Before You Go

Abode Contemplative Care For The Dying

Welcome to BEFORE YOU GO, the official podcast of Abode Contemplative Care For The Dying. At Abode, our vision is that we live in a world where death is not feared, and we live fully until we die. Hosted by Abode's End of Life Doula and Yoga Director, Natalie Buster.

  1. 6d ago

    Bringing "In Honor" to Military City USA: Veterans, Loss & The Day of the Dead in San Antonio

    Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of death, military loss, and suicide. If you or someone you know is in crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7 in the US and Canada. How do we honor the stories of service members, veterans, and the families who love them—especially when military culture often teaches us to stay stoic and hide our pain? In this episode of Before You Go (the official podcast of ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying), host Natalie Buster sits down with Elizabeth Coplan (Founder of Grief Dialogues) and Dr. Qwynn Salazar (suicidologist, death doula, and veteran end-of-life care advocate). Together, they discuss uniting to bring the trauma-informed, immersive theatrical experience "In Honor" to San Antonio—Military City USA—during Muertos Fest, October 23 and 24, 2026. Elizabeth and Qwynn share how serendipity brought them together alongside Operation Solace’s Maria Gonzalez, how interactive art like the military ribbon ceremony helps survivors bear witness to their loved ones' legacies, and why talking openly about death and funeral wishes (yes, including Willie Nelson and Beyoncé playlists!) allows us to live fuller lives before we go. Join Grief Dialogues and ABODE for two unforgettable evenings of remembrance, music, personal narratives, and healing: Dates: October 23rd & 24th at 7:00 PM Location: The Radius Center, San Antonio, TX Tickets & Info: https://griefdialogues.com 00:00 – Content Warning & Sponsor: Grief Dialogues presents In Honor 01:06 – Welcome to Before You Go with host Natalie Buster 01:36 – Introducing Elizabeth Coplan & Dr S. Qwynn Salazar 02:58 – Personal ties to San Antonio ("Military City USA") & Muertos Fest 04:09 – How the stars aligned with Maria Gonzalez and Operation Solace 08:11 – The origin story of Grief Dialogues & transitioning to immersive theater 13:04 – How Qwynn manifested working in theater & processing grief through art 17:04 – Rethinking Memorial Day: Honoring all veterans, families, and caregivers 19:46 – The power of the colored military ribbons & shared vulnerability 23:18 – Why "Sorry for your loss" falls short & who In Honor is made for 26:33 – Trauma-informed theater: On-site clinicians & breaking military stoicism 31:05 – Filling our cups: Diamond art, decoupage, and advising playwrights on death 35:05 – Normalizing death talks: Funeral playlists & "Just In Case" bags 38:16 – Event shoutouts: Operation Solace, ABODE, and UTSA Arts 39:28 – "What do you want to do before you go?" Grief Dialogues: https://griefdialogues.com Watch Elizabeth Coplan’s episode from Season Three: https://youtu.be/WXy-tX-Ifns?si=RtWwEZe5h3uZi3yJ Follow ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying: https://abodehome.org/ Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/abodecontemplativecare/ Find us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ABODEcontemplativecare Find us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpWnI9mG4f5rzdDT2tC2fRg Special Thanks to Our Sponsors & Partners: Grief Dialogues, Operation Solace, ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying, and UTSA Arts Disclaimer: At ABODE, we believe death is not a medical event, and we are not medical professionals. The views shared on this podcast are personal opinions and should not be taken as medical advice. #BeforeYouGoPodcast #GriefDialogues #MilitaryGrief #Veterans #SanAntonio #MuertosFest #EndOfLifeCare #DeathDoula #ImmersiveTheater #MentalHealthAwareness

  2. Oct 12

    A Sanctuary in the Finger Lakes: Community, Care, and Legacy at Vincent House with Jackie Council

