Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery

Christian Alcoholism Relationship Coach, Crisis Parenting Coach
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Did you marry the man of your dreams, only to now find alcohol seeping into every part of your family? As a woman of faith, committed to your vows, do you struggle to walk out your convictions amidst the chaos and confusion that has devastated your marriage? Do you wish you had someone to confide in without judgment, consequences later or let’s be honest, hearing the worst advice EVER from well meaning people? Despite your relentless efforts, do you feel betrayed, stuck in a cycle, praying for a breakthrough and wondering if things really will be ok? This is how everything was in my marriage for SO long!! I get it! In this podcast you will find hope regardless of your current situation. As you tune in each week your spirit will be lifted as you recognize that you are NOT in this battle alone. You will come to know that only through Him can you learn to model a much needed peaceful presence to your children, whose little hearts are also wondering if things will be ok. My mission is to share my experience, strength and hope with women like me who are praying for breakthrough. The Lord’s light shines even in the darkness of addiction, and the darkness cannot overcome it. I am a wife, a homeschooling momma, and a woman who has learned that nothing is impossible for God. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t had to learn all of this while withstanding circumstances that I would have rather avoided - but then would my faith be this strong without all the trials? You might listen and mistakenly assume that I have it “all figured out”, because if I am honest, I still can’t figure out how to keep track of my phone most days. However, I , without a doubt, have found a peace that surpasses understanding and I want to share everything God has taught me with you as you navigate this road as well. I have found that applying the Bible to my situation allows me to shift my eyes off the problem and to refocus on my God who can redeem and restore otherwise hopeless situations. Psalms 55:22 tells us, “Cast your burdens on the Lord and he will sustain you. He will not permit the righteous to be moved”. In the eye of the storm it is hard to have a right perspective when everyday you are walking on eggshells trying to keep your family together! I have a suspicion that I am not alone here and if you can relate with anything I have said, then this podcast is for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes, right? :) So, if you are ready to experience some breakthrough, listen up. You do not have to do this alone and you didn’t find this podcast by accident. Take a deep breath even when it seems impossible. Be willing to trust that God can do more than you even imagine.....right where you are today which is so far from where you wanted to be. I know you are running everywhere and doing everything for everyone, but THIS moment of rest is for you! Allow me to serve you a little peace on the rocks.

  1. 5d ago

    He's FINALLY Ready for Help: What I Wish I Knew BEFORE Rock Bottom

    “My husband finally agreed to get help… What do we do now?” For years you may have prayed for your husband to recognize his alcoholism and addiction. But as wives when that moment finally comes, along with relief and hope, we feel overwhelmed with a whole new path of decisions to navigate. What rehab program does he need? What if he chooses the wrong one? Should it be a Christian recovery program? What if this is our only chance and we mess it up? In this Listener Q&A episode of Wife on the Rocks, we talk about what it was really like navigating detox, rehab, treatment decisions, and recovery as a family. We discuss: What I thought addiction treatment would look like vs. the reality • Why getting help quickly can matter when someone struggling with alcohol addiction is finally willing • The challenges of insurance, availability, and finding a rehab program • Why some faith-based programs may carry God’s name but not always reflect God’s heart • The struggle of accepting the recovery path your husband chooses — even if it’s different than what you imagined • Letting go of control and trusting God with the open doors If you are a Christian wife wondering how to help your alcoholic husband, questioning rehab options, battling codependency through all of this, or trying to trust God through addiction recovery, this conversation is for you! Lean in to hear our experience 3 And stay tuned — next week we’ll continue answering more listener questions about alcoholism, treatment, and recovery. 📩 Have a question for a future Listener Q&A episode? Email: hello@wifeontherocks.com   Interested in Coaching or Programs available? Email hello@wifeontherocks.com to be placed on the waiting list!

    21 min

  2. May 19

    EP 51 Parenting With An Alcoholic: Emtional Outbursts & Protecting Kids

    In this Listener Q&A episode of Wife on the Rocks, I answer a heartbreaking question many wives silently carry: 👉 “How do I parent and protect my children when my husband struggles with alcoholism and emotional outbursts?” If you are parenting with an alcoholic spouse, trying to balance being a wife while also protecting your children emotionally, this episode is for you. Let's talk honestly about: • Substance Abuse and emotional development / maturity • Research surrounding children raised in alcoholic homes and ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) • Why addiction and alcoholism affect a parent’s ability to emotionally regulate, connect, and disciple children well • Emotional outbursts from husband's battling addiction • The difficult tension Christian wives feel between loyalty to their marriage and protecting their children. This episode also explores the reality that many wives feel — even when their instincts are telling them their children need emotional safety, stability, and protection, your husband may be telling you something different with his outbursts and it can be SO confusing.  You are not alone. This conversation is compassionate, honest, and designed to help you better understand how addiction impacts families! 📩 Have a question for a future Listener Q&A episode? Email: hello@wifeontherocks.com 💛 Interested in coaching or future resources? Email to join the waitlist and learn more.

