More than Roommates

Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough
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Welcome to More Than Roommates, where we want to help you take the next step to be more intentional in your marriage. We want to help you avoid falling into the trap of being merely roommates with your spouse. We hope that through authentic, biblical, and practical conversation you will gain tools and wisdom to help you take one step closer to the Lord and the marriage He intends for you and your spouse. Listen in as Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, and Derek Davidson help you intentionally strengthen your relationship.

  1. Episode 185- Navigating Addiction in Marriage

    5d ago

    Episode 185- Navigating Addiction in Marriage

    Addiction doesn't stay self-contained — especially in a marriage. In this honest and pastorally rich conversation, Derek, Gabrielle, and John Elmore talk about how to recognize addiction, what it does to a marriage, and what courageous, biblical steps actually look like for both the addict and the spouse who loves them. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS - John described the difference between being "enslaved" to something versus "occasionally enticed" by it. Using that framework, is there anything in your life right now that feels more like enslavement than struggle? - John mentioned several "Ds" of addiction: duration, depth, deceit, destruction, defensiveness, dependency. Are any of those present in your life or your marriage in ways worth naming? - Gabrielle shared that when asked to give up Diet Coke for a year, her reaction surprised her. Is there anything in your life where the thought of giving it up produces a stronger reaction than you'd expect? - John said that "struggling" looks like confessing, feeling convicted, and moving toward accountability — while addiction looks like enjoyment despite destruction. Which of those better describes your relationship with your hardest habit? - If your spouse gently raised a concern about something you're running to, how would you honestly respond — and what might that response reveal? - For the spouse walking alongside an addict: have you carried this alone, or have you brought others in? Who could you call this week? RESOURCES - Freedom Starts Today by John Elmore

    30 min
  2. Episode 184- Spiritual Intimacy in Marriage

    Jun 9

    Episode 184- Spiritual Intimacy in Marriage

    Spiritual intimacy is one of those things every Christian couple knows they're supposed to have — but what does it actually look like day to day? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Andrew get honest about the barriers, the breakthroughs, and the simple practical steps that can help couples grow closer to each other by growing closer to God. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS - What expectations did you bring into marriage about what spiritual intimacy would look like — and how has reality compared? - On a scale of 1–10, how would you rate where you are in spiritual intimacy right now? What's one thing contributing to that number? - What does your individual walk with God look like right now? Are you in a full season or a dry season — and does your spouse know? - Andrew mentioned that bitterness and unresolved conflict make it hard to pray together. Is there anything between you right now that needs to be cleared before you can go to God together? - What's one thing God has been teaching you lately that you haven't shared with your spouse yet? - What's one practical rhythm — praying together, a shared devotional, asking better questions — you could try this week?

    33 min
  3. Episode 183- Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

    Jun 2

    Episode 183- Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

    At some point, almost every married person has had the thought: did I marry the wrong person? In this honest and hopeful conversation, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott unpack where that feeling comes from — unmet expectations, comparison, cultural lies — and what to actually do when it shows up. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS - What expectations did you bring into marriage that didn't match reality — and where did those expectations come from? - In what areas do you find yourself comparing your spouse or your marriage to others? How does that comparison affect your contentment? - Scott mentioned that part of the feeling often comes from something in us — selfishness, unrealistic expectations — not just our spouse. Where do you see that in yourself? - What are three specific things you're genuinely grateful for in your spouse right now? Have you told them recently? - What are some things you did early in your relationship that raised the attraction level — and how could you bring some of those back? - Is there something you've been feeling disconnected about that you haven't fully said out loud yet? What would it look like to bring that to your spouse this week?

    30 min
  4. Episode 182- From Contempt to Celebration: Honoring Your Spouse's Differences

    May 26

    Episode 182- From Contempt to Celebration: Honoring Your Spouse's Differences

    The differences that drew you to your spouse in dating can become the very things that drive you crazy in marriage — but what if they didn't have to? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Andrew talk honestly about what it looks like to move from contempt toward genuine celebration of the spouse God gave you. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS - What differences first attracted you to your spouse — and have any of those become sources of frustration over time? - Where do you tend toward contempt rather than celebration when your spouse does things differently than you would? - What's one specific difference in your spouse that you could choose to reframe with gratitude this week? - How do you currently discern, in your marriage, between a difference that's just a preference and one that has crossed into a sinful pattern? - Who in your life — friends, community, mentors — do you trust to speak honestly into your marriage when conflict keeps coming up? - What would it look like practically for you to pray for God's eyes toward your spouse this week?

