, this episode will help you begin creating it for yourself. More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

    26 min

  3. May 15

    I Don't Know What to Do... and Other Deceptions that Keep You Stuck

    I hear it all the time: "I don't know what to do." And I get it — it feels honest and real. But what if that thought is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, I explore how "I don't know" is often a softer way of avoiding what we do know deep down. Whether it's fear of conflict, uncertainty about outcomes, or not wanting to face what comes next, we can hide behind indecision and stay stuck far longer than we need to. I walk you through the subtle ways we delay action — waiting for more time, more clarity, or for someone else to change — and how those patterns slowly erode our self-trust. The truth is, healing and movement don't come from waiting. They come from honoring even the smallest piece of truth within you. In this episode, we cover: Why "I don't know what to do" often isn't true How waiting and avoidance keep you stuck The connection between truth and self-trust Small, powerful ways to start moving forward If you're ready to stop spinning and start rebuilding trust with yourself, reach out and I'll help you take that first step. More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

    19 min

  4. May 8

    The Cost of Staying the Same

    In this episode, I'm diving into something that quietly keeps so many of us stuck: the cost of staying the same, especially when we already know better. There comes a point where the confusion lifts and clarity is there. You can see the patterns, you understand what's happening, and yet… you don't move. I've been there, too. What I want you to see is that the real cost isn't just that your situation doesn't change. It's what happens inside of you when you ignore what you know to be true. Every time you override your truth, you chip away at your self-trust. You start to feel disconnected, resentful, and out of alignment. This episode is an invitation to look honestly at where you might be choosing comfort over truth. Not with judgment, but with awareness — and a willingness to take small, honest steps forward. In this episode, we cover: Why awareness alone doesn't create change  The hidden cost of ignoring your truth  How self-trust erodes when you don't follow through  Small ways to begin choosing truth over comfort  If you're ready to stop negotiating with what you know and start living in alignment, I'd love to help you. Reach out and let's take that next step together. More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

    18 min

  5. May 1

    Navigating Couples Therapy and Coaching After Infidelity with E.J. and Tarah Kerwin

    In this episode, I sit down with E.J. and Tarah Kerwin to talk about what it really takes to heal and rebuild after infidelity. We explore the truth that love alone is not enough — and why real growth requires deep self-reflection, emotional safety, and intentional skill-building. E.J. and Tarah don't pretend to have it all figured out — they've lived it. From navigating their own intense early challenges to helping hundreds of couples each week, they bring both expertise and humanity into this conversation. We talk about betrayal trauma, the importance of radical honesty, and how healing isn't just about saving the relationship — it's about becoming a healthier, more empowered version of yourself. If you're feeling overwhelmed, unsure whether to stay or go, or stuck in painful patterns, this episode will give you clarity and hope. In this episode, we cover: Why love is not enough to sustain a relationship  How betrayal trauma impacts your nervous system  The role of radical honesty in rebuilding trust  Why individual growth changes the entire relationship dynamic  What the "messy middle" of healing looks like  Reach out if you need support — you don't have to navigate this alone. Resources Mentioned: The Untethered Soul – https://untetheredsoul.com More on E.J. and Tarah: EJ and Tarah Kerwin are the founders of Relationship Renovation and creators of the Relationship Renovation Model™, as well as hosts of the Relationship Renovation Podcast. They blend raw honesty, humor, and decades of combined experience to help couples deepen intimacy and build emotional safety. Known for their vulnerability and real-life storytelling, they share practical, research-backed tools rooted in attachment science and nervous system regulation. EJ is also the founder of Men Who Do the Work, a group helping thousands of men create emotional safety and show up more intentionally in their relationships. Together, their work includes the nationally recognized Relationship Renovation Counseling Center in Tucson, Arizona, a globally ranked top 1% podcast, the Relationship Renovation @ Home manual (available on Amazon), a global online community, and private coaching for couples and individuals. They are passionate about helping partners break old patterns, rebuild trust, and create lasting, intentional connection.  Relationship Renovation website - https://relationshiprenovation.com Relationship Renovation Podcast - https://relationshiprenovation.com/podcast/ The Relationship Renovation At Home Manual: A Guided Journey for Couples to Rebuild Trust, Communication, and Thrive Together - https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Renovation-Home-Manual-Communication/dp/B0FWMGQP8D/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshiprenovationcounseling Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/ More from me: Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

    55 min

  6. Apr 24

    Is There Actually a Snake?

