Unblock Your BS

Coach Tara
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Are you sick of the BS holding you back? "Unblock Your BS" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let's be real, the b******t) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you're navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!

  1. 4d ago

    The 6 Things That Kill Attraction in a Relationship

    You can be successful at work, disciplined with your goals, financially secure... and still have no idea why your relationship keeps falling apart. Because the pattern causing problems at home might not actually be a "relationship problem." In this episode, I'm joined by high-performance coach Brad Bizjack to talk about the subconscious beliefs and patterns running underneath how we show up in relationships, work, success and even the goals we say we want. And because apparently interviewing Brad wasn't vulnerable enough, I volunteered myself for a little live coaching. We get into: Why the same subconscious pattern can show up completely differently at work and at home A simple way to uncover beliefs you don't realize you're carrying My own belief about becoming more successful and potentially becoming less desirable to men The difference between needing a partner and wanting an interdependent partnership Why old relationship pain can make a safe person feel unsafe The 3 U's that can kill attraction for feminine energy The 3 C's that can kill attraction for masculine energy Why men need purpose outside of their relationship Why providing for your partner is about a hell of a lot more than money What Brad means when he says "success without fulfillment is failure" If this episode has you wondering what subconscious patterns are quietly running your life, Brad is hosting his free 5-day Success Accelerator experience. You'll identify what you actually want, uncover the beliefs and internal conflicts getting in the way, and start working through the patterns that keep creating the "two steps forward, three steps back" cycle. Join Brad's FREE Success Accelerator here: http://www.bradbizjack.com/a/2148328314/G9M6o6ZH  Where to find Brad: Instagram Youtube Rewire Your Mind w/ Brad Bizjack Podcast __________________________________________________________________________________ JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    The 6 Things That Kill Attraction in a Relationship

  2. Sep 30

    The #1 Relationship Skill Nobody Teaches You (How to Repair)

    What if being "healed" doesn't mean you never get triggered again? You can do therapy, nervous system work, breathwork, become incredibly self-aware... and still occasionally get defensive, shut down, raise your voice, say something you regret, or hurt your partner without intending to. Because you're human. In this episode, Tara breaks down the skill she thinks every relationship actually needs, and it's not "never get triggered again."  You'll hear: Why regulation doesn't mean never having an emotional reaction How defensiveness can disguise itself as "logic" The difference between intention and impact Why "I was just trying to help" probably isn't helping Questions that replace defensiveness with curiosity What accountability actually looks like beyond an apology How boundaries fit into repair when behavior doesn't change Tara's 3-question post-conflict "relationship debrief" Why learning to fight better can actually create more closeness If you're a man who wants to become more regulated, consistent, and emotionally safe in your relationship, Healthy Men-tality was built to help you practice these skills with coaching, accountability, and support. JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE __________________________________________________________________________________ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    The #1 Relationship Skill Nobody Teaches You (How to Repair)

  3. Sep 23

    His Wife Said "I'm Done" and Stopped Believing He'd Change

    Danny loved his wife. He worked 10–14-hour days to provide for his family. His wife stayed home raising and homeschooling their children. From his perspective, he was doing what a husband and father was supposed to do. But emotionally, he kept everyone at arm's length. Danny carried a belief that eventually everyone leaves. So without really realizing what he was doing, he protected himself by never letting his wife completely in. When she was overwhelmed, he fixed. When conversations got uncomfortable, he checked out. When conflict showed up, he people-pleased. Eventually his wife told him she was done. At the same time, Danny was navigating an entirely different life-altering challenge after an accident left him a quadriplegic. When he joined Healthy Men-tality, he was living away from his wife and children in a rehab facility while trying to figure out whether his marriage could be rebuilt. At first, Danny attacked his healing the same way he attacked every other problem: learn the tools, check the boxes, fix it. And then he realized something… he was still making his wife responsible for whether his work was "working." In this episode, we talk about: Why changing to get a specific response from your partner eventually backfires The Healthy Masculine Blueprint lesson that shifted Danny from "doing this for her" to doing it for himself Why his wife initially pushed BACK when he started becoming more consistent The brutally simple thing his eight-year-old son told him about his parenting What Danny finally understood about his wife's mental load Why he freaked out when his nervous system finally started feeling calm How he learned to recognize when he was slipping back into old patterns Why making his wife and children his entire purpose was actually putting more pressure on them Finding purpose again after a spinal cord injury changed the way he saw himself What is happening in Danny's marriage now JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE __________________________________________________________________________________ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    His Wife Said "I'm Done" and Stopped Believing He'd Change

