The Men's Podcast

Join pastors John Belles and Bryan Dwyer to talk about biblical manhood in an increasingly secular culture. Find resources to continue the conversation with your family, group, or mentor at pursueGOD.org/men.

  1. May 11

    Dating pt.1

    Welcome back to the podcast, men! -- The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men. Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series. Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church. Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at podcast@pursueGOD.org. Donate Now -- NAVIGATING THE DATING JUNGLE: WISDOM FOR CHRISTIAN PARENTSDating isn't a topic with a straightforward "blueprint" in the Bible. While Scripture doesn't provide a direct manual for modern dating or courtship, it offers timeless wisdom that can guide parents as they lead their children through these formative years. In this episode, Pastor John is joined by Braun Khan and Michael Pate to discuss how to approach the dating conversation with humility, flexibility, and a focus on the heart. Principles Over Dogmatism One of the greatest risks for Christian parents is becoming overly dogmatic or heavy-handed. Whether influenced by past cultural movements like I Kissed Dating Goodbye or personal anxieties, a "forced compliance" model rarely reaches a child's heart. Instead, the goal is to provide guiding principles that help children honor God while maintaining open lines of communication. Setting the Foundation Early Conversations about relationships should begin long before a romantic interest is on the radar. The "Passport to Purity" Approach: Many parents find success using intentional programs around age 12 to discuss purity and peer pressure before the pressure of high school begins.The "Brother/Sister" Rule: 1 Timothy 5:2 encourages us to treat younger women as sisters with absolute purity. This frames every potential date not as an object of affection, but as someone else's future spouse who deserves respect and protection. Practical BoundariesWhile every home is different, the common thread among these fathers was a preference for group settings over one-on-one dating during the high school years. Group Dating: Encouraging "dates" to happen in the context of friend groups or school dances to provide natural accountability.The Purpose of Dating: Helping children understand that the biblical purpose of dating is to investigate a potential marriage partner. If they aren't in a season where marriage is a possibility, "pumping the brakes" prevents emotional baggage and "catastrophic mistakes". Trusting the ProcessUltimately, parents are like warriors launching arrows; once the fletching is set and the arrow is released into adulthood, parents must rely on the Holy Spirit to continue the work in their children's hearts. Even when kids make mistakes or face heartbreak, these moments serve as opportunities for them to lean into their own relationship with Jesus.

