For six episodes we've talked about what doesn't work. This is where that turns. Heartbreak doesn't break just one thing — it breaks everything, top to bottom: first the relationship, then your identity, then your feelings, then your thinking. But here's the part nobody tells you: you don't heal it in the order it broke. You heal it from the foundation up — and once you can see the whole path, the climb is faster than you'd believe. This season walks through the book 10-Week Divorce Recovery: The Proven Step-by-Step Roadmap, one chapter at a time — the same method that's helped people let go and move on for more than 40 years. In this episode, Kevin Van Liere lays out the RIFT framework — Relationships, Identity, Feelings, Thinking — and the pyramid you climb to rebuild: Thinking at the base, then Feelings, then Identity, then Relationships at the peak. You'll learn why you can't skip a phase (and what happens when you try), why the classic "high Thinking score, rock-bottom Feelings score" pattern almost always means someone's been in therapy without processing what's underneath, and how your four Divorce Recovery Scorecard numbers aren't a judgment — they're a map that tells you exactly where to start. Michael started at the foundation with an 8 and reached 98. Anne, after four years stuck on her own, climbed from 4 to 93. They didn't start at the top. They started where they actually were. This is the framework the rest of the season is built on. The next five episodes clear the obstacles standing between you and the base of the pyramid — so you can start the climb. Find out where you actually are. Take the free Divorce Recovery Scorecard — 30 questions, five minutes, instant results. It's the same baseline we use to measure real progress. You'll hear scores come up throughout this season, so get yours and follow along: https://rebuilders.net/drs Join us at Phoenix Live. Free, live — real people at every stage of divorce recovery, doing the work together. Come just to listen the first time. Save your spot: https://rebuilders.net/live And when you're ready to walk through the full process start to finish, it comes three ways — online from anywhere, in person with a local group, or as a week-long immersion retreat. If this episode helped, follow the show so the next chapter finds you — and if you know someone going through a divorce, send it their way. It might be exactly what they need right now.
