The Self Control Show with Jason Schnitzer

The Self Control Show with Jason Schnitzer
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Hi! I'm Jason Schnitzer and I've been where you are. I understand the frustration of losing self-control and feeling stuck in a cycle of destructive behaviors. I created "Reclaim Control" to help you break free from that loop. Through my program, we'll learn techniques and gain cutting-edge knowledge to regain self-control and unlock your best self. Learn how to build self-control in order to achieve your goals, build stronger relationships, and ultimately live a happier and more fulfilling life. Visit our website https://www.jasonschnitzercoaching.com/ to learn more and book a free call!

  1. 6d ago

    Episode 65: The Fastest Way to Rebuild Trust With Your Wife

    Most men think trust gets broken by one big mistake. An affair. A lie. A betrayal. But in reality, trust is usually lost through hundreds of small moments where your words and actions stop matching. 💔 In this episode, I break down: 👉🏼 why trust and emotional safety are deeply connected 👉🏼 how overwhelm and emotional reactivity quietly erode trust over time 👉🏼 why so many men end up trapped in the cycle of promising to change but struggling to follow through I talk about the connection between emotional regulation and trustworthiness, why trying harder isn't the answer, and how learning to regulate your emotions allows you to show up consistently when it matters most. We also dive into the hidden ways trust gets damaged, how emotional safety is created, and why consistency—not intention—is what ultimately rebuilds connection. 👐 Because trust isn't rebuilt through bigger promises. ✨It's rebuilt when your wife can trust that you've got it, even when you're stressed, overwhelmed, or having a hard day. If you've ever wondered why the little things become such big things in your marriage, this episode will help you understand what's really going on and how to start changing it. ✅ If this hits, there’s a link in the show notes to book a free call. ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    16 min

  2. May 4

    Episode 64: The Hidden Cost of Being “Easygoing”

    You think you’re being laid back.You think saying “whatever you want” keeps the peace. But it’s doing the opposite. ⚠️In this episode, I break down why being “easygoing” as a husband isn’t actually supportive — it’s avoidant. 🧠 How constantly deferring decisions, staying neutral, and avoiding tension quietly shifts the weight of the relationship onto your wife, and why that leads to resentment, disconnection, and loss of attraction over time. I walk through what’s really underneath this pattern — fear of conflict, fear of being wrong, fear of rejection — and how it shows up as disengagement, lack of direction, and giving up your role in the relationship. We get into: 👉🏼 Why “I don’t care” actually creates more pressure, not less 👉🏼 How avoiding decisions makes your wife feel alone and unsupported 👉🏼 Why respect and attraction start to erode when you don’t show up 👉🏼 What it actually looks like to step back in and lead without controlling Because this isn’t about being right or being perfect.It’s about showing up, having a voice, and being someone your partner can rely on. If this resonates, this episode will help you see the pattern clearly — and where to start shifting it. If you want to talk more about how this shows up in your relationship, there’s a link in the show notes to book a free call. ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    16 min

  3. Apr 26

    Episode 63: Emotional Safety, Mansplained

    You’re not yelling. You’re not doing anything “wrong.”So when your wife says she doesn’t feel safe with you… it doesn’t make sense. In this episode, I break down what emotional safety actually is — and why it has nothing to do with your intentions and everything to do with how you’re experienced in the moment. I walk through what’s really happening when your wife tries to bring something to you and it turns into defensiveness, fixing, or a shutdown — and how those small moments slowly teach her it’s not safe to be honest with you. We get into: ➡️ Why “explaining yourself” feels like rejection to her ➡️ How emotional safety gets broken in everyday conversations ➡️ What she’s actually asking for when she brings something up ➡️ And what it looks like to stay present instead of reactive Because emotional safety is simple:Can she be honest with you… without it turning into a problem? If this resonates, this episode will help you see what’s really going on — and what to do differently. If you want to talk more about how this shows up in your relationship, there’s a link in the show notes to book a free call. ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    15 min

  4. Mar 28

    Episode 62: What Your Defensiveness Is Actually Doing

    You think you’re explaining yourself.You think you’re helping.You think you’re just getting the facts straight. But it never lands that way. In this episode, I break down what’s actually happening when you get defensive or try to fix things in the moment—and why it keeps leading to the same arguments, the same disconnect, and your wife feeling unheard no matter what you say. I walk through why most conflict isn’t about facts at all, why your instinct to explain or problem-solve backfires, and what your wife is actually asking for when she brings something to you. We get into how defensiveness shuts down trust, why emotional safety disappears, and how that slowly leads to distance, resentment, and even the breakdown of the relationship over time. I also show you what to do instead—how to stay in the moment, how to actually listen, and how to turn conflict into connection instead of another fight. If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying to do the right thing but it keeps making things worse, this will help you understand why—and how to start changing it. If this resonates, book a free discovery call now! ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    18 min

