The Sex After Kids Podcast

Sofia Ashley
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

  1. 26m ago

    Sexless Marriage: How to Save Your Relationship Before Divorce

    Send us Fan Mail Let’s just put it out there: If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably had at least one “Would this just be easier if we split up?” moment. Maybe you’ve even daydreamed about a solo life—until you remember that modern dating sounds absolutely exhausting. (No, thank you!) If you’re even flirting with the D-word—even in your head—this episode is for you. Because keeping those worries secret just makes things worse, and you are NOT alone. Join Sofia as she busts myths, calls out the mistakes that keep couples stuck, and shares the real, courageous steps that can bring you back from the edge—before it’s too late. Timestamps & What You’ll Learn: 00:00 — Introduction 01:14 — Addressing Sexless Marriage Struggles 02:34 — Debunking the Myth of Dead Bedrooms After Kids 05:31 — Common Pitfalls in Sexless Marriages 10:59 — Solutions and Steps Forward 14:12 — Closing and Resources Helpful Links: Book a free Spark SessionSolve Your Sex Drive QuizFollow Sofia on InstagramMore episodes of Sex After Kids PodcastDrop your story or questions in the comments. You are not broken, and your marriage is worth fighting for.

    Sexless Marriage: How to Save Your Relationship Before Divorce

  2. Jul 21

    Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - Especially when it’s been a while

    Send us Fan Mail Feeling awkward about intimacy after kids, or stuck in the “roommate rut?” You’re not alone. In this episode, I share why foreplay (and the “pre-game” before it) is the real secret to rekindling connection—and how to make it feel safe, pressure-free, and fun (especially for the lower libido partner). What we cover: 01:06 — Rethinking Foreplay & Getting Started Again 02:11 — Zero Pressure: The Key to Connection 02:36 — Pre-Foreplay: Building Safety & Trust 03:25 — The Pre-Game: Flirty Connection & Melting Defenses 03:57 — Pressure-Free Scenarios: Massage Examples 06:30 — The Impact of No Pressure & Openness 07:27 — Playful Possibility: Fun Ways to Bring Back Foreplay 08:49 — Anticipation & Pre-Game for Scheduled Sex 09:42 — Building Up to No Pressure Sexy Connection 10:15 — Opening the Door to Libido & Support Offers Links & Resources: Start the Roommates to Romance Challenge Follow Sofia on Instagram More episodes of Sex After Kids Podcast Drop a comment below with your favourite foreplay rituals or questions! And don’t forget to subscribe for more real, sassy support on sex, intimacy, and pleasure after kids.

    Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - Especially when it’s been a while

  3. Jul 14

    The Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After Kids

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mindset have to do with reclaiming your sex life after kids.  00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:37 Setting the Stage with 'Easy' 07:24 The Naked Sexy Fun Times Cycle 14:43 Four Core Ingredients for a Fantastic Sex Life 15:10 Nervous System: The First Ingredient 19:50 Communication: The Second Ingredient 21:53 Relationship to Pleasure: The Third Ingredient 26:41 Mindset: The Fourth Ingredient 29:16 Recap and Final Thoughts

    The Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After Kids

  4. Jul 7

    Most Couples Never Actually Learn Intimacy

    Send us Fan Mail If s*x after kids feels awkward, disconnected, or harder than it used to… you are not alone. In this episode, Sofia breaks down why most couples struggle with intimacy after kids — and why it’s NOT because you’re broken, selfish, or “bad at s*x.” Most couples were never actually taught intimacy skills. Instead, we relied on chemistry, novelty, alcohol, low stress, and spontaneity in our 20s… and then felt confused when those things stopped working in marriage and parenthood. Inside this episode: Why s*x after kids feels so differentThe real reason couples stop feeling connectedWhy awkwardness creates avoidanceThe 3 intimacy skills healthy couples actually needHow to rebuild intimacy without pressure or performanceWhy libido isn’t the real problem for most marriagesHow to stop the pressure/shutdown cycleWhat emotional connection actually looks like in long-term relationshipsIf you feel more like roommates than partners, this conversation will help you understand what’s actually happening — without blame, shame, or making things worse. 👇 Resources Mentioned: The First Move Men's Group https://canva.link/fk9emz9wu7m82i3The Naked Fun Toolkit: www.intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-toolkit-lto?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_toolkit&utm_content=ep86_most_couples_never_actually_learn_intimacyThe Naked Fun Comeback: https://intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-comeback?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_comeback&utm_content=ep86_most_couples_never_actually_learn_intimacy#Marriage #Relationships #Intimacy #SexAfterKids #RelationshipAdvice