    Fear can feel so real — so urgent — that it's easy to believe every emotional "rustle" is a threat. In this episode, I walk through how fear actually works in the brain and why so much of what we react to isn't what's truly happening in the present moment. I share personal stories and real-life examples to help you understand how your nervous system is trying to protect you — but may also be keeping you stuck. Whether you've been betrayed or you're the one who broke trust, fear shows up in powerful ways. And until you learn how to examine it, it can quietly run your life. This episode is an invitation to slow down, pull the thread, and look deeper. Because when you're willing to follow fear all the way to its source, you gain clarity, self-trust, and the ability to move forward with intention instead of panic. In this episode, we cover: How fear is often based on prediction, not reality Why your brain keeps sounding alarms from old pain The difference between reacting and examining How to "pull the thread" to uncover truth Building self-trust so fear no longer controls you If you're ready to stop living in reaction and start living in truth, this work will change everything. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

    34 min

  7. Apr 17

    What's Living in the Corners

    In this episode, I take you deeper into what it really means to tell your truth all the way out — especially the parts we keep hidden. I share what I've been discovering in my own life as I slow down and begin to look honestly at what's been "living in the corners." These are the patterns, beliefs, and versions of myself that once felt like strength — but may actually be rooted in survival. I explore the difference between survival strength and what I'm calling examined strength — the kind that comes from truly knowing yourself and standing in that truth, even when it's uncomfortable. This process has required me to question everything: my choices, my relationships, my work, and the version of me that created them. If you're navigating infidelity or any kind of personal upheaval, this is your invitation to look inward with honesty and compassion. In this episode, we cover: There's a difference between survival strength and examined strength Real vulnerability happens in real time, not after it's "resolved" You are allowed to re-evaluate the life you've built Slowing down is essential to seeing what's been hidden If this resonates, I invite you to reach out and connect with me. You don't have to navigate this alone. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

    29 min

  8. Apr 10

    Truth All the Way Out

    In this episode, I'm sharing what led me to step back — and what I discovered when I finally slowed down and got honest with myself. After years of building, producing, and helping others, I realized I had been operating from a place that looked like strength… but was actually rooted in survival. This season of my life has been about something deeper: telling the truth all the way out. Not the polished version. Not the "this should be enough" version. But the real truth about what I want, what I feel, and who I actually am. If you've been circling your own truth — avoiding hard conversations, silencing your needs, or settling for what looks "good enough" — this episode is an invitation to stop. To listen inward. To get radically honest. Because real healing, especially after infidelity, doesn't come from checking boxes. It comes from truth. In this episode, we cover: Strength rooted in survival can keep you stuck Truth creates alignment—even when life feels uncertain Avoiding your truth prolongs pain Real healing requires radical honesty If you're ready to stop circling and start moving forward, I invite you to reach out and take the next step with me. If you're navigating this decision and want support, I would love to help you. Reach out and let's talk. Have a question you'd like me to answer on the podcast? Submit it here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/podcast-submissions If you would like to donate to the podcast, please visit this link: https://ko-fi.com/andreagilescoaching More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

    20 min
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Heal from Infidelity with Master Coach Andrea Giles is your guide to rebuilding after betrayal with grace and power. Through trauma-informed coaching, honest stories, and grounded wisdom, Andrea helps you move from pain to peace, from confusion to clarity. You'll learn to trust yourself again, lead with integrity, and create a life and love rooted in truth. Healing begins when you stop trying to fix him — and start reclaiming you. For more information, visit andreagiles.com.

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