    29 min

  3. Jan 29

    Bonus Episode: BIG Announcement & Trusting God In Alcoholism AND Recovery

    Wondering why there has been a pause in new episodes? Tune in to find out why!  God can do more than we ask or imagine and I will explain what that is looking like in my life right now ♥ Years ago in active addiction I didn't know if we would survive it! I didn't know if the drinking would ever stop or if the alcoholism would ever change to recovery for our family! I knew He COULD do it, but it was so hard to even see it on the bad days! Can you relate? There is ALWAYS HOPE!!

    12 min

  4. 12/24/2025

    Ep 50 Ever Wonder Why He Drinks More at the Holidays? INTERVIEW: Recovering Alcoholic Explains His Addiction Experience of Christmas Past.

    Why does drinking seem to escalate every holiday season — and why does it feel so lonely for the wife watching it happen? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we sit down together for an honest conversation about why alcoholics often drink more at the holidays and what that increase actually looks like inside a marriage. This interview explores: • Why the holidays give alcoholics “permission” to drink more • How alcohol is easier to hide this time of year • Why others don’t notice — but wives always do • The tunnel vision addiction creates, especially around drinking opportunities • How wives are focused on kids, meaning, and traditions while alcohol becomes the priority • Why alcoholics often encourage others to drink to deflect attention • What it feels like for a wife to watch this happen year after year We also share a personal Christmas story where drinking escalated, an attempt to stop was made, and how confusing and painful that experience was for both of us. It’s a raw look at how alcoholism, anxiety, and the pressure of the holidays collide, leaving wives feeling unseen and emotionally abandoned. If you’ve ever thought: • “Why does he drink so much more right now?” • “Why does no one else seem to notice?” • “Why am I the only one affected by this?” This episode will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface — and remind you that your experience matters. 📩 Have questions or want to be added to the waitlist to work together? Email hello@wifeontherocks.com 🎙️ Listener Q&A episodes coming soon — send your questions anytime.

    21 min

  5. 12/17/2025

    Ep 49 Has He Stopped “Showing Up” for the Holidays? Guest Interview: Addiction, Alcoholism, Depression, and Anxiety Collide at Christmas

    What happens to holidays as alcoholism progresses? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we share a deeply personal conversation about how alcohol addiction slowly changed our family’s holidays over the years — often in ways we didn’t fully understand at the time. This is a joint interview with my husband and me, reflecting honestly on: • What holidays looked like before addiction took over • How alcohol slowly pulled him away from family traditions • Why he began opting out, canceling plans, or avoiding holidays altogether • How anxiety and depression intensified as the disease progressed • The grief and confusion wives experience when their spouse emotionally disappears • Why missed holidays are often about addiction — not lack of love We talk openly about how alcoholism doesn’t just affect drinking — it affects motivation, connection, mental health, and the ability to show up for meaningful moments. As the disease progressed, holidays became overwhelming instead of joyful, leading to isolation, withdrawal, and eventually absence. If you’ve ever wondered: • “Why doesn’t he want to do holidays anymore?” • “Why am I celebrating alone?” • “Is this depression, anxiety, or alcoholism?” • “Does he even care?” This episode will help you understand what may really be happening — and remind you that you’re not alone, and it’s not your fault. 📩 Have a question or want to share your story? Email hello@wifeontherocks.com 📅 Book a 1:1 coaching session: Email to be added to the wait list for upcoming session opportunities!

    16 min

  6. 12/03/2025

    Ep 48 Struggling to Manage Money In Addiction? Financial Impacts of Alcoholism

    Do you dread the holidays because money feels out of control — and no matter how hard you plan, budget, or prepare, something always sabotages your efforts? When you're married to someone struggling with alcoholism, the financial stress of the holiday season hits different. You’re trying to manage Christmas gifts, family events, groceries, travel… all while navigating a spouse who is secretly spending, overspending, or using money to support an addiction. And because both of you aren’t on the same page, you feel like you're doing something wrong — like if you just budgeted better or tried harder, things would work. But here’s the truth: 👉 You cannot manage money effectively with someone who is also managing their addiction. 👉 You are not failing — alcoholism is destabilizing the home, not you. 👉 You have very little control over financial chaos caused by drinking. In this episode, we’ll talk about: • Why holiday money stress is so intense in homes affected by alcoholism • The emotional shame spiral wives fall into (“Why can’t I fix this?”) • Why budgeting with an addicted spouse rarely works — and why it’s NOT your fault • How to release the belief that you’re supposed to “hold it all together” • A simple truth to anchor in when the financial chaos feels overwhelming • How understanding lack of shared reality can lift a massive burden off your shoulders   If you’ve ever blamed yourself for financial stress caused by addiction, this episode will help you breathe again. 👉 Questions for the show? Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com Search: Financial Infidelity, Money Management, Dave Ramsey, Budgeting

    23 min

  7. 11/26/2025

    EP 47: Parenting Alone in an Alcoholic Marriage? Holiday Exhaustion…..You are NOT Alone!

