Take Back Retirement

Stephanie McCullough & Kevin Gaines
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You're a woman on the cusp of "retirement" naturally feeling some anxiety. We are two financial planners who take this subject seriously (but ourselves less so). We will help you feel more confident about your choices by cutting through the myths and mysteries. Through conversations and interviews with both subject-experts and women who have gone through what you are approaching, you will have the correct information and motivation to be in control of your future.

  1. 6d ago

    145: Your Year-End Financial Checklist: 10 Things to Review Before December

    "December is probably too late to scramble around and logistically get stuff done." Our host Stephanie McCullough counts just nine work weeks left in the year, so she and co-host Kevin Gaines walk through a ten-item year-end checklist. Needless to say, these are best tackled months in advance rather than during the December scramble! They cover the year-end deadlines. Contributions to 401(k)s must land by December 31, even though IRA contributions can wait until April 15, and a bonus paid in January counts toward next year. For 2026, the limit is $24,500, with an $8,000 catch-up from age 50 and a larger $11,250 "super catch-up" for ages 60 through 63. Required minimum distributions can't slide past year-end either. A missed one carries a 25% penalty on the shortfall, which is especially painful on inherited Roth IRAs. Gifts up to $19,000 per person avoid gift-tax filing, and charitable giving now carries a half-percent-of-income floor for itemizers. Donor-advised funds and qualified charitable distributions help with giving, too. Next, review your tax picture. A low-income year may open the door to Roth conversions, while capital gains and other surprises can trigger higher Medicare IRMAA surcharges two years later. Stephanie and Kevin also talk about precautionary measures, what they appropriately call your "smoke detector batteries": check your cash cushion, beneficiary forms, powers of attorney, and scam defenses, then start casual conversations with family about money. Kevin adds a surprise eleventh item for anyone planning a net unrealized appreciation move on company stock: empty the 401(k) by December 31, or the tax bill balloons.   Key Topics: 401(k) Deadlines vs. the IRA Grace Period (02:55) RMDs and the Inherited IRA Roth Trap (09:35) Gifting: The $19,000 Rule (16:05) Review Your Taxes: Roth Conversions and Aunt IRMAA (19:16) Charitable Giving Gets a Floor (27:43) Donor-Advised Funds and QCDs (31:46) Tax-Loss Harvesting: Making Losers Useful (36:57) Smoke Detector Batteries: How Much Cash Do You Have? (40:32) Beneficiary Forms and Estate Documents (42:17) Scams, Passwords, and Cyber Safety (43:56) Talking to Your People About Money (about 45:50) Surprise #11: The NUA Deadline (47:46)   Resources: Take Back Retirement Episode 33: What Women Need to Know about the Estate and Gift Tax System: https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/what-women-need-to-know-about-the-estate-and-gift-tax-system/ Take Back Retirement Episode 142: Don't Wait Until 65: Medicare Planning For Gen X And Beyond with Danielle Kunkle Roberts: https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/dont-wait-until-65-medicare-planning-for-gen-x-and-beyond/ Take Back Retirement Episode 78: The Essential Rules to Know When You Inherit an IRA: https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/the-essential-rules-to-know-when-you-inherit-an-ira/ Take Back Retirement Episode 83: Combating Fraud and Protecting Your Financial Future with AARP's Kathy Stokes: https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/combatting-fraud-and-protecting-your-financial-future-with-aarps-kathy-stokes/ Take Back Retirement Episode 112: Navigating Family Wealth Transfers: Emotional Intelligence and Effective Communication with Jill and Sean Maher: https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/navigating-family-wealth-transfers-emotional-intelligence-and-effective-communication-with-jill-and-sean-maher/ American Financial Management Group Newsletter: https://afmgplanning.kit.com/profile   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie of Sofia Financial on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin of American Financial Management Group on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

  2. Sep 30

    144: We Need to Talk About Inheritance!

