Married After Kids

Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh
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Married After Kids is a podcast dedicated to strengthening marriages for parents after having kids. Hosted by Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist turned marriage coach, this podcast discusses all the ways children can challenge your marriage, while also offering effective, evidence-based solutions to help make marriages stronger and more enjoyable, which makes parenting and life so much easier. Married After Kids will completely transform how you look at marriage and give you the tools to have the marriage you want and need.

  1. 2d ago

    Ep. 142: Tired of "Nothing I Do Is Good Enough For You"?

    You try to bring up one need so you can work through it together, but somehow the conversation turns into whether your spouse is ever good enough for you. In this episode, I’m breaking down the frustrating dynamic that happens when a hurt, request, or unmet need is met with “Nothing I do is ever good enough for you,” “Your standards are too high,” or “I guess I just suck.” We’ll look at what may actually be happening underneath that response and why it can leave the original issue completely unresolved. I’m also sharing how to stop getting pulled into the same cycle, make conversations about your marriage feel less threatening, and create more space for both of you to talk about what you need without turning it into proof that someone is failing. Tune in to discover: • Why “nothing I do is good enough” derails the conversation • What may actually be underneath that defensive response • Why having a need doesn’t mean your spouse is failing • How to turn “we need to talk” into something positive • What can make relationship conversations feel safer and more productive Join my 12-Day Managing the Mental Load of Holiday Magic Challenge: Spend five minutes or less each day reducing holiday stress, resentment, and mental load so you can actually enjoy the magic you’re creating. Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

  2. Oct 26

    Ep. 141: Managing the Mental Load of Holiday Magic

    The holidays can feel magical for everyone except the person doing all the work to make them magical. In this episode, I'm talking about the extra mental load that comes with the holiday season and why it can so easily turn into resentment, tension, and feeling uncared for in your marriage. Because behind the gifts, traditions, activities, and special moments is often an enormous amount of invisible work that someone is carrying. I'm sharing the first three steps from my Managing the Mental Load of Holiday Magic challenge to help you understand what's already weighing on you, reduce some of the resentment you're carrying, and make the invisible parts of the holidays easier to actually do something about. Tune in to discover: • Why holiday magic can create so much resentment • The invisible load that grows during the holiday season • What your past holidays may be bringing into this one • The shift that can soften tension before you tackle the logistics • How to make your holiday mental load more visible and manageable Join my 12-Day Managing the Mental Load of Holiday Magic Challenge: Spend five minutes or less each day reducing holiday stress, resentment, and mental load so you can actually enjoy the magic you’re creating. Starts November 14. Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!

  3. Oct 19

    Ep. 140: The Fastest Tool to Break Through the Mental Load Barrier with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

    If every conversation about the mental load turns into defensiveness, frustration, or another fight, explaining it again may not be the answer. In this episode, I'm joined again by relationship expert and bestselling author Dr. Morgan Cutlip to talk about why the mental load becomes such a difficult issue to solve after kids and what her research reveals about how men and women experience it differently. We dig into the resentment, perception gaps, and invisible pieces that can leave both partners feeling misunderstood or unappreciated. Morgan also shares a new practical tool I've started using with my own clients to help couples see what's really happening beneath their mental load struggles and figure out where to start creating change without adding even more work to the person who's already overwhelmed. Tune in to discover: • Why mental load conversations become so defensive • What women want most from their partners • The missing piece men want women to hear • A practical way to make the invisible load visible • How to finally figure out where to start Resources: • Morgan’s CARE Load Report: https://bettershareapp.com/care-load-report (Use code MAK10) • Morgan’s book: A Better Share • Lindsay’s 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call • Follow @marriedafterkids and @drmorgancutlip on Instagram!

  4. Oct 12

    Ep. 139: The Real Reason Your Spouse Isn't Validating You In The Way You Need

    Your spouse may be trying to help and still be giving you the exact opposite of what you need. In this episode, I'm breaking down why one person can be asking for emotional support while the other is offering explanations, solutions, or logic, and why those two approaches can make it feel like you're speaking completely different languages. We’ll look at what may actually be happening underneath these frustrating conversations and why validation can feel so hard to give and receive. Most importantly, I'm sharing three practical shifts to help you move out of the same frustrating back-and-forth and toward conversations where both of you can actually feel heard, understood, and cared for. Tune in to discover: • Why your spouse may struggle to validate you in the way you need • The reason logic and emotion can completely miss each other • How your attachment style can make these conversations even harder • What may need to happen before a productive conversation can begin • Three shifts to help you feel more heard and understood Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

