First Dates & Soulmates: A Romance Podcast

Meg Casebolt & Nikki McKnight

First Dates & Soulmates is a romance podcast where craft meets culture, hosted by romance author Meg Casebolt and pop culture devotee Nikki McKnight. Expect trope frameworks, feminist film critiques, author interviews, and sometimes ridiculous readalongs.

  1. 2h ago

    Wolfsong: The Himbo Alpha, 5/5 Angst, and Angry Grudges

    Following last week's werewolf archetype deep dive, Meg and Nikki pick a readalong book to test the framework against — deliberately skipping the genre's most obvious picks (no Nalini Singh, no Kresley Cole) in favor of a queer werewolf romance. They land on Wolfsong, the first book in TJ Klune's Green Creek series. Spoiler warning: this episode discusses the full plot of Wolfsong in detail. In this episode: Why Ox's limited, "non-observant" POV does so much of the genre's work for itScenting, explained two ways: pack/family-marker scent vs. involuntary attraction signalThe stone wolf, the "asking for Ox's hand" scene, and the cringiest 30 pages in the bookWhy TJ Klune sidesteps the age-gap problem by keeping Ox in the darkWhat happens to found family when Joe, Carter, Kelly, and Gordo leave Green Creek for three yearsWhy Ox becomes an alpha despite having no wolf bloodline at all — and why the book never explains itMapping Wolfsong onto last week's archetype framework: Cursed Creature, Alpha, Fated Mate, and PackWhat gay romance gains — not just loses — by stripping procreation out of the werewolf templateA big announcement: the new firstdatesandsoulmates.com, with dedicated trope and book-review pages Story Summary (Spoiler-Free) Ox Matheson is a human teenager in the small Oregon town of Green Creek, still reeling from his father's abandonment, when the Bennett family moves in next door — and turns out to be a family of werewolves. Ox is drawn into their world first through friendship, then through a bond with the youngest son, Joe, destined to lead the pack one day. As Ox grows from an awkward, self-doubting kid into someone the pack relies on, the story follows found family, loyalty, and the cost of protecting the people you love. It's the first of four Green Creek novels, plus two novella-length companion pieces, each shifting POV to a different pack member. Content Warning Discussed on the episode: violence, off-page torture, parental death, and abandonment as a throughline theme. Both hosts flag this as an emotionally heavy read — "This is a five out of five. This is a, um, render." — on their angst scale. "If Joe had never left, then Ox would never have taken a leadership role. He would've just been the consort to the alpha." — Meg"I love that all of these things are seeded so we, again, as the reader, are being given signals... trust in your audience enough that they will understand the hints you are dropping." — Nikki"This particular book is very subversive in that it chooses a human character and elevates them to a higher status than most werewolves who are born werewolves." — Meg"I liked how it was not just fixed immediately by the fact that Joe is back... Shouldn't have left. F**k you." — Nikki, on Ox's (correctly) prolonged anger at Joe Books & Media Mentioned Wolfsong and the rest of the Green Creek series — TJ KluneThe House in the Cerulean Sea — TJ Klune (referenced for contrast in tone and career context)Bride — Ali Hazelwood (referenced re: fated-mate "romance literacy")Star Wars sequel trilogy (referenced re: bloodline vs. chosen destiny) Where We've Discussed This Last week's werewolf archetype deep dive (direct follow-up)Referenced: the show's "himbo" episode (Ox's characterization) What We're Shipping This Week Meg: the newly rebuilt firstdatesandsoulmates.com — dedicated pages for the werewolf archetype framework, the werewolf recommendation list, and ongoing book-specific review pages like the Wolfsong oneNikki: Painted in Wildflowers by Emmy Sanders (Darling Brothers series, book 4)