    "The biggest mistake parents can make is passing down money without communicating the family values that drive your thinking." Our hosts, Stephanie McCullough and Kevin Gaines, dig into Kiplinger's October cover story on "the great wealth transfer," the slow handoff of an estimated $124 trillion from Baby Boomers to their children and grandchildren. That number is a bit misleading considering more than half of that wealth sits with the richest 2% of households, and a quarter of parents expect to leave less than $100,000. Citing the magazine's survey, roughly two in five families have never discussed how the older generation plans to pass down assets, and more parents claim to have had "the talk" than their kids remember hearing it. This unwillingness to talk it out goes both ways. Parents worry that talking could breed entitlement. Adult children, meanwhile, sometimes make major life decisions (having kids, choosing careers, buying homes) without knowing whether money is coming, only to be upended when it does. Their fix, echoing financial psychologist Brad Klontz, is to skip the one big, dreaded conversation in favor of many small ones, paired with practical basics like where documents live. They also make the case for gifting during your lifetime rather than only at death. After all, inheritances typically land when recipients are already in their 60s, which is well past when the money would have mattered most. Underneath the tax talk and gifting strategy sits something more personal: as one advisor quoted in the piece puts it, the number attached to a life of saving is really the story of that life, and sharing it is what brings families closer.   Key Topics: One Big Talk vs. Many Little Conversations (05:49) Build the Plan, Then Adapt as Life Unfolds (06:42) IRAs, Roths, and the Ten-Year Clock (16:33) Gifting Now vs. Waiting Until You're Gone (17:57) Guardrails for Giving While You're Alive (20:44) Money Lessons That Stick: Envelopes and Gas Pumps (22:43) Sharing Knowledge and Family History (26:58)   Resources: Diane Harris Kiplinger Article: Why So Many Families Are Unprepared for the Great Wealth Transfer — and What You Can Do About it https://www.kiplinger.com/retirement/inheritance/why-so-many-families-are-unprepared-for-the-great-wealth-transfer-and-what-you-can-do-about-it Take Back Retirement Episode 33: What Women Need to Know about the Estate and Gift Tax System https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/what-women-need-to-know-about-the-estate-and-gift-tax-system/ Take Back Retirement Episode 114: Child-free Estate Planning: Picking the Right People for Key Roles – and What to do if You are Picked! with Patricia De Fonte https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/child-free-estate-planning-picking-the-right-people-for-key-roles-and-what-to-do-if-you-are-picked-with-patricia-de-fonte/ Take Back Retirement Episode 78: The Essential Rules to Know When You Inherit an IRA https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/the-essential-rules-to-know-when-you-inherit-an-ira/   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

  3. Sep 15

    143: Am I Allowed? The Permission Paradox, with Dan Haylett

    "The one thing you're guaranteed to run out of is time." Our hosts, Stephanie McCullough and Kevin Gaines, welcome back financial planner Dan Haylett, founder of Humans vs. Retirement and author of The Retirement You Didn't See Coming, to unpack his viral essay "The Permission Paradox." Digging through his own client conversations for patterns, Dan found the two words that came up most were "permission" and "allowed." The people who have saved diligently for decades are often the ones least able to enjoy it, because permission was always external. For them, a paycheck justified spending, and a job title justified rest. Retirement erases that scaffolding overnight, and now they find themselves with a little voice in their head always asking, "Am I allowed?" Dan reckons that this is a case of ancient wiring. We evolved to store the grain rather than eat it. We have what he calls a "sensible person's trap," where decades of diligent saving become a habit too strong to break. The real risk, he argues, isn't running out of money; it's dying with too much of it, having never spent down the roughly twelve good years of health and energy retirement actually grants. His antidote is five permissions you need to give yourself: to enjoy what you've built, to rest without producing, to spend on experiences before you can't, to give "with a warm heart, not a cold hand," and to become someone new. Retirement finally hands people money, time, and freedom together, but only permission unlocks any of it!   Key Topics: Permission Used to Be External (06:18) The Real Risk: Dying With Too Much, Not Running Out (10:02) Wired to Save: The Ancient Roots of "Survive First, Thrive Second" (12:45) The Sensible Person's Trap (20:19) From a Savings Habit to a Spending Mindset (23:41) The "12 Good Years" Window (25:00) Permission One: Starting With Enjoying What You've Built (27:10) Permission Two: Rest Without Producing (28:29) Permission Three: Spend on Experiences Before You Can't (30:40) Permission Four: Give With a Warm Heart, Not a Cold Hand (33:51) Permission Five: Become Someone New (38:36) Key Takeaways (43:25)   Resources: Dan on Substack: https://danhaylett.substack.com/ The Humans vs Retirement Podcast: https://www.humansvsretirement.com/ Dan on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DanHaylett Dan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-haylett-retirement-coach/   Dan Haylett, and TFP Financial are not affiliated with or endorsed by Private Advisor Group, American Financial Management Group, or Sofia Financial.   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

  4. Aug 31

    142: Don't Wait Until 65: Medicare Planning For Gen X And Beyond with Danielle Kunkle Roberts

