The Bridge Between Us: Loving Your LGBT Identified Child Without Compromising Biblical Truth

Melinda Patrick
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When your child embraces an LGBTQ identity, it can feel as though the ground beneath your feet has shifted. You love your child deeply. You love Jesus deeply. And now you're asking questions you never expected to face. How do I stay faithful to God's Word while keeping my relationship with my child? What does it really look like to walk in both grace and truth? Is there anyone who truly understands what I'm going through? You are not alone. The Bridge Between Us is a podcast for Christian parents navigating one of the most difficult and deeply personal journeys of their lives. Each week, we offer biblical encouragement, practical wisdom, and honest conversations that help you build lasting relationships with your child while remaining firmly anchored in Scripture. You'll hear from Christian parents who have walked this road, pastors, counselors, ministry leaders, and individuals who once identified as LGBTQ and now share how Christ transformed their lives. Together, we explore how to respond with compassion, wisdom, and unwavering faith in a culture that often tells us we must choose between truth and love. You don't have to compromise your convictions to love your child well. There is a path forward—one marked by grace, truth, hope, and enduring relationship. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, pastor, counselor, or someone walking alongside a family on this journey, you'll find biblical encouragement, practical guidance, and the reminder that you don't have to walk this road alone. Helping Christian families build bridges of love while remaining anchored in God's Word.

  1. 5d ago

    When God Seems Silent: What to Do When You've Prayed for Your Child and Nothing Changes {Eps 146}

    When You've Prayed and God Still Seems Silent You've prayed. You've asked God for wisdom. You've asked Him to change the situation. You've asked Him to reach your child. You've asked Him to show you what to do. And yet…you still don't have an answer. What do you do when you're walking through a hard parenting season and God seems silent? In this episode of The Bridge Between Us Podcast, Melinda speaks to the parent who is tired of waiting and wondering what God is doing. Whether you're praying about a strained relationship, your child's faith, addiction, difficult choices, reconciliation, or a situation that hasn't changed despite years of prayer, this conversation will help you consider a different question: What if God isn't giving you the whole answer because He's asking you to trust Him with the next step? This isn't about pretending waiting is easy. It's about learning to remain grounded in God when you don't have the certainty you desperately want. In This Episode What to do when you've prayed but still don't know what to do Why God's silence and God's absence aren't the same thing How we can unknowingly decide what God's answer should look like The difference between seeking wisdom and seeking certainty What God may be doing in you while you're waiting Why not having an answer doesn't mean you have to become paralyzed How to recognize what you already know to do faithfully Why asking a smaller question can help when the whole situation feels overwhelming How to pray without turning every conversation with God into problem-solving A Question to Sit With If you've been asking: "God, what am I supposed to do?" try making the question smaller. Ask: Lord, what is my next faithful step? You might also consider: Am I asking God for wisdom—or certainty? Am I listening for His direction—or primarily waiting for the outcome I want? What do I already know to do faithfully, even without the whole answer? What might God be forming in me while I wait? Scripture for Reflection Proverbs 3:5–6 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight." Psalm 62:8 "Pour out your hearts to Him, for God is our refuge." Key Takeaway You don't need enough light for the next five years. You need enough light for the step in front of you. There may be seasons when God doesn't give you the certainty you want. But you can still love. You can listen. You can establish healthy boundaries. You can seek wise counsel. You can care for yourself and the other relationships God has given you. And you can keep walking. Sometimes the prayer shifts from: "God, give me the answer." to: "God, help me know You here."   Share This Episode If you know a parent who has been praying for their child for a long time and is beginning to wonder where God is in the waiting, consider sending them this episode. They may need the reminder that they don't have to see the entire road to take the next faithful step.

