The Dr. Shyamala Show

Dr. Shyamala Kiru
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The Dr. Shyamala Show explores the intersection of leadership, identity, and cognitive transformation. Hosted by Dr. Shyamala Kiru, former psychotherapist of 20 years and founder of the Cognitive Freedom Method™, this podcast explores how internal patterns shape the way we think, lead, and relate - especially in moments of pressure and complexity. Each episode examines the psychology behind leadership and relational dynamics, with a focus on structured cognitive change, emotional regulation, and identity-level transformation. The conversations are grounded in disciplined psychological insight applied to real-world complexity. Dr. Shyamala is also the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the author of The Emotionally Intelligent Woman. Through solo teachings and conversations with practitioners and thought leaders, she brings clinical depth into leadership development and practitioner training. This podcast is for leaders and practitioners who value clarity, structure, and depth in how they think, lead, and relate. Connect on Instagram @iam.drshyam Learn more at www.cognitive-freedom.com Clinical services at www.kirupsychotherapy.com

  1. 1d ago

    Integration: Building Cognitive and Emotional Patterns That Last

    Most people do the work. They read the books, go to therapy, learn the frameworks, and walk away with real insight into why they are the way they are. And then life happens, and they're right back where they started. In this final episode of the 12-part Cognitive Freedom Method™ series, I'm walking you through the one thing that separates people who change and people who don't: integration.  Not more insight. Not another framework. The daily, practiced, embodied work of making new patterns your new normal. Because insight alone has never been enough. And if you've been in the cycle of understanding your patterns but not actually shifting them, this is why. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: Why insight is the starting point for change, not the destination The three stages of integration and how they build on each other What neural pathways actually have to do with your daily reactions Why maintenance planning is one of the most overlooked parts of real transformation How to recognize early signs that you're slipping back into old patterns (and what to do about it) Why cognitive freedom is an ongoing relationship with your mind, not a finish line you cross _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Learn More About The Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://www.cognitive-freedom.com/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    15 min

  2. May 28

    Rewriting Your Inner Story: Transforming Core Beliefs

    Beneath every thought you have, every emotional reaction you experience, every decision you make, there's something quieter running the show. It doesn't announce itself. It doesn't show up in the moments you'd expect. But it shapes everything. How you see yourself. What you believe is possible. Who you think you're allowed to become. These are your core beliefs. And in this episode, the second to last in the Inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™ series, I'm teaching the concept I consider the most essential piece of long-term transformation work. If patterns keep returning after everything else has been tried, core beliefs are almost always why. Inside this conversation, I cover: What core beliefs are and why they sit beneath every thought, emotion, and decision you have The three most common limiting core beliefs and how to recognize them in yourself (or in the people you work with) How and when core beliefs develop, and why they're so resistant to surface-level change What core beliefs actually drive: your thoughts, your emotional reactions, and your decision-making A three-step process for core belief restructuring: identify, challenge, and develop new adaptive beliefs Why this work requires repetition and conscious practice, and what that actually looks like ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Learn More About The Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://www.cognitive-freedom.com/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    17 min

  3. May 21

    The Hidden Cost of Harsh Self-Judgment and How to Shift It

    Most of us have been taught, somewhere along the way, that being hard on ourselves is what drives us forward. That the inner critic is there to keep us sharp. That without it, we'd get lazy, we'd slip, we'd stop pushing. After two decades of working with people, I can tell you with certainty: that belief is one of the most costly ones we carry. In this episode, part 10 of the Inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™ series, I'm breaking down the real cost of harsh self-judgment and why self-compassion isn't a soft concept. It's actually the psychological foundation that makes lasting change possible. Because here's what I've seen over and over again: the inner critic doesn't motivate change. It reinforces the patterns keeping you stuck. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: What the inner critic actually is, where it comes from, and why it developed in the first place The three things harsh self-judgment consistently activates (and why none of them move you forward) The self-judgment cycle, mapped out so you can see exactly how it operates in real time Why self-compassion is the condition your mind actually needs in order to learn and grow A skill called compassionate reframing and how to practice it Why real confidence, presence, and magnetism are built on self-compassion, not self-criticism __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Learn More About The Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://www.cognitive-freedom.com/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    17 min

