You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

Torie Wiksell
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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a mother who had an unmanaged personality disorder and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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  1. 4d ago • The Private Feed Only

    My Messy July and What It Taught Me

    In this episode of The Private Feed, I chat about navigating my chaotic July as an imperfect (but trying!) cycle breaker. We dive into how hard it is to be a human sometimes and the unique challenges of being a cycle breaker when life gets complicated.

    My Messy July and What It Taught Me

  2. 6d ago

    Do Coping Skills Actually Work? What Cycle Breakers Need to Know About Healing from Family Trauma

    Coping skills and even CBT are getting demonized as shallow fixes that ignore trauma. But they play an important part in healing from the trauma of growing up with a parent who has narcissistic personality disorder or unmanaged borderline personality disorder. And it's why so many cycle breakers end up skipping the tools that would actually help them get through hard moments of their healing, like setting a boundary or facing a triggering conversation with their parent. In this episode you'll learn: The honest limits of coping skills, including what they can't doAccessible options for real-life stressful momentsWhat conversations about healing from trauma often get wrongHow coping skills support you through the harder partsReady to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow Torie on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Want the more episodes of You're Not Crazy? Join The Private Feed for access to bonus and ad-free episodes plus the full archive: confidentboundaries.com/private Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  3. Jul 28 • The Private Feed Only

    Do Coping Skills Actually Work? What Cycle Breakers Need to Know About Healing from Family Trauma

    Coping skills and even CBT are getting demonized as shallow fixes that ignore trauma. But they play an important part in healing from the trauma of growing up with a parent who has narcissistic personality disorder or unmanaged borderline personality disorder. And it's why so many cycle breakers end up skipping the tools that would actually help them get through hard moments of their healing, like setting a boundary or facing a triggering conversation with their parent. In this episode you'll learn: -The honest limits of coping skills, including what they can't do -Accessible options for real-life stressful moments -What conversations about healing from trauma often get wrong -How coping skills support you through the harder parts Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow Torie on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in

    Do Coping Skills Actually Work? What Cycle Breakers Need to Know About Healing from Family Trauma

  4. Jul 28 • The Private Feed Only

    Talking to Your Partner About Your Family

    Talking with a partner about your complicated family dynamics is hard. It's also an incredibly important thing to do in order to allow your partner to show up for you in the way you need them to. In this episode of The Private Feed, we talk about where to start and why things get lost in translation.

    Talking to Your Partner About Your Family

  5. Jul 21

    Feeling Crazy in a Chaotic Family: Why Clarity and Confidence Change Everything

    Growing up with a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder or strong narcissistic traits means growing up in chaos. Gaslighting makes you question your reality, walking on eggshells keeps your nervous system on high alert, leaving you feeling crazy in a family that insists everything is fine. In this episode you'll learn: How clarity about what's really happening in your family lets you make intentional decisions instead of throwing things at the wallWhy making choices based on what someone else says is right for you replicates the exact dynamic you grew up inThe difference between what's actually right for you and what just makes you feel less guiltyHow replicable skills, not one-size-fits-all rules, build the confidence that quiets self-doubt and self-gaslightingReady to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow Torie on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Want the more episodes of You're Not Crazy? Join The Private Feed for access to bonus and ad-free episodes plus the full archive: confidentboundaries.com/private Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  6. Jul 21 • The Private Feed Only

    Feeling Crazy in a Chaotic Family: Why Clarity and Confidence Change Everything

    Growing up with a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder or strong narcissistic traits means growing up in chaos. Gaslighting makes you question your reality, walking on eggshells keeps your nervous system on high alert, leaving you feeling crazy in a family that insists everything is fine. In this episode you'll learn: -How clarity about what's really happening in your family lets you make intentional decisions instead of throwing things at the wall -Why making choices based on what someone else says is right for you replicates the exact dynamic you grew up in -The difference between what's actually right for you and what just makes you feel less guilty -How replicable skills, not one-size-fits-all rules, build the confidence that quiets self-doubt and self-gaslighting Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow Torie on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in

    Feeling Crazy in a Chaotic Family: Why Clarity and Confidence Change Everything

  7. Jul 14

    No New Episode This Week

    Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  8. Jul 7

    Am I Mean for Setting Boundaries? Why Taking Care of Yourself Feels Cruel

    When you were raised by a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, you learn early on that keeping the peace and managing your parent's moods is the "kind" thing to do. Your family conflates kindness with you taking on the job of regulating your parent's emotions, and now every boundary you try to set can feel like a moral failure instead of the basic self-care it actually is. In this episode you'll learn: The real difference between kindness and the emotional caretaking you were trained to call kindnessWhy appeasing your parent got framed as "the right thing to do" The one question to ask yourself when a boundary feels meanWhat genuinely unkind behavior looks like, and why setting a boundary doesn't come anywhere closeWhy your body might still feel uncomfortable and unsafe setting a boundary even once you know you've done nothing wrongIf you've spent your whole life worrying that taking care of yourself makes you the mean one, this episode is for you. Ready to go deeper? The Cycle Breaker's Vault is Torie's self-guided course for the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic traits. It covers dysfunctional family dynamics, boundaries, manipulation, grief, and reconnecting with yourself. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/vault Follow Torie on Instagram: @cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: @cyclebreakertherapist Want the more episodes of You're Not Crazy? Join The Private Feed for access to bonus and ad-free episodes plus the full archive: confidentboundaries.com/private Free guide: 10 Boundary Mistakes That Keep You Stuck If your boundaries keep blowing up or leaving you drowning in guilt, it's usually not you. Learn what problems actually get in the way of setting successful boundaries with toxic parents by downloading my free guide: confidentboundaries.com/opt-in Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a mother who had an unmanaged personality disorder and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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