  2. Oct 7

    Let's Walk This Out Together: I Found Out Something My Child Hasn't Told Me—Should I Say Something?{Eps 145}

    What do you do when you discover something significant about your adult child—but they don't know that you know? Do you bring it up? Wait for them to tell you? And how do you know whether the urgency you feel is God prompting you to act—or fear telling you that you need to do something now? In this Let's Walk This Out Together episode of The Bridge Between Us Podcast, Melinda responds to a listener who recently learned that her daughter experiences same-sex attraction. Her daughter hasn't shared this with her, and the parents are wrestling with whether to initiate the conversation or wait. While this listener's situation involves same-sex attraction, the principles in this conversation apply to many hard parenting seasons—whether you've discovered something about your child's relationships, faith, addiction, finances, marriage, or another part of their life they haven't yet shared with you. Together, we'll talk about how to slow down before stepping in, examine what's behind the urgency you feel, and discern whether this is a time to speak, listen, or wait. In this episode: Why information doesn't always equal assignment How fear can make a situation feel more urgent than it actually is Why your child's timeline may be very different from yours How to consider why your child may not be ready to tell you Why "Who do I want to be in this moment?" can be more helpful than immediately asking, "What should I do?" How your core values can guide you when you don't know what to say How to prepare for a difficult conversation without forcing one What listening well can look like when your child finally opens up How to open the door gently if you believe God is leading you to initiate the conversation Why trusting God sometimes means trusting Him enough to wait Reflection:  What is creating my sense of urgency? Is anyone actually in danger—or am I responding to what I'm afraid might happen? Am I trying to relieve my own anxiety, or build a bridge for relationship? What values do I want guiding me if this conversation happens? What kind of listener have I been when my child has brought me difficult things? Can I respect my child's timing if God hasn't clearly asked me to intervene? And perhaps most importantly: What would trusting God look like today?   You don't have to force a conversation simply because knowing and not speaking feels uncomfortable. Sometimes the next faithful step is speaking. Sometimes it's listening. Sometimes it's preparing your own heart and trusting God with the timing. You don't have to make tomorrow's decision with today's fear.

    Let's Walk This Out Together: I Found Out Something My Child Hasn't Told Me—Should I Say Something?{Eps 145}

  3. Sep 30

    Walking on Eggshells With Your Adult Child? Here's What to Do Instead {Eps 144}

    Do you find yourself rewriting texts, avoiding certain topics, or replaying conversations because you're afraid one wrong word could push your adult child further away? When a relationship with your child feels fragile, even ordinary conversations can start to feel high-stakes. You may stay quiet to keep the peace or find yourself explaining, correcting, and saying too much because silence makes you anxious. Either way, fear of losing the relationship can quietly begin shaping how you show up. In this episode of The Bridge Between Us Podcast, Melinda talks about what happens when you start walking on eggshells with your adult child and how to move from fear-driven communication toward a more grounded, faithful way of relating. Whether your child has walked away from their faith, is making choices you don't understand, is struggling with addiction, has embraced an LGBT identity, or your relationship has simply become strained, this conversation will help you focus on what is yours to steward. In this episode, you'll learn: How fear of estrangement can change the way you communicate Why constantly monitoring the relationship makes it difficult to actually be present in it Why every conversation doesn't need to become the conversation The difference between listening and agreeing How to be honest without allowing fear to control your words Why your child's reaction isn't the only measure of whether you handled a conversation well How to stop making decisions based on "What do I have to do to keep them?" A practical question to ask before your next difficult conversation One question to take with you from this episode: If I weren't trying to control my child's response, how would I want to show up in our next conversation? You don't need the perfect words to guarantee your child will stay close. Your responsibility is to seek God and learn how to show up with wisdom, honesty, love, and faithfulness—while trusting Him with what you cannot control.   If this episode has helped or encouraged you in any way, please forward it to a friend who may need help and encouragment, too.    To connect with Melinda: www.melindapatrick.org Click here to subscribe to The Bridge Newsletter.