    Most Couples Never Actually Learn Intimacy

  5. Jun 30

    Why Women Shut Down Sexually — It’s Not What You Think

    Send us Fan Mail Why do so many women shut down sexually in long-term relationships? In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional dynamic underneath sexual shutdown, rejection loops, pressure, and disconnection… especially after kids. This conversation explores: why desire can “go underground”how women are taught to manage men’s emotionsthe connection between boundaries, sexuality, and emotional safetyhow pressure and shutdown cycles developwhy suppressing sexuality doesn’t actually solve the problemwhat both partners can do differentlyThis is not about blaming men or women. It’s about understanding the patterns many couples get stuck in without realizing it. If sex keeps turning into a fight… If you feel like you can’t bring it up without things going sideways… If you miss feeling wanted, connected, or close… This episode is for you. 👇 Resources Mentioned: The First Move Men's Group https://canva.link/fk9emz9wu7m82i3The Naked Fun Comeback: https://intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-comeback?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_comeback&utm_content=ep85_why_women_shut_down_sexuallyThe Naked Fun Toolkit: www.intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-toolkit-lto?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_toolkit&utm_content=ep85_why_women_shut_down_sexuallyRoommates to Romance: https://intimacyafterkids.com/roommates-to-romance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=roommates_to_romance&utm_content=ep85_why_women_shut_down_sexually

    Why Women Shut Down Sexually — It’s Not What You Think

  6. Jun 23

    Why S*x After Kids Feels Awkward Sometimes (And Why That’s Normal)

    Send us Fan Mail What does real intimacy after kids actually look like? In this episode of the S*x After Kids podcast, I’m sharing a real-life bedroom dispatch — including the awkward moments, miscommunication, nervous system shutdown, and honest conversations that almost made us stop halfway through intimacy. Because real s*x after kids doesn’t always look effortless or spontaneous. Sometimes it looks like: • feeling unsure • struggling to get “in the mood” • hitting pause • communicating through awkward moments • learning how to create connection without pressure If you’ve ever wondered: “Why does intimacy feel harder after kids?”“Why do I shut down when my partner initiates?”“Why does s*x keep turning into tension or conflict?”“Is something wrong with our relationship?”…this episode is for you. We’re talking about: responsive desirelower libido after kidsnervous system shutdowncommunication during intimacyrebuilding connection in marriagepressure vs. safety in relationshipsreal-world intimacy after kidshow couples reconnect emotionally and physicallyThis is not movie s*x. This is real marriage, real intimacy, and real communication. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone — and there’s another way through this. 👇 Resources Mentioned: The First Move Men's Group https://canva.link/fk9emz9wu7m82i3The Naked Fun Toolkit: www.intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-toolkit-lto?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_toolkit&utm_content=ep84_why_s*x_after_kids_feels_awkward_sometimesThe Naked Fun Comeback: https://intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-comeback?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_comeback&utm_content=ep84_why_s*x_after_kids_feels_awkward_sometimes#SexAfterKids #MarriageIntimacy #LowLibido #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageAfterKids #IntimacyAfterKids #ResponsiveDesire #CouplesCommunication #SexlessMarriage #RelationshipPodcast #EmotionalConnection #MarriageHelp #DesireAfterKids #ConnectionAfterKids #RelationshipDynamics #RealMarriage #LongTermRelationships #RelationshipSupport #CouplesIntimacy #MarriagePodcast

