Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

Kristina Joy | Affair Recovery Coach, Spiritual Healing, Emotional Healing
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The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ. Ranked Top 2% Globally Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you? Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go? Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded. I’m so glad you’re here. I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked. Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment. On this podcast, you’ll find: A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole. If you’re ready to: Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation Experience God’s love without fear or striving Break familiar patterns for good Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play. This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus. --- Let’s Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough  💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com 

  1. 2d ago

    164 | Talk to the Part of You That Still Misses Him: 6 Steps That Help You Meet Her Instead of Fighting Her (IFS Series, Part 1)

    💛 Parts work is hard to do alone the first few times. Book a Breakthrough Call to experience it in a guided, safe way. There's a part of me that still misses him. Why can't I make her stop? Because fighting her was never going to work. Today I'm teaching you a completely different approach and walking through all six steps out loud with my own real part, so you can hear what it actually sounds like. This is part 1 of a 3-part series. We cover: IFS 101 for the woman who's never heard of this: Self, protectors, and the wounded parts underneath The guardrail: accepting and loving a part is not condoning what she wants The six F's of IFS: Find, Focus, Flesh out, Feel toward, Befriend, Fear Ready to walk through all six steps? I'd love to help! Schedule your call with me and we'll find your part, hear what she wants to tell you, and show her some love instead of fighting. Mentioned: Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller Let's Connect: 📞 learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  2. 4d ago

    163 | She Felt the Warning and Ignored It: GUEST Chel Cartmill on Silencing Your Instincts and Learning to Trust Yourself Again

    💛 Need to talk this through with someone? Book a Breakthrough Call today. How do I trust myself again when I stopped believing my own judgment a long time ago? Today’s guest felt the warning. More than one. And she talked herself out of every single one, until it cost her nearly everything. Chel Cartmill is a Next Chapter Transition Specialist and a Certified Trauma-Informed Master Coach who has been walking people through divorce, grief, and broken relationships since 2007. She’s the founder of Reclaim, a Christ-centered healing program, and the author of the memoir Spider on My Neck. We explore: Why your body sends warnings before your mind has words for them and what happens when you keep overriding them How “be the good person” and “don’t judge” got confused with discernment, and the slow loss of a voice Why people-pleasing and peacemaking are actually about control and what that costs over years How to rebuild self-trust A warning of using Scripture to cover grief, sadness and anger instead of moving through them Connect with Chel: 📖 Spider on My Neck: available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble 🌐 www.chelcartmill.com  Email me and tell me what resonated! I read every one myself and I write back personally. Let’s Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  3. Oct 8

    162 | Will My Husband Ever Trust Me Again? How Do I Rebuild Trust When He Won’t Give It?

    💙 Want a room full of women doing this same work? Email me about Rooted in Joy. I gave him my phone code. I share my location. I tell him where I'm going before he asks. So why does he still look at me like that? Today I'm telling you the truth about what you can actually control when it comes to rebuilding trust and why the thing you're building is worth it, when it doesn't produce the result you want. I walk through my own list of everything I did, and the honest part: he said the words "I trust you," and I never felt it. We explore: Why you can do everything right and he still may not trust you, and why that isn't your failure Trustworthiness is yours. Trust is his. Two completely different things The trap of being trustworthy only toward him, and why integrity has to be with everyone The question that replaced "does he trust me?" How your body tells you when you're out of alignment The real reason to keep going when the outcome isn't guaranteed Your one step: stop measuring whether he trusts you. Start measuring whether you're being trustworthy in front of God, not in front of him. Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com  🌎 Website: www.kristinajoycoaching.com

  4. Oct 6

    161 | The Honest Affair Recovery Timeline: And Why Year 2 Is More Dangerous Than Year 1

    💙 Need to talk through where you actually are? Book a Breakthrough Call! Ever thought, "How long is this supposed to take? Why am I still not okay? Is something wrong with me?" Nobody gives you a timeline. So today I'm giving you an honest one. It's longer than you want to hear, but I give you something at the end that actually helps. I share the full range of women I work with right now: one who ended things last week, and one who ended it twenty years ago. Two completely different timelines but the same healing journey. And I tell you about my own journey, including the part that isn't flattering. We explore: Breaking no contact after the one-year mark, and what it looks like for me now coming up on four years What nobody warns you about year two The mindset shift as time passes: stop surviving what happened, start building a life too good to risk What actually makes recovery shorter and why decisiveness and forward motion are the biggest variables you control Email me and tell me where you are on your own timeline! One week out? Six months? Twenty years? I read every one and I write back personally 💙 Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  5. Oct 1

    160 | God Is Speaking to You, Are You Listening? What I Learned at the Encounter Retreat

    🌱 A one-day gathering is coming this spring! Email me the word SPRING to join the waitlist. I'm home, and I promised I'd tell you what happened last weekend. A group of women walked into a beach house in Florida for the Encounter Retreat and left completely different. Today I'm telling you what God did in that room, what shifted in the women, and the thing He said to me on the beach that I can't stop thinking about. We cover: Nervous systems before content, phones down, feet on the floor How every woman carried a stranger's story all weekend with grace What actually shifted: women cutting contact, a marriage recommitted to, women intentionally walking into singleness with God, and every one of them using her story to encourage someone else My own silent question on the beach and the answer God gave me God is speaking to you. Are you listening? You didn't need to be in that beach house for that to be true. Email me and tell me what stirred! I read every one. Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  6. Sep 29

