Deeper Sex - A podcast about deeper connections and incredible sex

Deeper Lovers
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Deeper Sex is a fun and sexy podcast about deep love, exploration and adventure. It’s for those who crave connection that’s real, sex that makes you feel alive, and love that’s rooted in authenticity. We are your hosts - Will and Chiara: life partners, and your mentors on love, sex, and personal transformation. Our mission is to help passionate, growth-minded humans get past their fears, and lay the foundations for deep, authentic connections, so you can increase trust in intimacy, and transform your romantic relationship for good, because the best sex of your life is in your future, and not in your past. With decades of experience in love and intimacy matters, specialised in ENM and open relationships, we’re here to share everything that we’ve learned about helping people unlock the Extraordinary in relationships and in sex. Deeper Sex is part of Deeper Lovers - our coaching platform that was born out of our passion for love, purpose, and personal growth. We saw the incredible effect that our approach had on so many relationship - including ours - and we decided to share with the world what we've learnt about how to keep your relationship alive, while having a passionate, fulfilling, and super fun love life. For more info, visit deeperlovers.com

  1. Apr 28

    Partners variety fantasy but in a monogamous relationship? Here’s how you can have both | E25

    Most people fantasise about being with someone other than their partner. That’s normal. The question is what you do with it. In this episode, we get into one of the most common — and least talked-about — sexual fantasies: desiring variety in sexual partners. We cover what ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) looks like in practice – with all its various flavours - and how monogamous couples can safely explore this territory without anyone doing anything with anybody else. This is one of the many things that become possible when you learn to share fantasies with each other. We also end up in a surprisingly good conversation about "having a type" — where it comes from, why biology explains far less of it than you'd expect, and what you might be missing out on if you keep yourself constrained to a rigid checklist of qualities to tick off. == TIME STAMPS 00:00 E25 Non-monogamy fantasy - having variety 01:25 Partners variety (ENM) is amongst the most common sexual fantasies 03:59 ENM structures: dating separately 04:32 ENM structures: dating together as a couple >> shared experience 05:08 ENM structures: polyamory 05:19 Fantasies as a tool to explore ENM for monogamous couples 07:15 How To Share Your Secret Fantasies - live workshop 08:32 Why variety is important 09:24 Is "having a type" blocking or expanding your relationship potential? 12:16 Why do we have "a type"? 15:31 Become aware of your own conditioning to access a wider dating pool 18:57 Awareness is key 25:20 Listen to your dreams For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com == Curious about better expressing and making your sexual fantasies happen? Don’t miss these episodes:   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E23 What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E24 Why Suppressing Your Fantasies Is Counter Productive – Listen on Apple or Spotify   Book your free spot: Chiara’s Live Online Workshop “How To Share Your Secret Fantasies” – limited seats available

    27 min

  2. Apr 15

    Why Suppressing Your Fantasies Is Counter Productive: We Are Wired To Be Attracted To Others | E24

    ⚡️Join us live: Free Online Workshop “How To Share Your Secret Fantasies” - Limited spots available⚡️ What if the fantasy you've been hiding is the exact thing your relationship needs? Most of us treat our desires like secrets — something to protect our partner from. Today we are joined by Paris, a longtime tantric practitioner and facilitator who went from completely frigid to living out every fantasy she's ever had. She is one of Will and Chiara's main teachers. In this episode we discuss: 🩶 why suppressing your fantasies makes them more obsessive, not less 🩶 how jealousy can turn into compersion (the opposite feeling to jealousy) — and what it takes to get there 🩶 the orgasm myths that's keeping millions of men and women from the best sex of their lives 🩶 tantric practices to expand g******s sensitivity and presence 🩶 how you transform your relationship when you start sharing out loud your desires 🩶 why men exploring their feminine side might be the sexiest thing you've ever witnessed (and how to get started) 🩶 the 21-day challenge that rewires how your body experiences pleasure Sharing and going after your desires doesn't damage a relationship. It deepens it. Listen to this incredible episode to know how. == TIME STAMPS 02:57 It's Time To Normalise Fantasies 03:42 Free Fantasies Live Workshop Invitation 04:41 Do You Know Where The Man's G-spot is? 05:47 Why It's Important To Live Out Your Fantasies 07:50 Serving vs. Taking 09:10 We Are Wired To Be Attracted To Others! 10:29 Jealousy vs. Compersion 11:05 Deal With Your Childhood Issues First! 11:57 Jealousy Is About YOU, Not Them 12:20 Jealousy Is Often FOMO 14:24 Try This   Biohack For Porn Addiction 16:53 How To Stop Your Sexual Obsessions 18:11 Why Suppressing Your Sexuality Is Counter Productive 20:24 Find A Tantric Community Near You... 21:26 ...Or Get Really Good At Communicating 24:28 Let's Normalise Sexual Language 25:26 Embrace The Slut Within You (for men and women) 26:54 How To Experience More Pleasure ( Debunking Orgasm Myths) 29:07 How To Improve Your Sex Life 34:17 The 21 Day Challenge 35:06 The Allowing vs. Forcing Principle 37:51 Exploring Fantasies As A Doorway To Deeper Connection And Trust 44:47 Bi-curiosity And Shame 46:46 Threesomes As Doorways To Brotherhood 48:29 Our Top Tips For Today == For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com Paris & The New Tantra school: https://thenewtantra.com/ == More episodes on the same topic:   >> E17 | How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) - Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E23 What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