    Wolfsong: The Himbo Alpha, 5/5 Angst, and Angry Grudges
  2. Oct 7

    The Alpha, the Beast, and the Big Bad Wolf: Breaking Down Werewolf Romance

    Kicking off spooky October, Meg and Nikki tackle the second installment in their paranormal-archetype series (following last year's vampire deep dive). Nikki mapped werewolf and wolf-shifter romance onto three central archetypes — the Cursed Creature, the Big Bad Wolf, and the Alpha — plus two structural tropes that cut across all of them: Fated Mate and Pack/Found Family. Along the way: why werewolves keep winning the genre's search-volume war against vampires, the true (and very messy) origin story of the Omegaverse, and why "alpha" reads as a red flag in real life but a fantasy on the page. In this episode: The three core werewolf archetypes and what each one represents psychologicallyWhy L. David Mech's "alpha wolf" research is scientifically bunk — and romance ran with it anywayVampires vs. werewolves: hot/cold, family/solitude, and why the two species always seem to hate each otherThe Omegaverse's real origin (a 2010 Supernatural real-person kink-meme prompt)Google Trends data on werewolf vs. vampire search volume since 2004What's coming next week: a queer werewolf readalong of Wolfsong by TJ Klune Deep dive on our website: Get the full show notes Read the werewolf archetype Get our full list of 25+ werewolf romance books "The real alpha is a family man. Romance got that part right by accident." — Nikki"Why does alpha read as hot in romance, but is the ultimate red flag in real life?" — Nikki"The wolf is basically a very large, very hot dog... cuddly little werewolf becomes something that will protect us and sleep at the foot of our bed with extra benefits." — Meg, paraphrasing Nikki's research"It's the internet. Everybody's got a laptop with access to LiveJournal, to Fanfic.net... that also made a big difference in the speed at which this was adopted." — MegBooks & Media MentionedBitten — Kelley ArmstrongMoon Called — Patricia Briggs (Mercy Thompson series)Slave to Sensation / Kiss of Snow — Nalini SinghA Hunger Like No Other — Kresley ColeThe Tyrant Alpha's Rejected Mate — Kate C. WellsEnchanted (Hopeless Bless series, book 4) — Lark TaylorThe Kincaid Pack series — Kiki ClarkThe Wolf Man (1941, 2025), An American Werewolf in London, Ginger Snaps, Teen Wolf (MTV), Twilight, Underworld / Rise of the Lycans, True BloodHarry Potter (Remus Lupin), Buffy the Vampire Slayer (Oz)Referenced: the show's prior vampire-archetype episode; the show's episode with "Dr. Fandom" Katie Freund on fandom's role in modern romance Where We've Discussed This Vampire archetype deep diveTwilight / Warm Bodies: YA paranormal film study episodeIce Planet Barbarians / alien romance episode What We're Shipping This Week Meg: The Tyrant Alpha's Rejected Mate by Kate C. Wells — a rejected-mate story that subverts the fated-bond consent problem by literally letting the heroine have the bond magically removedNikki: Enchanted by Lark Taylor (Hopeless Bless series, book 4) — angel/seraphim romance, heavy angst, terminal illness and healing-powers premise

    The Alpha, the Beast, and the Big Bad Wolf: Breaking Down Werewolf Romance
  3. Sep 30

    The Love Hypothesis Movie: Believe Olive! But Also? Fire Tom.

    Meg and Nikki come back from a summer hiatus to dig into the film adaptation of Ali Hazelwood's The Love Hypothesis, starring Lili Reinhart as Olive and Tom Bateman as Dr. Adam Carlson. Both hosts loved it as a movie (Nikki: 9/10) while grading it more critically as an adaptation (Nikki: 8/10) — faithful through roughly the first half, then increasingly divergent in the back third, especially around the Tom subplot and how the story resolves it. Spoiler warning: this episode discusses the full plot of both the book and the film adaptation in detail. In this episode: What the adaptation gets right: Olive's competence-under-nerves characterization, the negotiation scene, keeping the "fake dating" trope named on-pageWhy cutting Adam's book-only decision that he's been quietly in love with Olive since the bathroom scene changes his arcThe missing Holden subplot, and how much narrative work a best-friend character was doing to humanize AdamCasting notes on Lili Reinhart, Tom Bateman, and Rachel Marsh as AnhThe FAKING IT framework's Agreement stage, and how well the negotiation-scene structure maps onto itWhy the film's choice to remove the audio evidence of Tom's misconduct weakens the third act — and why "believe her" isn't the same as "there will be consequences"What's coming next: October's paranormal spooky season kicks off with werewolves and wolf-shifters Story Summary (Spoiler-Free)The film adaptation of Ali Hazelwood's The Love Hypothesis follows Olive, a PhD student at Stanford, who fake-dates standoffish professor Dr. Adam Carlson to convince her best friend Anh that she's moved on and isn't standing in the way of Anh dating Olive's ex. What starts as a mutually beneficial arrangement — negotiated, timelined, and initially very stiff — slowly becomes real, complicated by lab politics, a predatory colleague, and two people who are both much better at hiding their feelings than showing them. "It wasn't arrogance, it was just a fact. Arrogance would require a level of pride... but it wasn't. It was competence, not arrogance." — Meg, on Adam Carlson"What is it about Adam that Olive likes? Yes, he's gorgeous. Yes, he's helpful. Yes, he's kind of funny in a snarky way. But what about him as a human makes her go, 'I do actually wanna spend time with him'?" — Nikki"We live in the real world where we know nothing will f*****g happen to Tom... We need evidence. We need irrefutable evidence." — Nikki, on the film's choice to remove the audio recording of Tom's misconduct"The solution was in the source material, and that's where it fell apart." — MegBooks & Media ReferencedThe Love Hypothesis — Ali Hazelwood (the book this film adapts)Ever After: A Cinderella Story (1998, referenced for comparison)Riverdale (Lili Reinhart's prior work)The Island — Briar Prescott (Meg's ship of the week)Tracking Wolf — Lucy Lennox, Maid Marian Legacy book 4 (Nikki's ship of the week) Where We've Discussed ThisOur original Love Hypothesis book episodeFull book review: The Love Hypothesis — book reviewThe FAKING IT FrameworkOur favorite Fake Dating Romance Books What We're Shipping This WeekMeg: The Island by Briar Prescott (read from Nikki's earlier recommendation) — childhood-best-friends-to-lovers, bi awakening, stranded-on-a-desert-island survival romanceNikki: Tracking Wolf by Lucy Lennox (Maid Marian Legacy book 4) — dad's-best-friend age-gap romance with a road-trip chase Media we mentioned: "Newfoundland is an Island" video: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTyfMutnK/

