Married After Kids

Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh
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Married After Kids is a podcast dedicated to strengthening marriages for parents after having kids. Hosted by Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist turned marriage coach, this podcast discusses all the ways children can challenge your marriage, while also offering effective, evidence-based solutions to help make marriages stronger and more enjoyable, which makes parenting and life so much easier. Married After Kids will completely transform how you look at marriage and give you the tools to have the marriage you want and need.

  1. 2d ago

    Ep. 138: Picky Eating Is a Marriage Problem Too with Katie Kimball

    Picky eating doesn't just affect kids. It can shape your meals, your mental load, and even the way you and your spouse relate to each other. In this episode, I'm joined by Katie Kimball, author of The Picky Eater Playbook, to talk about what happens when you have a picky eater in the family, whether that's your child, your spouse, or both. We unpack why mealtimes can become so stressful, how well-intentioned habits can keep the struggle going, and what may need to shift before food feels easier. Tune in to discover: • Why picky eating may be affecting more than mealtime • The habits that can unintentionally keep picky eating going • What changes when the picky eater is your spouse • How food struggles can add to the mental load • What can make family meals feel easier again Pre-order The Picky Eater Playbook: raisinghealthyfamilies.com/pickymarried Connect with Lindsay: • Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call • Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  • Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!

  2. Sep 28

    Ep. 137: Dismissive Avoidance and the Mental Load: How to ACTUALLY Get Peace in Your Marriage

    If all you want is less conflict, some of the things you're doing to keep the peace may actually be creating more of it. In this episode, I'm breaking down how dismissive avoidant attachment can show up in mental load fights and why conversations about household responsibilities, emotions, or unmet needs can feel so frustrating for both partners. If you've ever thought, "Just tell me what you need," wondered why nothing you do seems to be enough, or wanted the conversation to simply be over, this episode is for you. We'll look at the patterns that can keep these same arguments repeating and the shifts that can help you create more connection, less resentment, and the kind of peace you're actually looking for in your marriage. Tune in to discover: • How dismissive avoidance can fuel mental load fights • Why trying to avoid conflict can create even more of it • The mental load patterns you may not realize you're repeating • The surprising connection between mental load and intimacy • What can help the same arguments finally stop repeating Resource Mentioned in Episode • Dr. Morgan Cutlip’s Care Load Report: https://bettershareapp.com/care-load-report (Use code MAK10 for $10 off!) Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

  3. Sep 21

    Ep. 136: One Shift To Make to Get Out of Marriage Shutdown

    You can put a lot of effort into fixing your marriage and still feel like nothing is changing if you're solving the wrong problem. In this special episode, I'm giving you a listen inside my new private audio course, Marriage Shutdown After Kids. I'm sharing the first of three shifts that can help you rebuild the love and care that's been missing and understand why the thing you think is keeping your marriage stuck may not actually be where you need to start. You'll hear how I learned this in my own marriage, why common solutions don't always create the change you're hoping for, and how to identify the area that could become the first domino toward something better. Tune in to discover: • The first shift to make when you're stuck in Marriage Shutdown • Why fixing the obvious problem may not be working • How to identify what's actually keeping your marriage stuck • The four areas that create the foundation of a healthy marriage • How to find the first domino that can start creating real change This episode is a preview of my free five-part private audio course, Marriage Shutdown After Kids: The Three Proven Shifts That Finally Rebuild the Love and Care That's Been Missing Since You Had Kids. Listen to the full series here: Marriage Shutdown After Kids Download the Marriage Shutdown Checklist

  4. Sep 14

    Ep. 135: Back to School Systems Your Marriage Needs

    Back to school doesn't just change your kids' routines. It can completely change the rhythm of your marriage too. In this episode, I'm sharing the three systems my spouse and I intentionally revisit when we move from summer into the school routine. Because without even realizing it, new schedules can create new expectations, mental load imbalances, and patterns that quickly become "just the way we do things." We'll talk about how to get ahead of the friction before resentment builds, stay connected when your schedules suddenly get busier, and communicate about what you need before the small annoyances turn into bigger fights. Tune in to discover: • The back to school systems that can protect your marriage • How new routines create responsibilities you never consciously agreed to • Why getting ahead of the mental load matters before resentment builds • How to stay connected when school and activities take over your schedule • What to communicate early so small frustrations don't become fights Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