  4. Sep 9

    Afraid You're Making the Wrong Decision With Your Child? Start Here {Eps 143}

    How Do I Know If It's God Leading Me—or My Fear? When you're walking through a hard season with your child, fear can sound surprisingly convincing. I need to say something. I need to fix this. What if I wait too long? What if I make the wrong decision? What if something happens and I could have prevented it? But how do you know when God is leading you to act—and when fear is creating a sense of urgency? In this episode of The Bridge Between Us Podcast, Melinda helps Christian parents slow down and look beneath the pressure to do something. You'll learn how fear can influence your decisions, why your desire for a particular outcome can make discernment more difficult, and how your core values can help you remain grounded when you don't know what to do next. The goal isn't to eliminate fear before making a decision. It's to learn how to recognize when fear is leading—and return to God for wisdom about your next faithful step. In This Episode Why fear often creates a sense of urgency The difference between protecting your child and trying to control an outcome Why feeling afraid doesn't necessarily mean you're making the wrong decision Questions to help you discern what's actually driving you How to uncover the story your fear is telling you Why your core values matter when emotions are high The difference between influence and control How to remain faithful when you cannot control your child's response A Question to Sit With When you're facing a difficult decision concerning your child, complete this sentence: I'm afraid that if I ________, then ________ will happen. Or: I'm afraid that if I don't ________, then ________ will happen. Then bring the fear underneath that answer honestly before God. Ask yourself: What am I actually afraid of? What outcome am I trying to control? Does something truly require action right now—or does it only feel urgent because I'm anxious? What values do I want to guide me? And what would it look like to trust God with the part of this story I cannot control?   Scripture for Reflection James 1:5 "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault." Key Takeaway Fear may be present without being in charge. You don't have to figure out your child's entire story today, and you don't have to make tomorrow's decisions with today's fear. Slow down. Ask God for wisdom. Pay attention to what is happening inside you. Return to the values God is cultivating in your life. Then ask: Lord, what does faithfulness look like today? Ready to Go Deeper? — Boots On the Ground Knowing what you believe is important. But when parenting becomes painful or complicated, another question quickly follows: How do I actually live out what I believe when I'm scared, hurt, confused, or unsure what to do? That's part of the work we do inside Boots On the Ground, Melinda's seven-week coaching journey. Together, you'll work through beliefs, core values, listening, loving, boundaries, living your own life, and bringing it all together so you can navigate hard parenting seasons with greater clarity and confidence. Information about the next cohort is available HERE. Share This Episode If you know a Christian parent who is afraid of making the wrong decision with their child, send this episode to them. Sometimes the next faithful step begins by realizing we don't have to make every decision from fear.   Connect with Melinda: www.melindapatrick.org

  5. Sep 2

    Let's Walk This Out Together: Preparing Your Heart for Difficult Family Moments {Eps 142}

    What do you do when you know an upcoming family moment is going to feel emotionally complicated? In this episode of Let's Walk This Out Together, Melinda responds to a listener who is preparing to meet her son's same-sex partner at his birthday celebration and is already feeling anxious about how to act, what to say, and whether simply showing up will communicate something she does not intend. Rather than focusing on having the perfect words, this conversation invites parents to prepare their hearts first. Because sometimes the wisest thing we can do is separate the event from the bigger relationship, slow down the fear that wants to script every possible scenario, and ask a better question: Who is God inviting me to be in this moment? This episode is for any Christian parent preparing for a visit, celebration, or family gathering where love, grief, conviction, and uncertainty all seem to be present at the same time. In This Episode Why it helps to separate the event from the larger relationship How fear can make us rehearse conversations that may never happen Why your presence can communicate love without resolving every question How to hold celebration and grief at the same time Why core values matter more than having the perfect script How prayer can help you prepare your posture before a difficult family moment What it looks like to focus on faithfulness for today instead of carrying the weight of the entire future A Question to Sit With Before your next difficult interaction, ask yourself: Am I preparing my heart—or just preparing my words? Then consider: What values do I want to carry into this moment? Do I want to be calm? Kind? Present? Respectful? Anchored? Loving? What would faithfulness look like for the next two days—not the next two years? Key Takeaway You do not have to solve every relationship question during one visit. Sometimes the purpose of the moment is simply to show up with love, remain anchored in God, and trust Him with what unfolds. You can celebrate your child while still carrying grief. You can remain faithful to your convictions without making every gathering about those convictions. And you can walk into a difficult moment without having every answer. Scripture for Reflection James 1:5 "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." Colossians 3:12 "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience." Let's Walk This Out Together Once a month, Melinda takes a real question from a listener and walks through it much like she would in a coaching conversation. Together, we slow down, look beneath the surface, consider what Scripture says, and discern what a faithful next step might look like. If you have a question you would like Melinda to consider for a future episode, submit it through the link in the show notes or reply to one of her emails. If you're wrestling with it, chances are another parent is too. Boots On the Ground If you find yourself asking, "What do I do in situations like this?", that is one of the reasons Melinda created Boots On the Ground. Inside the course, parents learn how to become spiritually grounded before difficult moments arrive, respond from their values instead of their fears, and navigate hard conversations with greater clarity, confidence, and peace. You'll find more information about Boots On the Ground HERE. Share This Episode If this conversation encouraged you, share it with another Christian parent who may be preparing for a difficult family gathering or carrying anxiety about an upcoming interaction with their adult child.

