The Out of the Cave Podcast

Lisa Schlosberg
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The Out of the Cave Podcast is a resource hosted by Lisa Schlosberg, LMSW, for all who struggle with emotional eating, stress eating, under-eating, overeating, mindless eating, and have a complicated relationship to food, eating, and body image.

  1. 2d ago

    Solo Series Chapter 34: The Holistic Framework That Makes Intentional Weight Loss Sustainable

    Lisa deepens the trauma‑informed conversation around intentional weight loss by introducing two foundational visuals from her coaching curriculum—the Health Pie Chart and the Weight-Health Venn Diagram. She begins with a small moment of intuitive self‑listening to illustrate how “listening to your body” shows up in everyday life beyond hunger and fullness. Lisa then teaches the holistic health pie chart, the dieting pie chart, and the balanced pie chart to show how weight fits into a broader definition of health. From there, she breaks down the Venn diagram, clarifying the difference between choices that change weight but harm health, choices that support health but don’t directly change weight, and the nuanced middle where both can coexist.  Topics Include: Listening to the body Holistic health pie chart Weight–Health Venn diagram Trauma‑informed intentional weight loss [1:00] Lisa describes putting her necklace back on as an example of listening to her body’s subtle cues rather than relying on logic or rigidity. She expands the definition to include emotions, intuition, inner child, and soul‑level impulses that guide everyday choices. Lisa explains emotional language and encourages honoring impulses even when they don’t make logical sense. [5:37] Lisa introduces the health pie chart as foundational to understanding holistic health and the energetics of food. She outlines the seven domains: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, environmental, and physiological health. Lisa introduces the dieting pie chart where weight becomes 95% of the focus, sacrificing mental, emotional, and social health. She explains weight as 2% of the pie showing how weight can be part of the conversation without dominating it. She clarifies weight neutrality emphasizing that peace comes from being able to see the number without making meaning of it. [18:05] Lisa introduces the weight–health Venn diagram to clarify the difference between weight‑changing behaviors and health‑supporting behaviors. Lisa describes childhood conditioning where weight and health were conflated, and how unlearning that distinction changed everything. Lisa lists weight‑focused behaviors that may lower the scale number but harm holistic health. [23:49] Lisa describes suppression vs. connection and why suppressing hunger contradicts her value of listening to the body. She explains starvation’s placement showing how extreme restriction lowers weight but destroys holistic health. Lisa lists health‑focused behaviors that support holistic wellbeing but don’t necessarily lower weight immediately. [29:33] Lisa explains social health noting that social connection, permission, and flexibility are part of holistic health. She explains food freedom showing how reclaiming permission to eat previously forbidden foods can be deeply healthy. Lisa names the purpose of the Venn diagram to show that weight and health are not synonymous, and that sustainable change requires understanding both. [57:45] Lisa emphasizes that some choices support holistic health without producing rapid or immediate weight loss—and that this distinction matters for sustainable change. She explains that the Venn diagram exists to show that weight and health are not synonymous, and that sustainable, trauma‑informed change requires understanding both categories clearly. [1:03:05] Lisa closes the episode by reminding listeners that intentional weight loss must be grounded in safety, bio‑individuality, and emotional honesty, and that peace comes from choosing behaviors aligned with both health and self‑trust—not from chasing rapid weight change. Join Us on Patreon!  LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients! ⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠ ⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠ Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠ ⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10 Lisa’s Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠

  2. Jul 27

    Solo Series Chapter 33: Math Without Morality For A Trauma-Informed Approach to Intentional Weight Loss

