The Art of Raising Humans

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Kyle and Sara Wester are Licensed Professional Counselors (LPCs) with over 20 years experience working with children and teenagers in Tulsa, Oklahoma.Their podcast will help you parent from a place of freedom, love, and courage. Their passion is to help you uncover areas of fear and shame in your parenting and inspire you to empower your children to become healthy adults.They use the latest research in neuroscience coupled with their own experience raising 3 children.

  1. 5d ago

    How To Stop Punishing Without Becoming Permissive

    Many parents today feel stuck between two extremes: Punishment and power struggles,OR permissiveness and inconsistency.  But what if there’s another way?   In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester from Art of Raising Humans walk parents through their GUIDE framework, a practical, relationship-based approach that helps parents hold boundaries, teach responsibility, and build emotional regulation without relying on fear, shame, or punishment.   This conversation is filled with: real-life parenting examples,nervous system insights,and practical tools parents can begin using immediately with kids, tweens, and teens.  If you’ve ever wondered: “How do I hold limits without yelling?”“How do I teach accountability without punishment?”“What do I actually do during emotional meltdowns?”“How do I stay calm when my child loses control?”…this episode will give you a practical roadmap forward.   In This Episode Why punishment often fails to build long-term skillsThe difference between accountability and punishmentHow parent regulation changes difficult momentsWhat children actually need during emotional overwhelmThe GUIDE framework for calm, connected disciplinePractical ways to hold firm boundaries without fear or shameWhy repair matters after conflictHow to help kids build emotional regulation and responsibility  View the full podcast transcript at:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-stop-punishing-without-becoming-permissive   Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.   Resource Website:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses:  https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website:  https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist   The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

    34 min

  2. May 25

    Why Punishment Doesn’t Work (And What Actually Helps Kids Learn) with Jon Fogel

    Check out Jon Fogel's "Parent Lab" membership. It has courses, challenges, and coaching included. Learn more at Members.wholeparentacademy.com. In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester sit down with parenting educator and author Jon Fogel to unpack the science behind punishment, discipline, emotional regulation, and raising resilient kids without fear, shame, or power struggles.   Jon explains why punishment often teaches the wrong lessons, what actually happens in a child’s brain during moments of stress, and why long-term influence comes through connection, boundaries, and skill-building; not fear or control.   Whether you’re parenting a strong-willed child, a neurodiverse child, or simply trying to break generational parenting patterns, this conversation offers practical, brain-based strategies that help parents lead with calm authority while still holding healthy boundaries.   If you’ve ever wondered: “If I don’t punish, won’t my child just keep doing it?”“What’s the difference between gentle parenting and permissiveness?”“How do I hold boundaries without yelling, shame, or punishment?”…this episode is for you.   In This Episode: Why punishment often teaches the wrong lessonWhat brain science reveals about discipline and emotional regulationThe difference between punishment, consequences, and permissivenessWhy kids need boundaries without fear-based parentingHow shame impacts a child’s brain and behaviorParenting neurodiverse children with greater understandingWhy most effective discipline happens after the moment, not during itHow to help children build resilience through natural consequencesPractical tools parents can use during meltdowns and conflict  Key Takeaways: Punishment may stop behavior temporarily, but it rarely builds long-term skillsChildren learn best when they feel safe, connected, and emotionally regulatedBoundaries and authority still matter in connected parentingNatural consequences are often more effective than punishmentParenting with empathy does not mean permissivenessLong-term influence is built through relationship and trust  Resources Mentioned: Punishment-Free Parenting: The Brain-Based Way to Raise Kids Without Raising Your Voice by Jon Fogel Set My Feelings Free by Jon Fogel Jon Fogel / Whole Parent: https://www.jonfogel.com The Parent Lab: https://www.jonfogel.com/parentlab Instagram: @WholeParent   View the full podcast transcript at:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-punishment-doesnt-work-and-what-actually-helps-kids-learn-with-jon-fogel   Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.   Resource Website:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses:  https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website:  https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist   The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

    40 min

  3. May 18

    Why Your Teen Needs to Disagree With You (And How to Stay Connected When They Do)