    Let's Walk This Out Together: Preparing Your Heart for Difficult Family Moments {Eps 142}

  6. Aug 26

    What If God Wants To Do More Than Answer Your Prayer {Eps 141}

    If I asked what you most want God to change about the situation with your child, you could probably answer quickly. Maybe you want a decision reversed. A relationship restored. A conversation to finally happen. Or you desperately want your child to see something you wish they could see. So you pray: "God, please change this." There is nothing wrong with bringing that desire to God. But what if there is another prayer to pray in this season? "God, what do You want to do in me while I wait?" In this episode, we're shifting some of the attention away from everything we hope God will do in our adult child's life and asking a harder—and potentially transformative—question: What might God be doing in us? I share the words of one parent who came into Boots On the Ground wanting God to change her daughter and walked away realizing that God had changed her. Her circumstances weren't suddenly under her control. Her daughter's choices hadn't become hers to manage. But those choices no longer had the same control over her. That's the kind of transformation we're talking about today. In This Episode, We Talk About: How our child's journey can slowly become the center of our spiritual attention Why praying for God to work in our children and allowing Him to work in us can happen at the same time What difficult circumstances may reveal about fear, control, identity, grief, and trust The difference between trying to "figure out the lesson" and simply becoming available to God How God may be teaching us to listen, surrender, trust, and hold truth and compassion together Why experiencing joy again doesn't require waiting for every family circumstance to be resolved A simple practice to help you pay attention to what God may be doing in you during this season Questions to Take to the Lord This Week Start with the prayer you may already be praying: "Lord, what do You want for my child?" Then make room for another: "Lord, what are You doing in me?" As you sit with Him, consider: What is this situation revealing about me? What fears or beliefs have surfaced? Where am I still trying to maintain control? Has my identity as a "good parent" become connected to my child's choices? What have I learned about God in this season? What have I learned about myself? Where have I grown? Where might God be inviting me to trust Him differently? You don't need to come away with ten answers. Maybe there's just one thing the Lord is putting His finger on today. One faithful next step is enough.   Boots On the Ground This is the kind of work we do inside Boots On the Ground. We don't spend seven weeks trying to figure out how to change our children. We look honestly at how we're showing up, what's driving us, what we're carrying, where God is leading us, and what faithfulness looks like in the relationships we're actually living. Our fall groups begin in September, with both daytime and evening options. If you're a Christian parent with an adult child who has embraced an LGBT identity and you're looking for support as you navigate faith, relationship, communication, boundaries, and your own walk with God, you can find the details and application in the links HERE.   Connect with Melinda:  www.melindapatrick.org    Your child has their journey. You have yours. Let's learn to walk yours faithfully.

  7. Aug 19

    When Your Child's Choices Start Consuming Your Life {Eps 140}

    When something is happening in your child's life that you desperately want to change, it can all start feeling like your responsibility. Their choices. Their relationship with God. Whether they understand what you're trying to tell them. Even what happens next.   In today's episode, Melinda shares a way that can help us determine where the lines of responsibility get blurred.  Listen in as she discuss how to determine what responsibility is ours, what is our childs, and what is Gods.    Releasing responsibility isn't the same thing as withdrawing love. Loving someone does not give me ownership over their choices. My child is a person God has created and there are parts of their journey that we cannot walk for them. Journaling activity: HOW DO I KNOW WHEN I'VE PICKED UP SOMETHING THAT ISN'T MINE? Am I constantly rehearsing conversations?  Does my peace rise and fall based on my child's latest decision?  Am I trying to prevent every consequence? Am I praying or strategizing? Am I more focused on what God needs to do in my child than what He might be doing in me?     Here is more information on the upcoming Boots On the Ground course.   Connect with Melinda: www.melindapatrick.org Please share this episode. If today's conversation encouraged you, would you share it with another parent who may be feeling stuck in fear, uncertainty, or doubt? You never know how God may use one conversation to bring hope to someone else's journey.

