Krystine's FLR Podcast

Krystine Kellogg

My podcast is about my journey into the FLR (Female Led Relationship) lifestyle. While my marriage looks mostly normal from the outside, I fully control my husband through the chastity device that I have his "manhood" locked in. Follow along weekly as I bring you up to speed on where we are now, and how an outwardly vanilla life operates alongside a very kinky secret life!

  1. 2D AGO

    0602 Female Led Relationships: FLR Is the Ice Cream: Chastity, Pegging & Cuckolding Are The Sprinkles

    Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! This episode came straight out of TikTok — literally. We decided to do a blind reaction to comments on my FLR TikTok account, and honestly? It turned into one of the most grounded, informative conversations we’ve had in a while. From questions about chastity and “mental lockup,” to confusion around cuckolding, marriage, commitment, and whether you even need the kinky extras — we covered a lot. If you’re new here, overwhelmed, or trying to figure out whether you’re “doing FLR right,” this episode is your permission slip to slow down. Because here’s the truth: Female-Led Relationship is the foundation. Everything else is optional. What We Cover in This Episode Why we decided to react to TikTok comments without pre-reading themA real-life update on our current chastity status (spoiler: cages matter)The difference between physical chastity and mental chastityWhy finding the right cage is critical — comfort mattersWhy 24/7 chastity doesn’t have to be the goal to be “real”How excuses creep in when life gets chaotic — and how to spot themWhy FLR works even when the cage is offThe truth about losing 150+ podcast episodes — and why we’re rebuilding anywayWhether you need to be married to be in an FLR (short answer: no)Why commitment matters more than labelsThe reality of cuckolding, possessiveness, jealousy, and communicationWhy cuckolding is never necessary for an FLRHow emotions can show up unexpectedly — even years into a relationshipWhy active listening is one of the most important FLR skills you’ll ever developThe difference between earned guilt and unhealthy shame in chastityWhy orgasms given by your partner are a reward, not something to feel bad aboutThe Ice Cream & Sprinkles Analogy (Yes, We’re Using It Again) FLR is the bowel of vanilla ice cream. Chastity, pegging, cuckolding, feminization — those are the sprinkles.You don’t need sprinkles to enjoy ice cream.  You don’t need kink to have a Female-Led Relationship. Support the show Help Support The Show? https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

    27 min
  2. 6D AGO

    0204 Female Led Relationships: Real CUCKOLD Conversations About Trust, Jealousy & Consent

    Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! /////RE-RELEASE///// If you’ve ever been curious about cuckolding, confused by what it actually is (and isn’t), or overwhelmed by the way the internet and porn portray it — this episode is for you. In this conversation, my subbie and I sit down and really talk through cuckolding from a lived-experience perspective, not a fantasy script. We break down definitions, origins, psychology, jealousy, compersion, humiliation, communication, and why so many people are turned on by the idea… but struggle with the reality. This isn’t an episode about convincing you to try anything. It’s about understanding, slowing down, and figuring out what actually works for your relationship — not someone else’s meme. What We Cover in This Episode What cuckolding actually means in modern relationshipsThe historical and linguistic origin of the word “cuckold”Why cuckolding is one of the most searched fantasies onlineThe difference between fantasy cuckolding and real-life cuckoldingJealousy vs. compersion — and why this dynamic will not work for everyoneThe humiliation and submission aspects (and how they differ emotionally)Why communication is the real foundation — not sexHow porn and social media distort expectationsWhy you should never try to “convince” your partner into kinkPractical, low-risk ways couples can explore curiosity without jumping inRespecting third parties as real humans, not propsWhy your primary relationship must always stay the priorityReal Talk from Me I say this clearly in the episode, and I’ll say it again here: Cuckolding, chastity, FLR, swinging — none of these are required to have a strong relationship. This dynamic only works when: both partners feel safeboth partners communicate openlyjealousy is acknowledged (not ignored)consent is ongoing, enthusiastic, and reversibleIf you’re a jealous person, that doesn’t make you broken. It just means this may not be for you — and that’s okay. Fantasy vs. Support the show Help Support The Show? https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

