Unbecoming

hairzillaa
  • 5.0 (11)
  • Fashion & Beauty
  • Updated Biweekly

What happens when a nationally recognized hair artist and a Charleston therapist walk into a podcast studio? Unbecoming— the unfiltered space where beauty meets breakdowns and healing gets real. Host Laura Frazier (@hairzillaa), Redken artist and salon owner, sits down with Chris LaCour, licensed therapist and voice of reason (most of the time), to talk about the messy middle of life — mental health, relationships, identity, creativity, and everything that unravels when you start unbecoming who you were told to be. It’s therapy meets comedy, beauty meets breakdown, and self-work with great hair and sarcasm. Expect vulnerable conversations, hard truths, inappropriate jokes, and moments that feel like a late-night talk with your smartest, most brutally honest friends. Because unbecoming isn’t falling apart — it’s finally falling into yourself.

  1. May 23

    Getting Sober-ish & Getting Reported

    In this episode, Laura talks about getting reported to Instagram after posting a dark-humor story that triggered the app’s safety alerts, leading into a conversation about oversharing online, mental health, and the weirdness of internet culture. She also opens up about reducing her cannabis use and noticing how much sharper and more productive she feels sober. The episode bounces between recent travels to Costa Rica, New York, and the Pacific Northwest, wellness work with sound bowls and Reiki, brutally honest addiction movies like Requiem for a Dream, Timothée Chalamet discourse, and chaotic conversations about Easter, religion, and resurrection theories. Equal parts existential, funny, and unhinged in the best way.

    29 min

  2. Apr 11

    Fight, Flight… or Let Someone In?

    This episode gets real. Laura opens up about something she’s dealt with since she was a teenager: panic attacks. She breaks down what they actually feel like in her body — the middle-of-the-night sweating, the racing heart, the out-of-body feeling — and how confusing it can be to have them return after years of thinking she had moved past them. But the conversation goes deeper than symptoms. Laura talks about the surprising trigger she’s started to notice: kindness and intimacy. When someone gets close, her nervous system sometimes interprets it as danger — a leftover fight-or-flight response shaped by childhood experiences. She introduces the idea of “bulkheads,” like a ship sealing off entire sections when one part floods — a metaphor for shutting down emotionally when things start to feel too intense. Instead of avoiding it, she’s choosing to face it. Along the way, the conversation wanders the way great late-night conversations do: movie obsessions, chaotic action films, gaming nostalgia, and Laura’s very honest critique of life in Charleston. Through it all, the thread remains the same — what it actually looks like to unpack old patterns, confront fear, and keep growing. Honest, a little chaotic, sometimes funny, and deeply human.

    38 min

  3. Mar 28

    Expanding Your Capacity for Life

    In this episode, Laura and Chris dive into the idea of capacity—the mental and emotional bandwidth it takes to navigate trauma, stress, ambition, and relationships. Laura shares a personal realization that while she’s developed a high tolerance for difficult situations, that strength can sometimes create frustration when others struggle with the same challenges. The conversation explores how capacity is built through repetition, experience, and the creation of new neural pathways—whether that’s learning a skill, processing trauma, or expanding what you’re able to hold emotionally. Laura opens up about her interest in EMDR therapy, the complexity of being both self-aware and mentally ill, and the ongoing work of balancing personal protection with connection and leadership. Along the way, they unpack ideas around fear as a survival strategy, cultural differences in how confidence is perceived between men and women, and the strange resentment that can surface when you’ve spent years helping others while neglecting your own needs. The episode weaves between serious reflection and lighter moments—family stories about Laura’s rebellious grandmother who smoked into her late 90s, debates about technology and religion, and discussions about movies and shows that help quiet the mind during stressful travel weeks. At its core, this conversation is about what it means to expand your capacity: learning how to carry less trauma, build stronger relationships, and create the mental space needed to grow.

    41 min

  4. Mar 13

    I’m Not Mean, I’m Just Not Performing

    In this episode, Laura gets candid about her experience with ketamine therapy and what it’s actually been like learning how to identify emotions later in life — not dramatically, not romantically, just honestly. She talks about realizing that emotional regulation is a skill, not a personality trait, and how ketamine has helped her observe feelings without being swallowed by them. The conversation weaves through grief, fear, and attachment — including intrusive thoughts about losing her partner — alongside stories from her time contracting for banks in New Jersey, where drug testing rules felt more performative than ethical. (Yes, cocaine was fine. No, marijuana was not.) From there, Laura reflects on childhood, ADHD, school systems that failed curious kids, nostalgia for a pre-smartphone world, and the weird social expectation that work should also fulfill emotional and social needs. She shares why she doesn’t drink, why she prefers depth over small talk, and how being quiet, direct, or observant often gets misread as being “mean.” This episode isn’t political — it’s cultural. It’s about memory, technology, social norms, emotional maturity, and what happens when you stop performing and start paying attention. Thoughtful, funny, occasionally uncomfortable, and very on brand.

