Faith Lived Out ~ God’s Wisdom for Marriage & Becoming a Submissive Wife

I know God led me to your podcast at the exact moment I needed it. I found out about my husband’s three year affair in January 2025 after 34 years of marriage. I did leave, but we made the decision that we wanted to be new people and have a new marriage. I have been a Christian since I was in my 20s (I’m 57). But I realize now I was a wishy washy Christian. I went to church and prayed but wasn’t living my life with God at the center of it always. We also didn’t have a Christ-centered marriage. In December, something happened that gave me an unquenchable desire to know God’s word. I’ve never felt like this before. A mistake I was making this last year was putting the pressure and stress on me that I needed to “lead” my husband and I to repair our marriage. Well, this didn’t work how I thought it would and ended in tears on so many days. I found your podcast and wasn’t sure if this is what I was looking for but God opened my heart to what you were saying and it started making SO much sense. The very first thing I learned was that I can’t lead my husband and I into anything. It’s completely through God and it’s not my job to fix him. You can’t imagine the weight this lifted off my heart immediately. I started praying for God to work in my life and my husband’s life. I can’t begin to tell you the changes I have already witnessed in both of us. Sometimes biting my tongue or doing something for my husband took a great deal of strength because the devil would tell me “why should you do anything when he cheated on you?!” There have been many times that I’ve told him out loud that I’m not allowing him to put these lies in my head and heart. The more I showed my husband kindness by words and deeds, I saw the change in him and he has begun showing me love in the same ways. I wish I would have known all of this at the start of our marriage but I know everything is in God’s timing. Thank you so much for everything you do!

I wish I had heard so many of these lessons 30+ years ago. I think my marriage and family life would have gone a lot more smoothly and lessons learned the hard way could have been learned in a much more gentle way. The scripture references are always valid, and the stories relatable to the topic. I have learned much.

Even though I’m not a mom yet, I truly believe God is using this season to prepare me — not just for that role in the future, but for who He’s calling me to be right now as a wife. At the very moment I was on the verge of breaking free from a lukewarm life, God revealed this podcast to me. Through His perfect timing and guidance, it delivered the conviction I didn’t even know I needed. It’s like something finally broke open in me — that spiritual complacency shattered — and I feel more alive and awakened in my faith than ever before. I’m so thankful for how God is using this podcast to speak truth, stir hearts, and draw people closer to Him. Especially in my own heart, mind, and marriage! Thank you Nanci for continue your call to God’s children!

I was lamenting what looked like could be the end of a 37 year marriage when I stumbled on to your episode Spiritual Warfare: Why and How to Fight for Your Marriage. That led me to this series (episode 38-41) and now to episode 30. You read my book! Thank you so much. Looking forward to living out these promises for my marriage.