The Sex After Kids Podcast

Sofia Ashley
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

  1. The 4 Traps Keeping Good Men Stuck in S*xless Marriages After Kids

    6d ago

    The 4 Traps Keeping Good Men Stuck in S*xless Marriages After Kids

    Send us Fan Mail If you're a husband feeling rejected, lonely, or stuck in a s*xless marriage after kids, this episode is for you. Many higher-libido men are trying everything they can to improve intimacy—helping more around the house, avoiding conflict, staying patient, and waiting for things to get better. But sometimes those efforts unintentionally keep couples trapped in the same cycle. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, I break down the **4 biggest traps keeping good men stuck in sxless marriages**, including: ✔ The Peacekeeper Trap ✔ The Mental Load Gap ✔ The Vulnerability Deficit ✔ The Emotional Bleed You'll learn why trying harder often makes intimacy worse, how conflict can actually strengthen connection, what women mean when they talk about mental load, and why personal leadership is one of the most powerful ways to rebuild attraction and intimacy in a long-term relationship. This isn't about blame. It's about understanding the patterns that keep couples stuck and learning a different way forward. Whether you're struggling with rejection, low intimacy, desire differences, emotional distance, or constant fights about s*x, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening underneath the surface. 👇 Resources Mentioned: The First Move Men's Group https://canva.link/fk9emz9wu7m82i3#SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdviceForMen #IntimacyAfterKids #RelationshipAdvice #HigherLibidoPartner #MarriageHelp #DeadBedroom #MarriedLife #RelationshipCommunication #CouplesCommunication #IntimacyIssues #SexAfterKids #MarriagePodcast #EmotionalConnection #DesireDifference #MarriageProblems #RelationshipCoach #RebuildAttraction #LongTermRelationships #MenAndMarriage

    26 min
  2. You’re Not “Low Libido” — You’re Over-Needed After Kids

    Jun 9

    You’re Not “Low Libido” — You’re Over-Needed After Kids

    Send us Fan Mail If you feel touched out, exhausted, and completely shut down by the end of the day… this episode is for you. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about why so many moms and lower-libido partners stop wanting sx after kids — and why it’s often NOT actually a libido problem. We’re unpacking: Why desire disappears after kidsThe “over-needed” nervous systemWhy pressure kills intimacyHow parenting overload impacts s*x driveThe hidden ways people avoid intimacy without realizing itWhy feeling touched out changes how your body responds to connectionThe emotional labour and mental load behind “low libido”Why s*x can start feeling like another demandThe connection between boundaries, exhaustion, resentment, and desireHow to stop feeling broken in your marriage after kidsIf you’ve ever thought: “I love my partner, but I just don’t want s*x.” “I feel touched out.” “Every conversation about intimacy turns into a fight.” “I’m exhausted and disconnected.” …you are not alone. This conversation is honest, grounded, and designed to help couples understand what’s actually happening beneath the pressure/shutdown cycle after kids. Want help making intimacy feel safe, relaxed, and connected again? Check out: The Naked Fun Toolkit: www.intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-toolkit-lto?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_toolkit&utm_content=ep83_youre_not_low_libidoThe Naked Fun Comeback: https://intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-comeback?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_comeback&utm_content=ep83_youre_not_low_libidoRoommates to Romance Challenge: https://intimacyafterkids.com/roommates-to-romance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=roommates_to_romance&utm_content=ep83_youre_not_low_libido👇 Tell me in the comments: What part of this episode hit hardest for you? #LowLibido #MarriageAfterKids #SexAfterKids #IntimacyAfterKids #TouchedOut #RelationshipAdvice #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice #PostpartumMarriage #LibidoAfterKids #EmotionalLabor #ParentingAndMarriage #RelationshipPodcast #IntimacyIssues #CouplesCommunication

    23 min
  3. 5 Things Killing Your S*x Life After Kids (That Have Nothing to Do With S*x)

    May 26

    5 Things Killing Your S*x Life After Kids (That Have Nothing to Do With S*x)

    Send us Fan Mail If you feel like your relationship has turned into roommates after kids… this is for you. This episode breaks down 5 things that are quietly killing your sx life after kids — that have nothing to do with sx. Because for most couples, it’s not about desire, effort, or “trying harder.” It’s about the patterns that build distance without you even realizing it. In this episode, we talk about: Why waiting for desire to come back often makes things worseHow becoming your partner’s emotional outlet kills attractionThe “passive parenting” trap that creates disconnectionWhy being the “nice one” can turn into a doormat dynamicThe hidden impact of screens and stress (the digital wall)And how s*x can start to feel like pressure instead of connectionIf this sounds familiar, you’re not broken — and you’re not the only one stuck in this. This is one of the most common dynamics couples fall into after kids: You want connection → it comes out as pressure → your partner shuts down → and now everything feels harder. There’s a better way to shift this without making things worse. If this feels familiar and you want help navigating this without making it worse, check out the Roommates to Romance Challenge. Join here: https://intimacyafterkids.com/roommates-to-romance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=intimacy_workshop&utm_content=ep82_5_things_killing_sex_life Join Free Workshop here: https://intimacyafterkids.com/free-workshop?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=intimacy_workshop&utm_content=ep82_5_things_killing_sex_life

    14 min
  4. Why Therapy Didn’t Fix Your Sex Life (And What Actually Will)

    May 19

    Why Therapy Didn’t Fix Your Sex Life (And What Actually Will)