  5. Sep 7

    Ep. 134: Anxious Attachment and the Mental Load: What You Can Actually Do About It

    If mental load fights feel much bigger than the task in front of you, anxious attachment may be part of the reason. In this episode, I'm taking a closer look at how anxious attachment can show up around the mental load and why these patterns can leave you feeling overwhelmed, unsupported, and stuck. If you've ever wondered why a forgotten task or an uneven responsibility can hit so hard, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening underneath the fight. But this isn't just about understanding the pattern. I'm sharing practical shifts that can change how you carry, communicate about, and respond to the mental load so you can start creating something healthier for yourself and your marriage. Tune in to discover: • Why mental load fights can feel so personal with anxious attachment • The pattern that keeps you doing more while resenting it • Why "they should just know" can create even more disconnection • What needs to happen before productive mental load conversations can happen • How to start changing the cycle without trying to fix everything at once Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

  6. Aug 31

    Ep. 133: Which Attachment Style Is Running Your Mental Load Fights?

    You may think you're fighting about the mental load, but the real argument could be happening underneath it. In this episode, I'm breaking down how your attachment style can shape the way you experience, manage, and fight about the mental load in your marriage. Because when one spouse sees help as a sign of love while the other sees the exact same situation as pressure, criticism, or a threat to their independence, better communication alone may not solve the problem. We'll look at anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure attachment to understand why the same mental load can feel completely different to each person. You'll also learn why the calendars, lists, and systems you've tried may keep failing and what needs to happen underneath the logistics before you can actually create lasting change. Tune in to discover: • How your attachment style shapes the way you carry the mental load • Why your spouse may experience the exact same responsibilities completely differently • The hidden fears fueling resentment, defensiveness, and withdrawal • Why better communication and better systems aren't always enough • What secure attachment can teach you about handling the mental load together Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

  7. Aug 24

    Ep. 132: What Your Marriage is Teaching Your Children

    Your kids are paying attention to your marriage, even when you think they aren't. In this episode, I'm taking an honest look at what research tells us about how marriage and parental conflict can impact children. We talk about why conflict itself isn't necessarily the problem, what kids are actually picking up on at home, and why the way you communicate with your spouse matters far beyond your relationship. This isn't about guilt or creating a perfect marriage for your kids. It's about understanding how the emotional climate in your home affects them, what healthy conflict can look like, and why working on your marriage may be one of the most meaningful things you can do for your entire family. Tune in to discover: • What your children are learning from your marriage • Why conflict itself isn't necessarily harmful to kids • How tension and unresolved conflict affect the emotional climate at home • What research reveals about marriage, parenting, and children's well-being • Why changing how you communicate can positively impact your kids Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call Check out my 60 Min Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

  8. Aug 17

    Ep. 131: Your Health Is At Risk

    When you think about living a longer, healthier, happier life, you probably think about exercise, nutrition, sleep, or genetics. But decades of research point to something else entirely. In this episode, I'm diving into findings from the Harvard Study of Adult Development and what they mean for your marriage after kids. We explore what decades of research reveal about living a longer, healthier, happier life, why marriage so easily gets pushed to the bottom of the priority list after becoming parents, and why getting support shouldn't be something you wait to do until your relationship is falling apart. Tune in to discover: • The surprising connection between your marriage and your long-term health • What decades of Harvard research reveal about the biggest predictors of health and happiness • Why marriage gets deprioritized so easily after having kids • How the stress of parenthood can impact your relationship over time • Why taking care of your marriage isn't a luxury Leave a review for a chance to win The Us System!  Let’s Connect! Book a 60 Minute Marriage Shutdown Breakthrough Call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing!  FREE Resources:  • Marriage Shutdown Checklist • The 3 Secrets to a Happier Marriage Video • 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less) E-Book

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Married After Kids is a podcast dedicated to strengthening marriages for parents after having kids. Hosted by Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist turned marriage coach, this podcast discusses all the ways children can challenge your marriage, while also offering effective, evidence-based solutions to help make marriages stronger and more enjoyable, which makes parenting and life so much easier. Married After Kids will completely transform how you look at marriage and give you the tools to have the marriage you want and need.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    138
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 null All Rights Reserved.
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    Married After Kids

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