  4. Sep 16

    He Was Called Needy, Sensitive and "The Female in the Relationship"

    This week's coaching episode is a behind-the-scenes look at an actual coaching call.  Our guest came in wanting help moving on from a 12-year relationship, still holding onto the belief that if he could just do things differently, it could still work. What we uncover instead is a pattern of people-pleasing and self-abandonment that goes back much further than this relationship, and what it actually takes to start choosing himself. In this coaching episode, we unpack: Why people-pleasing can make someone else's happiness feel like your responsibility The connection between self-worth, criticism, rejection, and relationship anxiety Why having needs doesn't automatically make you "clingy" or "needy" The difference between guilt, shame, and actual accountability How childhood experiences can quietly shape what feels familiar in adult relationships Why he kept abandoning himself to keep the relationship stable What fight + fawn responses can look like during conflict A simple breathing technique for regulating before walking back into a stressful environment How to start figuring out who you are after years of defining yourself through a relationship If you're listening and realizing you've spent years trying to become the person someone else needed you to be, maybe the next chapter isn't about getting them back. Maybe it's about getting you back. JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE __________________________________________________________________________________ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    He Was Called Needy, Sensitive and "The Female in the Relationship"

  5. Sep 9

    Why Some Men Obsess Over Understanding Their Ex

    Your wife wants a divorce. She's cold. She won't talk. Maybe she refuses counseling. Maybe she's blaming you for everything that went wrong. And your brain has decided there's one thing you need to do: Figure her out. Why is she doing this? What happened to the woman you married? What could you say that would finally make her understand? In this episode, Tara is joined by divorce coach Rachael Sloan to talk about why men can become hyperfocused on their wife or ex during an unwanted divorce... and why understanding her usually isn't what gets you unstuck. Because when your nervous system believes your relationship, family, identity, or future is under threat, your brain does what it was designed to do: It finds the threat and locks onto it. And sometimes, that threat becomes her. They get into: Why knowing intellectually that you can't control her often changes absolutely nothing How survival mode creates tunnel vision during divorce Codependence vs. hyper-independence vs. actual interdependence Why becoming cold and detached isn't necessarily the same thing as becoming regulated The "white knight" identity and why some men repeatedly choose women they can rescue What happens when the woman you built your identity around saving no longer needs you Why some men don't realize how unhappy they were until the marriage ends The difference between emotional regulation and emotional repression Why grief may be one of the most important emotional skills a man can develop How learning to understand your own emotions can completely change how you show up with your kids One thing worth remembering from this episode: Sometimes there is no decision where you don't lose something. Stay, and something may have to be grieved. Leave, and something else may have to be grieved. The goal isn't to somehow engineer a life where you never experience loss, but to develop enough self-trust to know:  Whatever happens next, I can handle it. Where to find Rachael Sloan: Rachael's Free Masterclass  Website Instagram YouTube JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE __________________________________________________________________________________ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    Why Some Men Obsess Over Understanding Their Ex