    159 | Why Doesn't Anything I Try Stick? Safety Comes First

    💙 Sometimes safety happens with someone walking you through it. Book a Breakthrough Call now. Why doesn't anything I try stick? I've made the decision a hundred times. I've prayed about it. So why am I still here? I just got home from the Encounter Retreat, and I'm changing what I planned to record today because every single breakthrough in that beach house happened in the same order, and I want to tell you about it. Safety in the body and the room IS the work. We explore: Presence, regulation, and co-regulation before vulnerability Be, Do, Have, and why I tried to cut contact for years with a plan when what I needed was an identity How God does this too. Taking care of your body is part of your design The order: body → identity → decisions → vision. Be honest about which level you're on, and do the thing for that level. Not sure what that is? Let's talk! Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  7. Sep 24

    158 | On My Way to the Beach House: Will You Pray for Us?

    I'm leaving on a jet plane tomorrow. And I have a prayer request. I’m heading towards a beach house in Florida where a group of women are about to meet God, and I want you in it with us. So today I'm sharing exactly what I'm asking Him for, and praying the same things over you. What I'm praying: That every woman there, including me, would have a life-changing encounter with God That the Holy Spirit would be active, and that we'd recognize and engage with Him That spiritual chains would break, darkness would be pushed back, and Christ's Kingdom would come a little more on earth as it is in heaven Ephesians 3:16–21, inner strength through His Spirit, Christ making His home in our hearts, roots growing down into God's love, and the power to experience the love of Christ, not just understand it And the practical: health, safe travel, and real whole-being rest Would you pray this weekend? And if you want to send something specific for me to pray for, email me! I'll also be praying for you this weekend. Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

  8. Sep 22

    157 | The Affair Is Over but My Marriage Feels Empty: Is This as Good as It Gets?

    💙 Need to talk this through with someone? Book a Breakthrough Call. Affairs and marriage conversations don't happen on a timeline, so I won't make you wait either. The affair is over. We did the work. So why does my marriage feel like nothing? Was all of that for nothing? No. Something is starting, and today I want to show you what it is. What you're feeling is normal, and almost nobody talks about it. The story we get handed goes: crisis, confession, hard work, restoration. But there's a stretch in between that nobody warned you about, where the emergency lifts and you look up and think I don't know what I'm doing here anymore. I know this kind of flat because I've lived in it too. We explore: Why flatness after affair recovery is the emergency ending, not a verdict on your marriage The question worth sitting with: are you trying to fit back into a shape you outgrew? Why you have to grieve the gap between your expectations and your reality before you can build anything new The identity shift underneath it all: who am I now, and who do I want to show up as? Be, Do, Have Framework and why most of us live it backwards, waiting on an outcome to tell us who we are I’d love to hear more about who you want to be in your marriage! Send me an email so I can encourage you along the way! Let's Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough 💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com

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The go-to podcast for Christian women who are ready to heal their hearts, shed their shame, and come home to freedom in Christ. Ranked Top 2% Globally Do you ever wish someone would truly see you, not look past you or through you? Are you lying awake at night wondering if your marriage can survive infidelity...or if it’s time to let go? Are you exhausted from Googling answers, trying to fix things, and still feeling unheard, unseen, and stuck in shame You’re not alone. And you’re in the right place. This podcast is a sacred, steady space for women navigating betrayal, emotional disconnection, separation, or the aftermath of an affair, who want more than surface-level faith answers. Here, we talk honestly about the heart, the body, the soul, and the brain, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus heal what’s been wounded. I’m so glad you’re here. I’m Kristina Joy, forgiven daughter of Jesus, mom, and coach. For years, I tried to break free from my own infidelity through sheer willpower, "doing more," and striving to be better. I read my Bible more. I tried to behave my way into freedom. None of it worked. Everything changed when I stopped trying to fix myself and allowed Jesus to meet me in the deeper places like my pain, my patterns, my unmet needs. Through prayer, research, embodied healing practices, and new rhythms of truth and grace, I discovered real freedom. Not just from the affair, but from shame, secrecy, and self-abandonment. On this podcast, you’ll find: A reminder that your dignity, worth, and identity are not up for debate Emotional and nervous-system awareness for real transformation Coaching guidance for clarity, boundaries, communication, and trust Gentle truth for women deciding what restoration actually means for them Whether your marriage is being rebuilt or released, you are allowed to heal. You are allowed to choose freedom. You are allowed to become whole. If you’re ready to: Stop living in secrecy and self-condemnation Experience God’s love without fear or striving Break familiar patterns for good Live with clarity, strength, dignity, and peace Then take a breath, find your safe space, and press play. This is where healing begins and where you come home to yourself, with Jesus. --- Let’s Connect: 📞 Book your private Breakthrough Call: https://learn.kristinajoycoaching.com/breakthrough  💌 Email: kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com 

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