    Why does your teen suddenly argue about everything?   Why do simple conversations turn into tension, frustration, or shutdown?   In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester unpack what’s actually happening in the teenage brain during adolescence and why disagreement is often a healthy sign of development—not disrespect.   You’ll learn why teens naturally start questioning parents, what fear this can trigger in moms and dads, and how to respond in ways that strengthen connection instead of damaging it.    This episode will help you stay calm during conflict, keep communication open, and build long-term influence with your teen without relying on control or power struggles.   If you’ve ever wondered: “Why is my teen pushing back so much?”“Am I losing influence?”“How do I stay connected without giving in?”…this episode is for you. In This Episode: What’s happening in the teenage brain during adolescenceWhy disagreement is part of healthy identity developmentThe difference between defiance and differentiationWhy control often weakens connection and influenceHow to stay calm and connected during conflictPractical ways to respond without shutting conversations downHow curiosity builds trust and communicationThe shift from controlling behavior to coaching decision-makingKey Takeaways: Teen disagreement is normal and developmentally healthyYour response matters more than winning the argumentConnection creates more long-term influence than controlCalm, curious parenting keeps communication openTeens still need guidance, even when they push back  View the full podcast transcript at:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-your-teen-needs-to-disagree-with-you-and-how-to-stay-connected-when-they-do   Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.   Resource Website:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses:  https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website:  https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist   The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

    29 min

  4. May 11

    Touched Out, On Edge, and Overwhelmed? Why Moms Feel This Way (and What Actually Helps)

    If you have ever felt touched out, on edge, or reactive with your kids even when nothing big is wrong, this episode will help you understand why.   Most parenting advice focuses on managing your time, your tasks, or your mindset. But what if the real issue is not what you are doing, but what your nervous system is constantly taking in?   In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, we talk about the overstimulation many moms experience every day and how constant input like noise, touch, questions, and emotional demands keeps your body in a state of stress.   We explain what is happening in your brain and body, why this often leads to snapping or shutting down, and what helps you feel calmer, more present, and more like yourself again. You will walk away with three simple shifts that reduce overstimulation, support your nervous system, and change the way you show up at home.   We also talk about how dads and partners can play a key role, not just by helping more, but by actively reducing the inputs that are overwhelming moms.   In this episode, we cover Why moms feel overstimulated even when nothing major is wrongThe difference between mental load and nervous system overloadHow constant input keeps your body in a stress responseWhy snapping or shutting down is often a physiological responseThree shifts that reduce overstimulation and increase calmHow partners can help by reducing input, not just adding support  Three shifts to reduce overstimulation Lower the input, not just the expectationsYour nervous system needs fewer demands, not just better coping strategies.Externalize what is looping in your mindGetting thoughts out of your head creates space and reduces internal noise.Shift from help to ownership at homeTrue relief comes when responsibilities are fully shared, not managed by one person.  Key takeaway You are not too sensitive. You are not handling it wrong. Your nervous system is overloaded. When you reduce the input, everything from your patience to your presence starts to change.   View the full podcast transcript at:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/touched-out-on-edge-and-overwhelmed-why-moms-feel-this-way-and-what-actually-helps   Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.   Resource Website:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses:  https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website:  https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist   The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

    30 min

  5. May 4

    Why Play Is the Missing Piece in Your Parenting (With Dr. Kim Van Dusen)

    What if one of the most powerful tools in parenting is something most of us overlook? In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Kim Van Dusen to talk about the role of play in building connection, improving behavior, and helping children navigate big emotions.   Many parents think of play as something extra — something fun if there is time. But as Dr. Kim explains, play is not just entertainment. It is one of the most effective ways to build trust, teach emotional skills, and create the kind of relationship that actually influences behavior. We talk about how to balance connection and boundaries, what to do when kids have big reactions, and how simple, playful moments throughout the day can completely shift the tone of your home.   If you’ve ever felt stuck in power struggles, overwhelmed by big emotions, or unsure how to connect with your child in the middle of hard moments, this conversation will give you practical and realistic ways to start. In this episode, we cover: Why play is more than just fun — it is a powerful parenting toolHow connection through play can improve behavior over timeThe balance between boundaries and connectionHow to respond to big feelings without losing your footingPractical ways to use play during transitions, meltdowns, and everyday momentsWhy some parents struggle to engage in play and how to overcome itHow play builds trust, safety, and emotional resilience in childrenPractical takeaways for parents: Look for small “playful pockets” throughout the dayUse simple tools like visual timers to ease transitionsCreate small rituals that build connectionFocus on your own regulation as the foundationBe willing to step into your child’s world — even briefly  About our guest: Dr. Kim Van Dusen is a therapist and parenting expert who helps families build stronger relationships through connection and play. Her work focuses on helping parents navigate behavior, emotions, and everyday challenges in a way that builds trust and long-term resilience.   Resources: Parenting Through Play (Book): AmazonAmazon.com Website: Kimvandusenkimvandusen.com Instagram: Instagraminstagram.com/theparentologist   View the full podcast transcript at:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-play-is-the-missing-piece-in-your-parenting-with-dr-kim-van-dusen   Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.   Resource Website:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses:  https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website:  https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist   The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