    50 min

  3. Apr 1

    What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That Now) | E23

    What’s the thing that scares the shit out of most couples? Being seen for who they really are. And in sex? Sharing their fantasies. What’s the one thing that sits underneath every fantasy, every risk, and every deeply connected relationship? It’s TRUST. Most of us simply don't trust what will happen when we share ourselves completely. So, today’s episode is all about helping you doing exactly that. We cover: the difference between fantasy and action the reasons why "convincing" your partner never works why a hard "no" today doesn't mean no forever how to talk about what turns you on without pressing your partner how the nervous system needs to hear something a few times before it stops treating it like a threat The best relationships are not built on playing safe. They’re built on the kind of trust that lets two people tell the truth, stay close, explore, and grow together. If you've been sitting on a sexy fantasy for a while but haven't found the way in yet, this episode is the conversation you need to hear – make it a date night to listen to it with your partner! For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com == TIME STAMPS 02:00 Free Fantasy Live Workshop Invitation 02:23 You Don't Know What You Don't Know 06:29 Challenging Times In A Relationship Don't Have To Be The End Of It 07:46 Trust Is What Changes Everything 10:01 What Are You Scared Of? 11:40 What Are They Going To Think? 13:08 How Chiara Felt Safe To Talk About Her Threesome Fantasy 14:42 The Secret Fantasies Workshop You Don't Want To Miss 15:19 How Do You Create Safety? 16:50 Is This A Relationship Worth Saving? 17:54 How To Know If You Should Turn Your Fantasy Into Reality 18:59 "I want to convince my partner to..." 22:09 Your Answer: Nervous System + Play 24:59 How To Find Your Voice 26:01 What Sops You From Sharing Fantasies 28:15 The Leap Of Faith To Trust 30:04 Ask Yourself This Question == More content about Sexual Fantasies: >> E6 | There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Transforms Taboos into Passion – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   JOIN CHIARA'S NEXT LIVE WORKSHOP: "How to share your secret fantasies and upgrade your sex life" Save your spot: https://chiarahardie.com/secret-fantasies-workshop-signup

    31 min

  4. 05/07/2025

    How to share secret sexual desires & why we’re turned on by taboos | E22

    >> FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" > Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   Listen to E16 on masculine/feminine polarity in relationships: on Apple or Spotify Listen to E19 on threesome fantasies: on Apple or Spotify   For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com

    40 min

  5. 04/23/2025

    Why your intimacy issues aren’t caused by your partner with Puja Lepp | E21

    >> FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" > FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   >> Apply to join our next retreat with Puja: https://www.pujalepp.com/     Join Chiara's next live workshop "Finally share your secret fantasies without shame or fear"

    36 min

  6. 04/08/2025

    My partner doesn’t want sex. What should I do? | E20

    >> Register for Chiara's next LIVE WORKSHOP for free: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" To celebrate our podcast 1st anniversary, we address our clients’ most common questions in a live Q&A - from jealousy to sexual dynamics and open relationships. Partner communication, establishing trust, and addressing underlying issues in a relationship are some of the things we are experts on, and our goal is to provide you with practical tips that will enhance your romantic connections. If you feel even a little curious but shy, this is the episode for you. == TIME STAMPS 01:38 Q1. My Partner Does Not Want To Have Sex: Should We Open The Relationship? 02:48 The Risks of Opening a Relationship 06:09 Work On Your Own Relationship First 07:49 Q2. How Do I Know If My Partner Is Into Kinks? 11:09 Q3. I am So Jealous! How Do I deal With Jealousy? 18:48 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe 19:51 Your Body Has All The Answers 21:53 Q4. Am I Bi-Curious? 25:46 Q5. How Can A Man Stay Confident During Sex When Another Man Is In The Room? 29:23 It's All About Boundaries 29:59 Sexual Conditioning: What Is (Not) Doing For You? == YOUR GOODIES: >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Send us your questions here == Deeper Lovers on the web: www.deeperlovers.com   Next FREE LIVE workshop on sharing secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT

    32 min

  7. 03/25/2025

    Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) | E19

    Secret Fantasies FREE LIVE workshop ALERT! Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy? In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you. They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker. They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory. For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage. Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship. == TIME STAMPS 00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy? 03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it 04:09 Is your relationship ready for this? 07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them 09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner 11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely 17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after 19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps? 23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle 26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on 30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you? 33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier 35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics 37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment 44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple? 46:56 The biggest mistake couples make == If you want to learn more about sexual fantasies: >> Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship   >> Join Chiara's free live online workshop "How to share your fantasies without fear": register here == About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com

    47 min

  8. 03/11/2025

    Fighting with erections and performance anxiety? Here’s what you didn’t know you can do | E18

    >> Register for Chiara's next LIVE WORKSHOP for free: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections. From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical. They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to overcome these challenges. From breaking free of the traditional sex script to exploring the benefits of unconventional practices like non-ejaculation, they offer unusual yet groundbreaking perspectives on male sexual confidence. You’ll also hear how women often feel responsible for their partner’s arousal, why they may misinterpret erection issues, and how couples can learn to have open, reassuring conversations that remove pressure. Whether you’ve felt anxiety around performance or simply want a more relaxed, fulfilling intimate life, we guarantee this episode will change the way you think about erections and intimate connections.   TIME STAMPS  00:00 When Did Your Dick Stop Working? 00:48 Let's Talk About Erections 02:11 The "Erectile Dysfunction" Label Does Not Serve You 03:07 Level 1 of "Mind-F*****g" 05:55 What About Cialis or Viagra? 08:40 More Pressure On The Man 09:44 You Naturally Have Things On Your Mind 11:28 The Mojo App for Erectile Dysfunction (20% off code: DEEPERSEX20) 12:44 C**k Rings Can Help With Performance 15:17 Do Women Like C**k Rings? 16:02 How To Talk About C**k Rings 18:43 Mind-F*****g Is The Problem 19:32 I'm Not Hard: How To Address The Elephant In The Room 20:26 10 Prompts To Start Difficult Conversations 21:02 Never Say "I'm Sorry If I'm Not Hard" 21:58 Have Some Fun With Sex Toys 22:46 Are You Saying I Shouldn't Ejaculate? Ever...? 23:25 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Increased Libido 24:35 Overcoming The Initial Resistance to Non-Ejaculation 24:58 Coming Is Not The Best Bit! 25:59 What Women Think Of Non-Ejaculation 26:25 The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure 26:52 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Higher Sensitivity 27:42 Soft Dicks Are Nice! 28:46 Have You Tried A Tantric Massage? 30:37 The Secret of "No Goals" During Intercourse 32:57 The Importance Of Feeling Safe 34:19 Become A Better Lover 36:42 For Women: Tell Your Man You Like His Dick! == About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com == YOUR GOODIES: >> Get 20% off your Mojo membership – forever – using our discount code: DEEPERSEX20 | Sign up for the Mojo App   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you have deeper conversations with your partner”   >>Next FREE LIVE workshop on how to share secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT

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Deeper Sex is a fun and sexy podcast about deep love, exploration and adventure. It’s for those who crave connection that’s real, sex that makes you feel alive, and love that’s rooted in authenticity. We are your hosts - Will and Chiara: life partners, and your mentors on love, sex, and personal transformation. Our mission is to help passionate, growth-minded humans get past their fears, and lay the foundations for deep, authentic connections, so you can increase trust in intimacy, and transform your romantic relationship for good, because the best sex of your life is in your future, and not in your past. With decades of experience in love and intimacy matters, specialised in ENM and open relationships, we’re here to share everything that we’ve learned about helping people unlock the Extraordinary in relationships and in sex. Deeper Sex is part of Deeper Lovers - our coaching platform that was born out of our passion for love, purpose, and personal growth. We saw the incredible effect that our approach had on so many relationship - including ours - and we decided to share with the world what we've learnt about how to keep your relationship alive, while having a passionate, fulfilling, and super fun love life. For more info, visit deeperlovers.com

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