    In this episode, Lisa explores the identity loss that emerges when doing deep mind‑body healing work—how becoming more embodied, sensitive, intuitive, and emotionally available can feel disorienting when it contradicts old identities like “the strong one who doesn’t do feelings.” Through stories about bugs, intuition, grief, and tenderness, she illustrates how identity shifts show up in everyday moments. The episode then pivots into intentional weight loss, emphasizing the “finish‑the‑sentence” tool, the difference between math vs. meaning, and how to hold food‑related decisions with neutrality rather than moral judgment. She reframes calorie deficits, exercise, permission, and choice through a trauma‑informed lens, grounding the conversation in safety, agency, and emotional honesty. Topics Include: Identity Changes Calorie Deficit  Diet culture vs. anti‑diet  Safety in decision‑making [1:00] Lisa shares Bob’s message, “The identity loss is real though,” and explains how deep healing work inevitably shifts identity and self‑perception. She explains that changing how you relate to yourself changes how you relate to the world, often creating discomfort, unfamiliarity, and emotional vulnerability. Lisa highlights how people move through life with blinders on, avoiding emotional triggers because feeling deeply can be inconvenient and overwhelming [7:06] Lisa explains that becoming more embodied and sensitive continually reshapes identity, bringing new emotional experiences that challenge old patterns. She explains her sadness at killing a fly, recognizing that becoming softer inside is part of her transformation, even as her physical body becomes stronger. [15:35] Lisa shifts into fierceness to revisit food neutrality and intentional weight loss, returning to the “finish‑the‑sentence” tool. She explains how completing statements like “I ate too much…” with “…to be in a calorie deficit” prevents shame‑based interpretations like “…to be lovable.” Lisa explains that sometimes this belief comes from fear and scarcity, but other times it reflects intentional energy balance and mindful calorie management. [18:29] Lisa describes how athletes and people with medical needs often think in terms of input/output math without moral judgment, showing the complexity of this narrative. She emphasizes that calorie deficits, maintenance, and surpluses are neutral numbers—not reflections of worthiness, goodness, or identity.  [23:50] Lisa shows how saying “I can’t eat that” removes agency and triggers a survival response, while “I can eat that, but…” restores power and safety. She highlights that removing choice creates threat, while acknowledging “I can eat that” restores freedom and aligns behavior with values. Lisa explains that feeling triggered is normal and often signals dieting trauma rising to be healed, encouraging listeners to meet discomfort with compassion. [56:54] Lisa explains that intentional weight loss is neither moralistic restriction nor chaotic permission—it is aligned choice, math, and emotional safety. She explains that intentional weight loss is neither moralistic restriction nor chaotic permission—it is aligned choice, math, and emotional safety. [1:02:00] Lisa wraps the episode by explaining that discomfort, fear, and old dieting trauma are normal parts of this work, and she encourages them to meet those reactions with compassion rather than judgment. She clarifies that sustainable, intentional weight loss lives between diet‑culture rigidity and anti‑diet avoidance, emphasizing aligned choice, emotional safety, and neutrality around food. Join Us on Patreon!  LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients! ⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠ ⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠ Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠ ⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10 Lisa’s Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠

  3. Jul 20

    Solo Series Chapter 32: Meeting Fear with Love When Intentional Weight Loss Feels Like Diet Culture

    In this episode, Lisa explores resilience, habit change, and the internal conflict that arises when pursuing intentional weight loss. She shares updates from her ongoing conversations with Bob, highlighting how nervous system regulation, habit formation, and “dad mode” reparenting become more accessible over time. Lisa expands the conversation into boundaries with self, the difference between present‑you and future‑you responsibilities, and how to separate emotional meaning from neutral data when tracking food or behavior. She explains the “finish the sentence” tool to dismantle shame‑based interpretations, clarifies the math of fat loss, and shows how healing the masculine energy behind discipline allows structure to feel safe rather than punitive. Topics Include: Judgment vs. Awareness Calorie Deficit Basics Healing Shadow Masculine Energy Meeting Fear With Love [4:25] Lisa revisits her conversations with Bob and shares his progress with “good breathing,” noting that ten weeks of nervous‑system work has nearly replaced old programming. She explains Bob’s insight that reparenting doesn’t require constant vigilance—only 10–20% of moments need active “dad mode” once habits stabilize. Lisa describes habit formation explaining how routines become neural pathways, reducing the emotional labor of reparenting. [8:44] Lisa expands the boundary concept showing how the phrase applies not only to others but also to future versions of ourselves. She explains timeline boundaries using her move from San Diego to New York to illustrate this. Lisa describes intuitive action emphasizing that clarity in the present doesn’t require knowing what comes next. [14:19] Lisa revisits neutral awareness explaining how neutral questions (“What did you eat?”) can feel like judgment when filtered through old narratives. She explains calorie deficit basics clarifying that fat loss requires a deficit, achieved through input, output, or both. She describes emotional conflation showing how “I ate too much” becomes “I’m unlovable” when meaning‑making takes over. She explains aligned boundaries describing how saying no to dessert can be about maintaining a deficit—not about earning love. [27:18] Lisa reframes behavior change showing how choices rooted in desire for fat loss feel different than choices rooted in fear of unworthiness. She reinforces neutrality reminding listeners that calorie math is not a referendum on worthiness. She uses a travel analogy explaining that certain tasks are simply required to reach a destination. [31:06] Lisa transitions to masculine energy explaining that discipline becomes safe when the energy behind it is healed. She introduces the core theme showing how remembering intentions dissolves punitive energy. Lisa acknowledges deeper work explaining that sometimes fear requires more than cognitive reframing. [44:00] Lisa highlights the importance of knowing your why, explaining that remembering the intention behind a choice dissolves punitive energy and prevents slipping into old diet‑culture trauma. She reframes behavior change, explaining that choices rooted in desire for fat loss feel grounded, while choices rooted in fear of unworthiness feel unsafe and chaotic. [50:00] Lisa explains how discipline becomes safe when the energy behind it is healed and no longer punitive or controlling. She explains that remembering intentions dissolves fear and prevents slipping into drill‑sergeant energy. Lisa wraps the episode by explaining that the next chapter will continue exploring how to meet fear with love while building sustainable habits. Join Us on Patreon!  LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients! ⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠ ⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠ Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠ ⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10 Lisa’s Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠

  4. Jul 13

    Solo Series Chapter 31: Using Tender Fierceness to Create Safety Around Accountability

    In this episode, Lisa explores how confirmation bias, boundaries, and self‑compassion shape the internal experience of intentional weight loss. She uses vivid real‑life examples to illustrate how the brain interprets neutral data as personal attack when trust with self is low. She breaks down the difference between judgment vs. awareness, guilt vs. shame, and niceness vs. neutrality, showing how healing the relationship with the “inner parent” allows accountability to feel safe rather than punishing. The episode centers on learning to be tenderly fierce: telling the truth with love, setting boundaries without collapse or aggression, and reclaiming emotional responsibility as the foundation for sustainable change.  Topics Include: Confirmation Bias and Negativity Bias Fierce vs. Tender Self‑Compassion Guilt vs. Shame in Behavior Change Tenderly Fierce Boundary‑Setting [3:23] Lisa explains confirmation bias using the example of remembering one insult over a hundred compliments, showing how the brain prioritizes perceived threats to identity and safety. She describes NYC Knicks mania and how seeing blue and orange everywhere activates her brain’s pattern‑matching, illustrating how bias becomes heightened when something is emotionally salient. [10:49] Lisa connects bias to food and accountability showing that when trust with self is low, neutral questions like “What did you eat today?” feel like attacks because the internal confirmation bias is primed for danger. She explains how internal beliefs shape perception, noting that if someone believes “I’m not enough,” they will unconsciously scan for evidence that confirms it, even when none exists. [14:39] Lisa reinforces perception vs. reality emphasizing that people interpret the world through their internal state, not objective truth—especially around food, weight, and accountability. She explains alert‑and‑relaxed as the balanced nervous‑system state needed for self‑leadership: aware of surroundings without collapsing into hypervigilance or shutting down.  [20:20] Lisa connects nervous system concepts to cultural dynamics, showing how structure + flexibility apply universally across yoga, the gym, NYC culture, and internal emotional work. She explains objective boundaries are not rude; they are factual, grounded, and essential for emotional responsibility. Lisa connects boundaries to intentional weight loss explaining that clarity about what’s yours vs. not yours is essential for sustainable change and self‑trust. [33:19] Lisa explains adaptive guilt showing that guilt signals misalignment and supports change, while shame shuts people down and reinforces fear. She defines shame as “I am bad,” which blocks growth and makes accountability feel dangerous. She explains how people turn neutral facts into personal attacks, creating emotional threats where none exists.  [52:50] Lisa reinforces guilt vs. shame as essential distinctions for sustainable change and emotional safety. She explains emotional safety showing how neutrality allows accountability without collapse or defensiveness. Lisa clarifies why neutrality feels safer than inauthentic kindness and how misinterpreting neutrality creates unnecessary fear. [58:36] Lisa explains emotional safety showing how neutrality allows accountability without collapse or defensiveness. She clarifies niceness vs. authenticity explaining why neutrality feels safer than inauthentic kindness and how misinterpreting neutrality creates unnecessary fear. [1:07:18] Lisa closes the episode naming “tenderly fierce” as the middle path between collapse and aggression, and the foundation for sustainable self‑leadership. Join Us on Patreon!  LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients! ⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠ ⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠ Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠ ⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10 Lisa’s Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠

  5. Jul 6

    Solo Series Chapter 30: Moving From Shameful Judgement To Compassionate Inquiry For Intentional Weight Loss

    In this episode, Lisa continues the conversation on integrating intuition and structure, showing how intuitive eating and intuitive movement only work when the masculine energy is healed enough to create safety. She explains how rigid food fears block intuitive guidance, and how aligned structure allows intuition to come online. Lisa expands this into emotional accountability, exploring the difference between awareness and judgment, guilt and shame, and how meaning‑making keeps people stuck. She uses her experiences in California and New York to illustrate the internal pendulum between shadow feminine and shadow masculine, and how healing creates neutrality, honesty, and safety.  Topics Include: Intuition Within Structure Fear vs. Safety in Food Choices Awareness vs. Judgment Guilt vs. Shame [1:53] Lisa explains how intuition and structure work together. She shows that intuitive eating only works when the masculine energy is healed enough to allow intuitive guidance to come through. Lisa explains how intuitive knowing drops in when food fears and rigid rules are released. Lisa shows how healthy masculine supports intuitive eating. She explains that aligned structure allows intuition to guide choices without rigidity. [7:40] Lisa expands into California vs. New York as an energy metaphor. She uses her move to California and return to New York to illustrate the pendulum between shadow feminine and shadow masculine. She explains how leaving New York allowed her to heal, and returning allowed her to reconnect with aligned masculine energy.  [21:43] Lisa explains NYC neutrality as emotional safety. She describes how New Yorkers’ neutrality feels freeing because it removes judgment and meaning‑making. Lisa describes how New Yorkers’ neutrality feels freeing because it removes judgment and meaning‑making. [36:33] Lisa contrasts neutrality with California niceness. She explains how niceness can feel inauthentic, while neutrality feels honest and safe. Lisa connects NYC culture to internal accountability. She shows how New Yorkers help each other without emotional entanglement, mirroring healthy internal leadership.  [50:55] Lisa explains awareness vs. judgment in food tracking. She clarifies that asking “What did you eat today?” can be neutral data collection, not shame. Lisa distinguishes guilt from shame. She explains that guilt is adaptive and helps guide aligned behavior, while shame keeps people stuck. [58:36] Lisa explains how people turn neutral facts into personal attacks, making accountability feel unsafe. Lisa emphasizes healing the masculine to make action safe. She shows that sustainable change requires a healed relationship with structure, discipline, and accountability. [1:03:25] Lisa closes with the concept of being tenderly fierce. She wraps up by grounding listeners in the idea that accountability becomes safe when delivered with tenderness. Join Us on Patreon!  LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients! ⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠ ⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠ Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠ ⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10 Lisa’s Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠

  6. Jun 29

    Solo Series Chapter 29: Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy For Compassionate Change