  5. Oct 5

    Ep. 138: Picky Eating Is a Marriage Problem Too with Katie Kimball

    Picky eating doesn't just affect kids. It can shape your meals, your mental load, and even the way you and your spouse relate to each other. In this episode, I'm joined by Katie Kimball, author of The Picky Eater Playbook, to talk about what happens when you have a picky eater in the family, whether that's your child, your spouse, or both. We unpack why mealtimes can become so stressful, how well-intentioned habits can keep the struggle going, and what may need to shift before food feels easier. Tune in to discover: • Why picky eating may be affecting more than mealtime • The habits that can unintentionally keep picky eating going • What changes when the picky eater is your spouse • How food struggles can add to the mental load • What can make family meals feel easier again Pre-order The Picky Eater Playbook: raisinghealthyfamilies.com/pickymarried Connect with Lindsay: • Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call • Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  • Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!

  6. Sep 28

    Ep. 137: Dismissive Avoidance and the Mental Load: How to ACTUALLY Get Peace in Your Marriage

    If all you want is less conflict, some of the things you're doing to keep the peace may actually be creating more of it. In this episode, I'm breaking down how dismissive avoidant attachment can show up in mental load fights and why conversations about household responsibilities, emotions, or unmet needs can feel so frustrating for both partners. If you've ever thought, "Just tell me what you need," wondered why nothing you do seems to be enough, or wanted the conversation to simply be over, this episode is for you. We'll look at the patterns that can keep these same arguments repeating and the shifts that can help you create more connection, less resentment, and the kind of peace you're actually looking for in your marriage. Tune in to discover: • How dismissive avoidance can fuel mental load fights • Why trying to avoid conflict can create even more of it • The mental load patterns you may not realize you're repeating • The surprising connection between mental load and intimacy • What can help the same arguments finally stop repeating Resource Mentioned in Episode • Dr. Morgan Cutlip’s Care Load Report: https://bettershareapp.com/care-load-report (Use code MAK10 for $10 off!) Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

  7. Sep 21

    Ep. 136: One Shift To Make to Get Out of Marriage Shutdown

    You can put a lot of effort into fixing your marriage and still feel like nothing is changing if you're solving the wrong problem. In this special episode, I'm giving you a listen inside my new private audio course, Marriage Shutdown After Kids. I'm sharing the first of three shifts that can help you rebuild the love and care that's been missing and understand why the thing you think is keeping your marriage stuck may not actually be where you need to start. You'll hear how I learned this in my own marriage, why common solutions don't always create the change you're hoping for, and how to identify the area that could become the first domino toward something better. Tune in to discover: • The first shift to make when you're stuck in Marriage Shutdown • Why fixing the obvious problem may not be working • How to identify what's actually keeping your marriage stuck • The four areas that create the foundation of a healthy marriage • How to find the first domino that can start creating real change This episode is a preview of my free five-part private audio course, Marriage Shutdown After Kids: The Three Proven Shifts That Finally Rebuild the Love and Care That's Been Missing Since You Had Kids. Listen to the full series here: Marriage Shutdown After Kids Download the Marriage Shutdown Checklist

  8. Sep 14

    Ep. 135: Back to School Systems Your Marriage Needs

    Back to school doesn't just change your kids' routines. It can completely change the rhythm of your marriage too. In this episode, I'm sharing the three systems my spouse and I intentionally revisit when we move from summer into the school routine. Because without even realizing it, new schedules can create new expectations, mental load imbalances, and patterns that quickly become "just the way we do things." We'll talk about how to get ahead of the friction before resentment builds, stay connected when your schedules suddenly get busier, and communicate about what you need before the small annoyances turn into bigger fights. Tune in to discover: • The back to school systems that can protect your marriage • How new routines create responsibilities you never consciously agreed to • Why getting ahead of the mental load matters before resentment builds • How to stay connected when school and activities take over your schedule • What to communicate early so small frustrations don't become fights Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

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Married After Kids is a podcast dedicated to strengthening marriages for parents after having kids. Hosted by Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist turned marriage coach, this podcast discusses all the ways children can challenge your marriage, while also offering effective, evidence-based solutions to help make marriages stronger and more enjoyable, which makes parenting and life so much easier. Married After Kids will completely transform how you look at marriage and give you the tools to have the marriage you want and need.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    142
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 null All Rights Reserved.
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    Married After Kids

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