Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Cheryl Fraser
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  • Health & Fitness

Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 4d ago

    Best of SLE: Dr. Cheryl & Sexual Health Doc Lori Brotto Explore Better Sex Through Mindfulness

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  “Can meditation make me a better lover?” “Is great sex even possible in a long term relationship?” “Why aren’t I horny for my spouse anymore?” This classic episode of Sex, Love & Elephants is part of a series about the rumored demise of long-term love. I'll be sharing my own expertise on the subject as well as interviewing experts in the field about love, sex, and communication. Dr. Lori Brotto is an internationally recognized leader in sexual health research and has mentored nearly 180 trainees. She has also spent time evaluating psychological interventions for sexual dysfunction and genital pain, which collectively impact ⅓ of women. In recognition of her contributions, she holds a Canada Research Chair in women’s sexual health, has received recent awards in mentoring junior faculty, excellent public education through media, book awards, and is listed among the top 2% cited scientists by Stanford/Elsevier. Ready to rate your relationship? Take Cheryl’s Passion Quiz today and see how you and your honey rank. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:23) On average, we're having far less sex today than we were 20 years ago (05:55) If don’t experience overwhelming lust for your spouse anymore, you’re totally normal  (10:50) Scheduled sex might not feel romantic, but it’s more romantic than no sex at all (22:39) Mindfulness as a practice of being present is extremely useful for sexual satisfaction (36:36) Your relationship is normal if you're only having sex on occasion or even if you’re not making love at all (38:46) Today’s LoveByte  Connect with Dr. Lori Brotto: eSense The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook Better Sex Through Mindfulness by Lori A Brotto Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource!  Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    41 min

  2. Jun 1

    Marriage 911— Don’t Give Up

    Revive the communication, romance, and sex in your relationship! This May 26-30 I’m hosting four sessions of my FREE online Passion Masterclass. Sign up HERE and learn the 3 Keys To a Great Relationship. There will also be an extensive Q&A for Dr. Cheryl to answer YOUR questions. Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! If you’re still not sure, check out some real testimonials from couples just like you and your sweetheart. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  “We are miserable.When do you know to give up? Or is there a chance this relationship can be saved?” ” Let’s face it, staying in love over the long haul is difficult. You may feel you have fallen out of love and you argue all the time, or so it seems. Attraction and desire may feel non-existent. But don’t give up. There are proven steps that can help you renovate your relationship. It takes effort to make long term love work - and I am here to help.  On today’s Best Of episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that reviving the love, communication and yes—even the desire in your  relationship is possible. Whatever you and your partner are experiencing, even when it feels like all hope is lost, it is still possible to begin again  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (0:11) Falling in love is easy, but staying in love over the long term takes mindfulness, effort, and dedication  (3:03) The Become Passion Program involves eight weeks of lessons, live coaching calls with Dr. Cheryl where she answers your confidential questions, and bonuses trrainings with other experts in relationships and sexuality (5:07) The number one predictor of health, happiness, longevity, and more, is the quality of our romantic relationship with our companion - so work on it!   (6:13) The Become Passion program is an immersion 3 month program and we do the real work. It’s not easy…but it IS effective. Let’s create the change you desire, starting next week!   Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    10 min

  3. May 25

    Marriage 911— Sex & Aging

    Revive the communication, romance, and sex in your relationship! This May 26-30 I’m hosting four sessions of my FREE online Passion Masterclass. Sign up HERE and learn the 3 Keys To a Great Relationship. There will also be an extensive Q&A for Dr. Cheryl to answer YOUR questions. Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! If you’re still not sure, check out some real testimonials from couples just like you and your sweetheart. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  My partner and I are getting older and our sex life just isn’t what it used to be. What’s happening to us? As we age, we all experience changes in our desire, arousal, and body image. In fact, there are changes in what feels like almost everything to do with our sexual life—whether it’s with our partner or with ourselves.  On today’s Best Of episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that even if you’ve experienced some big changes to your sex life as you’ve gotten older, there are solutions to the trouble you’re facing. Listen carefully and you’ll hear the hope. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (01:30) A satisfying sex life for a couple that has at least one male bodied person in it doesn’t have to revolve around a firm erection  (04:54) Women can still have great sex post-menopause—it might just look different than before  (06:17) It's easy to give up when your bodies aren't responding well, but there are solutions out there  (08:21)Sex is a way of connecting erotically, emotionally, and spiritually with our partner and it’s a vital part of life and love  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    12 min

  4. May 18

    Marriage 911— Roommates, Not Lovers

    Revive the communication, romance, and sex in your relationship! This May 26-30 I’m hosting four sessions of my FREE online Passion Masterclass. Sign up HERE and learn the 3 Keys To a Great Relationship. There will also be an extensive Q&A to have YOUR questions answered! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  “The thrill is gone!” “I love my partner, but I'm not in love with them any more.”  “We’re no longer lovers—we’re merely roommates.”  If any of these relationship emergencies sound familiar, you’re in the right place. On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, you’ll learn that your relationship isn’t over, even if it feels like all the spark has long fizzled out. The house, the kids, and the bills can all overwhelm your romance, but they don’t have to take priority over passion.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Falling out of love and into Marriage Incorporated is insidious (03:43) Make your love life your hobby (06:13) Great date nights don’t have to be fancy or expensive—but they are so important to schedule (08:28) Big change only happens when we take action (10:27) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram

    12 min

  5. May 14

    Marriage 911—After the Affair

    ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE Relationship Reboot Workshop designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  HELP! How can I ever get over the pain of my partner’s affair?  Believe it or not, it is possible to recover from a betrayal in your relationship. It may not be easy, but great relationships always revolve around intention. On today’s Best Of episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you everything you need to know about affairs—and what you and your partner can do in the aftermath to try and reestablish trust in your relationship.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (02:18) There are sexual affairs and emotional affairs and they can be equally devastating  (03:29) An emotional affair is when you're sharing intimate hopes and dreams with someone who's not your spouse and your spouse doesn’t know  (06:49) All sympathy tends to go to the person who’s been cheated on, but we’re all just bozos on the bus who make mistakes  (09:40) No one can earn our trust, they can only choose to act in a trustworthy manner  (10:33) Very few things hurt as much as being betrayed, but there is hope  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    13 min

  6. May 11

    Marriage 911—Verbal Abuse

    ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE Relationship Reboot Workshop designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  So, you’ve just had a flooded argument… Even if you didn't resort to overt verbal abuse like yelling, swearing, or being especially cruel, you know that you said irrational things. But here’s the truth: It's not entirely your fault. When we’re dysregulated, we’re not rational.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse has the power to make us spiral—we go down the dark rabbit hole and end up rehashing every old wound, never seeming to get out of that same repeating argument. It isn’t always obvious but it does occur way too often—and it can absolutely destroy your relationship. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (04:29) Verbal abuse can be bickering, criticizing and nitpicking, and using controlling language  (04:57) Giving your partner the silent treatment or a severe lack of communication can also feel abusive  (07:18) Learning to self regulate our emotions is one of the most important things we can do for our relationships  (07:58) Be kind to your friend… And if you snap, apologize!  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    10 min

  7. May 8

    Marriage 911—Is Divorce the Answer?

    ON Saturday, May 16 from 10am–1pm PST join me, Dr. Cheryl, live on Zoom for a special FREE ⁠Relationship Reboot Workshop⁠ designed to help you take stock, reconnect, and create your next step as a couple. Previously only offered inside Become Passion, this live workshop will help you identify what’s working, what’s struggling, and where to focus! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 26, 2026— click HERE to join the wait list! Still not sure? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Marriage 911! What's your emergency?  Maybe you feel like it’s time for divorce, or you’ve fallen out of head-over-heels love, or maybe you’re even trying to recover from one of you stepping out on your relationship. Whatever it is,  every long term relationship runs into big obstacles… It’s who we are and what we do together to surmount those obstacles that really matters in the end.  On today’s episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you about some of the biggest pain points a couple can have. That includes being on the edge of divorce, struggling with verbal abuse, attempting to recover from an affair, and that dreaded “I love you… but I'm not IN love with you, anymore” feeling. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (05:04) Feeling alone and lonely in a relationship is very common  (05:26) Complacency can ruin a relationship  (06:54) Sensuality and sexuality is a beautiful, powerful, important part of who we are as a couple  (07:42) 50% of second marriages fail because root problems aren’t being addressed  Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    12 min

  8. May 4

    Make your Mate a Soulmate: A Conversation with Dr. Cheryl & Love Alchemist Arielle Ford

    💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now  "Is my partner truly my soulmate or is it something we create together?" "How do I find the upside of my partner's imperfections?" "How do you rebuild trust after betrayal?" On today's episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I'm joined by bestselling author and love alchemist Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret, Wabi Sabi Love, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate, and her debut novel, The Love Thief.  Arielle and I explore the messy, magnificent reality of long-term love, learning to love the perfectly imperfect person in front of you, and dive into why soulmates aren't found, they're made.  In This Episode, You'll Learn: (01:18) About wabi-sabi love and how an ancient Japanese aesthetic can transform the way you see your partner's most irritating habits  (06:11) The physical and emotional toll of running a negative story about your partner (09:14) Why you're going to die with your core wounds and why that's liberating news for your relationship (13:20) Why butterflies are nature's trick and love is a daily behavior and choice (23:09) You probably already have many soulmates in your life right now (31:44) About The Love Thief, Arielle's debut novel based on actual events (38:30) The physical and psychological devastation of intimate betrayal mirrors PTSD (52:13) Today's LoveByte Connect with Arielle: YouTube  The Love Thief by Arielle Ford  @Arielleford_author on Instagram Substack  Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open May 2026! Click here to join the waitlist. Still not sure about joining? Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. 💖 Check Out My Free Course Today! Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl's book Buddha's Bedroom is a great resource! Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz

    56 min
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Ever notice that everything you thought would make you happy ever after...didn’t?   Me too. Turns out Shaun Cassidy was NOT my soulmate, orgasms only last a few seconds, and happiness is an inside job.   As a psychologist, Buddhist teacher, sex therapist & author of Buddha’s Bedroom my mission is to kick you off the couch and into your unfolded life. But first, you gotta meet your elephant. So let’s go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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