Avoiding My Anxiously Attached Boyfriend

AMAABF
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Welcome to "Avoiding My Anxiously Attached Boyfriend"! (AMAABF). A podcast that delves race, relationships and the LGBTQ+ community.Join the first visual and audio LGBTQ+ podcast hosted by a mixed heritage couple! Get to know Faris (anxiously attached), who's always seeking reassurance, and Josh (Avoidant attached), who self-sabotaged every relationship, until this one! No matter how hard he tried. This podcast came to fruition from long night chats in the garden with a cuppa, solving all of the world’s issues. Originally, starting as a podcast in our garage, to a beautiful studio in London. We want this podcast to be a place our beautiful listeners can enjoy, have a laugh and escape yaylity! So, join us and subscribe for new episodes every MONDAY! Peace, Love, and Rubber Gloves. 

  1. Jul 20

    Queer Africans, Masculinity & IKAG: Blessing Kingsley

    In this exclusive episode, we're joined by I Kissed A Girl season two's Blessing, one of the breakout personalities from the series. Known for her confidence, warmth and unapologetic masculinity, Blessing opens up about her journey on the show, finding community with other masc lesbians and why I Kissed A Girl became far more than just a dating experience. From navigating life inside the Masseria and challenging stereotypes around masculine-presenting lesbians, to reflecting on the support she found from the other contestants, Blessing shares what it was really like representing a side of the LGBTQ+ community that is still rarely seen on mainstream television. She also reveals the emotional impact of seeing her Nigerian mum join her on the show and why that moment became one of the most healing experiences of her life. The conversation then becomes deeply personal as Blessing opens up about growing up Black, queer and masculine, learning to embrace every part of her identity and rejecting the idea that masculinity belongs to men. We discuss race, representation, Black masculinity, African families, queer visibility, vulnerability, healing your inner child and why seeing yourself reflected on screen can change everything. If you enjoyed I Kissed A Girl, are interested in LGBTQ+ stories, identity, representation and honest conversations about race, masculinity and family, make sure you subscribe and check out the rest of our I Kissed A Girl special this week. Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

    Queer Africans, Masculinity & IKAG: Blessing Kingsley

  2. Jul 15

    Secret Relationships, Indian Identity & The Messy Masseria: Nikita Bharath

    In this exclusive episode, we're joined by I Kissed A Girl season two's Nikita Bharath for her first ever podcast appearance. As the only contestant from the series still in a relationship, Nikita finally opens up about finding love with Pippa, keeping their relationship secret for almost a year and what really happened after the cameras stopped rolling. From navigating multiple connections, love triangles and the final kiss-off, to building a relationship away from the cameras, Nikita reflects on her experience inside the Masseria and why taking things slowly became the foundation of her relationship with Pippa.  The conversation then becomes deeply personal as Nikita opens up about growing up queer, reconnecting with her Indian heritage and learning to embrace every part of her identity. We discuss race, representation, spirituality, Hindu traditions, colonialism, growing up in a predominantly white environment and the impact of being labelled "the acceptable Indian" as a child. If you enjoyed I Kissed A Girl, are interested in LGBTQ+ stories, then make sure you subscribe and check out the rest of our I Kissed A Girl special this week. Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

    Secret Relationships, Indian Identity & The Messy Masseria: Nikita Bharath

  3. Jul 12

    Heartbreak, OCD & Kissing Girls: Faye Mcgrath

    Faye McGrath first captured the nation's hearts on BBC's I Kissed A Girl, where her warmth, humour and vulnerability made her one of the standout personalities of the series.  In this episode, Faye joins us to reflect on her experience on the show, navigating rejection in front of the nation and the deeper emotional journey that shaped her long before reality TV.  From falling for Elise, feeling like she was "too nice" for reality TV and unpacking the lessons she took from I Kissed A Girl, Faye opens up about how the experience forced her to confront unresolved childhood wounds, anxious attachment and a lifelong fear of rejection. The conversation then becomes deeply personal as Faye shares her powerful coming out story, growing up knowing she was gay, hiding her identity through school, losing her best friend after coming out and why she genuinely believed saying the words "I'm gay" would change her life forever. We also discuss OCD, ADHD, intrusive thoughts, Pure O, mental health, diabetes, vitiligo and why learning to accept love has been one of the biggest challenges of her life. If you enjoyed I Kissed A Girl, are interested in LGBTQ+ stories, mental health, coming out, relationships, attachment styles, or healing from childhood trauma then make sure you describe to watch the other episode we have coming out this week! Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

    Heartbreak, OCD & Kissing Girls: Faye Mcgrath

  4. Jul 7

    Cults, Santería & Reclaiming KFC: Cain Culto

    Cain Culto is a queer artist, musician and creative whose work explores religion, spirituality, masculinity and identity. In this episode, we sit down with Cain to discuss growing up gay in the evangelical church, religious trauma, coming out, deconstructing Christianity and how he transformed years of shame into powerful music and art. From leading worship as a young church leader and preaching against homosexuality, to experiencing psychosis, being hospitalised and undergoing an attempted exorcism, Cain opens up about one of the most difficult periods of his life.  The conversation also explores masculinity, femininity, queer identity, Santería, indigenous spirituality, colonisation, Latino identity, ancestral healing  and why so many LGBTQ+ people are reconnecting with their culture after religious trauma.  Whether you're interested in LGBTQ+ stories, deconstructing faith, queer culture, religion, spirituality or masculinity his conversation offers a thoughtful and honest perspective on identity, healing and self-acceptance. Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