    "Everything government touches is complicated." - Danielle Kunkle Roberts Our hosts, Stephanie McCullough and Kevin Gaines, bring on Danielle Kunkle Roberts of Boomer Benefits, and author of 10 Costly Medicare Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make. As the title of her book suggests, Medicare isn't free. Believing otherwise is mistake number one! Premiums, deductibles, and coverage gaps are real costs that blindside retirees, especially anyone who leaves the workforce before 65 and needs an ACA bridge plan to survive the gap. The trickiest wrinkle is the size-of-employer rule. If you work for a company with 20-plus employees past 65, your group plan stays primary while Medicare waits in the wings. Work for a smaller one, and Medicare becomes primary whether you enrolled or not, leaving a surprise medical bill for anyone who assumed their coverage worked the way a friend's did. Never assume your neighbor's, cousin's, or friend's Medicare situation applies to yours, because age, employer size, and state all rewrite the rules. Danielle also talks about "Ugly IRMAA". As the income-based surcharge calculated off your tax return from two years back, the Medicare IRMAA can ambush anyone who thought retirement meant no more "earnings." Then there's the annual Advantage plan and Part D notices of change, proof that even after enrollment, nothing about Medicare is truly "set it and forget it." Danielle's fix isn't memorizing every rule, but finding a broker paid by commission rather than out-of-pocket, who revisits your plan every single year.   Key Topics: Medicare Isn't Free: Premiums and Coverage Gaps (05:30) Late Enrollment Penalties That Last Forever (11:39) Meet "Ugly IRMAA": Income-Based Premium Surcharges (18:31) Keep Your Creditable Coverage Paperwork (25:26) Medigap vs. Advantage: The One-Way Door (31:28) How Brokers Actually Get Paid (33:11) Why Advantage and Part D Are Never "Set It and Forget It" (40:34) Key Takeaways (45:38)   Resources: Boomer Benefits: https://boomerbenefits.com Medicare Q&A with Boomer Benefits Free FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BoomerBenefits/ 10 Costly Medicare Mistakes You Can't Afford to Make (book): https://a.co/d/09YBATz5   "Danielle Kunkle Roberts, and Boomer Benefits  are not affiliated with or endorsed by Private Advisor Group, American Financial Management Group, or Sofia Financial." This episode or article may contain affiliate links.   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

  5. Aug 17

    141: Estimating Spending in Retirement Calculations: Front-end the Fun!

    "Spreadsheets are great at math; they suck at flexibility." Our hosts, Stephanie McCullough and Kevin Gaines, take aim at the assumption that every retiree spends the same inflation-adjusted dollar amount, every year, until death. It's the number your 401(k) statement spits out, the number the 4% rule promises, and it's wrong in two directions at once! First, it ignores life's lumpiness such as the new roof, the wedding, the pandemic-delayed trip to Greece. These are one-off costs that planners can average into projections but never quite eliminate. Second, and more provocatively, it ignores the "retirement smile". That's spending that's higher in the active go-go years, dips in the slow-go years, then ticks back up in the no-go years as long-term care costs bite. Their fix isn't a better formula but the intentionality to separate true essentials (food, shelter, utilities) from discretionary spending (travel, hobbies), because only the latter can flex when markets fall or inflation bites. Front-load the trips and experiences you're physically able to enjoy now. Retirees should borrow from "future spending" you were always going to do eventually anyway. Take it from Stephanie, who encourages us to "plan that trip, people!"   Key Topics: The Straight-Line Spending Myth (03:16) One-Off Expenses and Life's Lumpiness (05:33) The Retirement Smile: Go-Go, Slow-Go, No-Go (06:45) What the 4% Rule Actually Promises (10:10) Front-Loading the Fun Stuff (13:45) Essentials vs. Discretionary: Building In Flexibility (16:20) Savings Reframed as "Future Spending" (19:31) Long-Term Care and the No-Go Years (22:35)   Resources: Take Back Retirement Episode 130: Planning to Age Well: Life Care, Long-term Care, and Advocacy with Laura Lynn Morrissey: https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/planning-to-age-well-life-care-long-term-care-and-advocacy-with-laura-lynn-morrissey/ Take Back Retirement Episode 110: Navigating the Complexities of Aging: Proactive Planning for Seniors and Families with Jill and Steve Marshall: https://takebackretirement.com/podcasts/navigating-the-complexities-of-aging-proactive-planning-for-seniors-and-families-with-jill-and-steve-marshall/   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

  6. Jul 30

    140: Don't You Dare Call Me Retired: Amy Bernstein on Creativity, Doubt, and Uncoupling Your Worth From Your Paycheck