    24 min
  5. Episode 181- How to Deal with Divorce in Family of Origin

    May 19

    Episode 181- How to Deal with Divorce in Family of Origin

    In this episode, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss how your family of origin—especially experiences of divorce or relational brokenness—can shape your expectations, fears, and habits in marriage. But Scripture makes it clear: your past may influence you, but it does not define your future. Discussion Questions - What messages about marriage did you absorb from your family growing up—spoken or unspoken? - Do you notice any fears in your marriage that might be rooted in your family of origin? In what ways are you tempted to repeat patterns you saw growing up—or overcorrect them? - How can you intentionally build “truth-based theology” about marriage instead of experience-based beliefs? - Where have you already seen God bring redemption or healing into your family story? Resources Flawed Families of the Bible: How God's Grace Works through Imperfect Relationships - David and Diana Garland Merge Marriage Ministry

    25 min
  6. Episode 180- Should We Cut Them Off? A Biblical Look at the "No Contact" Trend

    May 12

    Episode 180- Should We Cut Them Off? A Biblical Look at the "No Contact" Trend

    Going no contact with family is trending — but is it biblical? In this episode the MTR team walk through the counsel of Scripture — from leaving and cleaving to the ministry of reconciliation — to help couples navigate in-law conflict with honesty, boundaries, and biblical wisdom. They dig into what Scripture actually says about honoring parents, setting boundaries, and pursuing reconciliation even when it's hard. Discussion Questions - Have there been moments in our marriage where you felt we weren't on the same team when navigating conflict with family or in-laws? What did that feel like, and how can we get more aligned? - Is there any relationship in our family system — parents, siblings, in-laws — where we've been avoiding a hard conversation? What has kept us from having it? - Where do we land on the spectrum between full contact and no contact in difficult relationships? Are we erring too far in either direction? - John mentioned keeping a shared note about how he and Laura want to be grandparents and in-laws one day. What values do we want to write down about how we hope to show up for our kids when they're married? - Romans 12:18 says, "As far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." What is one practical thing that depends on you right now in a strained relationship that you could own? Resources Holidays and In Laws Challenging Relationships with In Laws

    28 min
  7. Episode 179- 9 Keys to a Strong "Empty Nest" Season of Marriage

    May 5

    Episode 179- 9 Keys to a Strong "Empty Nest" Season of Marriage

    The empty nest season can either expose distance in your marriage or become one of its most life-giving chapters. In this episode, Derek, Andrew, and Gabrielle unpack 9 practical ways to reconnect, rebuild, and thrive when the kids leave home. Whether you are in this season or want to have a marriage that prepares for it, listen now so you can thrive when kids leave the home! Discussion Questions: - If our kids left home tomorrow, would we feel close… or like strangers? Why? - When was the last time we intentionally learned or grew in our marriage? - What’s something fun we could start doing together again? - Are we serving together anywhere? If not, where could we start? - Is there anything we’ve avoided talking about (sex, finances, conflict)? - Where do we need to give each other more space—or more connection? - What would it look like for me to “draw a circle around myself” this week?

    24 min
  8. Episode 178- Kids: Burden or Blessing? A Biblical Vision for When to Have Kids

    Apr 28

    Episode 178- Kids: Burden or Blessing? A Biblical Vision for When to Have Kids

    When it comes to having kids, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer—but there is a biblical framework. In this episode, the More than Roommates team explores how couples can navigate timing, fear, and cultural pressures by seeking God, aligning as a couple, and pursuing wise counsel. Discussion Questions: - Do we truly believe children are a blessing, or have we adopted cultural views that see them as a burden? - What fears (financial, personal, family history) might be influencing our timeline? - Have we clearly sought God together in prayer and Scripture about this? - Who are the wise, godly voices speaking into this decision for us? - If we’re waiting, are we still actively giving our lives away for the Kingdom?

    26 min
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Welcome to More Than Roommates, where we want to help you take the next step to be more intentional in your marriage. We want to help you avoid falling into the trap of being merely roommates with your spouse. We hope that through authentic, biblical, and practical conversation you will gain tools and wisdom to help you take one step closer to the Lord and the marriage He intends for you and your spouse. Listen in as Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, and Derek Davidson help you intentionally strengthen your relationship.

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  • Creator
    Scott Kedersha, Derek Davidson, Gabrielle McCullough
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    212
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Harris Creek
  • Show Website
    More than Roommates

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