    56 min
  3. FEB 2

    0601 Female Led Relationships: Chastity, Burnout & Real Life: Our FLR Through the Chaos

    Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! Hey, it’s Krystine — and yes, we’re back. This episode is raw, real, and long overdue. I sat down with my subbie to walk through everything that’s happened over the past year — from living in our skoolie, caregiving, work chaos, burnout, and what that’s meant for our Female-Led Relationship. Spoiler: The cage isn’t on right now… but our connection is stronger than ever. If you’ve ever felt like life has punched your FLR in the face — or like you’re barely holding it together while still trying to lead — this episode is for you. What You’ll Hear: Why our FLR didn’t die when our life got chaotic — it just evolved.What it’s like living in a bus during a Minnesota winter (hint: cold AF).Our honest struggles with chastity and why it’s not always on.Hormones, exhaustion, and the real side of low-libido leadership.How small rituals and touch have become the glue in our dynamic.Key Takeaways Chastity doesn’t define an FLR. We’re still deeply connected even when the cage isn’t locked.Intimacy shifts. The sex may slow down, but touch, presence, and intention can deepen.Being a Domme through burnout is hard. Leadership doesn’t always look like heels and whips — sometimes it’s just surviving.Submissive consistency is sexy. Even in chaos, his effort to serve makes a difference.This podcast isn’t porn — it’s real life. And real life isn’t always tidy or sexy or easy.Resources & Extras Reflection Worksheet: “How to Lead Through Life’s Shitstorms” (Only on Patreon)Companion Blog Post: “What Happens When the Cage Comes Off… But the Connection Stays” (KrystineKellogg.com)Support the show Help Support The Show? https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

    27 min
  4. JAN 29

    0203 Female Led Relationships: What FLR Looks Like for Real Couples: Chastity, Chaos, and Consent

    Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// Today I'm talking about what an FLR really looks like (hint: there’s no rulebook), how cuckolding and chastity can work when they’re born from trust and real-life communication, and yes… I'm diving into a wild little corner of the kink blogosphere called “Erection Correction.” Buckle up, the caffeine is kickin in! What You'll Hear in This Episode: What female-led really means — and why your version doesn’t need to look like anyone else’sWhy our cuckolding dynamic works for us — and how we created it with mutual honestyThe real impact of chastity on behavior, control, and daily lifeWhy our FLR isn’t always kink-forward — and why that’s okayA look at the German blog that introduced us to the idea of “erection correction” — and Krystine’s take on itA reminder: FLR isn’t about impressing strangers. It’s about making things work with your actual lifePractical Takeaways: You don’t need chastity, cuckolding, or punishment protocols to have a real FLR. You just need communication and consent.Some FLRs are hardcore. Some are soft. Some are both, depending on the season of life you’re in.Don’t judge your dynamic by what you see online — especially when people are performing.Learn how to glean, not mimic. Take what helps you grow. Leave what doesn’t serve you.Erection correction? It’s real. It’s intense. And it’s a hell of a mindset shift. (Not for the faint of heart, but totally fascinating.)My FLR Life Right Now Things are wild around here. Life is a little chaotic — we’re moving, juggling family, and keeping up with business. Our FLR is still very much present, but it’s on a softer autopilot mode right now. That’s real life. That’s love. That’s what makes our dynamic sustainable. Support the show Help Support The Show? https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

    30 min
  5. JAN 26

    0202 Female Led Relationships: This Is Not Abuse: Explaining FLR, Money, Consent & Judgment

    Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! /////  RE-RELEASE ///// This episode came from a place I didn’t expect — an email. After receiving some pretty aggressive messages accusing me of abusing my husband because of how we live our Female-Led Relationship, I realized something important: not everyone listening to this podcast understands what an FLR actually looks like in real life. So in this episode, I slow things down and explain how we live, how we make decisions, how money works in our marriage, and why leadership does not equal abuse — even when it looks different than what people are used to. This is an honest, unfiltered conversation about judgment, misunderstanding, boundaries, and why you don’t owe anyone an explanation for a consensual relationship. What I Cover in This Episode Why I felt the need to revisit and explain our FLR for newer listenersHow judgment from outsiders often comes from misunderstanding — not concernThe email that accused me of abusing my husband (and why it missed the mark)A recap of Episode 12 and the conversation around money control in FLRHow finances actually work in our marriage — consent, choice, and communicationWhy having vehicles in my name is not abuse (and never has been)The difference between choosing responsibility and being forced into itWhy my subbie works the job he does — and how choice plays a roleThe myth that FLR means constant punishment, humiliation, or controlWhy your FLR doesn’t need to look like mine — or anyone else’sHow to handle disrespectful criticism without internalizing itThe importance of confidence, boundaries, and self-respect in alternative relationshipsSupport the show Help Support The Show? https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