  4. May 14

    The Pause That Changes Everything: Creating Space Between Trigger and Response

    There's a moment that most of us miss. It happens in a split second, right before the outburst or the shutdown, before the spiral or the silence, before you say the thing you wish you hadn't or withdraw in the way you always do. It's the space between what triggers you and how you respond. And learning to find that space, and to use it intentionally, is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. In this episode, part nine of the Cognitive Freedom Method™ series, I'm teaching one of the most important skills inside this work: how to train your mind to pause between trigger and response, and how to use that pause to make intentional choices rather than automatic ones. Because here's what I know after decades of working with people: the untrained mind doesn't pause. It reacts immediately and automatically, from old patterns and old wounds, and it will keep doing that until you train it to do something different. That training is possible, and this episode walks you through exactly how. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: Why most reactions happen automatically and what's actually driving them The trigger response cycle and how it unfolds in a split second Why the pause between trigger and response is an active skill, not a passive one A three-step process to notice, name, and consciously choose your response How Dr. Shyamala personally works this process in her own relationships Why creating space between trigger and response is what puts you back in the driver's seat of your life _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Learn More About The Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://www.cognitive-freedom.com/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    21 min

  5. May 7

    The Difference Between Feeling and Reacting (And Why It Changes Everything)

    There's a belief most of us carry without realizing it. That if you feel something, you're supposed to react to it. That anger means you get to be outwardly angry. That anxiety means you spiral. That sadness means you shut down. That this is just "who you are". But here's what I want you to know: feeling and reacting are not the same thing. They're not even the same process. And understanding that distinction might be one of the most important shifts you ever make. In this episode, I'm teaching one of the core skills of the Cognitive Freedom Method™, emotion regulation, and I want to clear up what it actually is. Because most people think regulation means suppression. It doesn't. It means learning to stay steady while emotions move through you. That's a very different thing. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: Why feeling an emotion and reacting to an emotion are two completely separate processes What "emotional flooding" is and how to recognize when it's happening to you The three-step sequence most people collapse into one -  and why that's where we get into trouble Nervous system tools that actually work when you're activated (including the one I personally reach for first) Why you don't want to wait until your distress hits a 10 out of 10 to intervene What regulation actually looks like in a real conflict - and why shutting down isn't the same as being calm ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Learn More About The Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://www.cognitive-freedom.com/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    20 min

  6. Apr 30

    Escaping All-or-Nothing Thinking: The Power of Cognitive Flexibility

    Have you ever had a really intense reaction to something... And then, once the emotion came down, looked back at the situation and thought: why did that feel so overwhelming? Why did I react the way I did? Because the situation itself didn't actually match the reaction you had. Here's what I want you to understand: most of us experience emotional distress not because of what's happening around us. We experience it because our thinking becomes extreme, rigid and fixed.  And when that happens, our perception actually narrows. Think of it like this. Imagine walking down the street and being able to see everything in front of you, the full, wide picture. You can see what's coming and you can respond to what's actually there. Now imagine that view narrowing to almost nothing. That's what happens to an untrained mind under stress. The ability you have to see the nuances of the situation disappear. The range of seeing all sides disappears. And you're left with the most extreme version of whatever you're looking at. All good or all bad. Success or failure. Always or never. This is what we call all-or-nothing thinking, and it's one of the most common patterns we work with inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™. In this episode, I walk you through: Why emotional distress rarely comes from external events, and where it actually originates The most common all-or-nothing patterns (and the specific words that signal you're in one) Why extreme thinking intensifies your emotional reactions and makes situations feel more threatening than they are What the "cognitive narrowing effect" is and how to recognize it in yourself What cognitive flexibility actually means and why it's a skill you can train __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™. Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Learn More About The Cognitive Freedom Method™: cognitive-freedom.com  LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    17 min

