In this episode of The Language of Behavior, Joshua Stamper and Charlie Peck respond to a question many educators and leaders have quietly wondered themselves: what if students, staff, or even adults really are just being jerks? Together, they unpack why labels are tempting, especially when emotions are high and behavior is hard to manage, but why understanding the story behind the behavior is far more powerful than trying to define a person by one moment. Joshua and Charlie explore how exhaustion, stress, environment, past experiences, and unmet needs shape the way people show up in schools and in life. They discuss the difference between excusing behavior and understanding it, and why accountability still matters even when someone is struggling. The conversation highlights how empathy, consistency, and supportive environments can help students and adults build better coping skills over time instead of spiraling into deeper disconnection. They also connect the discussion to school culture, student growth, and the responsibility educators have to guide behavior in a way that is both firm and compassionate. This episode is a reminder that the better question is not whether someone is a jerk, but what is driving the behavior and what support will help move them in a healthier direction. -- FREE The Language of Behavior Book Study Kit: https://thrivingeducator.myflodesk.com/lobbookstudy Bulk Book Discount: https://www.connectedd.org/bulk-orders Do you have any questions for the podcast? Fill out this quick Google Form: https://forms.gle/u5axHazzuyN5pry76 -- About Charle Peck: Charle Peck is the co-creator of Thriving School Community, a revolutionary program designed for schools to improve mental health. She holds an MS in Education and an MS in Social Work as a 20+ year veteran in education (K-12). As a global keynote speaker, she delivers powerful messages of hope to educators and facilitates meaningful professional development. Charle successfully equips school staff with practical tools to mitigate teacher burnout and the youth mental health crisis providing relief to schools all across the country. Her unique lens as a high school teacher turned clinical therapist specializing in trauma makes her stories relevant and captivating to educators struggling in today’s system. You can purchase her book “Improving School Mental Health: The Thriving School Community Solution” on Amazon and connect with her on X @CharlePeck. Follow Charle Peck: Website: www.ThrivingEducator.orgTwitter: https://twitter.com/CharlePeckFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/charlepeckconsulting?mibextid=LQQJ4dLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlepeck/Other: charle@thrivibgeducator.orgPodcast: Thriving EducatorBook: https://www.amazon.com/Improving-School-Mental-Health-Community/dp/B0BTS3MN2P?crid=EIKAGWZ4V006&keywords=charle+peck&qid=1705780803&sprefix=charle+peck%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1&linkCode=ll1&tag=aspirewebsite-20&linkId=6456f4f1bc2440be71d094a5d14656a4&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl About Joshua Stamper: Joshua Stamper is the Director of Innovation for the Teach Better Team, a multifaceted role that encompasses his talents as an author, podcaster, leadership coach, and education keynote speaker. With a rich background as a middle school administrator, classroom art educator, and athletic coach, Joshua brings a wealth of experience to his work in education. Joshua is passionate about implementing trauma-responsive techniques, exploring alternative student discipline methods, and promoting healthy leadership habits. He is deeply committed to enhancing leadership capacity through self-care practices, ensuring that educators are equipped to lead with empathy and resilience. As the author of The Language of Behavior and Aspire to Lead and host of two popular podcasts, Joshua continues to inspire and empower educators and leaders worldwide. Follow Joshua Stamper: Contact: https://joshstamper.com/contact/Twitter: www.twitter.com/Joshua__StamperInstagram: www.instagram.com/joshua__stamperLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-stamperFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/AspirePodcastSubscribe to Aspire to Lead: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aspire-the-leadership-development-podcast/id1384210762?mt=2Book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1953852386/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1953852386&linkCode=as2&tag=aspirewebsite-20&linkId=0d9c336e3db6ab16cbb08421ef3e4175 -- Need a Presenter for a conference or school PD? Contact Brad Waid at techbradwaid@gmail.com to book Charle Peck and Joshua Stamper for your next event on Improving Student Behavior, Impacting School Mental Health, or Creating healthy habits. -- Review the Podcast I want to give a huge shout out to those who have taken the time to provide a review on Apple, Spotify or any other podcast platform. It truly means the world to us that you would take the 30- 90 seconds to share how the podcast has positively impacted you or why other educators should check out the show. -- Teach Better Podcast Network This podcast is a part of the Teach Better Podcast Network. Explore the Teach Better Podcast Network—your hub for insightful conversations covering diverse education topics. Our podcasts empower educators, fostering progressive, student-focused classrooms. Choose a podcast, subscribe, and dive into recent episodes now at https://www.teachbetterpodcastnetwork.com/