It's Always Been You.

Rachel Monica
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Welcome to It’s Always Been You, a space for exploring love, relationships, consciousness, manifestation, and healing. I’m Rachel Monica, and this podcast is about understanding the relationship you have with yourself and how it shapes the love you experience, the life you create, and the woman you become. Through personal stories, honest conversations, spiritual perspectives, and powerful mindset shifts, we’ll explore what it means to heal your past, change the beliefs that shape your reality, choose yourself, create deeply fulfilling relationships, and consciously become the woman who can receive the life she desires. Because the love you’re looking for, the life you’re manifesting, and the version of yourself you’re becoming aren’t found somewhere outside of you. It’s always been you. 🌹 Let’s connect:Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com Website: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachelmonica.c/⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelmonica.c⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@rachelmonica⁠⁠⁠

  1. 4d ago

    How to Know If He's the One

    In today’s episode, “How to Know If He's the One,” I'm answering a question I received about how I knew my now fiancé was the man I wanted to pursue and eventually marry so quickly. Because after years of being single, experiencing unhealthy relationship patterns, and doing the inner work to understand myself, I approached love differently. I trusted myself enough to recognize what aligned with me, say no to what didn't, and choose a relationship that felt right. In this episode, I share the three biggest things that made me feel confident in my relationship. We talk about why the work you do on yourself is the foundation for choosing the right partner, how to recognize the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and why learning to trust yourself is just as important as learning to trust a man. We talk about: The three biggest green flags that made me feel confident choosing my fiancéWhy communication and emotional openness are non-negotiable for meHow to recognize when you genuinely feel safe being yourself around a manWhy emotional maturity and intelligence matter more than just chemistryHow doing the inner work changed the way I approached datingWhy learning to say no to what isn't aligned prepares you to choose what isHow gratitude helps you appreciate the love you've been manifestingWhy self-trust is essential when choosing a life partner💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you've always desired? Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me, where we'll uncover the patterns, beliefs, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want, and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create love differently. JOIN MY 8 WEEK BADDIE RETREAT - THE WOMAN WHO GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS 🪞🦂 STARTS NOVEMBER 1ST  We’ll work through the Foundation of the Divine Woman, Relationship to Self Workbook (my 70+ pages of manifestation techniques and healing modalities) together as a community over the final two months of 2026, so we can step into 2027 feeling more connected to ourselves, intentional about our desires, and ready to create a different life. Let's connect: 💗 Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com 💗 Instagram: @rachelmonica.c 💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

  2. Oct 14

    The Wrong Man Will Cost You More Than You Think

    In today’s episode, “The Wrong Man Will Cost You More Than You Think,” I’m talking about why choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make, and how the wrong relationship can cost you so much more than heartbreak. Because choosing a man isn't just choosing who you love. It's choosing the life you're building, the opportunities you pursue, the version of yourself you become, and the future you're creating. After years of being single, learning who I was, and finally finding a relationship that adds so much to my life, a recent trip to Miami reminded me of something important: you can love your partner deeply and still have dreams of your own. And when you choose to build a life with someone, your timelines change. The question is whether the person you're choosing is worth the sacrifices that come with it. We're talking about why we sometimes choose men who aren't right for us, why we overlook red flags, how past relationships can shape our beliefs about love, and why so many women feel angry, disappointed, and afraid to trust again. I share my own realizations about love, sacrifice, and staying connected to yourself while building a life with someone else. We talk about: The hidden cost of choosing the wrong manWhy being single taught me so much about love and myselfHow the wrong relationship can pull you away from your dreamsThe difference between sacrificing for love and abandoning yourselfWhy we sometimes ignore red flags when we want a relationship to workHow our self-concept and beliefs influence who we choose and what we tolerateWhy so many women are angry at men, and how to understand that anger without letting it define your futureLearning to trust yourself again after toxic relationshipsWhy choosing the right partner means choosing someone who adds to your lifeHow to build a beautiful relationship without losing your identity, desires, or individuality 💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you've always desired? Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me, where we'll uncover the patterns, beliefs, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want, and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create love differently. JOIN MY 8 WEEK BADDIE RETREAT - THE WOMAN WHO GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS 🪞🦂 STARTS NOVEMBER 1ST  We’ll work through the Foundation of the Divine Woman, Relationship to Self Workbook (my 70+ pages of manifestation techniques and healing modalities) together as a community over the final two months of 2026, so we can step into 2027 feeling more connected to ourselves, intentional about our desires, and ready to create a different life. Let's connect: 💗 Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com 💗 Instagram: @rachelmonica.c 💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

