What to Say & How to Say It

Charisma Podcast Network

Nina Roesner teaches us how to STOP REACTING in conflict situations, and discover how to RESPOND instead! Conquer people-pleasing, establish boundaries - create authentic relationships! This is how we learn "What to Say & How to Say It".

  1. Oct 12

    319: Your Marriage Will Never Grow Until You Know Who God Made You To Be

    Are you clear about who God is calling you to become, or are you simply reacting to life and marriage as it happens? In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner explain how writing a personal vision statement can strengthen your identity in Christ and begin transforming your marriage from the inside out. This is not another New Year's resolution or wish list. You'll learn how to create a present-tense declaration rooted in Scripture that clearly describes the person you are becoming spiritually, emotionally, relationally, and physically. In this episode: - Why writing your vision matters - How identity in Christ affects your marriage - How to create a biblical personal vision statement - Why positive, present-tense language is important - How visualization and repeated language influence your thinking - Why small, sustainable changes produce lasting growth - How personal transformation can change your family culture - Where to begin when you no longer know who you are Your marriage cannot develop a clear family vision until you begin understanding who God created you to be. Start small, write it down, and invite God to shape your character one decision at a time. Visit GreaterImpactCouples.org to download 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells and take the free marriage assessment. #IdentityInChrist #ChristianMarriage #MarriageTransformation

  2. Oct 5

    318: Emotional Abuse in Marriage: Recognize the Signs, Set Boundaries & Heal

    Are you walking on eggshells in your marriage, questioning your own reactions, or wondering whether conflict has become emotionally harmful? In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shai Lewis and Nina Roesner discuss emotional abuse and harmful patterns in Christian marriage. They explore verbal aggression, contempt, controlling behavior, stonewalling, emotional withdrawal, and using silence or affection as punishment. Through the "Look in Both Directions" exercise, you'll learn how to recognize the behavior affecting you while also honestly examining how your own words and reactions may be hurting your spouse. This conversation is not about condemnation or assigning permanent labels. It is about clarity, accountability, healthy boundaries, healing, and allowing God to transform the way you respond to conflict. In this episode: • How harmful marriage patterns develop and escalate • Why both spouses must examine their behavior honestly • The emotional effects of living in a harsh environment • How to set boundaries without creating more conflict • Why healing must happen before healthy communication • How identity in Christ changes your response • What it means to take responsibility and go first Download the free PDF, "5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells," and take the free marriage assessment at GreaterImpactCouples.org. Important: This episode is intended for couples who both want to grow and change. It is not a substitute for a professional safety assessment. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact emergency services. In the United States, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), text START to 88788, or visit TheHotline.org. #EmotionalAbuse #ChristianMarriage #MarriageConflict

  3. Sep 28

    317: Speaking Your Truth: Why Your Voice Matters More Than You Think

    Discover how to live with intention as Nina Roesner interviews author Kyle Hargrove about his new book, Out Loud and On Purpose. In this episode, Nina sits down with Kyle Hardrove, a licensed professional counselor, to discuss the principles found in Out Loud and On Purpose. They explore the intersection of faith and mental health, offering viewers insights into how to navigate life's challenges with clarity and conviction. If you are seeking practical Christian counseling to help you align your daily actions with your values, this interview is for you. Kyle shares wisdom on overcoming obstacles and fostering personal growth, helping you move forward with confidence in your walk with God. Whether you need relationship advice or encouragement for your own journey, these tools will help you live more intentionally. Subscribe for weekly relationship advice breakdowns to keep growing your connection, and share one step you are taking to live on purpose today.

  4. Sep 21

    316: What to Say When You Feel Like Giving Up on Your Marriage

    Get practical Christian marriage advice to help you navigate conflict and build a deeper connection with your spouse. Shai Lewis and Nina Rosner continue their marriage series, focusing on the essential tools needed to work through disagreements. This episode is designed for husbands and wives seeking to improve communication and cultivate a healthy, God-honoring relationship. You will learn how to approach difficult conversations and foster a thriving marriage by keeping your focus on Christ. Whether you are dealing with recurring arguments or simply want to strengthen your marriage connection, these insights provide a path toward restoration and lasting intimacy. Subscribe for weekly relationship advice breakdowns to keep growing your connection, and share one step you are taking to improve communication in your home.