    29 min
  2. Mar 12

    You Need a Do-Over

    Welcome back to the podcast, men! -- The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men. Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series. Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church. Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at podcast@pursueGOD.org. Donate Now -- You Need a Do-Over (John 3)Some passages of Scripture are so familiar that we can miss how shocking they really are. For many Christians, phrases like “born again” or verses like John 3:16 feel normal because we’ve heard them countless times. But when Jesus first spoke these words, they were revolutionary. They challenged deeply held assumptions about religion, identity, and how someone could truly know God. In John 3, we meet a man named Nicodemus. He was not a skeptic or an outsider to religion. In fact, he was the opposite. Nicodemus was a Pharisee and a member of the ruling Jewish council known as the Sanhedrin. He was educated, respected, and deeply committed to the Law of Moses. If anyone looked qualified for God’s kingdom from a human perspective, it would have been Nicodemus. Yet when Nicodemus came to Jesus, he discovered that even the most religious person needs something radical: a spiritual rebirth. Seeking Truth in the DarkJohn tells us that Nicodemus came to see Jesus at night. John 3:1–2 (NLT) “There was a man named Nicodemus, a Jewish religious leader who was a Pharisee. After dark one evening, he came to speak with Jesus. ‘Rabbi,’ he said, ‘we all know that God has sent you to teach us. Your miraculous signs are evidence that God is with you.’” Many people assume Nicodemus came at night because he was afraid of what the other Pharisees might think. That may be part of the story. Later in John 7, Nicodemus shows hesitation when defending Jesus before the other leaders, suggesting he may have struggled with fear of their opinions. But another possibility is simpler: Jesus was constantly surrounded by crowds. Night may have been the only time Nicodemus could have a real conversation with Him. Whatever the reason, one thing is clear: Nicodemus was searching for truth. Unlike many religious leaders who accused Jesus of performing miracles by the power of the devil, Nicodemus acknowledged that Jesus’ signs pointed to God’s work. Still, Nicodemus was about to learn that recognizing Jesus as a teacher wasn’t enough. Religion Isn’t Enough — We Need New LifeWithout even waiting for Nicodemus to ask a question, Jesus went straight to the heart of the issue. John 3:3 (NLT) “I tell you the truth, unless you are born again, you cannot see the Kingdom of God.” This must have been shocking. Nicodemus believed that being born Jewish and faithfully following the Law put him in a good position with God. If anyone was ready for God’s kingdom, surely it was someone like him. But Jesus says something radically different: you don’t need improvement—you need rebirth. The phrase “born again” can also mean “born from above.” The idea is a complete spiritual restart. Our problem isn’t that we just need to clean up our behavior. Our problem runs deeper—we are spiritually broken and need new life that only God can give. Confused, Nicodemus asked how this could possibly happen. John 3:4 (NLT) “What do you mean?” exclaimed Nicodemus. “How can an old man go back into his mother’s womb and be born again?” Nicodemus took Jesus’ words literally, but Jesus was describing spiritual transformation. A person must be “born of water and the Spirit,” pointing to the cleansing and renewal promised in the Old Testament. Ezekiel 36:25–27 (NLT) “Then I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean… And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you.” Jesus wasn’t introducing a brand-new idea. He was revealing the fulfillment of God’s promise to cleanse His people and give them new hearts through His Spirit. God’s Love Made the Rescue PossibleLater in the conversation, Jesus explained how this new life would become possible. John 3:13–15 (NLT) “No one has ever gone to heaven and returned. But the Son of Man has come down from heaven. And as Moses lifted up the bronze snake on a pole in the wilderness, so the Son of Man must be lifted up, so that everyone who believes in him will have eternal life.” Jesus referenced a story from Numbers 21. When the Israelites were bitten by poisonous snakes, God told Moses to lift up a bronze serpent on a pole. Anyone who looked at it in faith would live. The solution sounded simple—even strange—but it required trust in God’s word. In the same way, Jesus would be lifted up on the cross. Salvation wouldn’t come through human effort or religious performance. It would come through faith in the One God sent. This brings us to the most famous verse in the Bible. John 3:16–17 (NLT) “For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him.” God’s motivation was love. Jesus didn’t come primarily to condemn the world, but to rescue it. Through His death and resurrection, He makes it possible for anyone to experience the spiritual rebirth Nicodemus needed—and that we all need. The Same Invitation TodayNicodemus came searching for answers, and Jesus gave him something deeper than information. He gave him an invitation. The truth is that every one of us is more like Nicodemus than we might realize. We may try to clean up our behavior, rely on religion, or assume we’re good enough. But Jesus says the real solution is far greater: a brand-new life from God. Through faith in Jesus, we can experience the do-over our souls truly need.