    In this episode of Before You Go, host Natalie Buster sits down with Jackie Council, Executive Director of Vincent House—a two-bedroom Omega home situated in the rural farm country of Wayland, New York. Serving upstate New York's Finger Lakes region since 2000, Vincent House provides compassionate, cost-free comfort care for individuals with a prognosis of three months or less. Jackie shares the home’s unique origins—from community members purchasing a vacant Catholic convent for just one dollar to becoming an essential refuge in a rural resource drought. She discusses how a deeply committed, intergenerational volunteer base powers their daily resident care, the creative and intuitive therapies they incorporate, and why honoring each person’s unique life story transforms end-of-life care into a celebration of humanity. From Convent to Comfort Care: How a local doctor, church members, and neighbors transformed an empty convent into a peaceful, two-bedroom home for the dying. Bridging the Rural Gap: Overcoming transportation barriers and limited in-home services across multiple rural counties to offer a safe alternative to hospitals. The Intergenerational Volunteer Family: How over 100 volunteers ranging from age 16 to 92 run resident care shifts, design gardens, bake treats, and build community connections. Holistic & Intuitive Care: Enhancing traditional comfort care with Reiki, massage therapy, an emotional support dog named Marvin, creative art grief circles, and community drum sharing. Honoring Life Stories: Writing personal guest bios, celebrating milestones, conducting pinning ceremonies for military veterans and nurses, and creating space for families to stay together. Learn more & connect: Vincent House: https://vincenthouseny.org/ Omega Home Network: omegahomenetwork.org Follow ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying: https://abodehome.org/ Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/abodecontemplativecare/ Find us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ABODEcontemplativecare Find us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpWnI9mG4f5rzdDT2tC2fRg

  3. Oct 5

    Bringing Humanity to the Bedside: Inside Inhora with Miles Gloetzner

    In this episode of Before You Go, host Natalie Buster sits down with Miles Gloetzner, founder and executive director of Inhora—an Omega home providing compassionate end-of-life care in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Miles shares his journey from an 11-year nursing career in the VA system to opening a non-medical, community-supported home for the dying. He discusses the story of Inora’s very first guest, Gerald, the Latin roots behind the name "Inhora" (meaning "at the hour"), and how shifting from an anarchist punk rocker to an executive leader has deepened his belief in human goodness and servant leadership. Key Topics Covered: The Origin of Inora: How a late-night journal idea grew into an Omega home welcoming those who slip through institutional cracks. Gerald's Story: Welcoming an unhoused brother and sister from along the Rio Grande and transforming an isolated passing into a communal experience of love and reconnection. The Heart of Volunteers: How community members—from local business owners and teenagers to a neighborhood meteorologist—bring life, presence, and dignity to the bedside. The Role of End-of-Life Doulas: Why Inhora piloted an end-of-life doula program, the unique space doulas hold, and how they bring ritual, presence, and grief support without duplicating medical or chaplaincy roles. Beauty as Care: Centering the end-of-life experience around art, music, kitchen scents, and the human senses. Learn more & connect: Inhora: Website: inhora.org Omega Home Network: omegahomenetwork.org Follow ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying: https://abodehome.org/ Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/abodecontemplativecare/ Find us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ABODEcontemplativecare Find us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpWnI9mG4f5rzdDT2tC2fRg