  6. Sep 2

    Why Men Need Other Men to Heal

    You can have buddies you golf with, hunt with, work with, grab beers with and still have absolutely nobody in your life who knows what's actually going on with you. Chuck, Barrett, and Bob discovered the difference. All three joined Healthy Men-tality in August 2025. A year later, they're still here... because they found something they didn't want to give up: a community of men willing to be open, call each other out, and actually hold one another accountable. This week they join me to talk about why they stayed, what a year of mentoring new guys has taught them, and what it actually looks like when men do this work together instead of by themselves. We talk about: Why having male friends isn't necessarily the same as having male support The moment these guys started recognizing their own patterns in newer members Why people pleasing and codependency are so damn easy to see in somebody else What happens when a skeptical man finally tries breathwork Why some men come into coaching looking for validation instead of change The stories we create to justify behavior we already know isn't aligned with who we want to be Why integrity became such a huge part of their definition of emotional safety The difference between accountability and simply taking the blame Why an apology without changed behavior eventually means very little What men gain when somebody can say, "Brother, I've been there. And you're full of shit right now." One thing you'll hear from all three men? You are not the only man going through this. JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE __________________________________________________________________________________ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    Why Men Need Other Men to Heal

  7. Aug 26

    "I Have Everything, But I Feel Nothing" (One Man's Wake-Up Call)

    What happens when you have the marriage, the family, the life you worked for... and somehow you still feel nothing? That's where "Earl" found himself. After more than 40 years with his wife, their marriage had been hanging by a thread. Earl knew something needed to change, but traditional therapy hadn't gotten him very far. Then he started looking at something he'd never really understood before: his own nervous system. In this episode, "Earl" joins Tara to talk about his experience inside Healthy Men-tality program and the dots he began connecting between a traumatic childhood experience, emotional suppression, dismissive-avoidant patterns, and the way he reacted to his wife decades later. And no, this isn't a story about becoming perfectly regulated. Earl will be the first one to tell you he still screws it up. But now he catches it. He understands it. He repairs it. And his family notices the difference. They talk about: The childhood trauma Earl never realized was still influencing his relationships Why suggestions or criticism from his wife could immediately put him on the defensive How keeping his parents at arm's length became keeping his wife at arm's length Why Earl initially wasn't sold on breathwork, and the session that changed his mind What happened when his wife finally started noticing the changes Why his wife decided to begin her own healing work The difference between knowing your patterns and actually changing them Why healing doesn't mean you stop getting dysregulated The surprising conversation Earl and Tara had about his capacity for joy What it means when you can tolerate pain... but struggle to stay present when life actually feels good Why Earl stayed in the Healthy Men-tality alumni community after his original 12 weeks ended How nervous system regulation started changing his relationship with his son, work and everyday conflict too One of Earl's biggest realizations? This work was worth doing regardless of what happened to his marriage. Because whether your relationship survives or not, you still have to live with the man you become next. JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE __________________________________________________________________________________ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    "I Have Everything, But I Feel Nothing" (One Man's Wake-Up Call)

  8. Aug 19

    How to Stay Calm When Your Body Wants to Panic

    Most people think nervous system regulation is just another wellness buzzword. Take a deep breath. Meditate. Calm down. But what does it actually mean to regulate your nervous system when your body feels like everything is an emergency? In this week's episode, Tara sits down with Aleksandra Chojnicka, founder and CEO of Detox House, a nervous system resilience coach who helps high achievers build more capacity through breathwork, cold exposure, and practical somatic tools. Inside the episode: Why your nervous system mistakes uncertainty for danger What actually happens inside your body during a cold plunge How breathwork and cold exposure train emotional resilience Why "white-knuckling" discomfort reinforces survival mode The connection between childhood conditioning and relationship triggers How to stop outsourcing your sense of safety to your partner Practical ways to regulate your body before difficult conversations If you've ever caught yourself thinking... "I know better... so why do I keep reacting like this?" this episode will finally help you understand why. Where to find Aleksa Chojnacka Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedetoxhouse Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thedetoxhouse Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/find-your-freedom-by-detox-house/id1502023435 Website: https://www.detox-house.com/  __________________________________________________________________________________ JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE __________________________________________________________________________________ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

    How to Stay Calm When Your Body Wants to Panic
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Are you sick of the BS holding you back? "Unblock Your BS" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let's be real, the b******t) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you're navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!

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  • Creator
    Coach Tara
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    91
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2024
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    Unblock Your BS

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