    Are you the only functioning parent in your home during the holidays? Do you carry the entire load—planning, preparing, protecting the kids, managing emotions—while your husband’s drinking increases and his presence decreases? This episode dives into the heartbreaking exhaustion Christian wives face when they are emotionally and practically parenting alone, even though their spouse still lives in the home. You’ll hear why the holidays intensify this burden, why you feel so drained, and why the invisible load you carry is real, valid, and seen by God.   If you’ve ever collapsed into bed thinking, “I can’t hold this together alone,” this episode will meet you right where you are. 📩 Questions: hello@wifeontherocks.com 📅 Book a session: Email to be added to the waiting list.

    21 min

  8. 11/19/2025

    Ep 46 Addiction: The Red Flags and How To Recognize it in a Marriage

    Are you wondering if your husband’s drinking or behavior has crossed the line from “social” to something more serious? Maybe you’ve ignored the warning signs because you didn’t want to believe you were living with addiction. In this episode, we’re unpacking the red flags of addiction—what they look like in marriage, why we overlook them, and how codependency and love can cloud our judgment.    You’ll learn: ✅ My real definition of addiction—and why it’s not just about how much he drinks or uses. ✅ Why so many wives and partners miss or excuse red flags in early relationships. ✅ Early warning signs that often show up before the problem is fully visible: • Past attempts at sobriety or rehab stays • A history of addiction in the family or previous relationships • Alcohol or drugs present at nearly every social event • Heavier use than others around him (but hard to see if your circle normalizes drinking) • Encouraging you to drink or use more than you normally would  We’ll talk about how codependency can disguise itself as love or loyalty—keeping you stuck in denial while addiction quietly takes over your marriage. You’ll also gain biblical insight and emotional tools to start seeing the truth clearly, without shame or fear. When you understand the red flags of addiction, you can begin replacing confusion with clarity—and take your first step toward peace, wisdom, and recovery for your family.   --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect & Next Steps 👉 Have a question for a future episode? Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com 👉 Need personal coaching to spot addiction patterns and end codependent cycles? My 1:1 sessions are open with very limited availability. Feel free to email me if everything is booked and we can see what options we can come up with:) https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession

    22 min
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Did you marry the man of your dreams, only to now find alcohol seeping into every part of your family? As a woman of faith, committed to your vows, do you struggle to walk out your convictions amidst the chaos and confusion that has devastated your marriage? Do you wish you had someone to confide in without judgment, consequences later or let’s be honest, hearing the worst advice EVER from well meaning people? Despite your relentless efforts, do you feel betrayed, stuck in a cycle, praying for a breakthrough and wondering if things really will be ok? This is how everything was in my marriage for SO long!! I get it! In this podcast you will find hope regardless of your current situation. As you tune in each week your spirit will be lifted as you recognize that you are NOT in this battle alone. You will come to know that only through Him can you learn to model a much needed peaceful presence to your children, whose little hearts are also wondering if things will be ok. My mission is to share my experience, strength and hope with women like me who are praying for breakthrough. The Lord’s light shines even in the darkness of addiction, and the darkness cannot overcome it. I am a wife, a homeschooling momma, and a woman who has learned that nothing is impossible for God. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t had to learn all of this while withstanding circumstances that I would have rather avoided - but then would my faith be this strong without all the trials? You might listen and mistakenly assume that I have it “all figured out”, because if I am honest, I still can’t figure out how to keep track of my phone most days. However, I , without a doubt, have found a peace that surpasses understanding and I want to share everything God has taught me with you as you navigate this road as well. I have found that applying the Bible to my situation allows me to shift my eyes off the problem and to refocus on my God who can redeem and restore otherwise hopeless situations. Psalms 55:22 tells us, “Cast your burdens on the Lord and he will sustain you. He will not permit the righteous to be moved”. In the eye of the storm it is hard to have a right perspective when everyday you are walking on eggshells trying to keep your family together! I have a suspicion that I am not alone here and if you can relate with anything I have said, then this podcast is for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes, right? :) So, if you are ready to experience some breakthrough, listen up. You do not have to do this alone and you didn’t find this podcast by accident. Take a deep breath even when it seems impossible. Be willing to trust that God can do more than you even imagine.....right where you are today which is so far from where you wanted to be. I know you are running everywhere and doing everything for everyone, but THIS moment of rest is for you! Allow me to serve you a little peace on the rocks.

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