    Send us Fan Mail You’ve tried therapy. You’ve had the hard conversations. So why does your sex life still feel stuck? If you feel like you’ve done everything “right” but still end up lying in bed feeling more like roommates than partners… this episode will help you understand why. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why therapy doesn’t always fix intimacyThe real reason your sex life still feels off (even if you’re trying)Why intimacy isn’t automatic—and what actually needs to be learnedHow to talk about sex without it turning into a fightWhat to do when you feel too busy, disconnected, or unsure where to startThis isn’t about blaming you or your partner. And it’s not about doing more. It’s about understanding that intimacy is a skillset—and learning how to build it in a way that actually works in real life. If you’ve been thinking: “We’ve tried everything and nothing is working”“I don’t know how to bring this up without making it worse”“We feel more like roommates than a couple”“Are we broken or is this just how it is after kids?”…you are not alone—and there is a way forward. If this feels familiar, the next step is to join one of the free workshops. You’ll learn exactly how this process works, what to expect, and how to rebuild connection without pressure or awkwardness. Join here: https://intimacyafterkids.com/free-workshop?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=intimacy_workshop&utm_content=ep81_therapy_didnt_fix_your_sex_life

    22 min
  5. What Actually Changes When You Fix Your Sex Life (It’s Not What You Think)

    May 12

    What Actually Changes When You Fix Your Sex Life (It’s Not What You Think)

    Send us Fan Mail What actually changes when couples fix their sex life? It’s not just more sex. It’s how you talk about it. How you experience it. And how you feel with each other. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down the real shifts couples experience when they rebuild intimacy—without pressure, awkwardness, or constant conflict. This is not the “everything is fixed overnight” version. This is what actually changes in real life. Inside this episode: How couples start talking about sex without it turning into a fightWhy understanding your body changes everythingThe surprising role of structure in bringing back spontaneityWhat creates those “it just happens” moments againHow resentment starts to fade when connection feels safe and playfulWhy intimacy feels better—even when it doesn’t lead to sexIf you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected, or like: “Every time I bring this up, it turns into a fight”“I don’t know how to talk about sex anymore”“We feel more like roommates than partners”…this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on—and what can change. If this feels familiar, the next step is to join one of the free workshops. You’ll see exactly how this process works, what to expect, and whether it’s the right time for you. Join here: https://intimacyafterkids.com/free-workshop?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=intimacy_workshop&utm_content=ep80_what_changes_when_fix_sex_life

    16 min
  6. Why Couples Stop Having Sex After Kids (And How to Fix It)

    May 5

    Why Couples Stop Having Sex After Kids (And How to Fix It)

    Send us Fan Mail Why does sex feel so much harder after kids—even when you still love each other? Most couples don’t fall out of love. They fall into patterns where connection gets replaced with pressure, shutdown, and silence. In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we break down: Why intimacy changes after kidsThe real reason sex starts to feel complicated or avoidedThe pressure/shutdown dynamic that keeps couples stuckWhy trying harder often makes things worseHow to rebuild connection in a way that actually works in real lifeIf you’ve ever felt like: “I don’t know how to bring this up without it turning into a fight”“I feel more like roommates than partners”“I stopped initiating because rejection feels worse than silence”…this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on—and what to do next. This isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about learning the skills and habits that support connection in this stage of life. If this sounds familiar, the next step is to join one of the free workshops. You’ll learn the exact roadmap to rebuild connection, intimacy, and sex—without pressure or overwhelm. Join here: https://intimacyafterkids.com/free-workshop?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=intimacy_workshop&utm_content=ep79_why_stop_having_sex_after_kids

    21 min

  7. Apr 28

    What Couples with Great Sex Lives Do Differently

    Send us Fan Mail Are you and your partner amazing co-parents but struggling to feel like lovers—especially with kids in the mix? You're not alone! In this episode, I break down the five habits that help couples with kids move beyond survival mode and rediscover playful, connected intimacy, no matter how busy life gets. We'll talk about radical curiosity, honest feedback, the power of laughter, quick repairs after tough moments, and how to protect your intimacy bubble—even when little ones are always nearby. Plus, I'll share practical tips you can use right away and introduce you to my Naked Fun Toolkit, designed to make reconnecting feel easy and fun. Ready to bring back the spark? Tune in, and let's get started! Download the Naked Fun Toolkit here: CLICK HERE Which habit do you want to try this week? I'd love to hear your thoughts—send me a message or leave a comment!

    16 min

  8. Apr 21

    Why am I avoiding sex after kids?

    Send us Fan Mail This is a love letter for anyone who's lost touch with desire and feels the weight of expectation after kids. I know what it's like to feel shut down and alone in your relationship. You don't want sex, you don't know why and everytime he asks it feels like he’s making it a personal failure on your part. In this episode, I unpack the truth behind "not tonight," why it's not your fault, and how to rebuild intimacy one step at a time. Let's start a real conversation—comment below or send me a message. Subscribe for more real talk about sex, relationships, and reclaiming joy. Books Featured: Shake Your Soul Song By Devi Ward - https://www.amazon.ca/Shake-Your-Soul-Song-Self-Empowerment-Self-Pleasure/dp/0615708773 Vagina: A New Biography By Naomi Wolf - https://www.amazon.ca/Vagina-New-Biography-Naomi-Wolf/dp/0061989169

    22 min
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

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  • Creator
    Sofia Ashley
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    84
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Sex After Kids Podcast
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    The Sex After Kids Podcast

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