  7. Apr 23

    The Rise and Fall of Emotions: Understanding the Emotional Wave

    Has an emotion ever hit you so hard that you were convinced it would never pass? The panic. The anger. The overwhelm. And in the middle of it, some part of your brain whispers: this is just how it is now. This episode is about that moment. And why that belief is one of the most important misconceptions we can unlearn. In this episode, the sixth in my 12-part series on the Cognitive Freedom Method™, I'm walking you through one of my favorite concepts inside the methodology: the emotional wave. Because here's what most of us were never taught: Emotions don't last forever. They move in a predictable, wave-like pattern. And once you understand that pattern, everything changes. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: Why most people believe difficult emotions are permanent (and why that belief creates so much suffering) The three-part wave structure: rise, peak, and fall Why we tend to react at exactly the wrong moment The common behaviors that show up when we try to escape emotional discomfort What "reappraising permanence" means and how to start practicing it Why the goal is never to eliminate emotions, it's to build your capacity to stay steady while they move through you _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://kirupsychotherapy.com/cognitive-freedom-program/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    21 min

  8. Apr 16

    The Stories We Tell About Ourselves (And How They Shape Your Life)

    There's a story running in the background of your mind right now. You might not even know it's there. It's not the version of yourself you introduce at a dinner party or describe to a new colleague. It's the quieter one. The one that shows up when something goes wrong, when pressure hits, when conflict arrives. I'm not good at this. I always end up being the responsible one. When stress hits, I fall apart. In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of your cognitive structure to look at something most people never examine: the identity narratives we carry about ourselves and how those narratives shape everything. Not just how you feel.  How you relate.  How you respond under pressure.  How you navigate your closest relationships.  How you move through your entire life. And I'll share something personal: the self story that came out of the hardest season of my life, and how it became one of the greatest gifts I've ever given myself. Inside this conversation, I walk you through: What identity narratives are and why they're different from individual thoughts Where self stories actually originate (family of origin, repeated feedback, and emotionally significant moments) How your mind filters reality to keep confirming the story it already believes Why reframing doesn't mean inventing a new identity — and what it actually means The cognitive skill we use inside the Cognitive Freedom Method™ to begin shifting these patterns __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a former psychotherapist of 20 years and the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the Cognitive Freedom Method™.  Through her work in leadership development, practitioner training, and clinical practice (now retired), she teaches a structured framework for understanding and transforming the cognitive patterns that shape how we think, lead, and relate. 📘 The Emotionally Intelligent Woman Available on Amazon and Chapters Indigo 🎧 The Dr. Shyamala Show Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify Learn more at  cognitive-freedom.com  kirupsychotherapy.com Real freedom begins when you understand your mind. Where to Connect: My Clinic: Kiru Psychotherapy: https://kirupsychotherapy.com Psychotherapy + Structured Support: Cognitive Freedom Method™: https://kirupsychotherapy.com/cognitive-freedom-program/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shyamala-kiru-4a853aa5/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iam.drshyam/

    26 min
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The Dr. Shyamala Show explores the intersection of leadership, identity, and cognitive transformation. Hosted by Dr. Shyamala Kiru, former psychotherapist of 20 years and founder of the Cognitive Freedom Method™, this podcast explores how internal patterns shape the way we think, lead, and relate - especially in moments of pressure and complexity. Each episode examines the psychology behind leadership and relational dynamics, with a focus on structured cognitive change, emotional regulation, and identity-level transformation. The conversations are grounded in disciplined psychological insight applied to real-world complexity. Dr. Shyamala is also the founder of Kiru Psychotherapy Clinic and the author of The Emotionally Intelligent Woman. Through solo teachings and conversations with practitioners and thought leaders, she brings clinical depth into leadership development and practitioner training. This podcast is for leaders and practitioners who value clarity, structure, and depth in how they think, lead, and relate. Connect on Instagram @iam.drshyam Learn more at www.cognitive-freedom.com Clinical services at www.kirupsychotherapy.com

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  • Creator
    Dr. Shyamala Kiru
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © @ Copyright 2024
  • Show Website
    The Dr. Shyamala Show

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