    The Love Hypothesis Movie: Believe Olive! But Also? Fire Tom.
  4. Sep 23

    [Re-release] The Love Hypothesis Movie is Here! Let's Talk About the Book First

    We're pulling this one out of the vault because the movie's almost here — The Love Hypothesis hits Prime Video on September 23, with Lili Reinhart as Olive and Tom Bateman as Adam. Consider this your reread assignment before the adaptation drops. In this episode of First Dates and Soulmates, Nikki and Meg dive into The Love Hypothesis by Ali Hazelwood—a fan-favorite academic rom-com that sparked an entire wave of STEM heroines. Click play on this week’s episode to hear: Why Olive is a chronic overthinker and why Adam is a misunderstood grump (who totally has a soft side)How this book walks the line between swoony slow-burn and sexy payoffThe balance of realistic vs. wildly fictional about academiaThe Title IX runner that starts as a joke and becomes the whole emotional throughlineWhy we're both so glad this book stayed in Olive's POV only — and what it would've lost with a dual-POV structureThe recording that saves Olive from her worst moment in the book (f*ck Tom)The 12 stages of physical intimacy framework, and how this book uses it to build a slow burnWhy Olive's demisexuality lands as specific and earned, not just a labelThe Deep End easter egg — yes, Dr. Adam Carlsen and Dr. Olive Smith show up in Ali Hazelwood's 2025 release too And if you loved the fake dating premise & you're looking for more like The Love Hypothesis, check out our 20+ favorite fake relationship books and our list of professional-student romances that don't feel gross. Books & Media We Mention * The Love Hypothesis by Ali Hazelwood * Deep End by Ali Hazelwood * Reacher (tv show) * To Love a Psycho series by CF White (Dream a Little Dream, Kiss me Honey Honey) * The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang * The 12 stages of sexual intimacy Follow the show: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/firstdatesandsoulmates/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@firstdatesandsoulmates YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FirstDatesSoulmates Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe!

  5. Sep 16

    [Re-release] Fake Dating Trope: The 8 Stages That Make Us Believe It's Real

    Strap in. We’re going deep. This week on First Dates & Soulmates, it’s a trope episode! And we’re dissecting every glorious and absurd nuance of fake dating. Nikki may think this trope is the Chardonnay of romance (she’ll drink it if you serve it), while Meg is out here creating full frameworks while waiting in line at Disneyland. In This Episode: * Why so many fake dating books fall apart if the initial premise isn’t strong * Why romantic vulnerability matters more than jellybeans * The difference between fake dating for good vs fake dating for damage control * The role of the designated extroverted friend and why we all need one * When fake dating turns into real cheerleading, and why that’s hot This episode developed the FAKING IT Framework — First Dates & Soulmates' analytical guide to fake dating romance, built around the eight structural elements every fake dating story needs. Meg loves a third-act breakup. Nikki wants to be your fake date and your designated hype woman. Leave a review, comment on Substack, tell us your favourite fake dating books, or ask Nikki to be your designated fake fiance so you can get that promotion! View the full show notes at: https://firstdatesandsoulmates.com/episode/fake-dating-trope Get our full list of our top 20 favorite fake dating romance books! Fake Dating Movies: * How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days * The Proposal * 10 Things I Hate About You * The Bachelor (Chris O’Donnell movie) * Purple Hearts * The Firm * Sleepless in Seattle * Bridgerton * Sex and the City * Just Go With It Follow the show on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/firstdatesandsoulmates/ Follow the show on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@firstdatesandsoulmates Follow the show on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FirstDatesSoulmates Order Meg’s debut novel, Peppermint Bark, No Bite (affiliate link) Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe!