    39 min

  6. Apr 27

    10 Things I Want My Teen to Learn Before They Graduate

    In this episode, Kyle and Sara Wester talk about 10 essential life skills and character traits they hope every teen is learning before graduation.   As teens move closer to adulthood, many parents feel the pressure to prepare them for what’s next. But readiness is not just about college, careers, or independence. It’s also about emotional maturity, relationships, responsibility, and knowing how to navigate real life.   From learning how to ask for help to handling emotions, building healthy relationships, and developing habits that shape long-term success, this conversation offers practical and meaningful ways parents can support their teens during this important season.   In this episode, we cover: Why teens don’t need to have their entire future figured outThe importance of learning how to ask for helpHow responsibility and support work togetherWhy emotional maturity matters more than perfectionWhat healthy relationships and conflict actually look likePractical life skills teens need before adulthoodHow habits shape long-term freedom and successWhy self-worth can’t be tied to performanceThe importance of character over imageHow to maintain connection with your teen after graduation  View the full podcast transcript at:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/10-things-i-want-my-teen-to-learn-before-they-graduate   Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.   Resource Website:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses:  https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website:  https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist   The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

    25 min

  7. Apr 20

    How to End the School Year Well and Transition Into Summer Without the Chaos

    The end of the school year can feel exciting, but it can also leave families feeling off, overwhelmed, or unexpectedly emotional.   Kids are not just finishing assignments and turning in backpacks. They are leaving routines, relationships, structure, and predictability. And that transition can show up in ways parents do not always expect.   In this episode, we talk about how to help your family end the school year with intention and step into summer in a way that feels more calm, connected, and manageable. We walk through how to create meaningful closure for your child, make space for mixed emotions, and build a summer rhythm that supports both your kids and your family. If you want to avoid sliding into chaos and instead create a summer that feels more grounded, connected, and enjoyable, this episode will give you a practical place to start.   In this episode, we cover: Why the end of the school year is a bigger transition than most parents realizeHow to help your child get closure and mark the year in a meaningful wayWhy kids often show mixed emotions at the start of summerHow to plan with your kids instead of only for themHow to create a summer rhythm without becoming rigidHow to prepare for common summer challenges like screens, boredom, and sibling conflictWhy different siblings may need different things during the summer  View the full podcast transcript at:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-end-the-school-year-well-and-transition-into-summer-without-the-chaos   Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.   Resource Website:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses:  https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website:  https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist   The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

    29 min

  8. Apr 13

    How to Break Generational Parenting Patterns Without Repeating What You Grew Up With

    Why is it so hard to parent differently than how you were raised—even when you want to? In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara Wester explore how generational parenting patterns form, why they’re so difficult to break, and what it actually takes to create lasting change.   These patterns aren’t character flaws, they’re wired into the nervous system through repeated experiences. When stress rises, many parents find themselves reacting in ways they swore they wouldn’t.   Drawing on insights from Tina Payne Bryson and Dan Siegel, this episode explains what’s happening in your brain during those moments and how to interrupt old patterns in real time. You’ll learn practical, everyday strategies to regulate your nervous system, repair when things go wrong, and build new patterns that shape a healthier family legacy.   Because lasting change doesn’t come from trying harder, it comes from understanding what’s driving your reactions and practicing something new.   In this episode: Why generational patterns are stored in the nervous systemHow stress and emotional flooding trigger old reactionsWhat “repair” actually does to rewire the brainPractical steps to build new parenting habits over time  View the full podcast transcript at:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-break-generational-parenting-patterns-without-repeating-what-you-grew-up-with   Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.   Resource Website:  https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses:  https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website:  https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist   The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

    34 min
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Kyle and Sara Wester are Licensed Professional Counselors (LPCs) with over 20 years experience working with children and teenagers in Tulsa, Oklahoma.Their podcast will help you parent from a place of freedom, love, and courage. Their passion is to help you uncover areas of fear and shame in your parenting and inspire you to empower your children to become healthy adults.They use the latest research in neuroscience coupled with their own experience raising 3 children.

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  • Creator
    Parenting Legacy
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    214
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 The Art of Raising Humans
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