  5. Sep 14

    315: Why Your Arguments Are Getting Worse (And How to Fix It)

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  6. Sep 7

    314: What to Say When You're Angry: Communication Secrets for Christian Couples

    Is hidden resentment hurting your marriage? Your words may sound loving, but your facial expressions and body language can reveal unresolved anger, disappointment, and pain to your spouse. In this Christian marriage podcast episode, Shai Lewis and Nina Roesner explain how unhealed wounds affect communication, emotional intimacy, trust, commitment, and forgiveness in marriage. You'll discover why saying the right words is not enough when your heart and facial expressions are communicating something different. In this episode, you'll learn: • How hidden resentment damages marriage • What your facial expressions communicate to your spouse • How to rebuild trust after betrayal or broken promises • Why forgiveness does not eliminate boundaries or consequences • How commitment to God strengthens your marriage • How to stop bringing past wounds into present conflicts • How to encourage your spouse's growth and create emotional safety • Why healing your heart can transform your communication Marriage restoration takes time. Trust is rebuilt through consistent honesty, reliability, integrity, grace, and Christ-centered inner healing. When God heals what is happening inside your heart, the way you speak, respond, and connect with your spouse begins to change. What to Say & How to Say It is a Christian marriage podcast helping husbands and wives navigate conflict, improve communication, rebuild emotional connection, and create a thriving, Christ-centered marriage. Visit greaterimpactcouples.org to download the free guide, 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells, and take the free marriage assessment.

  7. Aug 24

    313: 4 Communication Patterns That Are Destroying Your Christian Marriage (And How to Fix Them)

    Are certain communication patterns quietly damaging your Christian marriage? Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling can slowly break down trust, connection, and intimacy between husband and wife. But these behaviors are often only part of the story. Underneath them may be deeper patterns connected to fear, insecurity, and attachment. In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack the 4 communication patterns that can destroy a marriage, how attachment styles influence the way couples handle conflict, and what it looks like to move toward greater security through your identity in Christ. You'll discover: • The 4 destructive communication patterns to watch for • Why criticism and contempt can be so damaging • What defensiveness and stonewalling may reveal • How anxious and avoidant attachment create a chase-and-withdraw cycle • What secure attachment looks like in marriage • How growing in your identity in Christ can change the way you respond to conflict • Practical steps toward healthier communication and deeper connection   This conversation isn't about diagnosing or blaming your spouse. It's about recognizing unhealthy patterns, taking responsibility for your own growth, and allowing God to transform the way you love and communicate.   If your marriage feels stuck in the same arguments, distance, or communication problems, there is hope. Change can begin with becoming aware of the pattern and choosing a different response.   Visit Greater Impact Couples for Christian marriage resources, coaching, a free marriage assessment, and the free 5 Tools for How to Stop Walking on Eggshells resource.   Subscribe to What to Say & How to Say It for more practical, faith-based conversations on Christian marriage, communication, conflict, and building a stronger relationship.   #ChristianMarriage #MarriageAdvice #MarriageCommunication #ChristianMarriageAdvice #MarriageHelp #AttachmentStyles #HealthyMarriage #ChristianRelationships #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageProblems

  8. Aug 17

    312: How to Apologize to Your Spouse: 5 Steps That Rebuild Trust

    Why does saying "I'm sorry" sometimes make your spouse feel even worse? A genuine apology requires more than the right words. It requires humility, responsibility, changed behavior, and a willingness to repair what was damaged. In this episode of What to Say & How to Say It, Shai Lewis and Nina Roesner discuss Gary Chapman's five apology languages and explain how Christian couples can apologize, forgive, and rebuild trust after marital conflict. You'll learn: Why some apologies don't feel sincere The five essential parts of a complete apology What to say when you have hurt your spouse The difference between forgiveness and trust How changed behavior helps restore a marriage Whether you should forgive someone who never apologizes If unresolved hurt, resentment, or ineffective apologies are creating distance in your marriage, this episode will help you begin repairing the relationship with honesty, humility, and biblical wisdom.

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Nina Roesner teaches us how to STOP REACTING in conflict situations, and discover how to RESPOND instead! Conquer people-pleasing, establish boundaries - create authentic relationships! This is how we learn "What to Say & How to Say It".

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  • Creator
    Charisma Podcast Network
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    312
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