  3. Oct 7

    How to Believe Healthy Love Is Real in a World of Toxic Men

    In today’s episode, “How to Believe Healthy Love Is Real in a World of Toxic Men,” I’m talking about something I know so many women struggle with: believing that the kind of love you actually want is still possible when the world seems to give you endless proof that it isn’t. Because when you constantly hear stories about cheating, emotional unavailability, narcissism, abuse, betrayal, and relationships falling apart, it can start to feel safer to assume that healthy love simply doesn’t exist. But what if the problem isn’t that healthy love is rare? What if you’ve just been exposed to so much of the wrong kind of love that you’ve started using other people’s experiences as evidence for your own future? We talk about: Why other people’s relationship stories are not a prediction of yoursThe difference between discernment and fearHow self-trust changes the way you dateWhy healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar or even “boring”How to stay soft and open while still having standards and boundariesWhy you’re allowed to believe good men existThe role your beliefs play in what you notice, tolerate, choose, and receiveHow to stop consuming relationship content that constantly reinforces fear 💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you've always desired? Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me, where we'll uncover the patterns, beliefs, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want, and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create love differently. JOIN MY 8 WEEK BADDIE RETREAT - THE WOMAN WHO GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS 🪞🦂 STARTS NOVEMBER 1ST  We’ll work through the Foundation of the Divine Woman, Relationship to Self Workbook (my 70+ pages of manifestation techniques and healing modalities) together as a community over the final two months of 2026, so we can step into 2027 feeling more connected to ourselves, intentional about our desires, and ready to create a different life. Let's connect: 💗 Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com 💗 Instagram: @rachelmonica.c 💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

  4. Sep 30

    Remember Who TF You Are: Women, Power & the Patriarchy

    In today’s episode, “Remember Who TF You Are: Women, Power & the Patriarchy,” I’m having one of the most important conversations we need to have. Because before we can reclaim our power, we have to understand what taught us to give it away. I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be a woman in this world, the history we've inherited, the systems that have shaped us, and how much of that conditioning is still alive in us today. And honestly? I’m angry. But I don't think anger is something women should be ashamed of. I think sometimes anger is the part of us that knows something isn't right. In this episode, we're going deep into the history of women, the suppression of female autonomy, the ways women’s knowledge, power, independence, and voices have been controlled throughout history, and how those patterns have shaped the world we live in today. We’re talking about witch trials, women's relationship to property and independence, religion, patriarchy, and the ways systems built around male authority have influenced generations of women. But this isn't an episode about hating men. It's an episode about waking up. Because I believe we can acknowledge the ways women have been harmed without believing that all men are the enemy. We can demand accountability while still believing good men exist. We can be angry about injustice while still believing in love. We can recognize the shadow without becoming consumed by it. And most importantly, we can look at all of this without allowing it to convince us that we are powerless. We talk about: Why understanding women's history is so important to understanding the world we live in todayHow women's knowledge, independence, property, and autonomy have historically been controlled and restrictedThe complicated history behind witch trials and the women who were accused of witchcraftHow patriarchal systems have influenced women's roles, rights, and freedoms across generationsWhy we cannot heal wounds that we refuse to acknowledgeWhy anger can be information rather than something we need to immediately suppressThe difference between acknowledging systems of oppression and becoming consumed by hatredHow women can demand accountability while still believing in healthy masculine energy and healthy relationshipsWhat it means to remember the sacredness and power within womanhoodWhy I believe women have a deeply divine and godly natureWhy your power doesn't come from being better than men, but from remembering who you areWhy healing requires us to face the shadow instead of covering it with a spiritual Band-AidWhy remembering our history can be part of breaking the cycles we continue to carry💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you've always desired? Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me, where we'll uncover the patterns, beliefs, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want, and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create love differently. JOIN MY 8 WEEK BADDIE RETREAT - THE WOMAN WHO GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS 🪞🦂 STARTS NOVEMBER 1ST  We’ll work through the Foundation of the Divine Woman, Relationship to Self Workbook (my 70+ pages of manifestation techniques and healing modalities) together as a community over the final two months of 2026, so we can step into 2027 feeling more connected to ourselves, intentional about our desires, and ready to create a different life. Let's connect: 💗 Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com 💗 Instagram: @rachelmonica.c 💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

  5. Sep 23

    How to Get Everything You Want (The 7 Day Dream Life Challenge)