    Why S*x After Kids Feels Awkward Sometimes (And Why That’s Normal)

  7. Jun 16

    The 4 Traps Keeping Good Men Stuck in S*xless Marriages After Kids

    Send us Fan Mail If you're a husband feeling rejected, lonely, or stuck in a s*xless marriage after kids, this episode is for you. Many higher-libido men are trying everything they can to improve intimacy—helping more around the house, avoiding conflict, staying patient, and waiting for things to get better. But sometimes those efforts unintentionally keep couples trapped in the same cycle. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, I break down the **4 biggest traps keeping good men stuck in sxless marriages**, including: ✔ The Peacekeeper Trap ✔ The Mental Load Gap ✔ The Vulnerability Deficit ✔ The Emotional Bleed You'll learn why trying harder often makes intimacy worse, how conflict can actually strengthen connection, what women mean when they talk about mental load, and why personal leadership is one of the most powerful ways to rebuild attraction and intimacy in a long-term relationship. This isn't about blame. It's about understanding the patterns that keep couples stuck and learning a different way forward. Whether you're struggling with rejection, low intimacy, desire differences, emotional distance, or constant fights about s*x, this conversation will help you understand what's really happening underneath the surface. 👇 Resources Mentioned: The First Move Men's Group https://canva.link/fk9emz9wu7m82i3#SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdviceForMen #IntimacyAfterKids #RelationshipAdvice #HigherLibidoPartner #MarriageHelp #DeadBedroom #MarriedLife #RelationshipCommunication #CouplesCommunication #IntimacyIssues #SexAfterKids #MarriagePodcast #EmotionalConnection #DesireDifference #MarriageProblems #RelationshipCoach #RebuildAttraction #LongTermRelationships #MenAndMarriage

    The 4 Traps Keeping Good Men Stuck in S*xless Marriages After Kids

  8. Jun 9

    You’re Not “Low Libido” — You’re Over-Needed After Kids

    Send us Fan Mail If you feel touched out, exhausted, and completely shut down by the end of the day… this episode is for you. In this episode of the Sx After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about why so many moms and lower-libido partners stop wanting sx after kids — and why it’s often NOT actually a libido problem. We’re unpacking: Why desire disappears after kidsThe “over-needed” nervous systemWhy pressure kills intimacyHow parenting overload impacts s*x driveThe hidden ways people avoid intimacy without realizing itWhy feeling touched out changes how your body responds to connectionThe emotional labour and mental load behind “low libido”Why s*x can start feeling like another demandThe connection between boundaries, exhaustion, resentment, and desireHow to stop feeling broken in your marriage after kidsIf you’ve ever thought: “I love my partner, but I just don’t want s*x.” “I feel touched out.” “Every conversation about intimacy turns into a fight.” “I’m exhausted and disconnected.” …you are not alone. This conversation is honest, grounded, and designed to help couples understand what’s actually happening beneath the pressure/shutdown cycle after kids. Want help making intimacy feel safe, relaxed, and connected again? Check out: The Naked Fun Toolkit: www.intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-toolkit-lto?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_toolkit&utm_content=ep83_youre_not_low_libidoThe Naked Fun Comeback: https://intimacyafterkids.com/naked-fun-comeback?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=naked_fun_comeback&utm_content=ep83_youre_not_low_libidoRoommates to Romance Challenge: https://intimacyafterkids.com/roommates-to-romance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=roommates_to_romance&utm_content=ep83_youre_not_low_libido👇 Tell me in the comments: What part of this episode hit hardest for you? #LowLibido #MarriageAfterKids #SexAfterKids #IntimacyAfterKids #TouchedOut #RelationshipAdvice #SexlessMarriage #MarriageAdvice #PostpartumMarriage #LibidoAfterKids #EmotionalLabor #ParentingAndMarriage #RelationshipPodcast #IntimacyIssues #CouplesCommunication

    You’re Not “Low Libido” — You’re Over-Needed After Kids
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

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  • Creator
    Sofia Ashley
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    90
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Sex After Kids Podcast
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