    45 min

  5. Feb 27

    If Burnout Isn’t Real, Why Am I So Exhausted?

    In this episode, Laura and Chris move through a mix of stories that land somewhere between funny, honest, and unexpectedly reflective. Laura shares childhood memories of climbing questionable rocks and the unusual warnings she grew up hearing, while Chris helps connect those moments to the way fear, comfort, and risk show up in adulthood. The two explore burnout from multiple angles — not as a dramatic collapse, but as something that can exist right alongside a life that’s full, enjoyable, and busy. They talk about how people online either dismiss burnout entirely or cling to it, and how most of us live in the middle, feeling tired and fulfilled at the same time. Work, parenting, tattoos, cannabis, gaming, and personality quirks all weave in naturally, the way conversations between them usually do. There’s a look at social preferences, boundaries, and the difference between enjoying people and needing space from them. Nothing is labeled or overexplained; it’s simply the truth of how Laura moves through the world and how Chris reflects it back. The episode ends with an appreciation for the quiet growth of the podcast. More listeners are showing up each week, drawn to conversations that feel real, unpolished, and exactly what they are. Thank YOU! For listening and following the show!

    44 min

  6. Feb 10

    Unagreeable (and Unapologetic)

    Laura’s back from New York, and let’s just say… it was a week. In this episode, she breaks down a whirlwind stretch that included working a major hair show, jumping into a Brand photoshoot, and surviving an intense, fast-paced training that tested her patience, confidence, and social battery. Along the way, Laura and her colleague unpack what it really looks like to balance professional expectations with real human energy — especially in rooms where everyone’s watching and the pressure is high. They get into the art of being direct (without being “difficult”), the fine line between confidence and arrogance, and why being a little “unagreeable” isn’t always a bad thing — it might actually be necessary. This conversation is equal parts reflection and reality check, as Laura shares how her communication style has evolved and why staying true to yourself matters more than ever when navigating demanding work environments and big personalities. Honest, insightful, and refreshingly real — this episode is all about showing up, owning who you are, and not shrinking to make anyone else comfortable.

    27 min

  7. Jan 23

    The Edible That Lasted 48 Hours

    In this episode of Unbecoming, Laura (@hairzillaa) catches up on everything from THC-A cigarettes to getting way too high from THC-P, all told with the same “can we laugh about this now?” energy she brings to every chaotic life update. We get into her Yellowstone trip — how insanely beautiful it was, and how humans cannot stop trying to fix things that aren’t broken. Laura also breaks down her ketamine journey so far, what’s helping, what’s weird, and why sometimes healing feels like a science experiment you didn’t know you signed up for. Between cannabis adventures, government conspiracies, Australian friends judging America’s drinking habits, and talks about retirement homes and family patterns, Laura keeps it real about life, healing, and trying to make sense of a world that feels like it’s permanently overstimulated. It’s messy, funny, honest, and very us — just two friends talking through the chaos of being human while trying to find peace wherever we can.

    36 min

  8. Jan 10

    Healing Is the Scariest Thing I’ve Ever Done

    In this episode of Unbecoming, we finally get the origin story — how Charleston therapist Chris LaCour went from trying to “forcibly therapize” Laura Frazier (@hairzillaa) to becoming her co-host, emotional sparring partner, and reluctant best friend. It all started with EMDR that looked suspiciously like electrocution (according to Sean) and a mutual friend, Kelly, who swore Laura was too cool not to meet. Two years later, the friendship—finally stuck. From there, the conversation spirals in true Unbecoming fashion: dark humor, microdosing, sleep struggles, and one too-real story involving a dream, a drunk ex, and a very unfortunate T-shirt. Laura opens up about what it’s really like to sit on both sides of healing—client and coach—as she experiments with ketamine therapy, navigates attachment styles, and admits that sometimes she’s only mean to the people who can’t leave. It’s equal parts therapy session, stand-up set, and existential think-piece about what it means to be healing in real time. Unbecoming isn’t self-help—it’s self-awareness with better hair and way more sarcasm.

    49 min
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What happens when a nationally recognized hair artist and a Charleston therapist walk into a podcast studio? Unbecoming— the unfiltered space where beauty meets breakdowns and healing gets real. Host Laura Frazier (@hairzillaa), Redken artist and salon owner, sits down with Chris LaCour, licensed therapist and voice of reason (most of the time), to talk about the messy middle of life — mental health, relationships, identity, creativity, and everything that unravels when you start unbecoming who you were told to be. It’s therapy meets comedy, beauty meets breakdown, and self-work with great hair and sarcasm. Expect vulnerable conversations, hard truths, inappropriate jokes, and moments that feel like a late-night talk with your smartest, most brutally honest friends. Because unbecoming isn’t falling apart — it’s finally falling into yourself.

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  • Creator
    hairzillaa
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    68
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2023 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    Unbecoming

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