    In today’s episode, “How to Get Everything You Want (The 7 Day Dream Life Challenge),” I’m doing something a little different… I don't want you to spend another week wondering when the life you want is finally going to happen. I don't want you obsessing over your manifestations, checking for signs, questioning whether you're “aligned enough,” or constantly wondering what you need to do to make everything happen faster. Because every time I finally receive something I wanted for so long, I look back and think… “Why did I worry about this so much?” And I don't want you to spend your life waiting for your life to begin. So in this episode, I'm giving you a 7-day challenge designed to help you get clear on what you actually want, start embodying the version of you who already lives that reality, and practice letting go of the desperate need to control exactly how or when it arrives. And we're doing it together. For the next seven days, I want you to stop waiting for your dream life and practice living like you're already on your way there. We talk about: ✨ Why we spend so much time worrying about things that eventually work themselves out ✨ The biggest thing keeping you from surrendering and trusting your own unfolding ✨ How to use imagination and “playing pretend” to become familiar with the reality you're creating ✨ How scripting your life as if you're already living it can shift the way you think and feel ✨ Why gratitude for what you're calling in can feel completely different from desperately wanting it ✨ How subconscious reprogramming before sleep can reinforce the identity you're stepping into ✨ How to recognize that things can be moving for you even when you can't see the final result yet ✨ Why the lessons, endings, opportunities, and experiences along the way may actually be part of the manifestation ✨ How to stop waiting for your life to start and actually live it now 💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you've always desired? Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me, where we'll uncover the patterns, beliefs, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want, and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create love differently. JOIN MY 8 WEEK BADDIE RETREAT - THE WOMAN WHO GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS 🪞🦂 STARTS NOVEMBER 1ST  We’ll work through the Foundation of the Divine Woman, Relationship to Self Workbook (my 70+ pages of manifestation techniques and healing modalities) together as a community over the final two months of 2026, so we can step into 2027 feeling more connected to ourselves, intentional about our desires, and ready to create a different life. Let's connect: 💗 Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com 💗 Instagram: @rachelmonica.c 💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

  6. Sep 16

    If You’re Scared You’ll Never Find Love, Listen to This

    In today’s episode, “If You’re Scared You’ll Never Find Love, Listen to This,” I’m talking directly to the woman who secretly wonders… “What if it never happens for me?” Maybe you’re watching your friends get engaged, married, and start families. Maybe you’ve been through relationships that taught you what you don’t want. Maybe you’ve done so much healing, raised your standards, and become so much more self-aware… But you still haven’t met your person. And sometimes, even when you genuinely love your life, that little voice can still creep in: “Am I behind?” “Did I miss my chance?” “What if I never find him?” I want to completely challenge the idea that you are late, behind, or running out of time. What if everything you’ve experienced so far has been preparing you for the kind of relationship you actually want? We’re talking about why your late twenties and thirties can be such a powerful time to find love, how much we change throughout our twenties and into adulthood, and why becoming more self-aware, emotionally mature, and clear on what you want can actually change the way you choose a partner. We talk about: ✨ Why being single at 28, 30, 32, or beyond does NOT mean you're behind ✨ Why your past relationships and dating experiences were not wasted ✨ Why urgency can cause you to choose from fear instead of desire ✨ The danger of letting your age pressure you into the wrong relationship ✨ Why your relationship status is never a measurement of your worth ✨ How to trust your own timeline instead of comparing your love story to everyone else's ✨ The spiritual perspective of divine timing and your unique path ✨ Why the work you’re doing on yourself now may be preparing you for the relationship you desire ✨ How to stay open to love while continuing to fully live your life ✨ Why you may be so much closer to the relationship you want than you realize 💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you've always desired? Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me, where we'll uncover the patterns, beliefs, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want, and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create love differently. JOIN MY 8 WEEK BADDIE RETREAT - THE WOMAN WHO GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS 🪞🦂 STARTS NOVEMBER 1ST  We’ll work through the Foundation of the Divine Woman, Relationship to Self Workbook (my 70+ pages of manifestation techniques and healing modalities) together as a community over the final two months of 2026, so we can step into 2027 feeling more connected to ourselves, intentional about our desires, and ready to create a different life. Let's connect: 💗 Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com 💗 Instagram: @rachelmonica.c 💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