    In this episode, Lisa deepens the conversation on intuitive eating, self‑compassion, and the integration of masculine and feminine energies. She shares real‑time examples of intuitive eating and intuitive movement—moments when her body communicates clearly through sensation, emotion, and inner knowing. She explains how fear, food rules, and diet culture block access to intuition, and how safety, neutrality, and self‑trust reopen it. Lisa then expands the conversation into the balance of tender and fierce self‑compassion, showing how both are required for sustainable change. She introduces the concept of shadow masculine and shadow feminine energies, explains how diet culture and anti‑diet culture each represent distorted extremes, and outlines how healing the masculine—structure, boundaries, accountability—creates the safety needed for intuition, flow, and aligned action.  Topics Include: Intuitive Eating and Movement Fierce vs. Tender Self‑Compassion Shadow Masculine & Shadow Feminine Healing the Masculine for Safety [1:00] Lisa shares a real‑time example of intuitive eating. She describes feeling abdominal discomfort and immediately sensing that her body needed simple, easy‑to‑digest foods like rice, salmon, avocado, and steamed vegetables. Lisa explains how intuitive eating is spiritual, not just physical. She shows how intuition communicates through knowing, imagery, and energetic clarity—not calorie math or food rules. [6:43] Lisa highlights how fear blocks intuition. She explains that when someone fears carbs, fats, or specific foods, they can’t access intuitive guidance because the nervous system doesn’t feel safe enough to listen. Lisa demonstrates intuitive movement through an injury story. Lisa teaches how to discern fear from intuition. She explains that intuition feels grounded, calm, and clear, while fear feels urgent, catastrophic, and restrictive. She shows how diet culture represents shadow masculine and anti‑diet culture represents shadow feminine.  [20:06] Lisa explains shadow masculine energy in dieting. She identifies traits like punishment, perfectionism, urgency, and self‑abandonment as distorted masculine patterns embedded in diet culture. Lisa explains shadow feminine energy in anti‑diet culture. She describes how avoidance, boundarylessness, and lack of structure can leave people ungrounded and unable to care for themselves. Lisa introduces the idea of healing the masculine. She explains that sustainable intentional weight loss requires aligned masculine energy: structure, clarity, boundaries, routine, and follow‑through. [32:49] Lisa shows how healthy masculine energy creates safety. She emphasizes that intuition and feminine wisdom can only flourish when held by a non‑punitive, stable internal container. Lisa reframes discipline as support, not punishment. She explains that the goal is not to reject discipline but to transform it into something grounded, compassionate, and sustainable. Lisa frames this chapter as the “third way.” She describes her approach as integrating structure and intuition, discipline and compassion, action and emotional truth without swinging to extremes. [1:08:01] Lisa closes the episode by grounding listeners in the safety of truth‑telling and responsibility. She emphasizes that healing requires feeling safe enough to look directly at your patterns, take ownership, and engage fierce self‑compassion. She reminds listeners that avoidance isn’t kindness, and that aligned masculine energy—structure, honesty, accountability—is what ultimately creates the safety needed for intuitive eating, intentional change, and integration. Join Us on Patreon!  LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients! ⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠ ⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠ Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠ ⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10 Lisa’s Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠

  7. Jun 22

    Solo Series Chapter 28: Listening to the Body — Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually

    In this episode, Lisa explores intuitive living as a full‑body, full‑soul practice, using a real‑time story from her morning to show what it looks like to honor creative energy over rigid plans. She explains that listening to your body goes far beyond hunger and fullness—it’s about listening to the soul that lives inside the body, and telling the truth about how you feel. Through examples of dieting, exercise, emotional honesty, and spiritual alignment, Lisa reframes intuitive eating as intuitive living. Lisa introduces the Goldilocks Game as a way to find “just‑right” action steps that build trust instead of overwhelm, and clarifies the difference between bailing on yourself and simply choosing a step that was too big. This chapter becomes a living demonstration of self‑trust, flexibility, and honoring the deeper intelligence that guides intentional change. Topics Include: Intuitive Living Beyond Hunger Cues  Emotional Truth as Intuition  The Goldilocks Game  Honoring Creative and Spiritual Alignment [0:32] Lisa explains how intuitive living unfolds in real time. Lisa uses her morning walk to show how intuitive impulses arise in the body and how honoring them creates alignment, joy, and spiritual integrity. She reframes “listen to your body” as tuning into the deeper emotional and spiritual truth that lives beneath hunger and fullness cues. Lisa illustrates emotional truth as intuitive guidance. She teaches that asking “How do I feel about this?” becomes the clearest doorway into intuition, clarity, and self‑trust. [5:14] Lisa demonstrates honoring creative energy as spiritual self‑care. She shares how choosing to record instead of following her workout plan becomes an act of spiritual alignment and inner‑child validation. Lisa reframes intuitive eating as intuitive living. She explains that intuition includes instincts, desires, emotional resonance, and spiritual signals—not just hunger and fullness. [11:50] Lisa shows how people override intuition through dieting. She explains that most people know how they feel about extreme diets but override that wisdom due to fear, conditioning, or lack of alternatives. Lisa highlights emotional and energetic cues as body communication. She teaches that the body is always speaking through contraction, overwhelm, excitement, or dread—even when someone feels disconnected from physical sensations. [22:15] Lisa uses the athlete mindset to illustrate focus and discipline. She shares stories about her father’s athletic presence to show how focus, courage, and “me, my opponent, and nothing else” apply to inner work. Lisa clarifies the difference between bailing on yourself and choosing a step that was too big. She explains that failing to follow through on an oversized goal isn’t self‑betrayal—it’s a sign the step was dysregulating, not aligned. [26:55] Lisa explains the role of safe discomfort in growth. She shows that discomfort is necessary for change, but only when it stays within the learning zone rather than tipping into overwhelm. Lisa challenges limiting beliefs about discipline and consistency. She reframes “I’m inconsistent” as a misunderstanding of unsustainable plans, not a personal flaw. [30:32] Lisa introduces the Goldilocks Game for sustainable change. She teaches how to run experiments, collect data, and adjust until an action step is “just right” for your nervous system. Lisa clarifies the difference between bailing on yourself and choosing a step that was too big. She explains that failing to follow through on an oversized goal isn’t self‑betrayal—it’s a sign the step was dysregulating, not aligned, and needs to be scaled down. Join Us on Patreon!  LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients! ⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠ ⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠ Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠ ⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10 Lisa’s Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠

  8. Jun 15

    Solo Series Chapter 27: Rebuilding Safety and Trust With Yourself Through Fierce Self‑Compassion

    In this episode, Lisa deepens the exploration of fierce self‑compassion by showing how disciplined action, loving boundaries, and spiritual alignment rebuild self‑trust from the inside out. She expands on Bob’s “take it seriously, hold it gently” framework, weaving it into a larger conversation about reparenting yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Lisa reframes the body as a home and an instrument for experiencing life, not an ornament to perfection, and explains how neutrality, not instant self‑love, is often the first safe step. Drawing on attachment science, intuitive eating, and a powerful Instagram post by Ailey Jolie, she illustrates why reliability, structure, and follow‑through are essential for creating internal safety. Through stories, examples, and real‑time inner‑child work, Lisa shows how fierce self‑compassion—taking action even when it’s uncomfortable—is an act of profound love that rebuilds trust, restores agency, and supports sustainable intentional change. Topics Include: Moving from Fear to Love Self‑Care Across Body, Heart, and Higher Self Fierce Self Compassion In Action Body as a Spiritual Instrument [1:25 Lisa shares that fierce self‑compassion as the loving decision to stay committed to the goals and values of her higher self, even when it’s hard. She reminds listeners that the alternative to doing the uncomfortable thing is abandoning oneself, and she holds the stance of a grounded inner parent.  [16:32] Lisa explains that what feels like self‑loathing is usually fear. She teaches that the path back to love begins with neutrality, not adoration: the simple, steady practice of saying “This is my body, and I am safe to stay with it.” She reminds listeners that trust is rebuilt through action, not thought, and that small, consistent commitments become evidence that you are reliable, predictable, and capable. Each tiny follow‑through becomes a moment of reparenting, slowly shifting the internal world from fear to safety, and from safety to love. [24:12] Lisa explains that real reparenting requires tending to yourself on all three levels: physically through food, sleep, and movement; emotionally through validation and tender self‑compassion; and spiritually through aligning your actions with your values and higher self. She shows that tender care without action is incomplete and unsafe; that fierce self‑compassion is the loving follow‑through that meets your needs. She teaches that true intuitive eating includes gut feelings, instincts, and values‑based alignment, not just hunger and fullness cues. [32:41] Lisa discusses how the pop‑psychology trend of having “no expectations” often becomes emotional bracing rather than liberation, because expectations are the architecture of any safe relationship—including the one you have with yourself. She reframes discomfort as a loving act when it moves you toward the life you want, challenging the idea that intentional change is inherently self‑rejecting. She shows how externalizing the inner critic unlocks a protective “mama bear” energy turning boundaries into acts of love. She reinforces that this applies internally too by calling yourself out on self‑sabotage is not cruelty but accountability, the kind that catalyzes real transformation.  Join Us on Patreon!  LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients! ⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠ ⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠ Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠ ⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10 Lisa’s Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠

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The Out of the Cave Podcast is a resource hosted by Lisa Schlosberg, LMSW, for all who struggle with emotional eating, stress eating, under-eating, overeating, mindless eating, and have a complicated relationship to food, eating, and body image.

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  • Creator
    Lisa Schlosberg
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    188
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Lisa Schlosberg
  • Show Website
    The Out of the Cave Podcast

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