    Cults, Santería & Reclaiming KFC: Cain Culto

  5. Jul 1

    Femphobia, Topping & Gay Pop Idols: JORDY

    JORDY first caught the internet's attention with viral pop hits like Nice Things and Story of a Boy, but behind the infectious hooks is an artist navigating identity, masculinity and what it really means to be seen. In this episode, we're joined by singer-songwriter JORDY to talk about life as an openly gay artist, making music without compromise, and the journey behind his new album. From writing songs inspired by dating disasters and toxic relationships, to going viral on TikTok, signing record deals and eventually going independent, JORDY reflects on the highs and lows of building a music career in an industry that still struggles to embrace openly queer male artists.  The conversation also gets deeply personal as JORDY opens up about childhood bullying, sexual assault, anxious attachment, healing from toxic relationships and learning to stop blaming himself for his past. Along the way, we explore femininity, masculinity, topping and bottoming stereotypes, internalised homophobia and why embracing every version of yourself is the most powerful thing you can do. Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

    Femphobia, Topping & Gay Pop Idols: JORDY

  6. Jun 23

    Turning Green, Mixed Race Identity & Kissing Boys: Ruben Bø Dower

    Ruben Bø Dower first caught the attention of audiences on I Kissed A Boy, but behind the iconic green looks and unforgettable fashion is a thoughtful conversation about identity, creativity and belonging. In this episode, we're joined by artist, designer and creator Ruben Bø Dower to talk about life after reality TV, finding confidence in who you are, and the journey towards self-acceptance. From his experience on I Kissed A Boy and the show's impact on queer representation, to navigating public attention, dating apps and online criticism, Ruben reflects on how appearing on television changed his life. We discuss the importance of queer community, dating a trans man on national TV, and why representation still matters when there are so few LGBTQ+ shows being made. The conversation also gets deeply personal as Ruben opens up about growing up between Norway and South London, coming out at 14, dealing with internalised homophobia, and struggling to fit in as both a queer and mixed-race person. Along the way, we discuss race, masculinity, self-expression, fashion, creativity, family dynamics, attachment styles, and how painting himself green became a symbol of embracing every part of who he is. Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

    Turning Green, Mixed Race Identity & Kissing Boys: Ruben Bø Dower

  7. Jun 16

    Party Culture, Skins & The Sober Gay: Siôn Meirion

    The Sober Gay has built a thriving online and real-life community for LGBTQ+ people exploring sobriety, and in this episode, we're joined by Welsh creator and community organiser Sion Meirion to talk about his journey away from alcohol and drugs, the realities of queer social culture, and why he created a space where sober and sober-curious people can connect.  From documenting his first 100 days sober on TikTok to launching The Sober Gay Socials, Sion shares how a personal challenge unexpectedly grew into a supportive community. We discuss navigating weddings, holidays, Pride events and nights out without alcohol, and why sobriety doesn't have to mean giving up fun, friendship or queer spaces.  The conversation also gets personal as Sion opens up about growing up in Wales, coming out to his family, having a younger brother who is also gay, and finding lasting love after meeting his partner in a Leeds nightclub. Along the way, we discuss drug culture, peer pressure, attachment styles, long-term relationships, and how our connections with others change when we're fully ourselves.  Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

    Party Culture, Skins & The Sober Gay: Siôn Meirion

  8. Jun 9

    The Buzz, Ireland & The Kinkiest Boots: Liam McEvoy

    Fresh from the West End production of Kinky Boots, we’re joined by performer, dancer and content creator Liam McEvoy for a conversation about queer joy, chosen family, musical theatre and finding “the buzz” in life. From landing his dream role in Kinky Boots and performing across the UK, Europe and the West End, to becoming Bruiser the dog in Legally Blonde, Liam shares the journey from growing up in Ireland to building a career on stage. Along the way, he reflects on the realities of touring, life as a dance captain, audition stories, and why queer representation in theatre continues to matter. The conversation also gets personal as Liam opens up about growing up in a loud, loving Irish family, coming out at 15 and the incredible support he received from his parents and grandparents. We discuss Ireland’s marriage equality referendum, queer visibility, finding confidence through dance, and the impact of discovering queer spaces where you can truly be yourself. We also get into chosen family, the legendary P***y Palace friendship group, HOMOPARODY, dating while living a theatre schedule, Berlin nightlife, queer community, and why the most important thing in life is having “the buzz”. Follow us on Social Media: TikTok: @AMAABF Instagram: @AMAABF

    The Buzz, Ireland & The Kinkiest Boots: Liam McEvoy
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Welcome to "Avoiding My Anxiously Attached Boyfriend"! (AMAABF). A podcast that delves race, relationships and the LGBTQ+ community.Join the first visual and audio LGBTQ+ podcast hosted by a mixed heritage couple! Get to know Faris (anxiously attached), who's always seeking reassurance, and Josh (Avoidant attached), who self-sabotaged every relationship, until this one! No matter how hard he tried. This podcast came to fruition from long night chats in the garden with a cuppa, solving all of the world’s issues. Originally, starting as a podcast in our garage, to a beautiful studio in London. We want this podcast to be a place our beautiful listeners can enjoy, have a laugh and escape yaylity! So, join us and subscribe for new episodes every MONDAY! Peace, Love, and Rubber Gloves. 

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