  6. Sep 10

    [Re-Release] Love At First Bite: Vampire Romance

    October starts with a bite as Nikki and Meg dive fang-first into the many flavours of vampire romance. From broody immortals to leather-pants predators, they trace the evolution of the undead in pop culture and argue over who deserves to be booped on the nose. What you’ll hear: Sparkly vampires that aged like milk (sorry, Edward)Why Alexander Skarsgård should never own pants that aren’t leatherThe four vampire archetypes: tragic baby, sexy predator, protective dad-vamp, and monster with a secret squishy centerNikki’s theory of “booping the tiger” as peak vampire romance energyMeg’s dream vampire power: orgasms on demand (yes, really) This episode developed the Vampire Archetype Framework — First Dates & Soulmates' guide to the four faces of the vampire romance hero and the cultural history of which type dominates in each era. We also used this episode to build our Vampire Romance Books & Series Recommendations. Nikki’s Vampire Book List: Black Dagger Brotherhood series by JR WardArgeneau series by Lynsay SandsAnita Blake series by Laurell K HamiltonTwilight by Stephenie MeyerDark series by Christine FeehanA Discovery of Witches by Deborah HarknessLords of Discord series (and Lords of Chaos spinoff) by Jocelynn DrakeLark Taylor's Reckless Damned SeriesGrae Bryan's Vampire's Mate seriesFirst Blood by Eliot GraysonOne Bite with a Vampire by Louisa MastersThe Necromancer’s Dance by Sheena JolieBite me! You know I like it by Fae QuinCronin's Key by NR WalkerThe Tribulations of Ross Young, Supernat PA by AJ SherwoodFated Mates series by AJ SherwoodBite Marks & Broken Hearts by TJ RoseImmortal Assassins series by Mia MonroeVampire Related Crimes Series by Alice Winters Books/Media Mentioned: Twilight series by Stephenie MeyerInterview with the Vampire by Anne Rice (book and film)Queen of the Damned (film)True Blood (HBO series) and Sookie Stackhouse novels by Charlaine HarrisVampire Diaries (TV series)Buffy the Vampire Slayer (TV series)Warm Bodies by Isaac Marion (book and film)Immortals After Dark series by Kresley ColeCasual Felonies by Kelly FoxHot Blooded by Heather Guerre How You Can Support The Show Follow Us On Social: instagram.com/firstdatesandsoulmates/ tiktok.com/@firstdatesandsoulmates youtube.com/@FirstDatesSoulmates Email us at firstdatesandsoulmatespod@gmail.com Share the show with a friend or loved one! Got a Little Extra Money to Spend? Buy our official merch on TeePublic: http://tee.pub/lic/6TtnpmFagAk Get Meg’s Latest Book: All Twerk No Play: https://amzn.to/3Ee2O9Z