    27 min
  6. JAN 22

    0201 Female Led Relationships: How Chastity Boosts My Confidence as a Domme

    Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// Welcome to Season 2! And what better way to kick it off than with my favorite month — Locktober. 💋 This week, I’m taking you inside our real-life dynamic — how chastity works in our relationship, how it doesn’t always go to plan, and the honest truths I’ve learned about myself as a Domme. This episode is part education, part vulnerability, part hype for Locktober — and I’m so damn glad you’re here for it. We’re not just talking cock cages. We’re talking: What happens when life throws curveballs (like heart issues and homecoming madness)Why a locked c**k brings me confidenceHow submission without communication is just performanceAnd what to do if you’re new to chastity and your partner has no clue what you’re talking aboutWhat You’ll Hear in This Episode: A quick update on my other podcast Control (yes, it’s still coming!)Why I took a break — and what three senior girls prepping for homecoming will do to your scheduleThe emotional shift I feel when my subbie is lockedWhy male chastity is about more than just denial or controlHow chastity boosts my confidence and makes our home run smootherWhy communication is non-negotiable (especially when you’re new)My tips for presenting chastity to your partner — without making it all about sexA full walkthrough of cage types, body fit tips, hygiene, and red flags to watch forWhat people say when they find out you lock up your man — and how I learned not to give a single fuckKrystine Asks You to Reflect: Have you noticed how different your dynamic feels with chastity vs without?If you’re a Domme, what impact does keyholding have on you, not just your partner?What’s your biggest fear in talking about this side of your relationship with friends or family?Could you take sex off the table to show submission in other ways?🔗 Extras Mentioned: 🎙️ Control Podcast – coming soon (and getting spicy 👀)🛑 Reminder: Check your cage fSupport the show Help Support The Show? https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

    20 min
  7. JAN 20

    0152 Female Led Relationships: Pegging, TSA Cages, and What Real Submission Looks Like

    Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE  /////: This episode is a celebration. A rant. A full-on, heartfelt THANK YOU to all of you. Because we made it—one full year of podcasting. So I did something a little different this time: I brought the meanest, most head-shaking, most ridiculous social media comments I’ve gotten over the past year—and I read them out loud. Why? Because I think they reflect the exact reasons I do this podcast. I want to talk about the things people are still too uncomfortable to say or ask. So today, we’re talking: TSA c**k cage security breachesWhether pegging makes you “less of a man”What “real submission” actually looks likeWhy FLR isn’t abuseAnd how to bring up your kink to your partner without scaring them awayAnd we’re doing it with sarcasm, laughter, truth, and maybe a few four-letter words. You’ve been warned.  What You’ll Hear in This Episode: The full story behind that viral TSA c**k cage videoMy thoughts on pegging, orientation, and why people need to shut up about what defines a “real man”Why submissive men aren’t weak—they’re some of the strongest people I knowResponding to trolls who think FLR is “abuse” or “creates misogynists”How we approach consent, communication, and safe words in real life (and not just theory)Emotional check-ins, changing your mind mid-scene, and knowing when to pauseHow to bring up FLR or kink with your partner without dumping a full lifestyle label on themWhy actions matter more than titles—and why sometimes it starts with just buying the damn curtainReflect on these: What’s holding you back from living more openly in your dynamic?Do you really believe that your submission (or your partner’s) is something to hide?Are you leading or serving from a place of pressure—or from love, consistency, and clarity?And for the love of all things holy: who told you a real man doesn’t enjoy pegging?Contact Want to share your thoughts, vent, or ask your own “how do I tell her?” question? Email me an Support the show Help Support The Show? https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

    43 min
  8. 10/13/2025

    0151 Female Led Relationships: Can You Be a Domme and a Mom?

    Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This one’s for all of you trying to do it all. I sat down with my subbie for a real-life, messy, honest talk about something we don’t hear enough about: what happens to your dynamic when you also have a family to raise? Can you still lead? Submit? Play? Hold space for kink and power exchange while also packing school lunches and managing bedtime routines? This episode was sparked by an article I read on boldpleasures.com about parenting and equality—and it hit me hard. Because so much of what we do in our FLR works because we communicate. And also because we fumble. And figure it out. And get it wrong. And come back to each other. So whether you’re trying to raise good humans while keeping your subbie in line, or just wondering if you can be a Domme and a damn good mom at the same time… let me tell you: you can. And I’ve got stories to prove it. Inside This Episode: Why “submission” has zero place in parenting—but mutual respect doesHow we balance our FLR with equal parenting responsibilityThe quiet ways power dynamics can still show up at homeWhat our daughter sees, what we want her to know, and how we talk about itHow we stay connected when the schedule’s full and the sink’s overflowingThe truth about being a “24/7 Domme” (spoiler: I’m usually barefoot and tired)How to raise kids with healthy examples of leadership, love, and emotional safetyWhy obedience doesn’t disappear just because the dishwasher needs emptyingAsk Yourself: What do your kids see when they watch you and your partner?Is there a clear understanding of power, love, and respect in your home?Are you creating the kind of relationship your children can learn from—not just tolerate?Do your dynamic and parenting style actually complement each other?My Favorite Quote This Episode: “I want my daughter to know she doesn’t have to do something she doesn’t want to do. I want her to be confident in her ability to say f*****g no—and not feel guilty for someone else’s disappointment.”Support the show Help Support The Show? https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

    36 min
4.8
out of 5
113 Ratings

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My podcast is about my journey into the FLR (Female Led Relationship) lifestyle. While my marriage looks mostly normal from the outside, I fully control my husband through the chastity device that I have his "manhood" locked in. Follow along weekly as I bring you up to speed on where we are now, and how an outwardly vanilla life operates alongside a very kinky secret life!

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