  7. Sep 9

    What Your Love Life Reveals About Your Self-Awareness

    In today’s episode, “What Your Love Life Reveals About Your Self-Awareness,” I’m talking about something I think so many women think they have mastered… Self-awareness. Because you can know your attachment style. Know your triggers. Know your patterns. Know exactly what your ex did wrong. And still not actually be as self-aware as you think you are. In fact, one of the biggest things I’ve been realizing is that so many women are incredibly aware of their flaws… But completely unaware of their strengths. We’re so quick to identify what’s wrong with us, what we need to heal, what we need to fix, and where we’re falling short — but how often do you actually stop and recognize who you are, what you bring to the table, how much you’ve grown, and what is already working within you? In this episode, we’re going deeper than simply asking, “Do I love myself?” We’re asking: Do I actually know myself? Because self-love without self-awareness can become another story we tell ourselves. We talk about: What self-awareness actually means and why knowing your flaws isn’t the same thing as being self-awareHow your dating patterns can reveal your blind spotsWhat the people you choose and what you tolerate can teach you about yourselfWhy your standards aren’t what you say you deserve they’re what you’re willing to enforceWhy being rejected or not chosen can reveal so much about your relationship with yourselfWhy you need to become just as aware of your strengths, beauty, resilience, and growth as you are of your flawsWhy the goal isn't to become perfect, it's to become honest with yourself 💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you've always desired? Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me, where we'll uncover the patterns, beliefs, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want, and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create love differently. JOIN MY 8 WEEK BADDIE RETREAT - THE WOMAN WHO GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS 🪞🦂 STARTS NOVEMBER 1ST  We’ll work through the Foundation of the Divine Woman, Relationship to Self Workbook (my 70+ pages of manifestation techniques and healing modalities) together as a community over the final two months of 2026, so we can step into 2027 feeling more connected to ourselves, intentional about our desires, and ready to create a different life. Let's connect: 💗 Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com 💗 Instagram: @rachelmonica.c 💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

  8. Sep 2

    Why You’re Not Seeing Results Yet (Manifestation Isn’t Enough)

    In today’s episode, “Why You’re Not Seeing Results Yet (Manifestation Isn’t Enough),” I’m talking about one of the biggest things I’ve realized about creating the life you want… You can’t just envision the life. You have to participate in creating it. Because we’re living in a time where manifestation is everywhere. And I believe in all of that. But there’s another side to creation that we don’t talk about enough… Action. We’re talking about the balance between the feminine and masculine in conscious creation — the feminine energy of receiving, trusting, envisioning, embodying, and allowing, alongside the masculine energy of taking action, creating structure, staying disciplined, and turning what you envision into something tangible. We talk about: The difference between energetically aligning with something and actually taking action toward itWhy the feminine and masculine are both necessary for conscious creationHow receiving, trusting, visualizing, and embodying work alongside discipline, structure, and actionWhy you can manifest something without being perfectly healed or having everything figured outThe importance of getting uncomfortable and doing the things your future self would doWhy knowing what to do isn't the same as actually implementing itHow consistency and discipline can become an act of self-trustHow to trust the universe while still doing your part 💗 Want to create the healthy, secure love you've always desired? Book a 1:1 Love Audit with me, where we'll uncover the patterns, beliefs, and choices that may be keeping you from experiencing the relationship you want, and identify the shifts that will help you choose, receive, and create love differently. JOIN MY 8 WEEK BADDIE RETREAT - THE WOMAN WHO GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS 🪞🦂 STARTS NOVEMBER 1ST  We’ll work through the Foundation of the Divine Woman, Relationship to Self Workbook (my 70+ pages of manifestation techniques and healing modalities) together as a community over the final two months of 2026, so we can step into 2027 feeling more connected to ourselves, intentional about our desires, and ready to create a different life. Let's connect: 💗 Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com 💗 Instagram: @rachelmonica.c 💗 Work With Me: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac

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Welcome to It’s Always Been You, a space for exploring love, relationships, consciousness, manifestation, and healing. I’m Rachel Monica, and this podcast is about understanding the relationship you have with yourself and how it shapes the love you experience, the life you create, and the woman you become. Through personal stories, honest conversations, spiritual perspectives, and powerful mindset shifts, we’ll explore what it means to heal your past, change the beliefs that shape your reality, choose yourself, create deeply fulfilling relationships, and consciously become the woman who can receive the life she desires. Because the love you’re looking for, the life you’re manifesting, and the version of yourself you’re becoming aren’t found somewhere outside of you. It’s always been you. 🌹 Let’s connect:Email: campolongorachel@gmail.com Website: https://stan.store/rachelmonicac Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachelmonica.c/⁠⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelmonica.c⁠⁠⁠YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@rachelmonica⁠⁠⁠

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  • Creator
    Rachel Monica
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    47
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 It's Always Been You.
  • Show Website
    It's Always Been You.

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