  8. Aug 12

    Why You Keep Second-Guessing Yourself After Every Conversation {Eps 139}

    Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your adult child and spent the rest of the day replaying every word? Should I have said more? Did I say too much? Was I loving enough? Did I compromise my convictions? If you've ever found yourself caught in that cycle of second-guessing, you're not alone. In this episode, Melinda introduces one of the most important foundations for parenting with confidence and consistency: core values. Many parents believe they lack the right words or the perfect parenting strategy. But often, the real problem isn't a lack of love—it's a lack of clarity. When we haven't decided who we want to be before we enter a difficult conversation, we allow the moment—and our emotions—to decide for us. This episode will help you move from reacting out of fear, guilt, or uncertainty to responding from values that are rooted in God's character and the person He is forming you to become.   In This Episode Why many parents replay conversations long after they've ended The real reason we second-guess ourselves The difference between reacting emotionally and responding intentionally What core values are—and what they are not How your values become internal boundaries that guide your decisions Why confidence comes from knowing who you are, not from controlling the outcome How aligning your values with God's character brings greater steadiness and peace   Take some time this week to prayerfully reflect: What is currently driving how I show up in difficult conversations with my child? Am I responding from fear, guilt, or the desire to control? What values do I want to define how I show up as a parent? How would my conversations change if I stayed anchored in those values instead of my emotions? What kind of parent is God forming me to become in this season?   Scripture for Reflection Colossians 3:12–15 "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another... And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts..." This passage reminds us that our identity in Christ shapes how we respond to others. Our values are not something we simply choose—they grow out of the character God is developing within us.   Key Takeaway Confidence doesn't come from knowing exactly what to do in every situation. Confidence comes from knowing who you are when you step into it. When your values are rooted in God's truth instead of your emotions, you can leave a difficult conversation with peace—not because the outcome was perfect, but because you showed up faithfully.   Boots On the Ground This episode is inspired by one of the foundational teachings inside Boots On the Ground, where we go deeper into identifying the values that guide your parenting and learning how to live them out in everyday conversations and decisions. If you'd like to be among the first to know when the next course opens, be sure you're subscribed to my email newsletter. Subscribers receive updates, encouragement, and early access to new course enrollment. You can join the email newsletter through the link here or on my website.   Share This Episode If today's conversation encouraged you, would you share it with another parent who may be feeling stuck in fear, uncertainty, or self-doubt? You never know how God may use one conversation to bring hope to someone else's journey.

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When your child embraces an LGBTQ identity, it can feel as though the ground beneath your feet has shifted. You love your child deeply. You love Jesus deeply. And now you're asking questions you never expected to face. How do I stay faithful to God's Word while keeping my relationship with my child? What does it really look like to walk in both grace and truth? Is there anyone who truly understands what I'm going through? You are not alone. The Bridge Between Us is a podcast for Christian parents navigating one of the most difficult and deeply personal journeys of their lives. Each week, we offer biblical encouragement, practical wisdom, and honest conversations that help you build lasting relationships with your child while remaining firmly anchored in Scripture. You'll hear from Christian parents who have walked this road, pastors, counselors, ministry leaders, and individuals who once identified as LGBTQ and now share how Christ transformed their lives. Together, we explore how to respond with compassion, wisdom, and unwavering faith in a culture that often tells us we must choose between truth and love. You don't have to compromise your convictions to love your child well. There is a path forward—one marked by grace, truth, hope, and enduring relationship. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, pastor, counselor, or someone walking alongside a family on this journey, you'll find biblical encouragement, practical guidance, and the reminder that you don't have to walk this road alone. Helping Christian families build bridges of love while remaining anchored in God's Word.

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