  7. Sep 2

    [Re-release] Rockstar Romance with Jessica Topper

    This week Nikki and Meg sit down with author Jessica Topper to dive into the world of rock star romance. A librarian-turned-romance-writer, Jessica shares how her real-life concert experiences and love of music shape her stories — including her beloved Love & Steel series. They explore: * What makes musicians such compelling romantic leads * Why found family dynamics hit differently in fictional bands * The behind-the-stage drama of redemption arcs, messy characters, and their thoughts on bodyguard and manager relationships Don’t worry, there’s enough fictional eyeliner to last you a lifetime. (For more details about the recent changes in Rockstar Romance, check out our essay: From Fantasy to Trauma: How Rockstar Romance Learned to Tell the Truth About Fame) About Our Guest Jessica Topper has been in love with the beauty of the written word ever since she memorized Maurice Sendak's Chicken Soup with Rice at the age of three. After earning a B.A. in English Literature and her Master's Degree in Library Science, Jessica went on to work as a librarian in New York City before trading in the books for bookkeeping. For seventeen years, she worked in the production office of an international touring rock band. Jessica broke the rock romance mold with her 2013 debut novel LOUDER THAN LOVE. Her follow-up romantic comedy, DICTATORSHIP OF THE DRESS, was named one of Publishers Weekly's Best Books of 2015. She lives in Western New York with her family - including two cats that love to walk across her keyboard. Follow Jess: Website: www.jessicatopper.com Facebook - www.facebook.com/JessicaTopperAuthor Instagram - www.instagram.com/jessicatopper/ Goodreads - www.goodreads.com/jessicatopper BookBub - www.bookbub.com/profile/jessica-topper Get our complete list of rockstar romance book recommendations Jessica’s Recs: Under Your Spell - Laura WoodCharm City Rocks - Matthew NormanJuliet, Naked - Nick HornbyHow to Kill a Rock Star - Tiffanie DeBartoloDon't Sleep with your Drummer - Jen Sincero Meg’s Recs: VIP series (Idol, Managed, Fall, Exposed) by Kristen CallihanStage Dive series (Lick, Play, Lead, Deep) by Kylie ScottDrive by Kate Stewart (but not the sequel, Reverse)The Happily Ever After Playlist by Abby Jimenez Nikki’s Recs: Atrous trilogy by NR Walker (Code Red, Code Blue, Code Word) -- and listen to our full episode about AtrousFallen Angels series by Ella Frank and Brook BlaineFix It Up by Mary CalmesReplay series by KM NeuholdFamous series by Eden FinleyGASP! by ZA MaxfieldCaffeine Daydreams series by Lark TaylorRhythm of Love series by Neve WilderJumping Jude (Made Marian book 3) by Lucy LennoxStarting From Series by Lane HayesThe Player by Lily Morton

  8. Aug 26

    [Re-Release] Love on Vacation: Summer Romance Trope Deep Dive

    Ever fall in love on vacation? Nikki hasn't — but she's got a cautionary tale about a family friend who did, and it did NOT end well. Meg's convinced the only version that actually works is the friends-to-lovers group trip. This week, Nikki and Meg unpack the logistics (and the impractical magic) of the "love on vacation" trope — from beach house hookups to European cruises to why a grand romantic gesture at the airport is a logistical nightmare and disrespectful to TSA lines. Listen in for: — Tropes like friends-to-lovers-on-holiday, destination wedding mix-ups, and stranded road trip partners — Nikki's campaign against cruise ships, always — A pitch for a merch line that will definitely get banned — The emotional difference between "honeymoon with your ex's sibling" and "strangers in Venice" — When Meg turned into a Scottish bar singer on a dare (it worked) — Why a grand gesture at the airport falls apart the second you think about the logistics Also covered: runaway grooms, coconuts and questionable toppings. Full show notes: https://firstdatesandsoulmates.com/episode/love-on-vacation/ Nikki, on why forced-proximity vacation romance works: "I think it can be a factor, but most good stories have some sort of ticking clock so that way you get some urgency and some stakes raised."Meg, on the real rule underneath every vacation romance: "It can start as something that happens by chance, but it has to end with a choice."Nikki, on why the honeymoon-gone-wrong trope works for her: "I think when it does become a little bit more hard won, you're like, no, they're already putting in the effort. This was not just because of proximity." Get our full list of beach read recommendations: http://firstdatesandsoulmates.com/beach-reads-romance-books Books & Media We Mention & Recommend * Only One Beach House by K.M. Neuhold * Waiting for You by Cora Rose * Unhoneymooners by Christina Lauren * People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry * Every Summer After by Carley Fortune * Wild Seasons series by Christina Lauren * Up in Flames by Eden Finley & Saxon James * Beat Me Next Christmas by Lindy Bell * Love on Vacation by Keira Andrews * Cruising by Sean Ashcroft * Married to My Best Friend by Riley Hart * Three’s Company by NR Walker * Up in Flames by Eden Finley and Saxon James * Time Out by Vinni George * Cuckoo’s Call by Lily Morton * Thick as Thieves by Lucy Lennox * How to Say I Do by Tal Bauer * Gaycation in Paradise by Ariella Zoelle * Private Charter by NR Walker * KM Neuhold’s Palm Island series * Snow Way In Hell by Charlie Novak * Shore thing series by Jaclyn Osborn * California Crush series by Mia Monroe * Waiting for you by Cora Rose * The Holiday (2006) * Letters to Juliet (2010) * How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1998) * Poseidon Adventure (1972) * Forgetting Sarah Marshall (2008) * The Philadelphia Story (1940) * Palm Springs (2020) * To Catch a Thief * Love Actually We're Shipping: — PS I Hate You by Lauren Connolly — Himbo Hitman by Saxon James

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First Dates & Soulmates is a romance podcast where craft meets culture, hosted by romance author Meg Casebolt and pop culture devotee Nikki McKnight. Expect trope frameworks, feminist film critiques, author interviews, and sometimes ridiculous readalongs.

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