  4. Sep 28

    DIGNITY, LOVE, AND HARBOR: Inside Solace Friends with Kendra Deja

    In this episode of Before You Go, host Natalie Buster talks with Kendra Deja, Executive Director of Solace Friends in Madison, Wisconsin. Solace Friends is an Omega home uniquely dedicated to providing compassionate, dignified end-of-life care exclusively to individuals experiencing housing insecurity and terminal illness. Kendra shares the decade-long journey of bringing Solace Friends to life—from its founding inspiration by palliative care physician Dr. Ann Catlett to opening its doors as a licensed adult family home. She discusses the nuances of operating under state regulations, meeting residents without judgment through harm reduction principles, and the profound gift of holding space during the sacred transition between living and dying. The Mission & Model: Why Solace Friends focuses specifically on unsheltered individuals facing terminal diagnoses, and what it means to be licensed as an adult family home in Wisconsin. Origin Story: How hospital discharge realities prompted Dr. Anne Catlett to co-found Madison Street Medicine and pursue a dedicated home for vulnerable community members. Radical Acceptance & Harm Reduction: Welcoming residents with severe mental illness, substance dependencies, or justice involvement when other facilities say no. Unforgettable Moments: Heartfelt resident stories, including two sisters reunited after 50 years and a peaceful final chapter with young daughters. Sustaining the Caregiver: Kendra’s 30-year journey in end-of-life care and the philosophy of mutual support that keeps her cup full. Learn more & connect: Solace Friends: https://www.solacefriends.org/ Omega Home Network: omegahomenetwork.org Follow ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying: https://abodehome.org/ Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/abodecontemplativecare/ Find us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ABODEcontemplativecare Find us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpWnI9mG4f5rzdDT2tC2fRg

  5. Sep 21

    Finding Peace in the Caregiver Crisis: Inside Clarehouse with Kelley Scott

    What happens when families face the physical, emotional, and financial exhaustion of round-the-clock end-of-life care? In this episode of Before You Go, host Natalie Buster sits down with Kelley Scott—Founder and Executive Director of Clarehouse, an Omega Home in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and Emeritus Executive Director of the Omega Home Network. Kelley delves into the modern caregiver crisis and discusses her co-authored research published in the American Journal of Hospice and Palliative Medicine, which explores how care settings directly shape the quality of death and life for patients and their loved ones. From the origin story of Clarehouse in a modest Tulsa apartment to the expansive, community-funded 10-bedroom sanctuary it is today, Kelley shares how social model hospice homes relieve the heavy logistics of caregiving so families can return to simply being family. In this episode, we discuss: A reminder to support ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying during San Antonio’s “The Big Give” annual fundraising event The misconceptions around medical hospice coverage and the hidden social burdens of dying at home Key findings from research comparing end-of-life care in private homes, nursing facilities, and social model homes How practical caregiver education and goals-of-care conversations empower families to make informed, regret-free decisions Memorable stories of celebrating life, milestones, and joy at Clarehouse Daily mindfulness, sustainable self-care, and the "householder model" of spirituality Kelley’s personal answer to the question: What do you want to do before you go? Learn more & connect: Clarehouse: clarehouse.org Read Kelley’s article in the American Journal of Hospice and Palliative Medicine: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/10499091261452647?download=true Omega Home Network: omegahomenetwork.org Follow ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying: https://abodehome.org/ Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/abodecontemplativecare/ Find us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ABODEcontemplativecare Find us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpWnI9mG4f5rzdDT2tC2fRg

  6. Sep 14

    Finding Joy, Community, and Care at the End of Life with Beth Hoey

    What does it mean to truly live fully until we die? In this episode of Before You Go, host Natalie Buster sits down with Beth Hoey, newly elected Board President of the Omega Home Network and long-time champion of Francis House, an Omega Home in Syracuse, New York. Together, Natalie and Beth explore the vital role of social model hospice homes—compassionate, community-supported residential homes that provide 24/7 care to individuals in their final days at little to no charge. Beth shares the origin story of the Omega Home Network, the growing need for home-like end-of-life care amid the nationwide caregiver crisis, and how volunteers bring presence, dignity, and unexpected moments of deep joy to residents and their families. Plus, hear about upcoming community events at ABODE, reflections on the sacred gift of slowing down at the bedside, and even a preview of a brand-new Omega Home Network theme song! In this episode, we discuss: Details on ABODE’s upcoming Open House and Fall Friend-raiser leading into San Antonio's The Big Give day of fundraising What a social model hospice home is and how it bridges the gap alongside hospice agencies The history, mission, and membership tiers of the Omega Home Network Addressing the societal taboo around talking about death, dying, and grief Finding balance, processing grief, and replenishing your cup as a caregiver Beth's answer to the core question: What do you want to do before you go? Learn more & connect: Omega Home Network: omegahomenetwork.org Follow ABODE Contemplative Care for the Dying: https://abodehome.org/ Find us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/abodecontemplativecare/ Find us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ABODEcontemplativecare Find us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpWnI9mG4f5rzdDT2tC2fRg

