You're Not Crazy: A Podcast for the Adult Children of Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders

Torie Wiksell
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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist, Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a narcissistic mother and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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  1. 2d ago • The Private Feed Only

    The Real Cost of Going With the Flow This Holiday

    Does it feel like you even have a choice when it comes to seeing your family for the holidays this year? Growing up in a dysfunctional family system often makes it feel like diverting from the status quo would be far too exhausting to even consider. In this episode of You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed, we break down the nuance behind that common belief and how to start looking at things through a different (and healthier) lens. Heading into a holiday visit? Torie’s guide, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent, helps you prepare for the visit, get through the moments when you’re triggered, and take care of yourself afterward: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Ready to get serious about your boundaries? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie’s self-guided course on setting and enforcing boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back: confidentboundaries.com/course

    The Real Cost of Going With the Flow This Holiday

  2. Oct 13

    When Your Parent Says You’re the Toxic One

    Narcissistic, emotionally immature, and otherwise toxic parents love to say their adult child is the toxic one or that it's them walking on eggshells around their child. But despite this being a common talking point in dysfunctional family systems, it's not exactly accurate as to what's happening underneath the surface. In this episode we discuss: Why adult children and parents aren’t peers, even when you’re both adultsThe difference between a parent walking on eggshells and a child walking on eggshells, and why they aren’t apples to applesWhat’s often underneath your parent saying, “I have to walk on eggshells around you”How context gets stripped out of these family dynamics, and why the nuance matters so much for adult children of narcissistic parentsReady to go deeper? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie’s self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course Want ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join the private feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent. Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  3. Oct 12 • The Private Feed Only

    When Your Parent Says You’re the Toxic One

    Narcissistic, emotionally immature, and otherwise toxic parents love to say their adult child is the toxic one or that it's them walking on eggshells around their child. But despite this being a common talking point in dysfunctional family systems, it's not exactly accurate as to what's happening underneath the surface. In this episode we discuss: -Why adult children and parents aren’t peers, even when you’re both adults -The difference between a parent walking on eggshells and a child walking on eggshells, and why they aren’t apples to apples -What’s often underneath your parent saying, “I have to walk on eggshells around you” -How context gets stripped out of these family dynamics, and why the nuance matters so much for adult children of narcissistic parents Ready to go deeper? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie’s self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course Want ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join the private feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent. Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide

    When Your Parent Says You’re the Toxic One

  4. Sep 30 • The Private Feed Only

    Why Your Family Acts Like They Don't See It

    This episode is about the hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil stance so many members of dysfunctional family systems take in regards to a narcissistic parent's or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder's abusive behaviors. In it, we chat about why the enabling parent, siblings, and extended family so often minimize or deny what's happening. We also cover whether or not they can truly be oblivious to the abuse and dysfunction.

    Why Your Family Acts Like They Don't See It

  5. Sep 29

    Boundaries You Set With Yourself

    When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, boundaries are understandably complicated. But, what if you could start making changes by setting some with yourself? In this episode you'll learn: Boundaries with yourself: what they are, and why knowing your limits comes before anything you communicate to your parentWhy the urge to explain every change runs so deep when you grow up in this type of family dynamicWhat this can look like IRLWhy this isn't all or nothing, and what small steps look likeReady to go deeper? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie's self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course Want access to ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent. Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

  6. Sep 28 • The Private Feed Only

    Boundaries You Set With Yourself

    When you grow up with a narcissistic parent or a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder, boundaries are understandably complicated. But, what if you could start making changes by setting some with yourself? In this episode you'll learn: -Boundaries with yourself: what they are, and why knowing your limits comes before anything you communicate to your parent -Why the urge to explain every change runs so deep when you grow up in this type of family dynamic -What this can look like IRL -Why this isn't all or nothing, and what small steps look like Ready to go deeper? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie's self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course Want access to ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent. Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide

    Boundaries You Set With Yourself

  7. Sep 18 • The Private Feed Only

    What If Your Parent Didn't Become Toxic Until You Were an Adult?

    Today I'm getting into why nobody goes from emotionally healthy to emotionally abusive overnight, and what's usually happening instead. If it's felt like you're suddenly meeting a version of your parent you've never seen before, this one is for you.

    What If Your Parent Didn't Become Toxic Until You Were an Adult?

  8. Sep 15

    You Know What You "Should" Do, You Just Can't Bring Yourself to Do It

    You've known for months exactly what boundary you need to set. And every time you sit down to do it, something in your body says absolutely not, and you tell yourself you'll deal with it later. If you grew up with a parent with unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic traits, you learned early on that reading the room kept you safe and while expressing your emotions was a problem. It's one of the many reasons cycle breakers often grow up to be great intellectualizers who find themselves struggling to make the changes they desperately want to make. In this episode you'll learn: Why you know what you "should" do but can't bring yourself to actually do it The difference between knowing what to do and having the skill set to tolerate how distressing change can beWhy the hardest part of a boundary is almost never the logistics, it's the guilt and anxiety that come afterThe story your brain tells about laziness and lack of motivation, and what's actually happeningWhy being too close to the fire makes your own family the hardest one to see clearlyIf you've spent years trying to understand your dysfunctional family system and still can't bring yourself to make the changes you need to, this episode is for you. Ready to go deeper? Stop Getting Pulled Back Into the Chaos is Torie's self-guided course on how to set and enforce boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic traits. It covers why your boundaries keep failing, what to do instead, and how to keep going when your parent pushes back. Learn more and get started: confidentboundaries.com/course Want access to ad-free episodes, bonus episodes, and the full archive? Join You're Not Crazy: The Private Feed: confidentboundaries.com/private Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Need help getting ready for your next interaction with a difficult parent? Check out, Surviving Interactions With a Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, or Otherwise Toxic Parent. Get instant access to the 12-page guide: confidentboundaries.com/the-guide Support the show A huge thank you to our podcast sponsors! Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you’re in crisis, please call the 988 Crisis Lifeline. You're Not Crazy is owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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Torie Wiksell, is no stranger to talking about toxic parents and dysfunctional family dynamics. As a therapist, Torie focuses on supporting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. She also grew up with a narcissistic mother and understands the uniquely complicated aspects of these relationships. Torie brings a refreshingly relatable perspective to navigating a complicated relationship with a parent who has BPD or narcissistic traits while instilling hope that things can get better and ensuring her listeners they are not alone. Follow Torie on TikTok: tiktok.com/@cyclebreakertherapist Follow Torie on Instagram: instagram.com/cyclebreakertherapist Learn more about navigating complicated parent relationships and find resources that can help at www.confidentboundaries.com Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are in a mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. You're Not Crazy is a podcast owned and produced by Torie Wiksell and Confident Boundaries, LLC.

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