    23 min
  3. Feb 26

    What an Amazing Shepherd We Have

    Welcome back, men! We’ve all heard the phrase, “Familiarity breeds contempt.” The more often we see something, the easier it is to take it for granted. The same can happen with Scripture. -- The PursueGOD Men's podcast helps guys apply God's Word to their lives to become full circle followers of Jesus. Join us for a new men's episode every other Thursday. Find resources to talk about these episodes at pursueGOD.org/men. Learn more about "full circle" Christianity through our 12-week Pursuit series. Click here to learn more about how to use these resources with men and boys at church. Got questions or want to leave a note? Email us at podcast@pursueGOD.org. Donate Now -- The Good Shepherd: Rediscovering Psalm 23If you grew up in church, you’ve probably heard Psalm 23 so many times that it almost feels automatic. You may even have it memorized. But God’s Word is alive and active. These aren’t sentimental words for funerals—they are life-giving truth for everyday valleys. Psalm 23 invites us to see something stunning: the Almighty God of the universe is not distant or impersonal. He is our Shepherd. The Lord Is My ShepherdPsalm 23 opens with a deeply personal declaration: “The Lord is my shepherd; I have all that I need.” Psalm 23:1 (NLT) Notice “Lord” is in all capital letters. This is Yahweh—the covenant name of God. David isn’t talking about a vague higher power. He’s talking about the personal, promise-keeping God of Israel. David knew what a shepherd was because he had been one. When the prophet Samuel came to anoint Israel’s future king, David wasn’t even invited to the ceremony. He was out in the fields tending sheep. He had risked his life to protect them. 1 Samuel 17:34–35 (NLT) “But David persisted. ‘I have been taking care of my father’s sheep and goats,’ he said. ‘When a lion or a bear comes to steal a lamb from the flock, I go after it with a club and rescue the lamb from its mouth… I catch it by the jaw and club it to death.’” David understood the fierce love of a shepherd. So when he called God his Shepherd, he meant protector, provider, and guide. Centuries later, Jesus used the same imagery: John 10:11 (NLT) “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd sacrifices his life for the sheep.” John 10:14–15 (NLT) “I am the good shepherd; I know my own sheep, and they know me… So I sacrifice my life for the sheep.” David risked his life for sheep. Jesus gave His life for us. That’s the difference between a good shepherd and the Good Shepherd. Entering His Rest“I have all that I need.” Psalm 23:1 (NLT) We may not have all that we want, but in Christ we have everything we need. From an eternal perspective, what do we truly need? Forgiveness of sins. Righteousness before a holy God. Access to His kingdom. Jesus provides all of it. “He lets me rest in green meadows.” Psalm 23:2 (NLT) The image is nourishment and peace. Sheep only lie down when they feel safe. The Shepherd provides security so they can rest. Hebrews 4:9–11 (NLT) “So there is a special rest still waiting for the people of God… For all who have entered into God’s rest have rested from their labors… So let us do our best to enter that rest.” We rest in the finished work of Jesus. The Christian life is not passive—we work hard, we endure trials—but we no longer strive to earn God’s approval. While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. The pressure to prove ourselves is replaced by peace. “He leads me beside peaceful streams.” Psalm 23:2 (NLT) Water is life in the desert. Jesus satisfies the deepest thirst of our souls. Through the Darkest Valley“Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me.” Psalm 23:4 (NLT) Notice David says “when,” not “if.” Suffering is part of the journey. Jesus was honest about that. John 16:33 (NLT) “Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” If David was walking through the valley, it’s because the Shepherd led him there. A good shepherd doesn’t lose track of his sheep. Sometimes the route to green pastures goes through dark ravines. The Shepherd knows what lies on the other side. Romans 8:18 (NLT) “What we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later.” If you’re in a valley, it’s not an accident. God is not unaware. He is leading, even there. Protective, Not Restrictive“Your rod and your staff protect and comfort me.” Psalm 23:4 (NLT) The rod was used to defend against predators. The staff was used to guide wandering sheep. Both represent care. God’s boundaries are not restrictive; they are protective. David understood this well: Psalm 19:7–8 (NLT) “The instructions of the Lord are perfect, reviving the soul… The commandments of the Lord are right, bringing joy to the heart.” God’s Word revives, warns, and rewards. His commands are sweeter than honey and more valuable than gold. The Shepherd’s discipline and direction are evidence of His love. A Feast in the Valley“You prepare a feast for me in the presence of my enemies.” Psalm 23:5 (NLT) The enemies haven’t disappeared. The valley hasn’t vanished. Yet there is a banquet. God doesn’t always remove the threat; sometimes He sustains us right in front of it. One day we will join the ultimate feast, when sin and death are gone forever. But even now, He provides abundantly. “Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life.” Psalm 23:6 (NLT) Like a shepherd chasing after wandering sheep, God pursues us with goodness and mercy. And the psalm ends with hope that stretches beyond this life: “And I will live in the house of the Lord forever.” Psalm 23:6 (NLT) Jesus said He is preparing a place for us in His Father’s house. Our Shepherd not only walks with us now—He secures our forever. Psalm 23 is not sentimental poetry. It is a declaration of reality. The Lord is our Shepherd. In green pastures and dark valleys alike, He is enough.

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Join pastors John Belles and Bryan Dwyer to talk about biblical manhood in an increasingly secular culture. Find resources to continue the conversation with your family, group, or mentor at pursueGOD.org/men.

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