  7. 11/17/2025

    The Art and Soul of Sanctuary: Abode Co-Founders Edwin and Patsy Sasek on Weaving Beauty into End-of-Life Care

    For the final episode of the season, host Natalie Buster sits down with the visionaries behind Abode Contemplative Care for the Dying: co-founders Edwin and Patsy Sasek. Edwin and Patsy share the journey of creating Abode, a space that many guests, staff, and volunteers describe not just as a facility, but as "coming home". They detail how their vision transcended mere caregiving, instead weaving their profound love of art, nature, and spirituality into the very foundation of the building. Learn about the spiritual significance of the property's design, including the over 20 oak trees whose roots symbolize communication and support for the home's mission. Most movingly, Edwin shares the special story of how prayers and scriptures from various world traditions (Muslim, Buddhist, Christian, Native American) were physically written on note cards and placed inside the walls and on the beams during construction, ensuring the house itself is a constant source of blessing and grounding. [00:00:00] Host's First Impression: Natalie describes her first visit to Abode, feeling that it was a special, peaceful place, like "coming home" and a "safe nest." [00:01:05] Introducing the Visionaries: The host introduces co-founders Edwin and Patsy Sasek. [00:01:15] The Integration of Art and Spirituality: The Saseks discuss how they wove their love of art and spirituality into the atmosphere of Abode, making it a sacred, social, and spiritual place. [00:03:06] The Foundational Philosophy: Edwin and Patsy explain the goal of designing Abode to feel like a beautiful, welcoming home grounded in compassion and warmth. [00:04:24] The Art of Nature: The founders discuss their intentional search for a property with abundant nature, finding over 20 oak trees whose presence instantly told them, "this is it." [00:05:54] The Metaphor of the Roots: Patsy explains that the roots of the trees are a powerful metaphor, communicating and providing support that nourishes Abode’s mission and community. [00:08:16] Prayers in the Beams: Edwin shares the story of how they added prayers and scriptures from various world traditions to the interior walls and beams of the house during construction. [00:14:19] Imagination and the Language of Dying: Natalie discusses the importance of being open to the imagination, dreams, and the unique language a person experiences at the end of life. [00:15:36] The Full Sensory Experience: Patsy discusses how art, music, yoga, and other sensory experiences act together to provide peace in a guest's last days. [00:17:10] The Story of the Repurposed Doors: Edwin tells a story about turning "trash" into treasure by repurposing old doors from a hotel for use at Abode. [00:21:14] Guest Story: Carolyn and Watercolors: A story is shared about a guest named Carolyn who rallied for months and found emotional release through painting with watercolors, which were later used in a Christmas appeal. [00:25:14] Guest Story: Ceramics for Catharsis: Edwin tells a story of another guest who made beehive-like ceramic vessels to express and release anger and grief. [00:26:34] Art as an Antidote to Fear: Edwin discusses how art is the antidote to fear, bringing people into a "liminal space of awe." [00:33:31] Mindfulness in Everyday Life: Discussion on integrating mindfulness into simple actions, like washing dishes, to foster awareness and gratitude. [00:36:23] Being Engaged vs. Doing: Edwin reflects on the importance of appreciating "being engaged with" life rather than focusing on "doing."

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Welcome to BEFORE YOU GO, the official podcast of Abode Contemplative Care For The Dying. At Abode, our vision is that we live in a world where death is not feared, and we live fully until we die. Hosted by Abode's End of Life Doula and Yoga Director, Natalie Buster.

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