    "You need to uncouple your self-worth from your income." Amy Bernstein does not like the word "retired". Our hosts, Stephanie McCullough and Kevin Gaines, aren't too fond of the word either. A former journalist and federal government communications veteran, she didn't quit anything cold. She shortened her commute first, then went part-time, then, when the pandemic made her last part-time job untenable, took the final step. What followed was less a plan than experiments guided by whatever sparked joy. These "experiments" included playwriting classes, a first novel written on the train, and a book-coach certification that flipped a switch. Six novels and a nonfiction guide for doubting creatives later, Amy has built a life that pays in confidence and craft more than dollars, and insists that trade is no downgrade. She believes that culture rewards money, title, and productivity so completely that anything creative reads as indulgence, something to feel guilty about squeezing in around "real" obligations. Reading a book, listening to music, mastering a soufflé. These are creative acts whether or not monetized, and treating unmonetized creativity as worthless has it backwards. Her book, Wrangling the Doubt Monster, does not promise to cure self-doubt; it normalizes it, insisting doubt can ride along without driving the car. Stephanie and Kevin are all about the idea that retirement rarely trips people up financially. It is the identity vacuum of "who am I once the job title disappears" that catches people off guard, and creativity is where many will find their answer!   Key Topics: From "Have To" to "Want To": Redefining Retirement (04:28) Overcoming the Guilt of Taking Time for Yourself (10:08) Normalizing Creative Self-Doubt (12:42) Permission to Experiment (and Fail) Without a Master Plan (22:02) Creativity as Therapy (28:38) Stephanie and Kevin's Wrap Up (31:28)   Resources: https://amywrites.live/ Take Back Retirement Episode 87: Cultivating Creative Connections for Lifelong Wellness with Claire Waite Brown   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

  7. Jul 15

    139: What Women Need to Know about Moving Investment Accounts

    "As with all things with the IRS, document, document, document." Our hosts, Stephanie McCullough and Kevin Gaines, explain what actually happens when you move an investment or retirement account from one custodian to another. The mechanics may seem as simple as filling out a form and waiting a few days. But Kevin walks through the fine print that trips up even seasoned advisors. Taxable accounts can usually move without triggering a sale, so cost basis and unrealized gains transfer intact. Retirement accounts are where the real danger lives. There are two ways to move retirement money: a trustee-to-trustee transfer, where the funds never touch your hands, and a 60-day rollover, where they briefly become yours. The second path can be a minefield because, if you miss the 60-day window by even a day, the money is reclassified as a taxable distribution. The only way back is IRS self-certification for a handful of approved hardships, or a costly private letter ruling. And if you mix up traditional and Roth buckets during a move, you risk an illegal conversion or double taxation. Beyond the rollover clock, Kevin brings up the mandatory 20% withholding on 401(k) distributions, and after-tax "basis" dollars that shouldn't be taxed twice. Then there's Form 5498, an easily discarded document that turns out to be essential for tracking IRA contributions and conversions for years to come. Needless to say, all of this can be overwhelming. That's why it's so important to ask questions, document everything, and use direct transfers whenever possible.   Key Topics: Taxable Accounts and Custodians, Defined (04:38) The Myth That You Have to Sell Everything to Move (06:26) Transfer vs. Rollover: The Critical Difference (13:37) Inside the 60-Day Rollover Danger Zone (17:39) RMDs, Penalties, and the First-Dollar Rule (21:31) After-Tax Basis: Money You've Already Paid Tax On (26:51) The Mandatory 20% Withholding Trap on 401(k) Rollovers (31:50) Annuities and Surrender Periods (35:21)   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

  8. Jun 30

    138: What Women Need to Know about the Estate and Gift Tax System (Rerun)

    Today, Stephanie and Kevin cover a topic that can often get confusing for many people: the estate and gift tax system. This is different from the income tax system, and both are federal tax systems that everyone needs to be aware of when planning for retirement.   At the end of the day, the IRS is getting paid. The only two questions, then, are: Who pays? and When? Our hosts tackle these questions and more.   While today's discussion is a big picture overview of the estate and gift tax system, it will give you a general grasp of the concepts and vocabulary that will make your next meeting with your accountant or estate planning attorney a more insightful and productive one.   Key Topics: "At the end of the day, the IRS is getting paid." (2:28) Defining estate taxes. (3:00) What are "exclusion amounts?" (5:58) Defining gift taxes. (8:00) Maximizing how much your beneficiaries inherit. (11:37) "My parents can only give me $16,000 a year…" Why this isn't true. (17:14) "I want to avoid probate, because if I can do that, then I'm not going to pay estate tax…" Why this isn't true. (21:55)   Resources Mentioned: Take Back Retirement Episode 31: What the Heck is a Trust, and Why Might I Need One? Take Back Retirement Episode 32: True Confessions of Two Financial Planners.   If you like what you've been hearing, we invite you to subscribe on your favorite platform and leave us a review. Tell us what you love about this episode! Or better yet, tell us what you want to hear more of in the future. stephanie@sofiafinancial.com   You can find the transcript and more information about this episode at www.takebackretirement.com.   Follow Stephanie on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.  Follow Kevin on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube and LinkedIn.

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You're a woman on the cusp of "retirement" naturally feeling some anxiety. We are two financial planners who take this subject seriously (but ourselves less so). We will help you feel more confident about your choices by cutting through the myths and mysteries. Through conversations and interviews with both subject-experts and women who have gone through what you are approaching, you will have the correct information and motivation to be in control of your future.

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    Stephanie McCullough & Kevin Gaines
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    146
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