  5. Feb 28

    Episode 61: If Your Word Means Nothing, Nothing Else Matters

    You’re not a liar. You’re not trying to deceive anyone. But when you say you’ll do something — and it doesn’t happen — something shifts. 🧠💥 Not loudly. Not dramatically. Just quietly. And over time, your words stop landing. In this episode, I talk about why keeping your word is the foundation of safety in a relationship. ➡️ Why trust isn’t built on good intentions, but on consistency. ➡️ And why your wife’s nervous system relaxes — or tightens — based on whether your actions match what you say. I break down the pattern most men fall into: saying yes in the moment to ease tension, overpromising to keep the peace, then getting overwhelmed and avoiding it later. Not because you’re malicious — but because your system is trying to escape discomfort. ⚠️ The problem is, short-term peace creates long-term distrust. If you want to feel grounded, respected, and safe in your own home, it starts here. Can you do what you say you’re going to do? Because when your word becomes solid, everything else changes. If this hits, there’s a link in the show notes to book a free call. ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    13 min

  6. Feb 18

    Episode 60: Why Your Wife Doesn’t Trust You Anymore

    You’re not cheating. You’re not lying. You’re not a bad guy. But when you say something, it doesn’t land anymore. In this episode, I break down the quiet pattern that erodes trust over time — overpromising in heated moments, getting overwhelmed, and then avoiding the follow-through. It’s not malicious. It’s not intentional. But it’s a cycle that slowly turns good intentions into distrust. ⚠️ I talk about: ➡️ Why you say “I’ll change” and genuinely mean it — in the moment ➡️ How appeasing to keep the peace creates long-term damage ➡️ The overpromise → overwhelm → avoid loop ➡️ Why defensiveness makes it worse ➡️ And how to rebuild trust through regulation and small, consistent follow-through This isn’t a character flaw issue. It’s a regulation issue. Trust isn’t built on intention — it’s built on consistency. 🧠💥 If this resonates, there’s a link in the show notes to book a FREE CALL and talk through what this looks like for you. ⬇️ ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    16 min

  7. Feb 14

    Episode 59: Why Doing It All Yourself Is Destroying Your Marriage

    For years, I told myself I didn’t need anyone. I prided myself on handling everything alone — not complaining, not asking for help, just pushing through. What I didn’t realize was the hidden cost. ⚠️ In this episode, I break down the “Lone Wolf” pattern that so many men fall into — how self-reliance slowly turns into isolation, how isolation turns into resentment, and how that resentment quietly erodes connection at home. 🧠💥 I talk about why doing it all yourself doesn’t make you strong — it makes you emotionally unavailable — and how that shows up as distance, defensiveness, and feeling unappreciated. We’ll unpack: ➡️ Why “I got it” slowly becomes “no one understands me” ➡️ How not sharing stress creates resentment instead of relief ➡️ Why criticism feels like attack — and what’s actually happening underneath ➡️ The shift from roommates back to connection You don’t have to overshare. You don’t have to become someone you’re not. But you do have to stop carrying everything alone. 🚫 If this resonates, there’s a FREE call link in the show notes if you want to talk about what this looks like for you. ⬇️ ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    18 min

  8. Feb 4

    Episode 58: Why Everyone at Home Walks on Eggshells Around You (And You Don’t See It)

    One of the most common things I hear from guys is, “My wife says she feels like she’s walking on eggshells around me.” 👉 What most men don’t realize is how that dynamic actually starts—and how often it’s rooted in volatility, not intention. In this episode, I break down why kids suddenly get quiet when you walk in the door, why silence gets mistaken for peace, and how unpredictability quietly trains your family to brace instead of relax. I talk about the difference between real regulation and suppression, why holding it together at work turns into blowups at home, and how that pressure-cooker pattern erodes trust over time. ⚠️ I also walk through: ➡️ Why fear-based compliance looks like “respect” but creates distance ➡️ How unpredictability wires anxiety in your kids and your marriage ➡️ Why apologies stop working when behavior doesn’t change ➡️ What it actually takes to make your home feel safe again This isn’t about blaming or shaming. It’s about understanding the pattern and learning how to regulate yourself so your wife and kids don’t have to.🧠💪 If this resonates, you can book a free discovery call through the link below ⬇️: ✅ BOOK a free discovery call with me here: calendly.com/jasonschnitzercoaching/free-discovery-call-with-jason ✅ FOLLOW me on Instagram: @jasonschnitzercoaching

    20 min
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Hi! I'm Jason Schnitzer and I've been where you are. I understand the frustration of losing self-control and feeling stuck in a cycle of destructive behaviors. I created "Reclaim Control" to help you break free from that loop. Through my program, we'll learn techniques and gain cutting-edge knowledge to regain self-control and unlock your best self. Learn how to build self-control in order to achieve your goals, build stronger relationships, and ultimately live a happier and more fulfilling life. Visit our website https://www.jasonschnitzercoaching.com/ to learn more and book a free call!

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